December 2007 - Oh what fun, they are almost ONE!

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OK here we are ladies!

Cazzy - these old relatives, they can't be relied upon . Feel better now?
Hope you didn't waste a tenner on a Clearblue.

Clara glad you're feeling a bit more positive.

I know the little buggers angels get tantrummy when they're toddlers, but this is excessive, tantrumming at everything and really crying. Oh well, just a phase I hope.

she slept thru in hosp lol so i hav always had a gd 8 hours sleep, she sleeps 7pm till 10am now when i let her, shes having loads of tantrums at the min to i think its frustration that she cant communicate yet, altho she will take me to what she wants now, for example this morn she wanted the tv on, so bought the wqhole sky + box to me

Blimey meme, thats a lot of sleep!

Cazzy but [relieved]. At least you know now.

Clara sorry you've been feeling down, you've had a lot of upheaval lately though. FWIW I have become shouty mummy too, when I look back at how patient I used to be when I just had dd I can't believe it sometimes. Now all it takes is dd wetting herself AGAIN, or ds fighting me when I try to change him, or him whinging at me when I'm trying to get something done and I just go RAAAARGH!

Wizz how is ds now? Hope he isn't poorly.

Skid any news??????????? Are you Dr Skidaddle yet?

Meme - at sleep. Very sweet about the tv box. Clever thing.

DH says DS is more cheery today. They went swimming and DS loved it.

Skid, news please as soon as you can.

Clara - is it just the uncertainty that's getting to you? I don't think human beings are designed to cope with uncertainty. Hope the GP is helpful.

Meme, is your DD quite a restless sleeper or does she sleep like a log? I have one who can sleep in til after 9am too but usually after a night where she's thrashed around quite a bit and I've had to go in at least once to extricate her from some corner of the cot or because her legs have become jammed between the bars! She yells out when she gets jammed but quickly goes back to sleep again once she's released. Nice to hear from you BTW and congrats on the study.

Wizzska - we have a little screecher here whenever anything is taken away from her. Not what I'd call full on tantrums yet as she will stop after a minute or so, but definitely worse when suffering from teething woes. In fact now that she doesn't dribble as much, its about the only way I can tell she's in pain - that and the ear pulling.

Cazzy - hope the AF was what you wanted!!

Still no news on the job/secondment so have decided to take some steps anyway. Increasing my hours to 32 from next week, but still preserving my Tuesdays off. Also think I might have resolved after care problem as have found 19 yo who's willing to pick her up 3 days and take her home to my house until I get home. My mum picks up Fridays and obviously me on Tuesdays. Fingers crossed it works out well.

wizz - ds was just like that and we think it was MMR, he wasn't properly ill but not himself, whinging wanted to be picked up a lot and really grumpy, nothing we could put our finger on and after 2 weeks we were convince it was just his personality, the past couple of days he's been a really happy affectionate little boy again - it could be a low level illness/virus thats putting him out of sorts? how's he doing today?

clara - how is your day going? I had day off with ds's yesterday and it was lovely but felt very guilty when I got cross with ds1 for falling in muddy puddle he tripped when I'd just asked him not to move whilst I sorted out ds2, about 2 mins later I was feeling really bad for getting upset about a dirty pair of shoes and trousers but at time I was cross with him for not listening, its so hard - he's only 2yr9mo I think I expect too much of him some times. Rest of day was fine but I think everyone has moments like that... well I hope we all do otherwise I'm just a horrible person

cazzy - glad you have an answer x

meme - whats your secret?? I can't believe dd sleeps so well well done! and ds2 is the same for getting the message across - when I was cooking dinner yesterday he got his bowl and spoon out of cupboard put them on table and then, whilst I wasn't looking, climbed into his highchair its a stoke tip trap - I'm convinced we're one step away from a trip to A&E! not sure how to make sure he doesn't do it again in case he does fall

yes skid whats your news???

Insy - yes, you must be the worst mum in the world, call ss.

DS much more like himself today and yesterday so hopefully it was just the MMR or teething.

Buzzy - glad you've got childcare sorted. Hope you hear about the job soon. It often happens that you start doing something else and then you get offered the job after all.

Clara - better day today?

Hi all, thanks again for messages. Yes better today - at the moment! My parents stayed overnight which was useful as they could have dd2 while I had to cover playgroup rota with dd1, which was an insight! Anyway they've gone now and nothing planned for this afternoon so it could go one way or the other....

Wizz - sorry if I didn't take ds's whinging very seriously, good to hear he's better. I second about MMR if he has had that recently, that could be causing him to be more whingey than normal. My dd2 has hers next week....

Buzzy - I think it's a mixture of things. Certainly the uncertainty is one of the main causes of my stress as I feel I can't move on in my life until I know what we are doing. But it's that combined with looking after the two dd's all day, every day and not having the regular contact with the same people you get every day when you are working. I do meet people regularly but not the same people every day (if that makes sense!). But I shouldn't complain because I do have some good friends and am meeting more people through playgroup who I am starting to see more regularly....I also don't think I'm coping very well with being a full-time SAHM. I would like to do something with my life again but can't start to organise anything until we know what we are doing!!!

ANYWAY good luck with your job stuff, good to hear you are getting child-care sorted.

wizzka - which bit? shouting unnecessarily at ds1 or ds2 climbing into high chair and putting safety at risk or... well the list could be endless, glad ds is having a good day btw.

clara - good to hear you've had good day too

god I'm bored at work...

Insy - I'm bored too. And I've read nearly every thread on mnet.

hiya i dont noo what the trick is i just put her in her pj's, dump her in the cot and let her whinge for a few mins and wake her up in morn after im dressed,

buzzy, i thinnk we should start a nursery thatis open all hours, dd has been at nursey all week and ive only picked her up once, dh, gma hav had 2 work 2geva, feel guilty tho but it needs to be dun

Yeah I agree it would have some appeal meme but for all its a pain to organise these complicated babysitting/care arrangements I think I prefer the idea that she's not spending too long in the one place if that makes sense?

Clara completely understand how you feel on the SAHM front. Not that I want to enter that particular argument but sometimes after a weekend with the DDs on my own I feel like I'm going slightly dotty and that's only for 2 days! I'm not hugely enjoying my job right now but could never see myself giving it up even if I had the choice which obviously I don't. On the other hand I don't socialise with my work colleagues so it would be the mental stimulation I'd miss much more than the social contact I think.

Just noticed that DD now has one of her eye teeth coming through poor thing, no wonder she was grumpy last night and today. So that's 3 molars about half through plus an eye tooth just coming - please let it be over soon!

Hi all,

Passed with flying colours (minor corrections) so I am now officially very clever

wizz - has he had his MMR - Milo has been the same for about three weeks but seems to be getting slowly better

clara - sorry to hear you are feeling down. I think counselling is a great idea. I had it a few years ago and found it enormously helpful. Even if you are feeling a bit better it is probably useful to develop strategies to cope when you are next feeling down. Must admit I thought it was incredibly brave of you to agree to go away again and think it is totally understandable not to go.

and FWIW I am much more telling-off-y (?) with DD than I ever used to be

cazzy - phew! But also a tiny bit

Hi everyone else

Congratulations Dr Skid!! Well done!!!

I don't think I can talk to you any more though. You're obviously far too clever

DrSkidaddle I presume. Woooow - well done.

Hooray Doctorskidaddle!

Yay DrSkid! [passes over some virtual champagne].

Clara, let's have our own stupidy corner to chat in.

hiya every1, dd has been a little terror all day!! is currently trashing her room cuz she is fighting going to sleep, arghhhhh wont ever hav time to sort it in morn cuz im doin 16 hours shift, is any1 else havin trouble getting any sort of milk gettin into their lo?

congrats skid, ar u a medical dr then?? not had chance to read all the threads since last jan lol congrats anyway

DrSkid - wow... I bow down to your intellectual prowess Congratulations!

Meme - 16hr shift sounds grim, you have my sympathies. I think toddler tantrums have started already! I too have problems getting any milk (except booby!) into ds!

We've had a lovely weekend in Scotland, we stayed in a travelodge in Perth on Friday night, had a maccyd's breakfast the next morning (Ds had porridge!) before heading up to Aviemore. Ds was in fine form, we went up the Cairngorm furnicular railway, he didn't like going outside as it was cold and windy, so we stayed in the restaurant, where he walked around charming the pants off everyone . We then had lunch at this Oz restaurant in Aviemore, then took checked into the Hotel (we stayed at the MacDonald Resort). Then we took ds to soft play, then for a drive while he napped! Went back to the hotel, put ds down for the night and watched a DVD.
Next morning, fab hotel breakfast, with ds once again charming everyone in sight.
He was very good on the trip back, though it was very long!

well done Drskid...very clever.

Took Evie to her 1st soft play area today...she quite liked it but spent a lot of the time standing up the exit or in the car that you put money in to make it move as it had flashing lights and buttons.

Cazzy - we have discovered that Daniel loves Thomas the Tank Engine... he has never watched it, but does have a Thomas toy, but has seen a real life steam train, and lots of you tube videos of steam trains (thanks to DH!).
We stopped at a service station and there was a coin operated ride on Thomas, and DS got incredibly excited when he saw it, to the point where he started crying as we tried to lead him away so I could change his nappy!
So yesterday DH found dss's Thomas's DVD and he was watching it as DH was cutting his hair!

drskid - huge congrats!

meme - we have issues with any milk except formula, ds now only has 7oz in beaker at bedtime although I'm offering him some goats or cows milk at breakfast and lunch he has one sip and rejects it, ds1 the same (but due to cows milk intollerance rather than not liking it) I'm upping yoghurts, cheese and green veg for calcium

bt - at trip away sounds lovely, dh started our diy (ripped out cupboards in ds1's room and put in stud wall downstairs) and we had weekend camped out at my mum and dads, boys an absolute handful, ds1 didn't sleep well dh off with them today as he said he missed them and he's taken them to the garden centre (sounds dull but I'd recommend it for a cheap morning out - they are going to see the animals, buy some bulbs to make mothers day presents for grannys and have a fruit shoot in cafe, a real treat!) but I'm at work, very jealous, hoping we can have a family weekend next weekend

Meme DS doesn't drink much cows milk now either, he was having it twice a day and on cereal but now he just takes a couple of sips and rejects it. He is completely boob obsessed at the moment though so I think he is probably having way more than he needs-just not of the milk I want him to be drinking!

BT weekend sounds great, glad ds was charming everyone in sight

Cazzy we were in a pub with soft play at the weekend, dd was off straight away which scared me a bit as she is a small 2 year old and all the other kids were a lot older and being quite rough and ds was determined to go up in the proper play area not the ball pit for babies. He managed to climb right the way to the top but there was no way I was letting him loose with all those other kids there so we had a bit of a battle trying to keep him in the babies bit!

Insy we like garden centre for cheap outings too. All the DIY sounds a bit of a nightmare! Do you think ds1 is feeling a bit unsettled? We've taken our bed apart temporarily as there was a patch of mould on wall behind it (and some on headboard-yuk) and dd woke up twice last night and came in our room crying that she didn't like our broken bed and it was scary.

Hey y'all. We're on the countdown to see if DD has managed to get chicken pox from licking her little boy friend. And also to see if DS ( who had the pox aged 5 months) is actually immune or whether the old wives tale of "If they get if before the age of one then they can get it again" is true.

In the meantime I've been freaking out the the huge spotty throbbing painful itchy rash on my back is shingles. It's not according to the GP today.

Skid I don't care if you're not really a medical doctor - I want a diagnosis!!! I can't really have [freak out with disgust] ring worm can I?!

hurray hurray for drskid!

clara - hope you're feeling better, i'm with you all the way on going slightly boggle-brained with staying at home, and would have gone completely mad but for making time to do things like pottery evening class (am laughably bad clay-basher, but i get to sit down without somebody whinging at me for 2 hours so is blissful). it must be very particularly difficult if, as you say, you can't actually plan to do anything because you don't know where you'll be in a few weeks/months. is no reflection on you or your goodness as a mother. and counselling can be wonderful - my lovely lady sorted me out good and proper (wasn't post-natally depressed, just very traumatised by pre-natal buggering around and beastly beastly induction).

re. tantrums, our darling girl has taken to throwing herself forward on floor, howling bitterly and with hand up to eyes in a properly tragic fashion. v. funny for about 1 minute then a bit irritating. can't think where she gets her drama-queen tendencies from...