August 2007 - milk, mash or puree - take your pick and take cover!

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James - sorry, couldn't wait any longer... hope my link works...

morning - big hugs james and tasha.

dd2 has been in 9-12month clothes for about 4 weeks now so don't worry james. he's just a big boy - most baby clothes are made for those that are average size e.g. those babies that are on the 50th centile for height and weight. plus i'm sure they shrink in the washing machine/dryer.

tasha - families who'd have them! hope you are not getting caught in the middle with your brother an dad? and i hope your ds1 had a good time with his dad and nan even though it causes you heartache .

dd2 slept from 9pm till 6am one night last week - hooray. so i knwo she can do it! so why hasn't she done it again - grrrr she's also doing the rolling over onto tummy in bed and crying as she can't get back - DP is quite put out about it as she seems to do it on the nights that he's getting up with her .

dd1 had a major meltdown at the shops with me on friday - it was partly my fault, she was tired and i'd let her have a chocolate freddo after she'd ate an orange. i was mortified (told her that i was putting her on freecycle ). everyone was staring, she was screaming, refusing to move, stomping feet, trying to pull my hair, lying on the ground etc etc. eventually i managed to get her to the car (and dd2 in buggy watchin git all...) then she wouldn't stay in the car seat to let me fasten her in. once we got on our way she screamed for about 20min then fell asleep so i drove round for 45 min.

hope everyone else is well.

Hi All
welcome bogwoppit- fun name

Loler- I love that poem, very true, but I'm guilty of a bit of it. Like most ladies i do all the cooking and cleaning while dh plays with ds. although I do all the outings park, playgroup, friends,etc.
I have one new friend who is fanatically clean, and i always come back wishing we were cleaner, but she is EXTREME so there'e no hope. irons till 1am (even singlets) and all their clothing (even kids play clothes) she dust busts under your feet if you drop a crumb Life's gotta be about more than that i say.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY Leifmum

JB- hope things are going well now, not sure if you have outdoor area, but both my little guys are/were content for ages, if they have a swaying tree to look at, or try some goldfish, they love them

LL had a cold and was quite upset about it on the weekend, poor thing. Mummy had the worsted sleep in months. Although he is doing some great slide crawling ATM.
Gotten right into the solids now. I've made loads of frozen baby food.

We went out for a friends birthday (just the girls) on friday night we had a hoot, was so nice to get out without children and we barred ourselves from talking about them

weegirls - that's exactly the same as ds1 on friday. I just laughed at it (it's either that or explode with anger!). The older they get the more intense their tantrums get (so not looking forward to teenagers!)

Hello bog - My 3 dc are similar ages to yours - also due to laziness (or relaxed parenting as I prefer to call it ) I am still exclusively bf. Although ds2 has had some skips and jam on toast this weekend. His big brother keeps stuffing it into his mouth - not quite sure how to address this one!

Banana - good luck with the cleaning. Do it in little bursts - stick james in his buggy and go for quick walks when he gets fed up, it will keep him interested, the fresh air will tire him out, it's good stress relief for you and good for the diet. My old fantastic health vistor used to say that you can't over feed a baby - so don't worry about his size, all babies are different.

I fell down the stairs last night so have got a very bruised bottom. Ds1 wants to kiss it better! Dd back at school today - she didn't want to because she said all the writing is too much work - half way through the first year at school!

I'm back at work today and had to bite my tongue when my colleagues were asking if I had a nice week off. I didn't really want to reel off all the details about what a stressful week I had.

Dh was crap last night. His back was much better so I decided to let him see to ds. He did his level best to keep me awake by moaning and slamming things down because ds kept waking. He really doesn't care that I do this every night and let him sleep. He got so annoyed at 4:30 when ds wouldn't go back to sleep and he took him downstairs to feed him. Fortunately I managed to get back to sleep straight away. He came up at 6am to ask me to watch ds so he could get an extra 45 minutes in bed. He hadn't even bothered trying to get ds back to sleep as he refuses to cuddle him to sleep. Within 5 minutes of me being downstairs ds was asleep.

Glad your weekend wasn't too bad James. Why did your sil keep her distance? Alex will be going into 9-12 months vests soon as his 6-9 are getting a bit stretched on length and width. I was hoping my nephew would be out of 9-12 by now but I guess he's only 10 months so we'll probably have to buy some before long.

Hope you're feeling better today tasha. Families can get so complicated.

Ouch loler. Dd always wants to kiss me better when I hurt myself. It's so sweet isn't it

I read a post a while ago about how to diffuse a tantrum. Someone said that saying to the child 'don't laugh' (before the actual meltdown) will stop it in its tracks. I've not tried it myself but a lot of mums replied to say it worked like magic.

Good morning folks, I'm feeling more positive after a decent nights sleep and three filter coffees. I'm buzzing actually, whee!

Gill I think the fundamentally different thing about men and women is that women put themselves at he bottom of the pile (kids, hubby, then them, in that order) Men however make sure they look after number 1 first and seem incapable of being selfless like mothers do. And they're also virtually incapable of putting themselves in your shoes, so the same rows happen again and again. I can sympathise.

Sil kept her distance because last time we were there I got really annoyed about her shouting in J's face that he was a pussy when he was crying because he was overtired. I went and put him in his pushchair to calm down and go to sleep, but she kept picking him up and shouting in his face, or letting her stupid enormous lummox of a boyfriend pick him up and jiggle him about (which made him go just hysterical)

I was standing right there asking for him, and the boyfriend pretty much ignored me while he was "cootchy-cootchy-coo"ing at James screeching face, so I ended up literally snatching him off her boyfriend, and I think they both took offence.

I don't care, I think they should mind their own stupid business. When J is happy and smiling they are more than welcome to cuddle and fuss and play with him, but when he's upset and I'm there, he's mine. Surely I'm not alone in feeling that way??? I wouldn't dream of not letting a mother see to her screaming baby, so more fool them for getting in my way.

Anyway she blanked me this time when I said hello (what a shame) and referred to herself as his evil auntie all weekend apparently but she did completely curb her behaviour so imho it all turned out nicely! lol

James - what an arse your landlord sounds - here's to cleaning & painting & sleeping ds'. ds2 is also moving to 9-12month clothes - he's on the 91st percentile for length & is chunky too, plus cloth nappies add to the bulk. you're not doing anything wrong at all.

weegirls - tantrums are a nightmare - dd was stropping in Boots yesterday - you have my sympathies. I must get her to like shopping especially Ikea lol!

Uki - the name is from one of my all time favourite childrens books, sadly now out of print & costing silly amounts on amazon/ebay.

Loler - my dd is very good at policing what ds2 eats - she tells me off for giving him carrot stick as he "has no teeth mummy" ouch t the bruised bum too.

well I'd best go sort lunch & finish writing Christening thank yous.

I think you've hit the nail on the head James. Even the cats get priority treatment over me in our house I don't think dh thought he was doing anything wrong. I'm giving ds a 9oz bottle tonight in the hope that he'll sleep longer. He's been waking earlier for the last week - anything from 5:30 onwards.

I totally agree about the mum taking a screaming baby. IME most people want to give them back anyway as soon as they start crying. If I let my mum or sil comfort ds when he's upset then I take him back if he doesn't stop within a minute or so. It sounds like you're better off with her not talking to you anyway.

sorry havent had time to catch up yet just popped on to release some anger. mum phoned me as she was angry but i used to live in a small village filled with gossipers (mum still lives there) she went to the shop and one of the women from there walked over to her car while mum was in shop to talk to my aunt. when mum came back out she asked my aunt if i had wised op any and how many kids i had now, is it 2 she asked, my aunt sayd no 3 and my mum said shes a great mum and im proud of her, the woman looked right through my mum and turned back to tina and asked all with the same dad? it went on mum jumping in to my defence woman looking right through her and saying nasty things about me. how can peopple be so judgmental? am i considered not wise for having 3 kids? i feel so angry and hurt what a horrible woman. god only knows who else is talking about me. thing is if they new me then they wouldnt think badly of me as im genrally a nice person and always put my children first no matter what. mum could have came back with plenty of things about her son but she wouldnt do that.

james can you text me your number? i still have the same number turned out i didnt loose my phone, dp broke it.

Tasha that woman wounds like a sad cow with no life. Don't waste your time thinking about what she may or may not think, how rude of her to speak to your aunt about you like that, nevermind to ignore your mother! good on your mum for sticking up for you, you don't have to defend yourself for having three children, it isn't a bad thing! You're a good mum and it's none of her business. Some people just get a kick out of being judgemental. It's usually because they have no life of their own! for you though, what a bitch!

Gill, I often give James 9oz to get him to sleep through. Check Alex is warm enough, J has been waking more in this cold weather because he's more mobile and kicks his covers off etc. Put him to bed in extra layers last night and he slept right through til 7.30am for the first time in over two weeks.

Thanks for the reassurance, bogwoppit. He's growing so fast I literally can't keep up!

thanks james i knnow i should ignore her but im just fed up with people being so nasty it just seems to be one bloody thing after another. are people willing me to have a breakdown??

ok ill try and catch up here, enough about me lol....

Did he break it on purpose or by accident? My number is 07969 458757. I can't text right now as I've run out of credit and I can't top the bugger up cos I lost my purse and cancelled my debit card. You can email me instead if you want, try the_pkat at yahoo.co.uk.

gtg, dp is home x

leifmum, happy birthday! sorry cant give any advise on visiting people but i hope you have a stress free couple of days. im excited for you! hope you do get a date. have you started packing yet?
uki, is lo feeling any better now?
thats terrible did they get any money? lol at evil aunt.
o sorry have to go again ds2 has a lovely stinky bum for me. back soon to catch up with everyone else

on purpose, cant remember why and didnt want to ask, i loved that phone too. had loads of pics of the boys and dp got it for me for xmas. had allot of unexplained bruses too probably to do with my drunkiness it was my fault dp is not like that.

my2weegirls- dont you just feel like getting on the ground and throwing a tantrum yourself lol.
gill i must try that lol sounds good

tried the dont smile thing made ds2 worse lol mabe work on ds1

Tasha did you and your dp have some kind of a fight? I hope you're ok. Are you ok to talk on here? If I were you I'd clear your pc's history after visiting mumsnet. (go to tools then delete browsing history) I hope he hasn't been getting physical with you honey that's just what you don't need.

Happy Birthday Leifmum! sorry, somehow I missed that in your post. Hope you have a good one, get your moving in date!

Dp just tried to get J to sleep for me, he did exactly what I told him to do (I was watching) and J just screeched and bucked. I ended up picking him up, and he fell asleep within ten seconds of me holding him. How clingy is that??

Hi, sorry for my absence but i just don't seem to have much time this week, we are having a new kitchen fitted tomorrow and even though im very excited, the mess is driving me insane, and we knocked a wall down today, and it half term here so ds1 is bored already. Its only day one and already we have spent half the day in toys r us and the rest in the indoor ball park!

Ds2 is still in his 3-6 months clothes, just changing over to the 6-9 Vest but other things still fit, i think alot depends on where you get it from, certain shops last longer in size.

We had a great meet up last week and looking forward to the next one, its nice to see other people with babies the same age and Alex and Evie are just adorable! Alex was soooo smiley!
Kinki - i know what you mean about the local clinic, i go to the one in allington, easy parking and not much waiting around. its only just opened, only been once but want to get ds2 weighed on Tuesday next week so will be there then!

Well ds2 has been a nightmare at sleeping at the moment, we have gone to waking up once maybe twice for a dummy to crying on and off for an hour, i think its his teeth as he is happy to go down awake in his cot at 7pm. Its all very tiring but just doing what we did with ds1 when he teethed ( sitting in the room/ giving cuddles/ not putting in our bed) but its so tempting to put him in our bed but really dont want to make a rod..............

Sounds like some people have had a rough time the last few days so hope that you are feeling a bit better now

lol gill @ the cat getting priority comment - soo true of this house even b4 kids - I was in labour with ds1 & all dh could stress about was that cat hadn't been fed - in fact he even left me to go hom e& feed her!!!

James - you are so right to be cuddling your ds when he's tired & upset & all "relative'd" out. I am same with mine, happy= other people/us grumpy = me/dh.
in fact with dd I got acused of making her out of bounds all because I once took her off FIL when she was crying & tired in much the same way as you did with yr ds@ the w/e.

for cold wriggly blanket loosing babies I'd recommend the fleece allin one sleepsuits on top of a normal sleepsuit. my kids always got tangled in sleeping bags once they could roll & kicked covers off. - fleece suits are my godsend ( & makes LO soo snuggly too!)

I have to say ds2 spends much ofthe night snuggled up to me - we both sleep better that way. Very glad of the king size bed tho esp when ds1 & dd join us in the morning! dh has now mastered the art of sleeping clinging to the edge of the bed for dear life!

Tasha - ignore the stupid comments - she's probably jealous you have 3 kids. some people will always judge for no reason. good for yr mum sticking up for you.

yeah im ok to talk on here as long as you are all ok to here me rambling its fine honestly yes we had some sort of fight but i think i managed to put everything into some sort of perspective for him last night its all very confusing really so not sure how to explain it or if theres any point really

ive changed los milk to cow and gate to see if he drinks anymore.

hope everyone is having a lovely day

James - thanks for the tip. I'll check his temperature tonight before I go to bed. He's in a sleeping bag as he won't keep blankets on but maybe it's too thin. He finished the 9oz last night and only woke once for his dummy. Fingers crossed it's going to continue.

Thanks pink He's always smiley - complete opposite of his sister at that age. She used to cry when people looked at her. Hope Tate starts to sleep better soon. Have you tried Ashton and Parson's powders? A lot of people swear by them for teething. They treat the other symptoms, not the gum pain so you'd still need to use teething gel/calpol.

lol at your dh going home to feed the cat bogwoppit. I think my dh would have tried any excuse to go home when I was in labour with dd - he hated it! I had a home birth this time so I wouldn't have minded if he'd gone downstairs to feed the cats

Oh, nearly forgot, ramble away tasha.

im gonna have to get one of them sleeping bags for ds2 he never keeps blankets on! mum sugested today folding his blanket over and putting a couple of stitches in.
lol at the cat too.
me rambling about things isnt really apropriate on this thread. ill keep it happy thread

Hello you lot,

Tasha, as long as you're ok! Ramble away if you need to, it's never stopped me... James is almost out of all his growbags, need to get some 6-12 month (or larger) ones.

I just called my hv to ask when I will see her again, she asked if there was anything I was concerned about so I bit the bullet and said J was a bit enormous! She wasn't concerned at all, just asked how much milk he was having, and if I was pureeing down happy meals for him (she's funny) and then said she just thought he was a big boy, and that she'd weigh him at the 8 month check but he'd probably be moving about a bit more by then and not to worry.

My first pay cheque arrived today, so it probably isn't a scam, which is good.

Hope the kitchen's going ok, Pink!

Glad you got your pay James Must be a relief.

I managed to fit into my biggest size 12 trousers this morning . I only tried because I forgot to wash the 14s in time and they were still wet. I was really pleased and it's given me a new incentive to keep going on the diet. I also want to look good for my nan's birthday party in July as all the family will be there.

yea glad you know where you stand now james and gill congrats thats really good you should be so proud of yourself!!