Fab Feb 2009: baby coos, stinky poos - three months on...

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so here we go again

Lardy- you'll be fine, I'd leave it if I was you. Better to have too much!

The Family HouseofMirth is going to be practically living at Legoland this summer. Just used all MIL's Tesco Clubcard points to get three annual passes for her, me & DH and bought DS1 an annual pass from Lastminute.com for £10. Brilliant! Suspect I am more excited than DS1...

Of course that's always assuming we don't all get blown away first. The wind is ferocious here today. Still, at least I've got all the nappies dry.

wow, a useful/general MIL! So is the summer meet up going to be at legoland then
Sounds like a fabulous bargain THOM.
I'm debating whether to buy an annual pass this year. Last year bought for Chessington but had a few issues with it (mainly that when I bought it they didn't say, or advertise clearly that in August you could only enter after around 3pm which is crap) Due to this, ended up using it only twice each. Its valid til around 25th June so suspect we will go every day from when I return on 11th until it expires.
Was thinking about one of the Merlin ones which I think is valid for loads of parks including Thorpe and Legoland. Anyone know more about them or any special offers?

DH is out tonight with some friends from work, both saudis and brits which is unusual. I don't mind (too much!) but had a stressful pm with DD. Am getting tired of going to the toilet with her every 5 mins just for her to go once every 2 hours!
I am pleased with her progess though and was really pleased that she actually did a poo in the toilet earlier and didn't even tell us at first, we just found it lurking there. Sadly, about 2 hours later she did a little poo in her knickers

right, off to bed

Just typed out a message, and it disappeared. So annoying!
lardy hope you're feeling a bit better today.

Ds1 has a temp. 39.2 degrees. I know he's bad because he went to bed 2 hours early. I hate putting him to bed when he's poorly, I want to keep him with me all the time when he not well.

of theme parks

of windy day dry enough to dry nappies... it's pouring down here

of baby who'll take ebm in a bottle

spotty.... trust me, you're not alone by a long shot. there was more than one occasion where if i hadn't walked off and left dd to scream i think i'd actually have hurt her and both she and ds1 got screamed at more than once..... sad to say i'm actually more surprised aaron hasn't had me at that point yet!

dd and ds1 are doing my head in... they've become such complete and utter little shits brats and i honestly can't cope much longer. i spend all day screaming as the simply refuse to do the simplest thing i ask, attack each other, scream and whinge and generally behave like little horrors. ds1 hit dd's teacher yesterday! and that wasn't even the low point of the day.

they ignore reward schemes, ignore threats, can't even be blackmailed! i could deal with the naughtiness if it wasn't for the constant shreeking and whinging and crying... i've had a thumping headache for 3 days straight now.

they were always stubborn but the last week has been hell.... i need help

PT Sending lots of hugs your way. I really don't know what to suggest. I hope it gets a bit better soon, sounds like it can't get much worse though, which maybe you could look at as a small comfort?
Is there anyone that could have the dc's for even as little as an hour? It does make all the difference doesn't it?
Sometimes even just a nice hot bath does the trick.

wanted to say hello (and I will now go back and read wot you rowdy rabble have been up to), and hows it going folks?

Are we loving it, hating it, getting sleep, established routines, going back to work?

Have to say I am absolutely loving it and so glad as I was worried I would go down the ole PND route again with this one, but either he's a damn easy baby or I am finding things 100 times easier with just one (or a combo of both) - but by god I love him to pieces. This has lead to feelings of guilt as regards the other two as I just did not bond with them in the same way, but also feelings of pride that I did as well as I did with the other two. I am going back to work in just over 3 weeks and am sooooo down about it, am hoping beyond hope that my DH gets some amazing payrise and I can go part time, but it's doubtful. he just seems too small to send to nursery and I have feelings of immense jealousy that someone else will be sharing his awesome smiles and hearing his heart melting giggles

I will be able to join in a whole lot more once I am back at work, but while at home I spend all my 'free' time cooing at Chas and going out for walks with him (in the vain attempt to lose the extra 2 stone that seems to have superglued itself to me somehow).

Has anyone else found it hard to start shifting the baby weight? Has anyone even thought about weaning yet? I only ask as my post natal group in my village were discussing it last week and one mum has started and I feel it's WAAAAAY too early, putting off all that lark for as long as poss, want him to be a baby forever!

Anyway, I have embarrased myself enough with the 'isn't it wonderful speach', so will get back to catching up with all you guys......

How old is he now Meeely? It seems much to soon to be weaning to me, though I think I started weaning DD1 at 16 weeks - am not planning to go that route again this time though. Sorry you have to go back to work when you don't feel ready - but at least your maternity leave has been a really positive one .

I can totally relate to the retaining baby weight thing, I've got a stone to lose PLUS a hideous kind of ridge of wobbly belly above my CS scar - I look so disgusting naked I'm probably never going to have sex with the lights on again. Or maybe just never have sex again!

PT I often feel like you, my three are the same ages as yours, agree with LBB that it makes a world of difference if you have a break from them sometimes. DD1 is in reception, and DD2 is at the childminder for around 15 hours a week, and that is keeping me sane at the moment. If DD2 was around 24/7 I would go loopy, much as I love her to bits. Have you got family nearby who could take them off you for a few hours sometimes? Or take turns with DP? (we don't do this, but I would like to.)

LBB hope DS gets better soon.

(I'm supposed to be writing a psychology essay, but can't stop mumsnetting)

DS3 is now 12 weeks and yes I am so not thinking about weaning yet - these first 12 weeks have flown by, no way I want to rush into anything else that suggests he might be getting older!

I think the biggest thing about going back to work is no more me and DS3 time - currently I have 3 days a week just me and him, when i go back it will either be me being an adult at work or me being a mum to three at home - boooooo!

Ah, same age as my DS, who was 12 weeks on Friday. I know what you mean about the you-and-DS time. Could you maybe carve out some time with him on his own at weekends? I'm trying to make sure my three each get some individual time, but my girls are definitely getting a bit neglected - and my eldest, in particular, gets no mummy time on her own at all at the moment.

coco, born same day then! DS3 was 12 weeks on friday too! My other two are twins, so have never had one on one with me, but yes, we will share the kiddy load at weekends, I have enrolled at waterbabies for a saturday morning, so thats half an hour of just me and him and DH can do daddy and twin time.....

How funny that they're the same day!
I'd love to go swimming with DS, must investigate.

dd loses the plot if i try and leave her with anyone she didn't cope well at all with me being gone for the week aaron was in scbu and gets completely hysterical when i leave her now... even if i try and pop to the shops and leave her with dp. ds1 is fine with being left but there's no one i can leave him with and not dd as my parents are too far away to drop him at while she's at playschool.

he was supposed to be starting playschool 2 days a week but potty training has gone from bad to worse

dp is home atm and does take them out if he has to go anywhere but that's usually only into town and by the time i'm done rushing through the jobs i can't do with them all underfoot they're back.

it won't be so bad this week as i got my new license (old one had expired without me realising and i was off the road for a couple of weeks) but this last week was hell and the first day i had my license back was yesterday and dp was gone with my car all day so was stuck with his 2 door, non power steering cramped little pile of shitmobile.

dd isn't being too bad tbh but she's no angel and ds1 is pushing every button i have and then some... i've actually been afraid i was about to hurt him a few times this week he's so bad and no matter how cross i get or what punishment i use all he does is laugh in my face

anywho.... sorry for the self pitying rant... i just need to offload somewhere i guess

meerly, glad to see you back. i'm so sorry you're going to have to head back to work so soon, is there any option for you to work from home some days? i'm delighted to hear you're enjoying chas so much... must be a third child thing as i'm feeling the same about aaron.

when i had ds1 some of my post natal group on an irish site were weaning at 10 weeks i ranted for a while, got shot down so left the sight as i couldn't stand reading about it. i'm waiting til 6 months unless like ds1 he snatches food for himself before then

baby weight firmly lodged here too... atually i think i'm gaining wait >>>

www.waterbabies.co.uk

PT - Working from home would be great, but i tried that 4 years back when I had boys and it was a flat no. Can see their point, I wouldn't get a whole load of work done from home when chas is grinning at me, and then when he's older on the move and needs supervising all the time. Will just have to suck it and see, nursery has done the twins no harm and it will do Chas no harm but by god I will miss him!

{{{hugs}}} though.... i'll keep my fingers crossed you win the lotto and get to stay home cooing at chas

Meerly3 Glad it's all going well there. Luke will be 6 months on ds1's 2nd birthday in August, so the plan is to wean him then on birthday cake joke. Not really thought about it tbh. The plan is to wait til 26 weeks, but we'll see how it goes. I weaned ds1 a few weeks early because ##i felt he needed it, so we'll just see.
I'm not overly concerned about losing weight. It seems to be coming off at a steady rate. I'm not dieting or anything, but have started pushy mum's which was fun, but I'm doing it more for social reasons than getting back into shape. I got into another pair of pre-preg trousers today. Sitting down's hard, but I'll get there.
coco thanks. ds1 woke crying at about 8:30, went in to him and he was covered in sick so got him up and he's just gone back to bed now. He's still abit hot so has had some more medicine and is just in his nappy.
PT I know certain jobs around the house can only be left for so long, and I get quite annoyed when people tell me to sleep when the baby does and all of that and that the housework can wait, when in truth, how long can you actually go without cleaning the toilet? Or the kitchen counters etc? but you do have to look after yourself, so can you get dp to take dc's out, maybe give yourself 15mins to dash around and then get the hell into bed. I have been quite slack in my housework lately, I don't remember the last time I hoovered the bedroom but I find, I'm happy if I get the high-risk things done at least every other day, like the bathroom and the kitchen.

I think it's going to be one of those nights.............

housework in general barely gets done round here tbh i barely get a chance to do the laundry and cook which are the essential jobs, anything else is a bonus and rarely gets done.

i think that's part of it in a way, i'm not manically houseproud but i do get depressed living in a feckin tip constantly. the playroom is unusable, the upstairs is a bombsite, downstairs gets tidied every evening but badly needs a proper scrub..... and for hours every day i'm sat on my bum unable to do any of it because aaron is feeding, when he's not i'm madly dashing around trying to deal with the other 2 and by the time they're sorted he needs me again and i've not even put a load of washing on!

Morning.
PT It's hard enough with 2, I'd hate to imagine what 3 is like on a bad day!!

Had about 3 hours sleep. Jacob was up most of the night. His temp isn't too bad at the mo, but he looks very sorry for himself
I was supossed to go and help the workers at the sure start centre sort out the donations for the car boot their doing, but gonna have to call and cancel that I think. Might see how ds1 is looking in a few hours.

Hello all, my dd is just over 3 months old, also have ds 2.5 years. I was on ´´due March´´ thread, but she came early, like ds. Just found this thread, and thought, great!

This morning dd has little flat pink spots on her face - a bigger one by her mouth, then smaller ones next to that, and another small one by her eye. Any ideas? Slightly nervous as having lots of people - including about 15 kids - over later for 40th birthday bbq and don´t want her to be ill, or infect other kids. They aren´t raised like those pimples they get from the fat in milk.

Also, anyone else doing mixed feeding? I´ve been giving a bottle at night for last 2 weeks, cos she is very slow weight gainer (only 2.7k at birth too), and stopped putting on weight altogether at one point. I´d be interested to hear others´ experiences of this, and of course any tips, which are the best thing about mumsnet!

Hi fifi My ds2 had a red pin-prick like rash appear across his whole face the other week. I took him to A&E and they said it was dry skin and to apply E-45 2/3 times a day, which I did and it cleared.
Have you checked her temp? Normally a good indicator to seriousness of issues.
What time's the bbq? Could you pop along to A&E or get OOH doc round, just to put your mind at rest for party? That's what I'd do, because I know I wouldn't relax. Rashes get seen really quick so you wouldn't be waiting long.
I'm ff so can't help with that. Sorry

they´re not pinpricks, but bigger than that. no home visits here, annoyingly (i live in Spain), and A&E ususally takes 4 hours - people due in 5!! no, haven´t checked temp, will do. thanks.

PT I am full of admiration for the fact you are not completely loopy with three small children as many days I feel like I'm struggling with two. I hesitate to suggest this to you of all people but if you do want to get stuff done (and I think there's something to be said for that enforced sitting down time you have when you're feeding) can you not feed Aaron in a sling?

LBB hope DS1's feeling much better today.

We've got friends coming for lunch today and Probably all going to go horribly wrong as we went to our neighbours' bbq last night and DS1 didn't get to bed until gone 10pm but was still up at 7am... Must go and put the enormous chicken in the oven now!

Ds1's temp is fine, but e's sitting here shivering. What should I do? Wrap him in his blankets? Take him hospital? He doesn't have any other symptoms of anything, but his whole body is shaking