The even newer posifrickentivity thread for ladies pregnant after miscarriage! Spring 2, welcome!

[squizita]

Hi Ladies, continuing our posifrickentivity journey.

Wishing all healthy pgs and lots of thread babies!

fedup I totally agree DH is still smoking! I've told him I don't want near the baby if he's still smoking - I'm sorry but it's a complete deal breaker!

mabel it's still early days my symptons didn't kick in until 7/8 weeks so try not to worry yourself

squiz and fod - thanks - oh god it's a relief to know you were similar. I think it's because in my most recent MC (an MMC in July), my symptoms went and i suddenly stopped 'feeling' pregnant. Sure enough the scan at what should have been 10 weeks just showed a sac etc. So I guess that is feeding my paranoia - even though that was different as was later in my pg.

But yes - thanks for wishing me sickness! I too am desperate for it! I guess it's waves too isn't it? Yesterday I did feel quite queasy.

And good to know also it doesn't necessarily mean that the hormone levels are low either...

But god I'd do anything for really painful boobs and a bout of sickness. Honestly!

Mabel with this pregnancy I didn't even have an incline I might be pregnant till I was 7/8 weeks gone, and even then I wasn't sure! Stop worrying yourself, relax and try to enjoy the time you're not puking your guts up
Hope you feel sick soon

Just remember that every pregnancy is different, I had 24 hour sickness with DD and this time I was only sick for a couple of weeks - I know what you mean about longing for symptons tho I was exactly the same xx

mabel this was my concern and I had my scan yesterday to help calm me down. All was fine. Funnily enough symptoms came back with a venegenace sitting in the waiting room! First mc, I too had an empty sac mmc at 12 weeks. It was horrible. Try not to worry about lack of symptoms as still very early days but def consider reassurance scans to stop yourself going totally mad.

Congratulations on the happy scan fedup

stars that's beyond awful and I'm so sorry you had to hear that. Talking to a customer like that would be a stackable offence where I work.

mabel try not to worry, everyone obsesses about symptoms in the early days, they fluctuate and it doesn't mean anything.

sackable

Image of rude sales assistants piled up behind the counter....make sure yours is right at the bottom, stars !

Congrats on the good scan news fedup, that is great! Hope it puts your mind at rest for a few days at least, although the reassurance never lasts long enough before we start worrying ourselves again.

Try not to worry too much about your loss of symptoms mabel, it is perfectly normal. Mine disappeared at nine weeks for a week, which really worried me as the same happened with my MMC, but they came back again and all was fine.

fod when the baby is here I think you should go and get a dirty nappy out of the bin and leave it next to any smokers when they light up near you. Let the smokers get baby fumes around them if they want to put smoker fumes around your baby.

So I've persuaded DH to come to a partner pregnancy yoga session with me today. I've no idea how I did that, he is very skeptical, so I hope it will enlighten him rather than make him worse. I'll let you know how it goes!

Checking in with a cheery wave! Hi all!

Still being very frustrated with the 'limbo' stage.
Also sometimes about 5-6pm, stomach pains which could be guts digesting lunch or everything stretching send me into MMC fear... even though I've never had a MMC (my partial molar was still growing albeit into something dangerous not a baby) so I have no precident for this.

Great scan news fedup

Fod I would feel the same. Grrr indeed.

Stars seconding what everyone else has said but honestly shocked to my very core that someone would say that to another person EVER. There are no words. I'm so sorry you had to have that upset.

Mabel Know how you feel and agree with everyone else. Of course once you feel any they will not likely all be 24/7 so bound to ease off at some point and cause panic! I know it's not easy but try to distract yourself and not dwell on it so you can get through the next few weeks without driving yourself completely insane!

Penguin would love to know if your OH liked the class. Mine would probably love to go he's into anything remotely sporty, it's me who would need convincing!

Thanks penguita I like that idea a lot!

Thanks all for your words of reassurance. I wish I funds feel like this. I was feeling pretty positive about this pregnancy - but that's when I could feel it.
Last night I lay in bed in tears, convinced that I was losing it and I can't shake that feeling. I left a night out early as just couldn't do smiley face chit chat act any longer.
I need to really find a way to feel more positive.

I hope you all are feeling brighter than me today and hope all little babes still thriving xx

Huh. didnt, not funds!

Can not stop eating today. It's really bad!! And moaned at DH for not making enough bacon sandwiches when had already had 3!
I've put on 4 lbs now which is getting better. You might remember I'm the weird one who associates weight gain with healthy pregnancy so oddly want to gain.
At this rate I will as am stuffing down smarties whilst I have a lie down in bed.
Was totally off sweet things at the beginning but it's gradually made a come back. If it wasn't for good scan yesterday I would be stressing knowing me. About the fact I want chocolate!

mabel I really know how you feel, I really do. Are you going to get an early scan? I too left a social do early as I couldn't be happy and couldn't concentrate on it - felt really fake so just left. Hope you are ok lovely and if I were you plan when you will have a scan and then hopefully won't seem so long til get through?

Hey fedup - congratulations on the weight gain then! And how great to get that reassuring scan.

It really is a comfort to know that this level of paranoia is familiar to others. I do have a scan booked in 12 days time when I'll be nearly 8 weeks along. Things are very different here (in US) - there are no such things as early pregnancy units, and trying to talk to midwives is nigh on impossible.y doctor (an ob-gyn) is never available on the phone. So I feel pretty isolated in that respect.

So I guess I just need to hang in there for next 12 days and hope symptoms return so that the wait is a little less agonizing. Thanks for words of comfort.

So DH made it through partner pregnancy yoga with the verdict of "not that bad", which is high praise from him! And he didn't snigger out loud at any point (came close a couple of times) . londonjen I don't think you could call it "sporty" though, it is all about breathing and positions for labour and how your birth partner can help you with those. Very sedate!

He gets lots of extra brownie points too as he came to the home birth support group with me after, and then I dragged him around the shops for two hours buying nappies and breast pads and changing bags. So I'm cooking his favourite tea tonight as a thank you.

I'm feeling a bit overwhelmed with baby things though as the pram and car seat were delivered today too. Up until now, I had bought nothing baby related. I can't quite face getting them out of the box yet!

Penguin I am concerned about sniggering from DH when we have the various classes. He barely managed to contain himself during the cringeworthy 'physical intimacy' lesson before marriage (we're bad Catholics so had the lessons... including one which is rather sensibly about sex as part of a long term relationship... but the people on the video are hilariously 'wholesome' and they discuss foreplay etc').

So DH has collected the pram etc from his inlaws house he reckons he has told them that it's because of them smoking etc. I asked if he had mentioned the fact that they shouldn't be smoking around me when I'm pregnant etc... His response??? No! So I've taken the matter into my own hands and texted his MIL and told her myself (I was very nice) told her I was concerned that they all smoked in my presence yesterday and I hoped she understood

Excellent brownie point collection by your OH there Penguin and you too, well done on getting so much stuff, posifrickintivity style! Good to know about the class. My dp used to go to yoga so think he might be quite keen.

Mabel I think you need something, maybe even just a trip to the cinema? (if you don't fancy small talk) planned for 6days time as something to aim towards and break the time up.

Fedup I was wondering if I would get my desire for chocolate back. DP had some cadbury's mini eggs today which normally I would launch myself across a room for but they smelt so sweet and sickly they were making me gag!

Lol Squiz that video sounds quite amusing. Hope your pains aren't stressing you out too much. At my appt the mw asked me if I'd had round ligament pain. I don't think I have and I had to admit I didn't really know if most of the twinges I have had have been uterus or guts?! Unless it's followed by a fart

We think we have decided on an announcement plan for parents. Exciting! Seen some wool with the message 'Get knitting Grandma!' we'd like to give each of our mums on mothers day (when I will be 12+2). We're too tight to pay for the wool we saw tho so going to make our own cheaper version! I just really need scan date to be before 28th March. Should get letter next week. Fingers crossed.

It comes and goes London - I practically gagged when read mini eggs!! Don't know why as love them too. Prob cos I'm stuffed full of pizza. I look really fat now!!

Ha ha - like the announcement plan! My mum already knows as needed her to help me through the early weeks - she's helped keep me sane(ish) yet understood my paranoia. MIL doesn't know yet.

Just been bombarded with FB annoucements recently. Knowing what me and others went / are going through I will not be doing that if I get to 12 weeks ok. The "I'm feeling blessed" emoticon and scan photos were too much to stomach through my mcs...

I know just what you mean about the fb announcements fedup. I worry for everyone that does it in their naive innocence that they will have to retract it, and that they are hurting the feelings of others that aren't finding it so easy to get pg. Nothing is going on my page until I have a baby in my arms. It might come as a surprise to a few, but if I don't know them well enough to tell, phone, email or text them my news then they are not really proper friends in my view.

Ooh dear squiz, I think I would have been sniggering at a physical intimacy lesson, let alone DH!

Lovely announcement plan jen. Careful you don't start Nanna knitting wars like we have though, our baby is certainly not going to go cold. Especially as she is due at end of May....

I said that I wouldn't post on FB but I have. I've spent all 13 weeks of this pregnancy terrified of losing it and trying to stay detatched. As someone who has had MC I do understand what you mean but after a healthy 13+1 scan I've decided to celebrate this and enjoy it. I have privately told those who I know are having difficulties but selfishly (some may think that) I have decided that I am not responsible for other peopled happiness.

I think I've gone to the other extreme in not telling people we told our boys and immediate family after 13 weeks, work after 20 and still there are loads of people who don't know. People I see are now noticing at 28 weeks (I can't decide if it's a compliment they didn't notice earlier or if I always look fat) but there is a whole group of friends I don't see regularly who will get a surprise in June....

Sorry, my phone wouldn't let me scroll down. Its lovely reading how well you ladies are all getting on. This is such a fab group of people even if its through such sad circumstances.

Yeah, thing is it still hurts when I knew about the pregnancy. Then the 'I'm feeling blessd' scan picture pops up! It's just a smack in the face! I have a lot of friends struggling so will def not be doing it. They know already about this pregnancy as we tell each other everything but I don't think they need to see an official announcement or photo of it all goes ok. It's extra salt in the wound and I do feel a bit responsible for their happiness as my besties.
Everyone's different but it's not necessary in my eyes as my proper friends will know anyway and it's just the not so good more remote friends I would be putting the picture in front of when I don't really care if they know or not!