March 2007... soon they will be one!!

[kiwibella]

Well, Jordi is our first one year old.... they will be catching up soon .

I was tempted to write the subject with reference to NM .

piffle-glad you are at least on your way to being sorted

bethoo-negative tests may mean nothing if af is only due today.i concieved in one cycle with every child(apart from dd1,i hadnt even had a period,i just conceived on my first ovulation post-ds1).however,it was a good 4 or 5 days after af was due before i got any positive tests.

spice-[blatant nosiness emoticon]-do they,erm,give you it to take away with you or does somebody do it at the clinic?

i have heard that sometimes fertility issues are a result of the sperm and eggs simply not being compatible.
clearly my eggs aren't fussy

dh and i are going to dd1's school after to see the head,as dd1 is being bullied.

diva poor dd, tis awful, went rhough this with ds1 too.... hope meeting goes ok, come back and tell all.

Oh god am on crutches now, ok one minute collpse the next she did say (physio) that I'd poss feel worse today.

So for the first time in 6 yrs
I bought a pre made lasagane from tescos for dinner
cannot cope
feel like shit about my dump of a house, my unwashed kids and my crap limping, hurting body.
Am convinced dp will leave me, he's a saint, no sex, I'm permanently grumpy and moaning.

Am not having a great day.
Sorry for being such a rubbish poster, all I do is complain and be self absorbed.

ditto, Diva... I'll be interested in your outcome this afternoon. Good on you and dh for taking action

I am also very interested to know more about the process, Spice - if you feel like sharing. I'm intrigued - especially about the sperm / egg compatibility. I have never heard such a thing .

I have the book ... well, I did lend it to someone but it will be easy enough to get back. Thanks for the offer Lunar.

Piffle ... argh, I hope that you start to feel better soon - enlist as much help as you can with the house and children x x x

diva - good luck with your school meeting - poor dd1 - hope you get to the bottom of it.

piff - sounds like agony - being in permanent pain is appalling for you and i think you should buy as many ready made meals as you want. Just go easy on yourself (easy to say i know). Is it the type of problem that will get better more quickly if you rest?

piffleyou are allowed to be self absorbed,you havent exactly had it easy recently.
the closest my kids ever get to something cooked from fresh is jacket potato.other than that its frozen crap or pasta and ready made sauce.and my body is working fine

the meeting went...ok.it was going fine untill dh said something about bullying and the head said 'bullying is a very harsh word,sometimes kids fall out...'dh got rather pissed off at that point,and said that it better be sorted within 6 weeks.i was a bit pissed off as well but i am scared shitless of that woman,so i tend to just nod and say 'ok,thanks' to anything she says

took Elsie and dd2 to mother and toddler.everyone was following their toddlers around and making sure they didnt lay a finger on Elsie.i keep telling them that shes not fragile and shes very used to playing with older children,but they all seem paranoid.its a shame,M+T groups were never like that 10 years ago.

Diva... glad the meeting went ok-ish! I don't know the circumstances for your ds but the word 'bullying' means that the child intends to harm (verbally / physically / emotionally) and does so repeatedly. Six weeks is a very long time period ... I would hope that things get sorted for him immediately.

Don't be afraid of the ugly head teacher. Make sure that you follow up with her or ds' teacher in a few days about what has been done.

The blonde not planning on any hrt malarky, but I'm even more determined to make excercise a bigger part of my life because I think that will really help.

Piffle, sorry you are struggling so much at the moment. I hope things start to ease for you soon. Thanks for the spatone tip, I'll give it a go.

Diva I hope things are sorted for your dd. I think it is key that you and dh are taking it seriously so she won't feel alone with it.

We are loaded with a rotten cold here. So I'm headachey yet again and feeling lousy. But hopefull that I'll soon be better and days are getting longer and everything is okay really.

bella-she said to ring her or pop in on friday.dh was just giving his personal time limit(in case it stops then starts up again after a couple of weeks)before he gets really pissed off.

it is dd1 who is being bullied.i would personally say somebody calling you names and doing things like breaking pencils then telling the teacher it was you every day constitutes bullying

what is a gifted and talented list?the head mentioned something about a drama peice dd1 did and something about a gifted and talented list but i didnt know what she was on about and dh thought she was just trying to be evasive.

Hi everyone, sorry I've not been checking in much. I've got to get used to the pattern of paid work & babycare & find time to come on here too. I will manage it eventually.

Piffle, god you're allowed to be self absorbed when you're not at all well, really can you get some help around the home at all? I am a bit worried about you, is there no one locally who you can enlist to just give you a bit of a hand around the house as you have so much on your plate and shouldn't really be doing any of it.

Rosy... you know, you could reframe this as a new and exciting stage in your life...

Diva, I really hope the school starts to take the bullying seriously. I was bullied at school really quite badly and even now as a 30 y/o I remember it vividly. Luckily I believe schools take it much more seriously now than they did in my day.

I think gifted and talented is something that they have at schools for kids that show a real talent for something - there are extra classes to help them hone their skills etc.

Kiwibella I'm glad that book is helping. The naptime thing made sense to me too. Bertie is happier when he sleeps more in the day. Can't say he sleeps any better at night though but I am "too fatigued to work towards change" as Pantley puts it and keep on giving him the boob. Plus I don't really mind that much, not at the moment, anyway.

Happy belated birthday Callie by the way!

Hello to everyone else. I had yesterday off, I graduated as a peer supporter and was given a certificate and pin by the Mayoress! Will put piccies on FB later.

sorry all for not posting, having a shit time with my jaw and it takes up all my concentration. I went to the doc today and reckon that I have TRIGEMINAL NEURALGIA , also known as 'sucicide disease' because it 's so ffing painful people top themselves!!!!

Anyways I have drugs so I'm hoping for some relief

kitty-(((((hugs)))))hope the drugs help.is there anything they can do long-term or will it clear on its own?

mossy-i was bullied all through primary school and in seniors up untill year 9,and i still remember it vividly too.the main things i remember though are my mum saying that i must have said something to the people first to annoy them(the only time i remember her taking action was in year 8 when she rang somebody's mum,which made things 100x worse),and the teachers saying 'just say "sticks and stones...etc",they arent hurting you,dont be such a cry baby'.
i also remember 'thats life!' starting the anti-bullying campaign in the 80's,which gave schools the kick up the arse they needed

the head teacher is very precious about her school,as she dragged it out of the guttersee here,so she doesnt like words like 'bullying' being associated with it

Oh Kitty you poor thing, how awful to be in such bad pain. I hope the drugs clear it up for you.

Diva yes, my Mum told me that I ought to be a good Christian and turn the other cheek, both metaphorically and literally. But yes I remember the That's Life thing although it didn't really take hold until I'd moved into 6th form and everyone thought my hitherto weirdness was now charming and amusing.

Diva ds1 has been on gifted and talented since receptopn, it means shag all in primary IMHO and not much more in secondary.
So...
but hopefully your school will be different?

Kitty aaarghh neuralgia is dementing, never mind on your face. I was told that amitriptylene or similar strong anti d's help massively with nerve pain. I was nearly on that myself. Massive hugs, and hope that something bloody helps before it drives you crackers.

Thanks for the thoughts... help round the house... ds1 being helpful, but am going to get a cleaner for a couple of hrs a week I think - hoovering is on my list of must not do from physio.
Am feeling a little better now as have just taken painkillers and they work for about 1-2 hrs. which is nice but crap when you read packet says they are long lasting and last for 12 hrs Have been super careful with myself today and it is easing slightly.

amazing so many of you were bullied - I was so upset when ds1 was going through it, we had one broken nose, one broken arm and one mallet finger, plus one senstive seriously school phobic genius child. Luckly credit to the school they did realy try and help and it did get bearable, but he was glad when we left. A buddy scheme is very effective at reducing bullying and playground loneliness - ds1 set up a scheme in his yr6 school, which runs to this day and has killed any bullying

I was bullied too.

This is why I am so pleased with the primary school here. They are on top of it at it's very roots. It is so important.

Reverssy my sister read a brilliant book (must find name) and she said it explains how we do not generally understand the whole turn the other cheek thing etc. trying to remember.....
culturally they would only use the right hand (I think)and slap with the back of the hand in a degrading gesture so -to turn the other cheek meant forcing the person to slap with the front of the hand which was a slap to an equal or something....probably got it all wrong...there is something about the giving the shirt too. the point being that they were assertive, peacefull but subversive gestures...He was teaching people to stand up for themselves not to submissively accept degradation as we have been taught to understand it!
(do I sound like a vicars daughter? )

Have to admit, I cried at ds1's confirmation cuz I miss church. Gave it up for dh

Hasan's poos were bright green this morning because yesteday he got his mucky paws on a tube of watercolour and ate some before I caught him

Kitty, you poor thing I hope the drugs work!!

Piffle, cleaner good! well overdue idea!

Rosy - at Hasans poos!!!
Piffle - i do not know what to say about your predicament only that i hope dp is helping out and can see how much yuo are suffering. are there no groups you could go to for some support? i know it is hard otrest when you have liitle ones but you really must try ot take it as easy as possible and not get stressed out. cleaning can wait etc.
Diva - do yuo remember the scene from The hand that rocks the cradle whe nthe little girl is getting bullied and the nanny goes over to the bully? i always imagined that is what i would be like if anyone bullied my children. iwas bullied at school and a lot of it goes unnoticed by staff, or they just wont admit it as it is more paperwork etc!! i would persevere and put in a copmplaint if nothing is done within the allocated time of 6 weeks.
this post may be a bit out of date as just gotround ot replying.
hello everyone else, hope you are all well.

Diva - Well done for going to see the head teacher. I hope they take some action quickly. I was bullied at school when I was 5 - I was so scared of break times my tummy used to hurt!

I told my Mum and she cornered the ring leader ad-fter school - got her on her own and hissed at her "If you EVER touch my daughetr again...you will have ME to deal with! Understand?"

The girl never came near me again, nor did her friends, but it meant I never felt confident at school and always felt unpopular. My Mum never even bothered talking to the school, as, as people have said, bullying was just accepted in those days.

Piff - you poor thing - spd is so uncomfortable

Kitty - what can I say - your jaw sounds excruciating! What can be done to cure it in the longer term?

Rosy - can you go to church when DH is away maybe? I really miss church when I don't go. Its such a lovely start to the day each Sunday and we get to see all the DCs friends and have a sing. I love the "smells and bells" too

Yeah Foxy I love the ritual of it too. It's part of who I am but now if I go I am an outsider. I accepted Islam thinking it didn't matter what structure we were attatched to. That God is bigger than any human way of defining him. But my brain is small and I'm hard wired as a christian.
Anyway dh is not normally here on a sunday and dh doesn't want me taking the kids to church. it's a bit of a muddle really.

I had a very "high Church" up-bringing and have severely lapsed now

... I am not helped to return to the fold when i hear tales such as my friend being told she must pray for forgiveness for getting divorced should she want a blessing in church for her second marriage ... she was happily married - or so she thought... til her ex dh ran off with another woman

Kitty honey have you tried TENS?
I have one for my SPd and nerve pain and it really helps
mine www.tenscare.co.uk was £40 from boots and it has placements on it for trigeminal neuralgia
Really recommend it, no limits on use either.

rosy-lol@green poos.Elsie had some blue crayon in hers last week

dh threatened to go to the local paper etc if the bullying wasnt sorted

i have a problem as i keep thinking its my fault.she is a gob shite like me and doesnt go along with the crowd(like when a friend was showing off her playboy mobile phone facia at a party on sunday,dd1 said 'yuck,thats a bit rude isnt it?').but shes also sensitive like me.i always think that its my bad parenting thats the cause of any problems ds1 and dd1 have.

rosy-do you actually practice islam then?
i know what you mean about being hard-wired to christianity.i turned my back on catholicism when i did A-level theology,and learnt that most of the teachings of the catholic doctrine had eff all to do with the teachings of jesus.from age 17-20 i only went to church because my mum threatened to chuck me out if i didnt. i blame alot of my problems with guilt,feeling undeserving of happiness,and being sexually inhibited on my catholic upbringing.i am not an atheist,i just have a problem with organised religion.

my a-level theology tutor used to bang on about what a good catholic he was,and how he was still a virgin at 40 cos he would 'rather have a nice cup of tea'.it turned out he would rather have a nice 16 year old boy,as my good friend at the time,david,found out to his horror

Rosy I always wondered about you and religion but was too polite shy to ask specifics.

Oh am feeling bit better now, can sit for longer, although am not supposed to.
Apparently those few weeks I was pregnant for over xmas led to the SPD reappearing in full force. But the underlying pelvic misalignment needs to be sorted for full recovery.

But at least constant pain is gone. Am doing very little for sure...

Diva, natural to blame yourself, do you also make sure you praise yourself when your kids are great? Take credit for her gifted and talented in drama? No of course you don't..
DO IT NOW!!!

No concentation to write, pain bad, just wanted to say hello

Big hugs to you Piff

to everyone else.

Diva, I don't practise nope. So I've fallen between two stools. That is shocking about your tutor and your friend.

Piffle, glad the constant pain is gone.