Fab Feb 2009: baby coos, stinky poos - three months on...

[dinkystinky]

so here we go again

lardy, the gaps between jabs over here are totally differant, we have them at 2,4 and 6 months. when i had aaron there for his 2 month ones i was told to bring him back 2 months or more later, no sooner!

PSL... dd took 2 years to potty train and still wets herself at least once a week or more girls are not easier... tis a lie!

dinky ... sorry you and dh are having rough patch, i hope things work out soon.

the rest of your day sounds like mine, aaron is a grump who won't sleep and is crying all day... i know he's sick but it's exhausting me. dd is etting clingier every day, it took 20 mins to leave her at playschool this morning as she was wrapped around me whinging and i'm coming down with some sort of bug again and could really do with not having to deal with any of this.

I lost you all! You bunch of swines! (do you like what I did there?)

Haven't had time to catch up properly but wedding went well, I asked at hotel reception if there was somewhere I could breastfeed (before TBM tells me off, I normally would breastfeed anywhere but on this occassion I was wearing an outfit which had almost had to be removed to gain access to tit) and they directed me to the toilet

A kind wedding guest overheard, told the reception staff 'under no circumstances would she feed in the toilet!' and gave me the keys to his room so I could take DS up there and feed him. Kind man

Then there was much wine drinking and dancing.

Am still not taking bp meds and bp is slowly creeping up... Am thinking GP may need to rethink the plan...

There's obviously something in the water - I've attempted to strip the bedlinen about 8 times today, every time I do M screams blue murder. Had to put her in her basket for two minutes tops, while I checked the pram fits in the curtasy car, and signed the ppw for it and she turned purple .

Sorry to hear you are having similar days, dinky and pink - and thanks for that about your dd's potty training! I was trying to ignore that element from your previous posts!

Were you able to find out about an alternative GP's surgery, lbb? Oh, and the symptoms for swine flu are - the symptoms for flu!

MS Could you not have walked around naked?
Glad you had a nice time.
I don't think I'd bf in a toilet, I wouldn't eat my lunch in the toilet, so wouldn't expect a baby too. And I don't ff in the toilet. Well, have had to on the odd occasion I've eaten something funny (TMI!!!!)

No, didn't look for another surgery, it's on the list though, I will try to get it done tomorrow morning, tbh, it just makes every trip to the docs quite negative experience when there are a few members maning the reception that are just plain rude. I'm not rude, so I don't see the need. I think when you are 'greeted' in a rude, dismissive, unhelpful manner, it really does take away any confidence you have in the whole practice iyswim.

Dp just walked through the door sniffing like mad saying he has swine flu [eye rolling emoticon]. Don't think he has been in contact with anyone infected though, and I should think I have more chance of being hit by a bus than he does of dying from swine flu. Men.

Hi all

Thought I?d introduce myself as I was lurking on the antenatal thread and have just fount your postnatal thread.

I gave birth to ds2 in Feb, he was quite a chunk at 9lb 4oz and utterly gorgeous. Our 4 year old ds is totally besotted with his little brother.

I do have a few concerns however ds1 constantly needs attention as a result i feel ds2 is being a little neglected. Don?t get me wrong ds2 is a perfectly happy and content baby, i just worry that he is not getting enough stimulation and about any effects this might have. Any ideas on how to juggle the 2 will be greatly appreciated.

I will now try catch up on your recent posts.

Very kind man, MS good to see chvalry is not dead. Grr at the receptionist - feed FrankStretch in the loo? Does she not know who he is?

Hi limelion! Think your experience echoes lots of those on board - I'm sure they can give you some pearls of wisdom.

limelion Hello and welcome.
I wouldn't worry too much about long term effects on ds2 as a result of not being the complete centre of the universe.
My ds1 is 21 months, and is quite demanding. Ds2 (13 weeks tomorrow) has been very colicky and demanding in his own way, but when one of my ds's are happy, the other one generally isn't so that's the one that I focus on iyswim. IMO, as long as ds2 is warm, clothed, clean and loved, that's all that really matters at this stage.
Me and my dp were talking about this the other day. My dad is one of 10 children and dp's nan was 1 of 10, so we were talking about what happened then. If I struggle to find what I think is sufficient time for 2, how did/do people manage with 10???? Our conclusion was that the parents just did what they could and the best they could, therefore if 3 or 4 were crying at the same time, you couldn't possibly sort them all out iyswim. The point I'm trying to make, is that in some cultures and generations, there were more children, and if there were serious long term effects of leaving a baby to cry for a bit, there'd be a hell of a lot of f*ed up people out there. (I know there are, but you know what I mean)

lardy, the gaps between jabs over here are totally differant, we have them at 2,4 and 6 months. when i had aaron there for his 2 month ones i was told to bring him back 2 months or more later, no sooner!

PSL... dd took 2 years to potty train and still wets herself at least once a week or more girls are not easier... tis a lie!

dinky ... sorry you and dh are having rough patch, i hope things work out soon.

the rest of your day sounds like mine, aaron is a grump who won't sleep and is crying all day... i know he's sick but it's exhausting me. dd is etting clingier every day, it took 20 mins to leave her at playschool this morning as she was wrapped around me whinging and i'm coming down with some sort of bug again and could really do with not having to deal with any of this.

limelion I've just read my previous post back and it doesn't really make sense does it? But if you've been lurking, you'll know that I'm the one that talks complete crap most of the time

I've been trying to get ds1 to play with us, but he is such a brute, I fear for ds2's safety!!
I'd say, you've just got to try to get time with ds1 when the baby is asleep or something, and make sure you do lots of things that ds1 enjoys. Days out and things can be completely focused around his needs at this stage as ds2 won't know any difference at all.
I've been telling my ds1 what a fantastic big brother he is and how much the baby loves him and all that kind of stuff. I also encourage ds1 to help me around the house as much as poss too, so he is always doing something. Today, he passed me all the clean washing out of the machine for me to hang up, he pulled the hoover along behind me and turned it on and off, he helped me put the shopping away, well the things he could reach anyway.

Woah - deja vous, Pink!

PT I thought I was going mad then! Relieved to see you double posted and I am not a mind reader or see into the future

PSL

grr, internet connection being even more bonkers than usual today... may just give up altogether and go read my book!

am trying to decide what open university degree to aim for and it's taking 1/2 hour to get to a new page each time

hello limelion

have 3 here competing for attention.... tis mad but none of them seem emotionally stunted yet.... opposite problem if anything i just deal with whoever needs me most at that moment, an important part of growing up is learning that sometimes other peoples needs are more important to yours, it doesn't mean mommy loves you any less, just that she loves both/all kids equally which is a good thing. takes a fair few strops and tantrums but i'm reliably informed it sinks in for the majority sometime between 10 and 30

PSL glad you noticed that, thought I was going mad. PT please control your posts, you're messing with my already fragile sanity.

limelion I think most of us feel we're neglecting both (or more) of our children so you're in good company though speaking as an only child who had lots of attention paid to her I think a little benign neglect is probably a good thing.

Dinky sorry things are so crap in your world but I'm sure you'll all be feeling better and happier soon.

Dinky sorry to hear you've had a bad day and that your dh is behaving like your 3rd child. try and have another chat and see if you can sort it out soon so it doesn't fester too long. sounds like that's what you're trying but he maybe needs to sulk a bit longer.

limelion it is hard and all part of the guilt thing but i actually think the younger siblings learning to entertain themselves, whilst watching you entertain your eldest is probably good for them. dd was so used to so much devoted attention from dp and i that it has come as a shock to her that there is someone else taking up our time. she's getting used to it now seems to be settling in to her new way of life as part of a bigger family. when she's at nursery i pay ivor loads of attention. can you work in any just you and ds2 time?

Dp has asked me to look up info and symptoms for swine flu. He is such a drama queen!
He does have the symptoms of a cold/flu which he said have just come on today, but I can't see how he'd have come across anyone who is infected tbh.

swine flu is just flu.... it's just a strain that can infect humans and pigs, but it's just flu, nothing more sinister

dinky sorry you've had a bad day, I find it is just miserable when the children are ill, and can really empathise. I'm finding at the moment sloping off for a long bath in the evenings is great for winding down, mainly because I can legitimately LOCK MYSELF IN A ROOM AWAY FROM EVERYONE ELSE!!

lion I have three littlies, and as others have say I just concentrate on the miserable one; if two (or all three) are crying I deal with the elder ones before the baby, as he is generally fed, clean and warmly dressed, and therefore officially crying about nothing - which my older girls know is norty. I do have 3 days in the week when DD1 is at school and DD2 at the childminder: then I play with DS loads to try and make up.

just a quick hello, hubby has babs on his knee. They are spending quality time together(watching football!)

I just can't get the hang of one handed typing, it annoys me! Well just found the new thread, may go and have a nosy at the old one too.

Isobella is just amazing, i love her soooooo much. I have found my purpose in life is being a mum. love it so much. FINALLY got the hang of BF it stopped hurting at 8 weeks, was tough but very very glad its ok now.

Im still having problems with the birth, I know it wasn't that bad, could have been so much worse and Isobella is absolutely fine but i just keep reliving things and cry every day about it. Sorting out with HV though about some therapy soon.

Big thanks to all you mumsnet lovelies for all your wonderful advise and support as always, I will pop on from time to time and try more posts as things settle down. I lurk on face book a bit and nice to see pictures popping up. BIG HUGS xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

littlesez Great to see you again. Glad things are going well.
Well done for speaking to hv about the birth and getting therapy for it. Childbirth is quite traumatic when everythig runs smoothly, so to be upset about things that didn't go to plan is fine and no doubt normal. It does get easier though, and hopefully the talking it through will help too.
PT I looked on the nhs website and tbh, I'm not that concerned about dp. He has a cold because he's tired and run down because he works 50+ hours a week and I made him get up and feed Luke through the night. I'm sure he'll be over it after a good night's sleep.

Dp has the footie on here too, not that it's his team playing, so looks like I'm here for a while until I get bored and climb into bed with my book, which is fab btw

What is the book LBB?

It's Gone Tomorrow by Lee Child. He releases one book a year, he has done 13 so far and they are all about a man called Jack reacher who is now a drifter, no fixed abode, only owns what's in his pockets and just drifts about really, but always stumbles on some sort of conspiracy!
He used to be a Military Police Major, so he has the army combat training down, a sharp mind and is always one step ahead! I think I'm a little in love with Jack Reacher
Pre-ds's, I could finish a whole book in 2/3 days, def one of those ones you can't put down. The only negative thing is that the quicker you read it, the sooner it's over and the longer I have to wait for the next one .
There was talk about making a film and having Russell Crowe play Jack Reacher. But in my head, he looks more like Hercules from the series that used to be on channel 5?

littlesez great that you've stuck with with the breast feeding despite pain for that long! I suffered for the first few weeks, but think that after a month it was much easier, and has been completely painfree for quite some time now.

It's good that you're not suffering in silence re the birth trauma, I've had some counselling in the past and think it can work wonders.