December 2007 - Oh what fun, they are almost ONE!

[Caz10]

OK here we are ladies!

Hi all

Welcome back meme
Afraid I have been lurking, things have been very tough here with STBXH and I think will get worse before they get better But am moving forward finally and now have a wonderful NM
Lily is fab - is finally starting to walk and can stagger across a room now
She has 12 teeth and eats everything and anything, and now weighs over 2 stone and wears size 18-24 month clothes!!
She talks incessantly and has about 10 recognizable words ....
She is a far far better sleeper than DD1 ever was and relaibly sleeps 12 hours every night I stopped BF just after her first birthday and this did seem to coincide with a reliable and constant sleep pattern!
Hello and very best wishes to you all I have often taken comfort from you all and our lovely babies

Hi everyone

Finally have 5 mins to quickly say hello.

Have had a quick read up the last few posts and everyone sounds like they're doing really well.

23wks Insy - thats amazing how quickly time passes. I am so broody but we are definitely waiting until July to start TTC no3 as I would love a Spring/summer delivery after two winter ones.

We are doing well, I started back at work recently just part time and its going well, DS stopped bfing last week at pretty much 14mths which feels strange now being able to take any medicine I like etc. He's on cows milk but I vary what I give him to drink as he doesn't like eating fruit and veg so I make a lot of homemade smoothies to get it in him that way.
I managed to get fitter and hooray am just 7lbs heavier than before I had any kids which is great as I was 2st overweight 14mths ago.
DS is running about and gabbles away to DD, I came into the kitchen today to see what the noise was and it was DD (3) sitting in her dolls pushchair being pushed around by DS ! they play so nicely but do have the odd fall out.

I wish I had more time to post and read but just not enough hours in the day.

Caz/Anna sorry for being so slack with emails/texts - let me know if you fancy a meet up soon

Skid I made it to 42 weeks pregnant with both of my DCs. Was induced for BOTH of my DCs (Can you tell I'm STILL ?)

Induction, in my experience, was absolutely no problem at all. I had the works 1st time -gel, drip, breaking waters, strapped to a bed and it was a much calmer and more serene birth experience than the labour I had second time which was in the pool with no monitors or messing about.

So - to cut a long story short ( I still love rememebering labour and will bore for an eternity on the subject) your friend will probably have more discomfort than a "normal" labour but it'll probably be shorter. Will send out good vibes and maybe even pray....

thank you arcadie I'm sure she will be fine but I can't help worrying - still no sign last night so I reckon it will be today. Is the increased discomfort simply due to the contractions coming faster and stronger? I mean there isn't anything intrinsically more painful about an induced delivery IYKWIM? Please feel free to go into more detail - I love hearing birth stories (and they invariably make me cry)

Hi macdoo and loucee (still can't get used to your new name!) - good to hear from you after such a long time

macdoo - sorry to hear about XH being a nightmare. Does he still see your DD1? Is that what's causing problems? But FANTASTIC you have met someone new!!! Tell us more! And at DD2 in 18-24 month clothes and weighing 2 stone! That is probably the size of my DD who is nearly 3.5! Just as well she is walking or you would do your back in carrying her round all the time!

loucee - that is lovely your DCs play together so well. How did you stop BF? Did you just reduce feeds very gradually? Did you have any occasions when he wanted a feed and you had to say no? How did you deal with that? Do you miss it now? (am thinking about stoppping myself in case you hadn't realise from my interrogation)

Hi Skid. I was induced too. They tell you it might be worse than normal labour because the contractions get to a higher level sooner so you don't get time to get used to them. I didn't find them a problem at all, was happy with just my tens. Took aaages though, hence the epidural and cs. Oh well. I'm sure your friend is fine, and you've just got to do what you've got to do when in labour.

Macdoodle - congrats on the NM! Hope that one goes well. Sorry STBExDH is causing probs. Have seen your posts about him on other threads, glad you're sorting it all out.

No words yet from DS. Lots of babbling but nothing recognisable yet. Perhaps he's a boy and prefers actions to intellect. Who knows. He does love his books though, and points to all the pictures with enthusiasm.

Wintersapproaching - hiya. Can't get used to your name either (it is Loucee is it?).

Meme - well done on the studying. I don't know how you find the time. I couldn't fit in anything harder than my RHS course.

Had my RHS horticulture final exam on Wednesday. Am really going to miss the classes. Think I did ok on the day, but won't get results until May. Got accidentally smashed in the pub afterwards. Was only going to have a drink but was so high on post exam adrenaline that I had one too many and a bad hangover the next day. DH was v. good about it and took over doing the nappies until I was well enough not to be sick over DS. The shame of it all!

Forgot to say Winters - I want to start ttc too, but like you I want a summer baby this time. I feel ready to start now but don't want two birthdays at the same time of year. Am impatient to get going with it though.

omg omg omg my name! i totally forgot to change it when winter wasnt approaching any more! (I only changed it because someone in RL found me on here and I didnt like the way they kept bringing up in RL wahat I had written on here).

Skid - like Milo, my DS was only feeding during the night and waking at 2,3,5 ish and only a feed would settle him (we stopped his dummy at 11mths). Occasionally in the day he would get into the nursing position but if I offered his beaker instead he then took that so not upset at all. Its only been a week since we stopped but he's definitely sleeping better (mostly 7pm-5am then a beaker of water or milk then back down til 7/7.30). He has asked a couple of times in the last wk for a feed during the day but at night he hasn't been even asking at 5am. When he's asked I've given him lovely big cuddles and snuggled him right in and given him his favourite beaker which has a straw and he hasn't been upset at all. I fed DD til she was 18mths but she was upset when I tried to reduce feeds and so I feel that DS has instigated this by not feeding in the day for some time. Do I miss it? Hmm no I dont, it was quite sore when he was just grazing for comfort during the night and I think now I've lost a lot of weight and am really back into my sport and exercise I am enjoying the independence of not having to be with him at bedtime etc (because no drinks are given upstairs any more, his last drink is just after dinner about 6pm).

My sister is also over due at the moment with her 2nd DC, she had a cs last time as baby was firming stuck in breech position but this one is head down but she's 5 days over and they are keen to do a cs tomorrow if things havent gone naturally by then, thing is first consultant said they would induce her but the next apt she had said they wouldnt, just naturally or a cs (my hospital told me that as well - no induction after previous cs). What's everyone's experience here?

Does anyone watch Come Dine with Me? I love it! I am addicted and keep making the recipes which I find fab for inspiration.

Poor DD (just turned 3) woke up this morning couldnt move her neck as too sore, didnt want to open her eyes and was screaming in pain - calpol helped and took her to the Docs who says its an ear infection (she didn't seem 100% sure but most of the symptoms indicated it) so we are camped out in the living room today with DD on the sofa, I am fending off DS from patting her a bit too hard and fetching her whatever she needs (ABs, Calpol, ice lolly, drink, ABs, calpol, ice lolly, drink lol!)

hence me being able to post twice in 24 hours!

Winters/Loucee - your poor dd, that doesn't sound very pleasant. I'm sure the ice lollies are helping though

I ended up having a 2nd cs (first was due to breech baby)but I had stipulated that I defininitely didn't want to be induced.Almost all the really bad births that I know of happened after an induction. However I was allowed to wait until 10 days overdue (it would have been 11 but they brought it forward a day to fit me in; I think I also could have got to 14 days over if I'd pushed it but by that point I was sick of the whole pregnancy thing and ready to get on with it!).

All this talk of inductions and births, methinks there's a lot of people on here thinking about trying for another . This is almost exactly the age dd1 was when we started trying for our second.

Skid glad to hear things are going well in Oxford, it is a lovely city (although very crowded!). Good luck with the viva - once you've passed is that it, you're a dr?

Macdoodle - good on you for finding a new man (assuming that's what NM stands for - not 'nuff mangoes or something...). I don't know how you find the time/energy - I can't imagine going on dates and stuff, I feel like such a hag most of the time!

Having said that I am doing ok on weightwatchers and now back to where I was before having children - although don't think I will ever get that nice toned tummy again!

By the way, I think my dd2 is 2 stone too, is that heavy She's only just in 12-18 month clothes though....I guess she is a little errr chunky, bless her!! She's doing so well, sleeping like a dream at the moment (unlike dd1 but that's another story), saying quite a few words now and understands everything so well. She is naughty and runs away from me all the time, she is also a crap eater - but then I was very lucky with dd1 who always was, and still is, a brilliant eater. Guess you can't have it all!

Skid Yep - what Wizzka said. Nothing worse about an induction in terms of pain levels but

a) you're more likely to be very closely monitored which can get in the way of moving around which some people find helps lots with the pain. (I liked lying flat on my back pretending I was in Hawaii. I didn't like having to crawl around a birth pool to get DD to move position.)

b) once they break your waters (which is a standard part of a lot of inductions) it hurts like hell because you don't have the nice cushion of amniotic fluid around your cervix anymore. It's baby's head pushing down which is much more painful.

and

c) It's a bit wham bam if you're on the drip- like Wizz said there's no "ooh was that a little niggle? I wonder if I'm getting close to being in labour...". From about 15 mins after they put the drip in I was having close together sodding painful contractions like the type I got in the last 30 minutes of my second birth. Only they lasted 5 hours. But then there were drugs. Great big beaming

Your friend will be fine. Totally fine.

All this talk of contractions, am getting a little sentimental. I want another!!!! Wish it was me.

Helloe everyone... lots of people who haven't posted in a while yey!

Winters - your poor dd, hope she is better soon.

Mac - good news about the new man (it did briefly cross my mind that you had joined NetMums, then I thought,Nah! ).

I don't want any talk of contractions...still no AF. this would be bloody typical...pill and get pregnant (althoggh I am so disorganised teh mini-pill is mot the idea contricaptive for me). I am paniced about it...dh will kill me..yes I know it takes two however I argued against other forms. but it took so long for dd2 to come and dd3 that i still think it would be unlikey. Wonder do I break it to dh or go out an buy a test first? panic panic panic....although I really really think it is unlikely I am sympton spotting...tired in afternoons check (but hey I do have 3 children) and I am not that tired, sick feeling (well yes but then I do feel sick when I am tired and not pregmant), boobs hurt (sort of but I am still breast feeding)....and I am still liking coffee which was a sure sign the last 3 times...and anyway I never had symptoms this early with the other 3. please pray I am not and that AF turns up ASAP.

Cazzy I will pray. Sorry for being excited when actually being pregnant wouldn't be the best thing for you. I've faced similar situations and always had the "do I freak out DH when it's probably nothing and he'll just think I'm being daft?" dilemma. Talk to your DH. Please talk to him. Then get a test. Do it together. Laugh and joke and kiss when you find it's negative. Don't panic. Tell yourself how unlikely it is, buy the test, do the test. Put your mind at rest. Then post

A friend of mine's just gone into hospital in labour. So excited as it's been such a long road for her to get here. A few years of trying and a m/c and worries all the way through. We've prayed every week for her in my prayer group and I couldn't be happier for her that it's finally arrived. Sorry for a post that doesn't affect any of you but DH is out tonight so I haven't got anyone to squeak in excitement at!!! [squeak]

Arcade apart from the real reason DH will kill me or just get really really really angry and the money aspect...for me i wouldn't get that gutted..I wouldn't get rid (Idon't think)...however practial hat on I don't want to pregnant, heart hat on I would love be

oh gosh that sounds dreaful "get rid" like a thing not a person...what ever happens I strongly belive God has it all planned even if I don't.

Arcade I will pray for your friend...how exciting for her - miracles do happen

Oh Cazzy Feel rotten for you. I've been so glib about encouraging you to hope you're pregnant.
Take the test on the sly if that helps. But fess up afterwards? (assuming it's negative) I just know that keeping secrets from DH, however big or small, makes for such a rift in our marriage.

Is the reason for wanting to be pg because you miss that part of your life (like me) or because you really want DC4? Not wishing to pry, but I know that when i hanker after the little blue line it's only because I want the excitement again, not because I want any more DCs. And that helps. What do you think?

I do want another one...and we are going to have another one..but just I think dh would like to be consulted on the timings. He has been quite vocal about waiting..

truth is my friend is pregnnat at the mo..she has a dec baby and I have been a little ....

but as it will the last baby I would like a bigger gap...but you are right the excitment of being pregnant and the new born bit is lovely..

anyway either way I must find out because I can't bury my head in the sand

Hugs Cazzy
I understand the but think that you can support your friend through pgnancy and newborndom and then when it's your turn ( if that's not now) then she can support you. Hope tomorrow sees some AF action before you have to spend the money on the little-blue-line-maker

I've just found out one of my friends from my NCT AN class group is pg.
So many people at DH's work are pg too - a colleague on his team is pg, and one of the other managers' wifes' waters broke but she is only 32 weeks. Dh hasn't heard anything but she must have had it by now.
Arcadie _ I too have a pg friend who tried a long time to get pg - 2 years! She is due end of March/early April. I am very excited for her!

[squeak] She had her baby! A little girl....

Hooray!!

Arcadie - I am exactly the same as you, i would LOVE all the excitement of finding out I was pregnant again, the special feeling of knowing you are carrying a little one inside you, planning the names etc etc etc. If you could bottle that feeling, you would be a millionaire.

BUT. I do not want another baby. Unlike many of you, I really don't particularly like the newborn bit, I just find it tiring and stressful. I love the age she is now. And I also love the fact that within a year or two we'll be able to do things again that we haven't since she was born - lunches out etc (which of course we can and do do now - but it's just more difficult).

Cazzy - I hope you get the result you want, whichever it is. It doesn't sound like it would be a disaster if you were pregnant - if I were you I would tell DH and THEN do a test. After all, it takes two to tango so he should share the responsibility and stress. If he didn't want another (now) 100% he shouldn't have "done the deed" as that's really the only guarantee!!!

Thinking of you Cazzy