December 2007 - Oh what fun, they are almost ONE!

[Caz10]

OK here we are ladies!

Any news cazzy? Hope you are okay!

winters - sorry to hear dd not been well, hows she been this weekend? on ttc for a summer baby, having had a winter and summer baby I was planning for another winter baby but it happened much quicker than we thought it would, actually fate stepped in as had we know how thw economy/job situation was going to turn out we wouldn't be having another... maybe just yet maybe never so feeling very lucky

cazzy - how are you doing? how old are your other dc's?

skid - good luck for tuesday if I don't manage to make it back on here

arcadie - what did she call dd? just checking for inspiration

clara - I'm loving being pregnant at the moment, you're right that feeling of seeing the blue line and telling people is amazing, pregnancy with ds2 was horrible, probably due to heavy bleeding, this one has been lovely, I'd prob consider more if I could pre order them like this, I think I've just blanked out birth and newborn bit apart from the lovely bits it'll come back to bite me when I have 3 under 3!

Insy Lucie

Cazzy Still keeping prayerful fingers crossed.

oh gosh cazzy - what a dilemma. I agree that it's better to tell DH before the test - at least he has a bit of time to adjust if it is positive. Just coming out with 'I'm pregnant' will be such a shock.

I hope whatever happens you can both find a way to be happy. Let us know what happens xx

Woah there ladies, what a lot of news.

Arcadie, I'll squeak with you if you like. I get excited about birth stories even if I don't know the people. [sad clucky hen emoticon].

Cazzy - any news? Hope you get the right result. I can't tell you how many pg scares I've had over the years so I think I know how you feel. I never tell DH when I take a test. I always just hint at not having had a period for a while. I try to half prepare him without freaking him out. Anyway, good luck.

DS has been a nightmare lately. I think he's having a major teething trauma. His bum is red raw, and he keeps putting his finger in his ear. I think it is teeth rather than an ear infection. He never usually moans, but for 4 days it has been constant. Poor thing. Hopefully by the end of this he'll have a full set of gnashers because he's never been bothered like this before. Bless his heart, he even points to the Calpol.

Wow the thread sped up somewhat over the weekend

Macdoodle glad you have been lurking if not posting, and congrats on the NM. I did see that on facebook actually but didn't mention it as wasn't sure if you wanted RL and MN to merge!

Hi Meme hope the studying is going well, must be hard work with a little one as well.

Loucee poor dd, hope she feels better soon. Am also thinking of stoppping bf, just because ds wants it ALL THE TIME and it is annoying me, am scared it will really upset him but then again will it be harder the longer I leave it????? Aaaargh! Any tips?

Arcadie and at you getting rid of baby stuff. I can't bring myself to do it, I think I am still hoping I'll be able to persuade dh to have another baby, even though it is very very unlikely he will change his mind.

Cazzy have you tested yet? I know what you mean about angry dh, have had to deal with that with both pregnancies (clearly I am very good at contraception )

BT am still having problems envisionaging sleeping mat...can't imagine trying to get ds to sleep on a mat-he has to be locked down into buggy for naps and trapped in cot for night, otherwise he'd just be running around!

Wizz hope ds gets those teeth through soon, have you tried metanium for the nappy rash?

Skid good luck for viva My sister said she didn't actually understand a lot of what she was talking about for hers but she still qualified!

Who have I missed? Um...Clara? Hello!

Obviously I mean envisioning

My sister also had a baby girl yesterday afternoon, ohh these broody feelings are getting harder to ignore

Clairey - DD weaned off boob at 18mths without any problems and DS also has at 14mths so I think it depends on the child. With DS as long as he has a drink to had as an alternative he is happy. He's been sleeping so well since that I really think it was the reason he was waking up.

Insy - I would just like to avoid a winter baby because up here in Scotland the winters are freezing and lots of snow and if I end up with another section it would be a nightmare getting DD to her nursery school and getting out and about and also with so many colds and the higher risk of that RSV infection (DS was in SCUBA for 2wks when born because of infection and it was an awful experience I would like to try and avoid if possible). However I know a Spring/summer baby doesn't guarantee these things but it would be nice to spread out the birthdays a bit!

Hello everyone else!

sorry its loucee/winters btw

Baby-o-rama.... my friend's DH has just rang to say that he is now a dad, friend had a baby boy! Just over 5 weeks early, he is 4lb 2oz! They are doing well though
Makes ds sound gargantuan!

Hello...no news...no AF no test, however I did have a few glasses of wine...I think I am going to test and then tell dh...no point having a row when there is no need....

Cecilimay (not sure I can keep up with your name changes ) I was thinking about the whole summer vs winter baby last night when talking to a friend and I think infections aside (although sounds like a horrible time for you all and ds) I think you are right about a summer baby if only for the fact it?ll be easier to get out and about with the other two, I have a plan to just get the boys out in the garden every day which will hopefully take the pressure off getting everyone in the car to make it to playgroup (we live in a lovely village has school and lovely neighbours but not much else so everything involves a car ride to get to)

Cazzy ? good luck with test or waiting, hope you get the result you want x x

Gosh you all seem to know people who are popping babies at the moment ? any great names?
Acadie ? Lucie is a very cute name but already have a Lucy in the family and unfortunately she?s my aunts dog so we couldn?t use it

No haven't a name for friend's ds!

I guess at 5 wks early most people haven't made a final decision! must have been a bit of a shock

Hi all, hope you're ok. Things have gone a little pear shaped for me, just all the stress and anxiety of the last few months and still not knowing whether we'll be going again or staying put has just caught me up. Now not sure if I want to go again as scared that I won't be able to cope without friends and family. On the other hand feel quite lonely here as although I have lots of friends, I don't have a close group that I meet up with regularly. Went to soft play on my own this morning and was the only sad person there with just my kids . I am finding looking after a three-year-old and a one-year-old very, very hard work, have no energy and constantly losing my temper with my dd1.

I'm considering getting some counselling - anyone got any experience? I have a gp's appointment next week so will see what she thinks. I want to avoid the ad's route if possible simply because if we do finally go overseas again, they might not pass me medically fit if I am on ad's. On the other hand, I have nothing against them if it comes to it and it's the best thing.

Sorry stupid post full of woe. And I'm on a fricking diet so can't even comfort myself with bars of chocolate and big think white bread sandwiches with peanut butter (slobber)....

oh yes Insy! We saw them weekend before last and brought them some baby stuff that we are loaning them - Moses basket & bedding, bouncy chair, other bits. Bloody good job too! Funnily enough, I had a text from her on saturday, she mentioned she thought she been having contractions (we assumed B-H!) and she had a bit of a bleed. Now the bleed rang alarm bells with me, she had a couple of m/c before she was pg and it has taken 2 years to conceive her ds. So I texted her back asking her if she was due to see mw, she had seen her a couple of days beforehand. Rang MW but MW said everything fine! next thing I know my friend's DH rings up to announce he has a son he has posted on a private forum we use that they are keeping them both in until he has gained a bit of weight. Which is good as it looks as though the soonest I'd be able to visit sans DS is in a couple of weeks.

Hi clara - sorry to hear you're feeling down, in terms of counselling, talking it through is always a good idea especially if you feel deprived of some close adult/mum friends who you feel comfortable talking too. My two are a similar age to yours and I can confirm they are hard work, I have to confess I enjoy work as a break from them, and I lose my temper with ds1 regularly - just don't want you to feel guilty about that, I often have moments when I look at ds and think I love you to bits but sometimes I just don't like you you're doing a great job as a mum, especially getting out and taking them places even when you probably don't feel like you have the energy and it makes you sad to do it on your own.

Do you go to the same playgroups regularly? since I've been back at work I've started to go to the same group every friday and am meeting the same people week on week so even though am not close to them its nice to have friends who know what you're up too and make regular contact

I completely understand your hesitance at getting AD's as I was refused mortgage assurance because of my PND and taking Ad's but don't get ahead of yourself they might not be the best thing for you, counselling might be the way forward, big hugs and what diet are you on? can you cconvince yourself its weigh watchers and offset the peanut butter sarnie later in the week??

Oh crossposted Claraq - sorry to hear you are going through a bad spell, I think you have been coping evry well considering the amount of stress you have been under over the last few months. I'm seeing my gp to get a referral for counselling but the appt is not until next week. I did have counselling a number of years ago but I do remember it took a long time (a couple of months) to get an appt! It might be worth speaking to your HV they might know of a drop in service. Also ring Parentline - I had another breakdown a week or so ago and Rhubarb talked me into calling them - spoke to this lovely lady for 45minutes. She was very kind and understanding.

Clara Everything Insy just said about similar age, regularly cross and occasionally wanting to take a day off of mumming. And I'm on a diet but just ate a huge slab of Peanut Butter on white bread. I didn't realise it wasn't healthy. Nuts, right? They're good for you, right!?

hiya folks, ddis asleep i feel so lucky to have her shes so much fun!!! is any1 else really broody at the min i desperatly want another 1 or 2 but i cant cuz of uni, sort of stealing some1 elses i dont no how to stop feeling like this!!!

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Meme - know how you feel... I do get broody on and off. DH and I are thinking about ttcing in the summer.

Just try to remember the grimness of the early days when you got zero sleep

The babies are at such a great age, ds too is so much fun! Especially now he is walking - he wants to explore everything!

Clara, sorry to hear you're feeling down. Your feelings sound understandable and it sounds like you're doing the right thing to sort yourself out. I hope it works for you. Can't offer any help, BT is the best qualified for that.

BT, are you feeling better now? Lovely news about your friend.

Arcadie - stop making me want a peanut butter sarnie. They're a bit fattening but otherwise not bad for you unless you have an allergy.

News from here. There's still summat up with DS. He is usually the most smiley and good natured little thing. Lately he's a nightmare. Tantrums at everything, if you turn the page of a book and he wants to do it, if you pick up a toy, if you don't let him feed himself. DH is bearing the brunt of it of course being at home all day but it is a nightmare. I assumed it was teeth. He's rubbing his ears and nose sometimes. Perhaps I need to take him to the docs. Am always concerned he's got an ear infection but DH doesn't think so. He otherwise seems healthy. It's like wading through treacle getting DH to take him to the doc though and I don't want to take time off work to do it. Anyone else had similar?

Thanks all for your messages, it really DOES help to know you are not alone (insy thanks in particular for telling me you frequently shout at your ds - I do feel guilty about it but if everyone's doing it it can't be too awful ).

I feel a little better - I think just making the appointment with the gp has helped, sometimes you just need to admit you might need a little bit of help to make things easier. I hope I can find a counsellor if that's the route I decide to go down, I don't mind going private if necessary.

bt thanks for the info - I'll keep the parentline details handy as it might come in handy. Unfortunately it's hard to find time to make phone calls during the day though but I assume they operate in the evenings as well? I haven't see my HV for ages and wasn't sure if they still dealt with us once our babies are this age? That's why I was going straight to my gp. But it might be an opportunity to talk a few things through as dd2 isn't the best eater in the world and that's stressing me too!

wizz - are you sure he's not just turning into a toddler before your eyes? That does sound like very normal toddler behaviour - and something like teething probably would make it worse. If it is, don't worry, it'll get easier....in a year or two! Seriously though, dealing with tantrums is awful, really distressing. I try and ignore them as much as possible but it's hard at this age as they have no control over their feelings and are probably as upset by their tantrums as you are.

AF has arrived...phew..although am a little

Cazzy yaaaaaay! And