Fab Feb 2009: baby coos, stinky poos - three months on...

[dinkystinky]

so here we go again

Ds1's temp is fine, but e's sitting here shivering. What should I do? Wrap him in his blankets? Take him hospital? He doesn't have any other symptoms of anything, but his whole body is shaking

no temp, but has vommed quite a lot this am, tho this is normal for her - goes in phases, an am of voms then none for days.

little boy blue, can you call dr to ask for advice? blankets and cuddles sound like a good idea in meantime

I'm not medically trained, but IME, if the temp is fine, then it may not be serious. You know her best and know her patterns, so if she's not behaving out of the ordinary, she's more than likely fine.
I'm quite paranoid about rashes though, so personally, I'd get it looked at. Just see how she gets on today then.

Think I will call the doc. See what they say.
I am on the phone to NHS direct about once every other week. They must think I am a bit crazy!

morning, i feel poo......... bad night dd & ds have both got stinking colds and both ended up in my bed and were awake most of the night!!!!!!!!!!! I had a huge row with dp!!!!!! I feel like pissing off on my own this morning but wouldn't do that to my babies....

DP had a few drinks last night and when we got home carried dd to bed (she was already asleep). He asked me to come up and help him. At the bottom of the stairs he passes wind so I have my head down and holding my nose. He then smacks dd's head really hard on the beam that goes across our stairs... She wakes up screaming, he screaches at me that it was my fault because he had asked for help and I should have warned him, he then created the most nasty argument of all time.. He is in bed still sleeping it off. I am so cross I really am!!

Fucking prick.... (excuse me)

NHS line said get him down to his nappy, give some calpol and give it an hour. If temp hasn't come down by 10am, get the doc out.
[eye rolling emoticon] These dc's are a wrry aren't they?
I wish I could get poorly for him. Think it's the teething, but not 100% sure.
Luke is being a grump bag too now. Dp is at work. I can't hold both of them, ds1 is a bit frustrated. Think I'll have to concentrate on him for now and just try to keep Luke as happy as poss with my voice, smiles and his activity bar.

lardy sorry you had another crap night. Weather looks crap too which doesn't help. Can you bundle the dc's up and go sit in a coffe shop for half an hour or just walk around the shops? A good pavement pounding can work wonders. Hope dd's ok and her head isn't too sore.
Ds1 fell off the sofa twice the other day and has a big bump on the back of his head and a very atractive yellow bruise on the front!

shopping sounds like a good idea, your poor ds he is in the wars

well I had a lovely early night and spread out in bed as DH away. Was joined at midnight by DT2 which is fine, he seems to know when Daddy away that Mummy likes some company, but then DH rang me at half 1 to tell me he loved me (awww, but shocking timing!), told him thanks muchly but asleep right now so could he be a good lad and go to bed. Cue DS3 waking up for a feed which he never does anymore, so can only assume phone woke him! Woken at 6am by DT1 looking for DT2, so stuck cbeebies on and rolled over for more of a snooze only to be woken at 7am by DS3 for his usual morning feed....

pesky men!

Waiting for OOH doc now. Ds1's temp is now 41 degrees

poor LArdy, that sounds like a horrid end to your evening, and not sleeping too is even worse. i agree that getting out of the house sounds like a great idea. love that expression, pavement pounding - sums up the expending of pent-up rage, frustration and cabin fever so beautifully!

my dh had massive go at me last night (also after some drinks), for harrassing him to help with the kids too much (he works away all week), and not letting him get on with house and garden stuff - ´´you never let me finish anything´´ is a popular refrain.

littleboyblue sorry to hear his temp´s gone up, hope doc arrives soon, good luck.

His temp is spiking every 10/15 mins. The doc said they won't come out, so am now feeding baby, trying to get us dressed and then going to bus stop to wait for a bus to hospital that takes 40mins and comes once an hour. Lets hope he doesn't fit on the way.
I called dp at work ant that wanker just said "let me know how it goes". Not fuck the oertime, I'll come home and take my son to the hospital. Cunt. Sorry

lbb best of luck in hospital - I would be equally annoyed with partner with that attitude. Poor you - the stress of looking after sick kids is extreme enough and not best suffered alone - partners often just don´t get that - as mums we´re expected to take care of it - it´s our job. What´s more noone worries, or feels our kids´ pain, as much as we do! really hope all goes OK, let us know.

ooh LBB, wish I was there, I'd come and take you to the hospital. Your dp can be an arse at times but I guess they all can I hope DS is ok.
Was also shocked by your comment 'i can't remember when I last hoovered the bedroom'. Please do not house swop (no response to my shitogram by the way

fii, welcome to the gang.

lardy & PT, sorry you are having a bad time.
I had a bad night last night as DH went out with the lads and I was really tired and couldn't get DD to bed in her room so let her fall asleep with H and I. I'd wanted to keep an eye on her anyway as she ran head on into a table at mums and tots in the morning and has a lump the size of an egg on her head. Still a massive bruise and lump this morning but thankfully she seems ok.

Had a good day this morning, went to aqua aerobics which was good and then managed around an hours studying when I got back and have pretty much finished my first assignment (which I've been putting off since last summer) so just need to finish typing it up and proof read it all which should only take half an hour or so then I can send it all off. Nanny in tomorrow am so hopefully I'll manage about 2 hours study and get stuck in to the work for assignment 2. Just realised I've only got about 3 1/2 weeks here til I return to UK and I know I'll get nothing done there.

Just cooking a roast dinner which will put a smile on DH's face. He was very smug earlier as the stuck up woman and her husband are were trying to get a table together for a posh ball at the British Embassy in a week or so and it sounds like they can't fill it. Eventually the snobs DH asked my DH who replied that our names had been down on another table for ages
Please god, let one of my nice dresses fit by then. I can't shift any of this weight. Doesn't help that I was still around 2 stone overweight from DD. I tried really hard on my diet last week and put on around 1k! WFT? I joke to a friend earlier I might have a tummy tuck in the UK when back and she said she is having a boob job then as she said her boobs have gone south sinces she b/f her two kids. Might join her.

Hope everyone has a better day today and hope DS is ok LBB Hugs x

I could do with a tummy tuck. Doesn't help that I keep eating packets of biscuits. I used to be a size 8, goddamit. I also worked out every day and never ate chocolate, but hey!

Hope DS is ok, LBB.

oh goodness you're not all having good days there are you.....lbb hope DS1 is ok and that you've got to the hospital ok - don't know what it's like where you are but I suspect not dissimilar from here......really really rubbish day.

Anyway, good night here last night (my two seem to be getting better after a nightmare start with the two of them waking up one after the other) but the weather here is rubbish like most places today and has been all day - DS has insisted on doing stuff in the garden which I don't think is necessary (he's been doing this the last few weekends) so I'm stuck inside with the 2 of them being driven slowly mad. The house is a tip - I'm trying to cook a roast dinner - DH is watching the Irish Open golf on Sky and DS is running around causing mayhem while DD is sleeping soundly in her bouncer......I hate this weather but really other than going out to the shops or up to my mums neither of which I fancy today there really isn't much to do.....

Bored Rant sorry !
Hope you're all having a much more interesting day than me anyway.
Oh and the 2lbs I seemed to have lost last week found its way back to me after all the nibbles, cake and alcohol I consumed at the wedding on Friday. I know I need to do some exercise but need to get my arse off the sofa. GRRRRRRRRRRRRR. Davina is calling.

llb hope your lo is ok. If you're really worried about getting to hosp and dp won't drive, get a cab ffs. And make him pay!

Just thought I'd pop in and say to anyone struggling with potty training, that DS1 (4 at the end of the month) has pooed himself THREE times today.

To be fair to him, he does have an upset stomach - entirely self inflicted, I might hasten to add. We went to Brighton yesterday and he stuffed his face with cakes, ice cream, fruit, raisins and nearly a whole packet of dried apricots - even healthy things can make you ill if you eat all of them in one go.

He is pefectly capable of getting to the toilet on time and doesn't have accidents at school or other people's houses. I have suggested telling his friends about the poo - esp the ones who are a bit older - and he is mortified.

He knows what he is doing is very wrong - just can't be bothered to go to the toilet.

Oh no LBB I really hope ds is ok, sending you lots of hugs and you dp a kick in the balls!!!!

Just back from my day out. Got dd a nice outfit but nothing for myself. I did however take dd to lunch and I ordered the most expensive thing on the menu (lobster) it was lovely....

When I got back all my ironing had been done and the hovering had been done. He said he was sorry and that he will make it up to me. I said no need I got revenge with your credit card (at which point he went a bit green!! ) and he said that he didn't blame me and he has got of lightly if all i got was lunch.... He is forgiven just!!!!!

Hey all - sorry I've not been about. My cousin 'popped' round the other day at about 11 and asked if I could watch her son for a few hours as she is having issues with her partner. She phoned at 4:30 to say he has walked out on her, and could I carry on looking after him for a few days - he's 9, she has 2 yo twin girls and is 8 months pregnant again. She also asked if I can watch the twins when she goes into hospital for an appointment with her consultant and then when she goes into labour - I said no to that, but feel very guilty now. John is having to force me down not to call her back and say I will.

So I've spent a few days trying to entertain a nine year old boy who misses his mum and doesn't have a clue whats going on. I'm not being very sucesful. Luckily he's at school during the day, is well behaved and sleeps and eats well. Otherwise I'd be a gibbering wreck now.

Some good news is that M's last scan results came through and things seem to be ok. They are going to repeat the scan once a year to check, as the condition she has can detereorate (but slowly) but they said certainly no surgery in the next few years, maybe not until she's 10, and possibly not at all. So we can breathe a bit better now...

PSL what a relief for you. Not sure I'd know what to do with a 9 year old boy...a lot don't talk much do they ?!

catching up on sky + telly tonight....

DD has really red cheeks today and was quite fractious late on - she's usually so smiley and chilled makes me think she's teething. She's 16.5 weeks and DS's bottom two teeth were here at 19 weeks so could well be .

Oh dear, sympathies (and understanding) to you all with 'men' issues

shit bollock wank - both DS's are up after 10 mins sleep AGAIN, must dash without reading properly.

PSL what a horrible situation for your cousin to be in and a very difficult one for you too. I would have no experience of even talking to a 9 year old boy and can only imagine how scared and upset he might be. Looking after the twins would be a huge undertaking too - can the rest of the family help out at all? Pleased to hear the news about M's scan and let's hope things stay positive in the years to come.

Sorry I haven't been around much, and ashamed to say I haven't caught up with the thread so apologies for lack of personals . I'm having a pretty crap time of it at the moment and feeling rather desperate at times . I am talking to my health visitor as I'm in floods of tears most of the time and have started having little panic attacks - scored "high" (high = bad) on my post natal questionnaire. Basically, I think it's all linked to Sam, who has always been what you might call a problem baby. Well, the poor thing now has terrible eczema which drives him crazy and looks terrible - it's all over his little face as well as his body and he's had a "cold" for as long as I can remember. I've been to the GP numerous times because of the eczema and keep asking about the cold. I can't remember him not being snotty. He fights to breathe through his nose - we've tried every remedy going - so doesn't sleep much because of that and the eczema. During the day he's a misery guts bacause he's so uncomfortable and over tired. I'm finding it so hard to cope with him and DD and need a miracle cure - quickly. The health visitor thinks we should be referred to a paediatrician in case the eczema and congestion are linked and he has some sort of allergy, but the GP is resisting referral. I was so desparate the other night, I ended up shouting at Sam, and almost took him to A&E just to get something done about his breathing.

DH and I are at breaking point because we're so tired and fed up. I feel so disappointed in myself for not coping and am a total failure as a mum. I know people have a lot worse to deal with, so why am I struggling so much?

LBB I hope you don't mind me asking, but did you start taking your AD's? Did you find they helped? HV thinks a course might get me through the next 6 months a bit easier - I'm willing to try anything. Wish me luck because I'm going to beg the GP for some help tomorrow!

SOrry for being so me, me, me and not keeping up with the thread - I've missed you all and your antics and will try to pull myself together and stay with you.

Thanks for listening and one day I might write a positive post ....

blimey, i've not had a chance to go too far back but seems to be a pretty grim time for quite a few of you.

STW you're having an understandably horrible time with what sounds like a bit of PND, there is no reason to compare yourself to other people. you need to look ater yourself without feeling guilty for feeling bad too, i'm glad the hv is taking it seriously and trying to help both you and your ds. really hope the gp starts to take it seriously too and if he/she doesn't then tell them you need to change your gp.

lots of virtual hugs coming your way and to everyone else having a hard time.

lbb hope you ds is ok, let us know when you get a chance.

STW if your gp wont refer you then go to A&E because you will then see a paediatrician. So sorry you are having to go through this, poor ds!

PSL if you want to do an activity afternoon after school at mote park just let me know and I can meet you there, plenty to do there for a 9 year old!!

LBB thinking of you