November 2008 - The Birthdays thread.

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As we will still be on this when the first birthdays roll round.

I'll try and find the list to remind us all.

right, off to watch telly; will catch up properly tomorrow.

Hi all, haven't been on all week really as it has been half term, so it's just a non starter on having the computer to myself for more than a few minutes at a time. DH has had the week off as well, so even more competition for it! Oh for my own laptop....well, I am still dropping hints to DH for my 40th in December.

Happy Birthday Bumble and Pinkali's DD! Sorry daisy that he's holding out for an extra piece of birthday cake or something by staying up so late! Actually, hope you and he aren't suffering too much tonight.
tegan sorry you're all poorly, hope it passes really quickly
LB good luck for work tomorrow!
twinks sorry for your disappointment early, hope it goes ok on Friday
Yorky so impressed on your Christmas cake. I'm not making one this year, as most of last years cake is still in the tin

We had DS2's birthday on Thursday, and his party this afternoon. Thankfully all went well with both.
M has now got two teeth! He is madly teething, and behaves in a strange deranged fashion at times, trying to grate his gums on the floor. His bum isn't looking great either! He is mostly fairly happy though, and although not pulling himself up yet, he has perfected the art of crawling fast, especially if there's a piece of Lego or a bit of dropped biscuit to aim for!

OK. gotta go, gotta phone MIL to discuss the fact that although I'm hosting Christmas dinner for DH's extended family this year, I'm not doing a turkey [shock}. That shock emoticon is actually her face when I tell her. There's just too many vegetarians in his family, so I want to do a Thai curry with a Thai crunchy salad. Am I weird?? Actually I'm a huge meat fan, but I can honestly wait an extra day for my turkey dinner. Tell me I'm normal

belated birthday wishes to your DS fudge!

can i come to yours for Christmas Dinner?

Not sure what we are doing; it'll just be us as DH's family are weird at christmastime and mine are too far away. I fancy eating lots of extravagent things that we don't normally have (lobster and other fancy seafoods, smoked salmon, quail's eggs, gorgeous farmhouse cheeses etc), but have a sort of running picnic all day; no set meal that we are all fit to burst after eating.....and with a gorgeous pavlova for dessert.

right, knackered so off to bed!

Hello again
Sorry Twinks I posted over your upsets there. I hope your customer turned up. Don't worry there will be more.x

Re mothers, well you know I think you are right to set your limits where you feel comfortable, whilst your Mum is not, God willing, bonkers NPD like mine, it is hard to stands up to people who believe they are always right. Sympathies.

And sympathies to Tegan, on your poorly family

and to all those with poorly families.

Daisy hope you get some sleep.

Sleep well Yorky,too. And yay on the christmas cake. That's one of those things I intend to do but only remember when it's too late.

Hope woork goes well, LB

Ceebee Mimi can pull herself all the way up to her knees . Like Ellie I am in NO Hurry

ooh happy birthdays!!!
happy birthday Bumble, Esme, and MrGoo!
xx
must catch up...

and sorry I didn't acknowledge your post twinks

will catch up properly tomorrow evening.

Hi all, I keep doing this, dont get a chance to log on, catch up and then forget all the individual circumstances to be able to acknowledge them. Please dont think I'm being rude, im just grateful to be able to get on the PC at last!

happy birthday to all those I've missed. Very lovely to read of all the teeth, walking and birthday parties. Ive got a tea party arranged for DD with 4 sets of grandparents, 5 little kids and the SIL from hell. DD has really mastered walking, races from room to room and can turn around etc now. Everyone keeps telling me that technically i have a toddler now and she isnt even 1 .

Love all the cooking talk of cupcakes & xmas cakes, i need to get cracking on some of my own. DH is being much like Barbs hence why i cant get on PC. Really getting me down now. I moved 60 miles away from my friends and family and now he is at work all week and plays golf on saturdays. So by Sunday, our one family day, I darent do any housework etc as i want to enjoy the precious time. So then i struggle all week to get anything done. Only have 2 friends here, both work fulltime and have no kids so its difficult. Just starting to feel lonely and desperate to go back to my home town. I keep considering going back all week and seeing Dh on sundays but then I realise that that is surely an end of my marriage or as good as.

Sorry for the me me post, cant see the wood for the trees at the moment and just needed to get on MN just to feel like ive had some degree of me time!

Hi all Drswife

You sound very lonely, lovey. Whatr does you DH say when you talk to him about these things?

Is your relationship with your own family good? I wonder if you could go visiting for a bit?

Toddler/baby group s are a good way of getting out of the house but often a bit rubbish for making friends. I am wondering if you can get active with your local NCT group or similar?

Can you hire a cleaner?

sorry to go on I'm just trying to think of something that might help.x

Popping in to Say HUGE HAPPY BIRTHDAY to all those lovely teethy , crawling , walking running ( not sleeping?)Fantastic November babies -
To think a year ago we were all with bump , just popped or pleading for it come out ....
I am going to try and read to catch up a bit but just keeping on here is a problem ( I have a non day sleeper ( or a bad 10 min nap one) and no teeth and crawling btw!)
Take Care everybody.
Just read your thread Dr Wife I feel very soory for you - Are there no baby clubs Mother and baby groups in your area anything to make a few friends. As for Dh I hope he realises what he is missing ........May it get better for you.

a huge happy birthday to all the ones i missed yesterday and of course the little ones who are celebrating today.

Things here are tiring dd2 has full blown swine flu but tamiflu only comes in tablet form which is impossible for her to take even if i mix with food because it tastes vile. dh won't even accept he has it even though he is taking tamiflu he won't stay home from work and is fobbing me off with "it's man flu, thats what you always say"

Drswife please don't worry about coming on here and posting - that is what we are here for. I agree about the baby and toddler groups but also classes such as baby swimming, baby yoga (if you can afford it). Also, as your DD is up and about and running around, what about local soft play areas? She would love it now and they often have special toddler mornings etc when there would be other parents there to chat to - I used to find it really hard to go to these places by myself but had to get DS1 out of the house...and always found people friendly and ready to chat. It would also get you out of the house a bit.

Tegan am at your DH going to work with swine flu - he must be knackered and feeling really rough!!! That is dedication for you isn't it?? Hope DD2 picks up again soon.

Happy birthday to the 2 J's tomorrow hope they both have fantastic birthdays

Hi all,

Happy birthday, little boys and girls!

Tegan, poor you and poor Mr and little Tegans, you must be very worried and tired. Hugs all round and a large gin for you, lady.

Twink, nightmare. We have just sorted our recent family shitstorm out but it's so horrible that people think they have the right to do things like that just because they share some DNA with you. Grr. I have a massive rant prepared re: DH's family as I think they all treat him like an emotional toilet, IYSWIM.

Pinky, can only concur. Mine overcooked the blanket I crocheted for Finbo - a wool blanket at 40 degrees, and this from the woman who taught me all I know about laundry - but she is never wrong so does not have to apologise. Gah.

Drswife, does your DH have to play golf every Saturday - is it a career thing or something? Have you told him how you feel? In man language? I know you don't want to feel like you're whining but would he want you to be bottling it up? Yay to your LO on the walking, btw, I am very impressed.

Daisy, was it an ear infection or just too much excitement that was causing Bumble's mania?

Phee, how are you doing, lovey?

Went to Toysrus today (boak) to try and find some kind of ride-on thing for Finbo. Desperately tried to get him interested in the Little Tikes rocking horse as it is both small and cheap but he just tried to eat the label. That's m'boy.

I have booked a lovely venue for Finbo's birthday, having decided that we cannot possibly have it round our house, and have spent the afternoon in Costco looking at quiches and paper plates as we can't do a hot buffet any more. I need to move to a bigger house with a sociably large kitchen, not an offshot.

Hello again

Tegan hugs to you lovey- all sounds like very hard work.

Rutho sorry about your blanket. My DH boils woollen things quite often. And for some reason it's my fault -either I put it in the laundry basket or he caanot be expected to read care labels .

Spent an uninspiring afternoon at A&E with the DC. DD1 had 'ouched her leg' in the morning and limping really badly all day- until we got sent to the hosp where she underwent a miraculous recovery Such a relief but it was soo tiring keeping them all amused in the waiting room.

Ride ons. IKea do a plastic rocker but I think it's prolly for toddlers at least. We got Mimi the wooden rocking moose thing from there as she liked it so much in the shop. So far she has that and a Poppy Cat book in her christmas stash, along with a leather owl money box from Oxfam.

I would also very much recommend the IKEA stacking wooden lighthouse toy. We bought it for DS for his first Christmas and it really is a firm favourite with all of them. The other things that are really fab are a set of very large stacking cube boxes. Ours are John Crane ones, but there are a few different types. They provide so much scope for different play they have been a fab toy.

Mimi is finally saying Mamma!

Had a lovely time doing make-and-do at DS' school this morning. I think DS liked having me there, too, ehich was lovely.

which was lovely..

hello all

once again struggling to keep up and actually post rather than just read....but I have propped my eyelids open so here goes...

DW {{{{{{hugs}}}}}}} for you lovely. It is so so hard sometimes, this parenting lark especially the making friends bit when you have children. I made a lovely circle of friends when DS1 was little, but then moved away and really struggled when DD was born because I didn't know anyone with a wee baby, although things got better when one of my only two friends here had her DS. It's been easier with bumble, mainly because I was in the right place emotionally to do it, and it has started to pay dividends. We usually go to the local Children's centre and most of my mum friends are from there. I also started going to gym minis at the local sport's centre (which would be good for DD if she is walking) and having been there since the end of May am only now starting to make friends. And I know it's easier said than done, but try inviting a mum to meet for a coffee as it's surprising how many mums feel the same way. I wish I had some advice on the DH situation, other than asking "Is he for real?" You spend all week with DD, so the very least he can do is give you some "you time" at the weekend, even a lie in with tea and toast and a book while he entertains DD will make a huge difference to how you feel. I hope you can talk to him and sort it out.

Tegan, sounds like you are going through the illness mill at the minute . I'm also that DH's work are happy to have him there (if as he says he doesn't have it) if there is swine flu at home and he is on antivirals.

I second the IKEA stacking lighthouse; tis a firm favourite here, but there is always one of the segments that goes AWOL...and it's a different one every day; I suspect someone is hiding them.

rutho, your birthday plans sound ambitious! I hope all the respective families sort themselves out and agree to growl at each other in a civilised fashion for a couple of hours.

twinks, I hope you found your customer and sorry about the family stuff. Good Luck for the craft fayre; you'll be fab

struggling now to remember the whos and wahts.....

ooooh, secret santas are out ..now does anyone have a link to the SS thread? I can't find it.

tea party went well enough today, but bumble was tired and clingy and howled everytime I turned my back. Meant my poor guests were neglected as every time I tried to do stuff he kicked off.....good job my friends are off the help themselves types . I did manage to make some teeny tiny cupcakes which went down very well, even though they rose too much and over the cases so were fluff topped fairy cakes rather than cupcakes and did some of my secret recipe honey glazed chicken. Other stuff was all shop bought, but a couple of home made bits amde all the difference

right that was a mammoth post....sorry

Arrrrgh why am I doing this birthday thing? It is going to cost a bomb and knacker us all out proper.

Nice one on the tea party, Daisy, sounds v successful. PLEEEEEEASE come and do mine...

for a small fee rutho, for a small fee; time is money these days

Thanks for the kind messages and happy bithday to the lo's for today.

i know dh is a twat but his arguement is that he is sat in his lorry all night not having contact with anyone even at his drops as they are self unload something or others(like i give a fuck)

dd2 is being a nightmare at taking her tablets so the arguement is getting me down twice a day and now o has got up this morning with a lovely green nose.

i have a cough and tight chest but i have to carry on regardless.

SS Thread here

I got an email from my customer yesterday to say that they had both been ill in bed, with no access to the internet.
It could be true. I wonder if it had a lot to do with the absolutely dreadful weather that day?
I would not have blamed her in the slightest if that had been the case. I certainly didn't leave the house that day nevermind drive half an hour.
Anyway, she has rearranged for Friday afternoon, so that is good

Oh tegan you are a poor thing.
That is all so rotten, but remember 'This too shall pass'. You will get to the other side and look back thinking how the hell did I cope? But you will have, you are. You are doing amazingly well

I am looking again at moving.
Last time I had a falling out with my mum and sis I said I would but changed m mind.
This time it is coupled with the fact that, at DHs work, one of the guys who has only been there a short while is getting more training and moving up more ladders than Dh is. He has been badgering his boss for months now, alwasy being told he was too busy. It turns out he was too busy getting the younger lad through his training!!!!! like you would not believe
So I think that DH should be getting more serious about moving to another site.
The one we would like is just an hour or so away from here.
Just far enough away from my family that I will not be controlled by them, but npt so far that we leave the highlands that we both love.
We are going to go and have a nosey around a house tommorrow, see how we feel.
Nothing can be done until DH other boss comes back from his honeymoon in a week.
Even then, the new site has not been built.
But we hope DH can get in at the ground level so he is intergal and therefore looked on as important, instead of hw he is treated at the mo

Oops, why are my posts always so big

hANA Mine refused to empty after Euor50 a coin was found blocking the drain tube ....If Dh had found the filter ( I refuse to take any responsibility as he said he would look at it plus I don't put coins on my pockets ! Good luck with relate.
Seems we went through the swine flu thinking it was a bronchial virus - It was only when going back to the doc when he said it looks as if mine were some of the first to have it as they did some swabs on some children when they saw this virus wasn't going !
rutho good luck with the birthday . We are having a small thing with a pizza lunch for a few extended friends and family on Sunday. We did the whole caboodle with dd1 but not this time round !
daisy I signed up for the S Santa but haven't heard anything back I was a bit concerned as might have to be posted to Italy we are still waiting to see if we will be in the UK.
twinkling we would be moving if we found could afford it as this house is just falling apart at the seams...... Good luck.
Right off to try the ironing before minirosa wakes up she managed a 45 minute nap yesterday pm ..NOt enough !

Yay Happy Birthday boys!

Today has been quite good. DD1 is wearing nicknicks andhas weed on the potty, and Mimi is pulling herself up to stand, which is great but also invloved quite a lot of falling over!

catch up later.x

ooh Hana yes washer may not be draining due to blockage?

pLUS hope your DH sticks at the relate, as you know thigns are often worse before they get better.xx

Happy birthday to J and J .

Ouch for your washing machine hana. Ours isn't rinsing very well at the minute, but as far as I can see there is no user serviceable filter.....which is nonsense surely? there must be one somewhere, but we can't find it...or the instructions

and double ouch for the heavy emotional stuff . It will get better; the getting it all out in the open is the hardest, most emotionally draining part. virtual gin and chocolate coming your way

glad your customer got in touch twinks, but boo hiss for a lame excuse, and for not phoning you sooner.

I am soooooo tired. Only got an hours sleep before bumble was up and screaming and then couldn't do anything other than doze until 4.30 when he woke up scremaing again. We got out of bed at 5 (no sense waking the whole house) and then he slept on the sofa while I arsed around on FB....only four more hours till DH home; I am on my knees

rosa, worth emailing MrY again? I'm sure no-one will mind posting to Italy; it isn't that expensive.

Has everyone heard back from him?

oops school crawl run time!

Happy bithday J & J and Crici's DD if i dont get on again tomorrow. Thank you for such nice messages and good ideas on meeting people. I used to go to some mother and baby groups but they were sooooooo cliquey here.

Ive moved from a city to a tiny town, there is no cinema here, no major supermarket, no clothes shops. Nothing. Everything is a bit of a drive away, so all the mother & baby groups have people that have all known each other from school or round town etc. Ive tried loads and even drove to the next town but it didnt get much better as the area is so insular. The soft play groups are a good idea though Ive been to more of them and now DD is a bit more mobile that should be better.

DH doesnt have to play golf no, but all I get is that i knew he played every week when i met him, that and pool on a thursday night. He tells me to go out myself but I have nowhere to go!! There are no cafes, no bars nowhere to meet anyone in a casual coffee type way. I hate living here.

I do go swimming each saturday morn but the parents dont even ask each others names! I tried to ask names and make more conversation but everyone just shoots off as everyone comes husband/wife & baby. argh...i will make it my mission to find at least one other group or activity this week!!