Ellie, I've used both CM and nursery and both times it came down to who they were, not the situation itself.
You can find really fab CMs but you can find really shit ones, one CM I know quite well and respected I heard having a go at one of her mindees because his mum sent spagbol for his lunch and she said he had to sit in the highchair, he is in DS1's class at school. DS1 was 4 yesterday. Before this I'd thought she was great so that's the thing that makes me about CMs, there is no-one else to pick up on anything, with nurseries however you could have a shit one that is full of people who don't care, or one like DS1's where everyone was totally in love with at least one child.
My suggestion would be to book up the nursery for a couple of days and turn up early, by about 30 mins, see how everyone is, do the same with the CM but turn up an hour or so early, or at lunch or something, the best view you will get is when you are not expected, either way I'm sure M will be fine, whistleblower and the such only show the worst options.
No, I don't need anyone beating up Basically, a quick version, some old MNers have set up a forum, some old mners were left out by their friends and are understandably hurt, some others have got offended by proxy (even people who have been here for a month or so) some trolls have shitstirred (I've reported one under a few diff names), then people got nasty and were really horrible to each other, it went to the papers, I got misquoted, as did others. The End. (hope you saw it the same Clarrisimo) i was only annoyed by Believer because it seemed like someone I didn't know was leaking the same nastiness into our pn thread, but now I know it's not. It's fine.