APRIL 2008 - The One Where They Try to Escape from Cots & Highchairs

[Soph73]

Can someone please add "our babies" as my machine will probably blow up if I try it

I quite agree. It can really catch you out! I can't believe how unlucky I was last night - and I have got to drive both kids in Friday night rush hour on my least favourite road to meet DH just outside London, before going round the M25 (my second least favourite road) and I am knackered...

TSC - poor you. Fortunately DH drives home most nights because I like to walk home with Sam after we've picked him up from nursery. It makes me feel as though I'm actually getting some exercise .. even though I do just pootle

Well, TSC, as it's just been you and me this afternoon I shall say bye-bye for now. Hope we both manage to get some sleep over the weekend & have some fun at the same time. I may just have to bribe DH into getting up on both Sat and Sun morning to do breakfast
See you all Monday, Soph xxxxx

Have a good weekend! hope you get some sleep!

I am so depressed. All me and DP do is argue. He's breaking my heart everyday and everyday I feel like I love him a little less. I cant stand it. Last night I awoke to him whipping me with his clothes because apparently I poked him in my sleep and said something.
I love my DP so deeply.. but its all going to shit.

Why does he always pick a fight with me?
I always keep the house perfect, I wash and have his clothes ready, I cook...

I dunno. Am so sad.

Buggerbuggerbugger

what do you mean whipping? is he physical with you?

Whipping is out of order. Don't accept it.

But the rest... have you thought it's ptsd of the rpoblems with the baby? I don't know a couple with a sn kid who don't go through some kind of marital stress (I won't even tell you what the stats are, suffice it to assume that the odds are against us).

Might be worth bearing in mind but if he is hurting you then the reason is irrlevant at this stage and it must stop before any discussions can start.

PFJ

Oh you think yur are like something out of Oliver you should see mine! DS2 has really thick hair anyway, double crowned, is grubby by nature and ... this is the clincher... played Oliver in the school play LOL, so has a habit of singing consider yerself one of us as we walk around... pmsl

LOL peachy

ds2 had his hair cut today. he had a ponytail nearly

DH went fishing at 4 - for a couple of hrs

PFJ - you there?

DS1's ahir is curly but when wet i longer than mine (and mine is shoulder length)

ds1's just sticks up in the air.

we took him to the hairdressers (DHs gay boyfriends one) and they put him in this lovely tractor chair thing, he looks gorgeous now i can see his facey!

yeah
am here

Are you ok? The whipping thing; i take it not playful? does he do other stuff?

You sound like you want to get along. Remember you have been through alot; BUT touching you in am angry way is not fine.

i hope it gets better.. prob just a phase right?

couples can go through phases yes....but if he angry touches you then that is not a phase that will stop.

he was angrily whipping me with some twisted clothes from the floor. never happened before. hopefully wont happen again. i told him i wont stand for that shit.

I hope you don't stand for him doing naything like that again. But he must have known what he was doing to you!

Can you identify why you argue? and try to approach the thing differently?

Well you know once I would give him a verbal bash as you have done: again and he goes.

Now goes doesn't mean never to return, it means never tor eturn until he has undertaken some counselling or whatever.

Violence is the one big no no.

its over anything. sometimes i think he's just waiting for a reason to have a go at me.

Agree with Peachy. No return until issue resolved.

Violence is my no-no too. it would appear that lying and cheating is ok to me

You know, DH was like that when his depression was at its worse.

Maybe worth observing for signs?

Do you want a break? Sometimes, recently, i feel i do, but am too scared.

Scorpio- the difference is, if you couldnt forgive lying and cheating in 3 months or whatevr you can give him the boot then; violence places PFJ at risk immediately.

Does he moan at you like he wants some quality time with you? Would that help?

Are you on ad's? is he? (sorry if too personal, just know how very hard pnd is)

i cant get him to leave at the moment... i mean for us to have a break, but he's out tonight, so thought i'd have a vent on here. he might be depressed, will have to watch him. he was really sorry he hurt me. some people do stupid things when they are 'awoken' i guess....