August 2007 - milk, mash or puree - take your pick and take cover!

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James - sorry, couldn't wait any longer... hope my link works...

lo is so grumpy today he took 2 bottles within 2 hours and still unsettled dont know wats wrong with him.

oops i mean my2weegirls

james - when you feel his gum you'll feel the sharp ridge of the tooth through - and it's very painful when they still want to chew on your finger!!!

tasha - that good news about your wee one's op (scary though it is when they have to go into hospital). how old is he now - could it be that he's having a growth spurt?

where's conkertree? - hope everything's ok and you've just been busy with xmas and new year1

Dd is much better now although very very clingy to me. Ds still has his cough but is on the mend. Had a couple of really bad nights. Saturday night both dcs were asleep by 9pm but dd woke up at 11 with a night terror. Dh didn't realise so he picked her up and brought her downstairs (you're supposed to leave them to it or it makes them worse). She was screaming for 30 minutes before she came out of it. Then she had me up til 2am. But then ds woke up at 3:10 and again at 4:30. He was hungry at 5:30 so I fed him. We didn't get up til 9:20 and I was still really tired. Last night was better but dd ended up in with me again at about 1:30. Ds was up again at 4:30 and I had to feed him at 5:30. He woke dd up and she kept trying to cuddle him whilst going back to sleep. at about 6 she said she wanted food so I told her to go and wake daddy up. I got up at 8:30 when dd forced me to get out of bed, otherwise I would still be there now.

Ds has a new trick. He takes his dummy out and then moans cos he wants it.

My2weegirls - good news about the tooth.

James - really, don't worry about the tv thing. Some days dd has her programmes on all day and it hasn't affected her development. At her 2 year check I was told that her speech was the level of a 3 year old. Like m2weegirls said, as long as there's a balance then it will be fine.

hi everyone - happy new year. sorry been absent for ages - had great christmas and new year - at parents with my brother and sister and their families - chaos but a lot of fun.

just skimmed the messages i've missed - lots of teeth it seems - ds is chomping on my fingers a lot but still havent seen an actual tooth yet.

he's almost rolling but not quite, but he chatters non stop - mostly when people talk to him, but he's quite happy to chat away to himself - its so funny hearing him go through his list of noises that he can do if he's lying in his cot in th morning.

sleep is still pretty bad - he's up usually every 2-3 hours but is going to bed at 7 so in some ways it balances a wee bit. and he just wakes, feeds and goes straight back to sleep so its not too bad.

hope everyone else had a good christmas etc and i will try and go back and read the other posts properly.

i think your prob right my2weegirls, at this rate he will catch up to all your wee ones
im so, so tierd today i was a very bad mummy and gave ds1 and 2 cereal bars for breakfast because ds2 still has to be fed and im still in my p.js
ds2 is running about with a wooly hat on, he handed it too me and barked which means put this on! hes doing it alot lately bless
anybody getting broody yet?

ds1 is being a wee shite today, he's really testing me, he keeps shouting up and demanding things as im getting ready, like juice, dvd, ds2 out of the room, crisps, lollys and if i say no or in a wee second he is throwing a full on screaming tantrum.

Hi folks,

think I'm a bit (a lot) premenstrual today, feeling really depressed and haven't bothered getting dressed. I managed to start a huge row with dp last night because he wants to go down to where he used to live for the weekend, and meet up in a pub with someone he had a major crush on in school (who flirts with him over msn) also one of his ex girlfriends, and some other mates, blokes I think.

Apparently I'm invited but he said to this girl he knows I won't go as I'm antisocial and self conscious. I've told him I'm not happy with him seeing her, they haven't seen each other for 12 years, why are they so keen on rekindling things now? Of course I am "being a psycho" and he went to bed really annoyed with me.

I'm not much of a naturally jealous person (used to have an open relationship with one boyfriend back in the mists of time) so I'm not sure if it's just pmt, or if it's generally because I'm insecure about my body, and my abilities to keep him if this skinny little Kylie-a-like decided she wanted to offer it on a plate.

You lot are stronger than me, do I have the right to tell him he shouldn't see her, or that if he does he goes there without my blessing?

Makes me laugh, we've been talking about getting married the past week or so, but how can we if I don't trust him? It'd feel doomed from the beginning.

Although really, it's not him in particular I don't trust, it's all men. I think if it was handed to them on a plate, most men would cheat because they think with their genitals.

I know if I go I'll sit there hating her and overanalysing every word and glance. And if I don't go my mind will be racing anyway. Bah, I feel miserable because my thoughts are so uncharitable and possibly unfounded about the pair of them.

Thank god he's taken the quality street to work or I'd be up to my tits in sweet wrappers by now.

aww poor you james [hugs] id feel the exact same and id say something along the lines of NO WAY!. omg i dont know wat to say, just that if it was me i wouldnt allow it

james - i'd go! but speak to DP before so that you don't end up sitting on your own whilst he's off talking with his pals.

think i'd be annoyed about dp telling someone that i'm not confident about my looks ! so if you do go - pamper yourself beforehand (money permitting) - hair do, new outfit from the sales etc. cover youself in a bin liner before you leave so that you don't get covered in baby puke

and make a point of talking to the crush - in a nice way (not that i think you'd be snidy to her), what's she doing etc.

Good to hear from you again conker. Glad you had a good time.

James - I agree that you should go with him, otherwise you will always be wondering.

Ds had a lovely nappy this morning. I left him in my bed asleep when I got up. When I went to get him up there was a rather unsavoury smell. His poo had leaked right up his back and on my bed sheet and duvet cover. I had to put him straight in the bath as he was plastered in it! I've thrown away the brand new white vest he was wearing.

yea i agree, good luck james

ive been doing washing all day to try and get to the bottom of the pile but ds1 and 2 have grabed all the washing that ive folded and mixed it all up with clean wet washing and dirty washing in a big pile in the middle of kitchen floor
i near set the house on fire earlier, i was making eggy bread and the frying pan went on fire so i put it under the cold tap and made it worse! im having a really crappy day! the house is a mess and i just see no point in tidying it cause the kids keep messing it

What a crap day you're having tasha. I think dd would have been put up for adoption for doing that. I've done 3 loads of washing so far today and currently on drying session 1 of 3.

Both dcs have been asleep since 3:30 so I've managed to get the big pile of washing up done too.

Spent ages on Saturday sorting through dd's toys. We've got 2 sacks full of soft toys that never see the light of day and I've put a few bits in the loft for ds when he's a bit older. We can actually see her bedroom floor now.

Got to go, ds has just woken up.

Banana - totally feel for you! Ask him in a calm and rational voice, if he wants you to go (maybe he wants to show you off after all although we have never met you we all think you're great). If on the other hand he wants a bit of a childfree/carefree weekend be big and brave and let him go without any snide comments (really difficult that one!). I've been with my DH for 13 years and he still goes off and has boys weekends and comes back stinking of beer and curry. Even if I've had a shite time while he's away I try and play up what a good time we've had so he can see what he's missed rather than have a moan (he does repay now and again when I go away!). How do you know she's a skinny Kylie type? And what makes you think he would prefer that to you - he obviously loves you enough to make a baby and stick around. Sorry that was longer than I meant it to be - had a GNT and am rambling again - getting as many calories in as I can as weight watchers starting tomorrow!

So....now for my rant! Is anyone else not weaning (DS2 is end of August so realise am few weeks behind some of you). If one more person asks me why I haven't given him solids I'm going to scream!!!!!! Looking at the photos you can see he has got rolls of fat so he is obviously getting everything he needs and I just can't be a&$ed with weaning! Banana - as you put it with parenting (read that as mothering) you just can't do right for doing wrong! No wonder first timers get so stressed. Am even going to go and get him weighed this week to prove to people (who really shouldn't matter to me) that ds isn't losing weight (am quite interested to know his weight as this will only be the 3rd time - any one got less entries in their red book or can I live up to me AKA of scummy mummy again?).

Well off to make a high fat tea - more cheese please! Sorry for going on and on and on.....

Hi guys, feeling better this evening, sorry for the big moan earlier, I get killer pmt!

Aaw Loler thanks for the nice things you said, it's appreciated. Doubt he wants to show me off, I'm like a fair haired moody dawn french! But maybe he'd like to show James off, he's certainly worth boasting about.

He may want a childfree carefree weekend, but he had one fairly recently, and while I don't mind him going to his mates house for the night, I'm not comfortable letting him go to the pub with a girl he was crazy about, AND an ex girlfriend too. The old crush has been chatting to him on IM for 4 months, and she can be quite flirty with him, obviously using him for attention and an ego boost. (Men are so naive!)

I've seen pics of her, she's really slim and pretty with long curly hair, she does look a bit like Kylie, and he's always been crazy about Kylie. Can't say he's ever looked for sexy pics of Dawn French, but he's always said he fancies me. I suppose I just think I couldn't compete against her if she decided she was going to make a play for him.

Oh god, I sound like the lyrics to bleedin' "Jolene" don't I? LOL

I'm half tempted to go along and then talk to her when he's in the loo and make out to her that he's into wearing womens underwear or go into great detail about him having some nasty sounding chronic infection down there (obviously he doesn't!) lol It'd be evil but funny!

Anyway it turns out that she only gets one weekend off a month, and I might just engineer it that he's busy every time she's free. Muahahahaaaa

Ahem, anyway enough bitching, I have good news, I lost 2lb at SW this week so I'm back on track after my christmas week off. Good luck with WW loler, it's a good time to start! Gill did you say you were at a slimming club?

Loler, I haven't even been able to find lo's red book since he was about 2 weeks old. Don't worry about weaning until you want to do it, your lo sounds perfectly happy at the moment! If it ain't broke, don't fix it, eh? The constant mess of the purees is making the novelty of giving him food wear off very quickly now, I almost wish I hadn't started, his bouncy chair is plastered in food as he WILL NOT stop bouncing even for a second while I feed him. Getting highchair on saturday, thank god!

Sorry you're having a bad day too Tasha, hope you managed to disentangle your washing and your boys! Gill those nappies sound sadly familiar. Anyone have fond memories of inoffensive breastmilk poo?

james glad your feeling better about it all and congrats at the 2lb loss!
loler-echo james
i tried lo with some baby rice yesterday, he seemed to like it but then he had a bottle at 9pm then refused a bottle at 1am, and refused bottle at 7am and took one at 9.30am so ill take that as a sign.

Happy New year to you all!!!!!!!!!!!
Sorry i havent been on, have been reading but never seem to get round to posting!! ONE of my new year resolution i to post more!!!!!!
James - I would be seriously pissed of too!! I am a little bit of a green eyed monster anyway but wouldn't be happy with him going off for a weekend, especially with the flirting thing on MSN! as someone else said GO GO GO!!!

Loler - wouldn't worry about the weaning as you said us mums never seem to get it right, anytime round!
GillL - glad to here that the kids are better, nothing worse then when there ill let alone 2 of them, how is it going at work??
Tasha - what a rubbish day, they really know when to play up dont they!! really don't know how you do it, i have 2 but 1 is at school all day!!

I had a great Christmas and New year, Christmas was spent with dh parents ( who are great) and boxing day with my family ( also lots of fun have 2 nieces 5 & 8) so a good time in all .
We also went to a pub NYE without the kids ( in laws had them at their house!!!!) and didnt go to bed a 3.00am - god i paid for it after!!!!!!

Ds2 is doing really well, waiting for them teeth he is not unhappy but very white lower gums and ALWAYSS trying to chew on something. Not rolling yet but he can take as long as he likes as we are not having no more so dont want him to grow up to soon!!!
weaning is going really well, he is loving it, has some Fruit in the morning and Pureed Veg at teatime but has starting waking up at 4 am so health visitor said i can up him to lunch as well ( small of course) i was shocked by this but when looked as ds1 red book he was and 3 meals a day and puddings at 5 months and there is nothing wrong with him, just a typical 5 year old fussy eater!!!! He only weights 15lb 70z so its not like he is a massive baby anyway!
God i have rambled!!!
Oh also joing the gym next week and am going back to weight watchers on Thursday as i lost 2 stone with them before and determined to do it again...........!!!!!! but im bloody starving!!!!!

welcome back Pinkranger, good to hear you had a good xmas and newyear.
ive put somemore pics onto my profile, so take a look

......i put loads on

tasha - great minds - i've just uploaded a photo of dd2. your boys are gorgeous - they look like mischief makers

Hey Pink, nice to hear from you! Glad all is well. I didn't get on with WeightWatchers when I went years ago because of being always hungry. That's why I like Slimming World, because their ethos is for you to eat massive portions of "free" foods like pasta, rice, potatoes, veg etc, and just limit your fatty and sweet stuff, so you're never hungry, and your blood sugar never drops. It's brilliant.

Pink, james has fruit or porridge for breakfast and some kind of veg for tea, but he has also started waking up in the night. Had to feed him at 1.30am last night. I started a thread on it recently asking what I should do, and if I should start giving him hungry baby milk instead, but everyone said he was waking because he was teething.

I don't really think that's it though because his cheeks aren't red and he isn't drooling like he does in the evenings when his teeth hurt. Seems early to be introducing a third meal, though. I was wondering if he need less food and more milk but I spose it's a step backwards in a way.

Tasha, what did you mean when you said "(lo) refused a bottle at 1am, and refused bottle at 7am and took one at 9.30am so ill take that as a sign" - a sign to continue giving him the baby rice, or sign to leave it a while?

Won't go on about the dp situation again but just to say we talked it through openly last night (I confessed I'd been snooping in his chat logs etc) it was uncomfortable and things aren't perfect but at least there aren't any secrets now, and he knows how I feel and why.

aww they are both georgous and you lo has got so big!
they are lol just had to wash poo aff my bathroom tiles

thats good james wat did he have to say for himself?
a sign to not give him any more baby rice

loler - dd2 has onlyever been weighed when she's had her injections - so i'm joining you on the 3 times - was thinking about venturing there on thursday but will se what the weathers like first...

james - if you went it would also be a change of scene for you. well done on the weight loss too.

tasha - hope today is going better than yesterday?

pink - welcome back!

we had a crap nights sleep last night - dd1 up to pee at 1, then dd2 up from 3 till 5 then dp up at 6 for work. and today she'll only sleep cuddled into me

i'm still faffing about with the weaning going to really start trying to at least get her started on 'lunch'.