Jan 2010 babies and mummies here.....can't think of funny thread title!

[crumpette]

... sorry couldn't think of a title that didn't mention how to get orange poo out of a white vest, or how to get jiggy post partum!!!

Panic over re: DS2, not slapped cheek. I can stop feeling guilty.
He has cellulitis, probably from an infected insect bite. He has antibiotics to take.
(any tips on how to get him to have nasty medicine?)

Nico grizzled all night. Would not settle in cot at all. Fed 3 times. I swear I have just given birth and have a newborn again. DS1 did not do any of this.

Sock - YIKES! My DD1 had cellulitis when she was just under 18 months old. She had it in her hand. I kept thinking she had broken it because it was soooooo swollen and she couldn't use it at all. After many back and forths to A&E, a paedeatrician diagnosed cellulitis - but very bad. She had no marks on her skin to suggest an insect bite, but we thought, and still do, it was from playing with a toilet brush (yes, they do that if you don't hide them) and one of the bristles pricked under her nail or something. We had a 3 day stay in hospital with her on a drip of antibiotics. Took us 6 hours of screaming to finally get a line to stay in her. Ended up being in her foot of all places. It was truly horrific at the time. If the ABs are oral, try a syringe and put to the side of the cheek, or if you can, under the tongue as they are absorbed quicker that way. Just do a little bit at a time too, otherwise they will spit it straight out.

morning all

anyone experience of teenager ds17 and girl friends, he has lots of 'girl' friends on msn facebook etc, some from school and some new. has one girl he's been talking to for ages, have met once, still chat. i just happened to ask last night 'have you spoken to ,...' yeh but as friends, then comes down not half an hour later 'i'm going in bath and going out with .....' different girl. he didn't go out but later i said 'are you going out, going OUT with her. yeh i asked her and she said yes. he would be able to see her more as she lives not far, but how would you go on with her being here. i don't mind them being downstairs on satday evening (we're usually in the kitchen gettingpissed socialising but i'm dreading him asking to go upstairs in case he plays up when i say no(he has been a lot lot better since him and dh had a chat/ultimatum last weekend. I know they will do it anyway if they want ( i was young once ) but i would hate to think of him taking some girl up the alley to get funky, but she is someones daughter and although i would not want my girls behaind the bike sheds i would not be happy for someones mother to let them do it in her house.

I am am am am am way over anaylising this i think. FRIDAY MELTDOWN starting. i am very happy for him to have a girlfriend, (dh said once he may be gay, only has handful of male friends. i don't think he is but not bothered either, (new thread - my son is gay WHAT DO I DO????? coming soon)

Sorry for the very self indulgent post

sock glad ds is ok, no experience of cellulitis (only on my fat backside) with the children, but good luck. why was you feeling guilty, its a horrible name for something but you didn't do anything.

mistle sorry you have gone back to newborn days i hope nico settles down again soon.

blondie froachs dh is a yummy fireman so she shouldn't be looking for herself but for all her single mn friends (not me of course, i have a dirty scaffolder yum!)

As cant says, i would use a syringe, and have a bottle of milk ready, give a bit of meds and then a drink of milk, hope that helps/works.

Party - I have experience of a stepson who lived with us and when he was 16 he hooked up with a girl at school, who was also 16. It would be his first time. I said that when he wanted to see her, I would be very happy for him to come back to the house and hang out in his bedroom and I would rather that than them be hanging around the streets and as you say, then then "do it" up a back alley, because it's bound to happy. I was young once too .

Anyhow, they did, it was fairly quick , she went home straight after and he came down and told me all aboutw it . He was on cloud 9 because she said he had the best bum of all the boys she had slept with .

It's a real conundrum. They will experiment, we can either make it really difficult for them and perhaps have the alley scenario or talk to them about relationships, how a girl might feel once they've done the deed, respect etc and trust them a bit. Not sure there is any right or wrong on this - it comes down the individual.

My stepson turned out a real sh*t btw so don't take advice from me .

x

CTFN at your stepson telling you!! Oh goodness me

party I have no experience of a son of 17 but I was 17 in '03 (getting old ) and I had a much much older boyfriend and got up to all sorts of things. BUt I didn't live at home..

My advice would be- talk to him
-allow her to visit
-DO NOT allow her to stay the night
-DO NOT allow her to stay later than, say, 8 or9pm
-Do not allow it every day if he's at college/school. Ensure he knows you are serious and is respectful about being in your house

But tbh I've never been in the position of parent in that situation, but I think you are right, they will do whatever they want anyway.

WMDO sorry you're feeling pants and are off but hope DS has a great birthday, come back soon please!!!

As for me DS will not stop EATING all the time, he feeds literally all day. He doesn't even have a nap in the dya anymore- he gets up at 6 or 7, stays up til 8 or 9, mostly eating. I should be pleased he's sleeping through but it's exhausting feeding him all day long. I think I've fed him, go out and within 2 mins he's screaming and hungry trying to eat my chest in public

DP being awful, but won't go there (if you see a very very long first post in relationships one day involving alcoholic controlling psychopath who disallows certain bland tv programs(!) and thinks it's fine to call me names and strangle me, says he is in charge and will get revenge if I leave him, then it's probably me)

TMI alert I have a question- re AF/period I am having a tiny period every two weeks!?? Has anyone else had this?? Should I go to the GP? Literally every 2 weeks like clockwork. It's really annoying me!

OMG crumpette , i take it thats the problem, why does he be like this with you, what have you done to deserve this. have you no where to go??
no experience of af like you say but i am due mine today but so far nothing.

thanks crump and cant re ds, lol at the pornographic noises, with 4 girls in the house i doubt he'll do anything, i can imagine dd2 knock knock, what you doing whats that noise. omg cant 'the best bum out of ALL the boys she slept with @ 16

i have always spoke to him, like if i know he'll be with girls, i always say 'no means no, everytime no exceptions, whether that be kissing touching or anything else, if shes decided thats it. stupid question, should i buy some condoms for him and just say casually as i can 'just in case', cos i know he ain't got no money and obviously don't want any 'accidents'or diseases.

Party - I would definitely have some condoms around "just in case" . x

Hi PO7 - all i can say is OMG!!!!!!!!! i have dd 15 will be 16 in july and im cringing every second of every day wandering about peer pressure and how important these horny, spotty faced boys are to her! i make her watch all those programs like erm baby borrowers, underage and pregnant and so on and embarrassing illnesses and pray she never mentions 'boy and friend' in the same sentence!also every min i give her lil man and let her see how hard babys really are! (no offence about spotty boys but all the ones i see are!)

mama you make me chuckle

party yes he's being a PITA in the extreme- but eugh- I give up

WMDO If you are still around I have seen this link about your thyroid- you'll be fine within a year or so, I promise. I found it as was googling -bad crumpette- my own symptoms (odd bleeding hair loss fatigue fuzziness cant think at all etc etc) after today discovering I can't write by hand properly (!!!) I kept on writing the wrong letters ?? seriously weirded me out. I don't want to go to GP I avoid at all costs but a trip may be in order..

ooer anyway yes party I'd advise some discreet condoms in the bathroom cabinet? I wouldn't give them to him as that's almost a license and says you approve entirely but yeah it's very very sensible to have some lying around

thanks mama lol, he isn't spotty at all but can be a pita at times and lovely at others, maybe we should make them meet, as i to am trying to put him off by giving him erin at every opportunity, especially while i make her bottle and shes screaming, and i put 16 and pregnant on while hes there, americans are worse than ours

sorry but lol at crumpete to wmdo 'you'll be fine in a year or so' oh woopee thanks, and go to gp if your worried yourself (pot and kettle come to mind )

still no af but i'm not panicing yet

hah yeah that came out a bit wrong !
BUT the good point (WMDO I hope you're still around somewhere!) is that it is definitely postpartum and not during the pregnancy even the autoimmune aspect so Olivia will be fine.

Party have you ever bought condoms ? sorry couldn't resist- I remember in my yoof being too embarrassed to buy things like that! so silly of me!

Gosh how sad am I on MN on a Friday night

smiley overload sorry

crumpette actually now you come to mention it, ha ha ha yes i have once. but usually are only rumaging around the top shelf for play gel, ky or pg tests

was actually stood in asda before with dh in said aisle, and he was looking at top shelf, so i said 'what you looking for' 'nothing in particular' he said, so i started laughing and said come on, theres pg test, ky, condoms (all flavours) and pleasure vibe gel?????? what you after, or is it the headache relief stuff that was right next to it all, yeh that would be more like it, cheeky sod!!!

I'm sorry to say but mn on a friday night is all we have to look forward too

no i am not pissed mad there is a pink pony thread in AIBU

wmdo - I hope things pick up for the family and the party goes well. We will be here waiting for your return and humour.

crumpette - I know that the situation with DP is bad but I hope that you know you have options. My Dad was violent to my Mum and they both drank excessively so it got to the point that I would be staying awake shaking in bed because I felt like I had to protect my Mum from him. It got to the point I was going to be put into foster care because I was self harming and on anti depressants and about to do my GCSE's. Please don't think i'm scaremongering (sp?), I just want you to know that it is possible to break the cycle. My Mum finally did it after I said I was going into foster care & it was up to her if she stayed or came with me and she has got her old self back in some ways but after many years of abuse she is a different woman and in a very roundabout way what i'm trying (but failing) to say is that whilst you have the knowledge what your DP is doing is wrong and you don't deserve it try and make the break so that you still have some of 'you' left. Also, the only other thing I would say is IME there is nothing worse than having bad memories of your father and childhood so even if you can't find the strength for yourself, find it for your DS. I'm sorry if you think i'm preaching or out of order, that wasn't my intention at all and only you can judge the situation that you're in and what is right for you and your DS.

mk - i think all of the babies are regressing to being like newborns. Jack seems to be going between being a newborn who wants feeding constantly to then not really being bothered and just wanting to be looking and exploring everything.

party - what are your DS' girlfriends parents like? I'm just thinking that it is probably a bigger deal for a girl than a guy so if they are going to do it then maybe it's better to do it at hers so she has her Mum there? I agree though, it's a tricky one but at least you recognise it's going to happen at some point. The only other thing I would add is that once it has happened then maybe it's worth bringing up with him about getting down to a GUM clinic to get checked so that he gets used to getting checked after each partner? That might also make him wait that bit longer because i'm sure nobody likes getting their bits out for a stranger

ctofn - great comment by the girl about his bottom.

Right ladies, i'm the saddest of you all. I'm home alone, Jack is asleep upstairs and instead of watching a film or something or having a friend round i've descaled the steriliser and attempted to clean up a bit. Steady, i know!! I am going to go to bed though and get some sleep before Jack decides it's time to get up about 5.59am again, joy

P.S Sorry if i've offended anyone with this post.

Party - just found the pink pony thread. Mitchy is bonkers!! Very funny.
Crumpette - I think you need a hug and a chocolate biscuit. Hope things get better for you my lovely.

I actually entertained last night! I had 5 friends over and we talked through watched Princess Bride and ate way too much food. I spent the day baking so we had chocolate cookies and cake and raspberry buns and cornflake crispies.

Boys went to bed before they came and DD managed to sleep the whole time. It was a late night (for me anyway...11.30) but worth it to try and act like a normal person for a bit. DH said he felt like Anne Frank banished upstairs. (he had the computer though)
Good thing was as they were all Mums they tidied up after themselves before they went. YAY!

Afternoon all. I was absolutely exhausted yesterday. DH got home from business trip about 6oclock. By 6.30 I was in bed, electric blanket on, moved a TV/DVD combo into the bedroom, settled down to watch Sex in the City box set. Woke up about 9oclock and realised I'd missed loads, turned TV off and went back to sleep, to wake at 8am this morning . DH is doing his newly found weekend thing of sleeping in the nursery with Olivia so I can catch up on some rest. Anyhow, that's me.

New - I can't begin to think why your post would offend anyone. You sound positively lovely, always so full of good advice and comments and yet I have to remind myself that you are still quite young, a single parent and it appears with quite a background. You are an inspiration I should say.

WMDO - I know you've gone away for a bit but sending you hugs anyway. Hope all turns out well with your mum and DS gets the attention he needs .

Have I forgotten to address anything? Not sure .

OK - lunch to do, then off to Halfords to get DS's bike fixed. Tomorrow is a rugby awards day for DS and DH so we'll have a whole family day out with Percy too!!!

Hi all - today was so quiet as all the family went to the park for bike ride i stayed in and just chilled and sorted paperwork! while lil man slept!
Need to plan out my days so not stuck in bored!planning to meet up my cousin and best mate every monday for hot choc and cake or healtly option of "Airpie"

still trying to get lil man to take bottle so i can have a social life and maybe go to the movies!!!!!

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Hi all, hope DS cheek getting better sock . I had awful trouble getting DS to take yucky antibiotics. Once in desperation tricked him by making it pink with a drop of calpol, as he loves that

Seems like alot of the babies hitting the huge 4 mth growth spurt [shudder], DD only 3 mths being so late and all (- last to be born in the group i think), so not there yet, but remember it well with DS.

((hugs)) to crumpette
Glad you're liking the breastflow bottle, my own DD not taking it yet but not panicking yet, got 2 weeks plenty of time for her to learn before my sisters hen night . You're not alone there mama2b5! If worse comes to worse I'm going to have to pop out of nightclub to feed DD- have booked DH into a hotel 4 mins away with DD!! My social life must not suffer!!!

Used to be a fortnightly movie at our local cinema could take babies along to when I had DS, called 'the big scream!'

Long sleep sounds lovely ctofn!

Poem struck a cord here blondieminx, it's me! Last week I just sat in my rocking chair and stared at DD asleep in my arms for ages and actually shed a few tears at the thought these babydays will soon be over forever. Then I made DH sit and hold her asleep too! I'm soooo soppy!

Hi all, not been on for a while as been really busy with my other boys and our pc died.

Have not read all the thread but am v v v of anyone with sleeping all night babies please tell me your secret? I am dying here ds is being awful, he's gone from sleeping 7-7 with feeds at roughly 2+5 to last night going down at 7 then feeding at 11, 00.30, 2.30, 4.30 and up at 6 aaaarrggghhh help me!

This has been going on now for 2 weeks, he is 17 or 18 weeks now I think, can hardly remember am sooo tired. Its all made doubly hard by having non walking 2.9 yro, stroppy teens x2 and dp away all week so am physically knackered too.

On the plus side lack of sleep is appearing to make me lose weight am now 9 st 5.5lbs despite eating everything in sight but when I put my jeans back and weighed myself again I was 9.7 not sure jeans weigh 1.5lbs??

So any advice re sleep gratefully received...

maygirl we have 'the big scream' here too, it's on at all picturehouse cinemas I think

verycherry sorry you're feeling so tired (I can see why though!!) no magic formula here, DS has luckily fallen into a routine but I am a bit mean. When I know he's fed properly and when he starts to look a bit tired from 8pm onwards, so sometimes later if he's wide awake til 9 or 10, I just take him upstairs, put him in his cot and put his mobile on. He cries, but not for long- maybe 2 minutes, sometimes 5, then falls asleep and wakes up at around 6 in the morning for a feed and seems to be used to it now. I wouldn't leave him crying for very long of course but 2 mins (literally) won't do much harm I'm sure then he's fast asleep. I don't have the supermum qualities to do the pat/soothe or pick up put down thing, I just stick him in cot and bugger orf (bad mummy!!) but I'm lucky he is sleeping through. I would say if he's waking for feeds at those intervals it's likely he's having a growth spurt, so will only be temporary phase anyway and may be an idea to encourage more frequent feeding in the evening if you can, before trying to go to bed. DS tends to cluster feed a bit in the pm/evening.

New thanks for your post (which did not offend in the slightest you silly thing) you're completely right of course, I guess I just feel like I'm waiting for something to happen to make my break, not quite sure what I'm waiting for though. I don't quite remember who I am to be honest, 4 years in, I have lost a great deal of my former self, which makes it harder to judge what I am doing v. I wish I had left when DD was 6 weeks old 2 years ago, we had huge rows and he was v violent back then but he tried to scare me into staying by saying he'd make up lies about me and blablabla and he's crazy enough to exact revenge in any way.. nobody's ever left him and the ego-blow when I packed everything up caused him to come out with crazy threats- so I stayed (error!)

Anyway please excuse rant!

Happy sunday every one.

thanks for all the advice re:ds

af still not turned up so i may have to have two sets of mn friends,

sorry to hear baby isn't sleeping through verycherry and your knackered, i am very very grateful that i can get my sleep or i would be one miffed mummy.
in the jan2011 there is another verycherry but i take it its not you.

crumpette rant away you have to release it somewhere although my choice would be on your dhs head

sock at entertaining, with cakes AND biscuits glad you had a good time, its just great to feel 'normal' if only for 5 mins. i love socailising with other mums cos they always clean up after themselves.my highlight is going into work with baby cos i get someone to make me a brew and then the give her loads of attention while i facebook.

ctofn - i'm very of your big sleep annd actually getting to sleep through watch a film. I hope your family day out is good today. How is Percy getting on now, any improvements? Thank you for your kind words too x

maygirl - i can tell this isn't going to be what you want to hear but DS seems to be having a growth spurt every other week now. He is 20 weeks old and just seems so ravenous but i don't want to wean him just yet because i want to do BLW. Fingers crossed though that doesn't happen for you as DS is chunky at 16lbs 15oz at 17 weeks

verycherry - sounds like a growth spurt but also apparently there is a sleep regression at 4/5 months so i'm not sure if it's that? Something that's helped with DS is putting a sheepskin rug thing for kids in his cot so he sleeps on that. It seems to have helped DS and now he wakes every 4 hours rather than every 2 so maybe making the cot more cosy might help? I've so jinxed it now and i'll be up all night

crumpette - i'm glad i didn't offend you, (or anyone else) i just know how tough it is to know you need to make a break and people telling you that actually doesn't help sometimes. Your DP sounds very insecure to me and that's why he is being such an arse. I remember a couple of days before we left my Dad had asked me what i wanted to do because i'd interrupted an argument the night before and i said i wanted to leave. He then said that if we were to go then that he wouldn't see me very often and in hindsight he did it to try to make me stay and that seems what your DP is doing. Have you got any closer to getting back in touch with your friends? I reckon Supermum ctofn will come and rescue you and Percy can bite him

I'm very impressed that wmdo hasn't reappeared yet but i'm sure it's only a matter of time

I took Jack for our first picnic yesterday with a friend which I was so excited about. Cue the screaming and uncontrollable crying which was such a joy and just topped it off brilliantly . I'm sure that he has hayfever. Even if i take him out in the garden he screams after about 5 mins and yesterday his eyes went really red and were streaming and his nose was running too. Is there anything I can give him for hayfever or am i going to have to make a visit to the drs (again)?

Hope everyone else has had a good weekend.