February 2019 babies - thread 2

[Celebelly]

New thread, ladies!

My daughter had her tongue tie snipped at 1+4 weeks. I'm convinced that it's grown back though. Her latch is still poor though we've both adapted. I think weight gain isn't going to be great. She'd dropped one centile line three weeks ago, but I'm sure she'll have dipped below the next one too by now. I finally saw our HV again this week (we had to postpone due to chicken pox). But because A was over 8 weeks old (8+2) she couldn't refer us. So now relying on a GP referral which won't be to the same team that originally did the snip. We held off weighing her as got the 8 week check (also late, bank holidays to blame) on Monday. So frustrating! I should have pushed harder when I tried to see professionals about it already.

Also, the HV says that A does have reflux. I'd allowed myself to be talked out of that diagnosis a few weeks ago. I thought it was, but was assured that all babies are sick. So poor weight gain could be that too.

Getting good use out of our newborn/up to 1 month clothes again though! 😢

My maternity cover at work has been made permanent, she handed her notice in as she found a perm role elsewhere. They panicked and offered her a perm contract , I'm not due back until Nov and I'm trying not to stress about it but it's difficult. I work for a fast growing company and manage a global team. My boss has assured me there will be room for both of us upon my return but I just can't see how it will all fit together. He can't clearly state how it will either as the due to the growth of the company you can't set any plans in stone. Has anyone experienced this before? Just trying to make my peace with it somehow??

@Lookingforadvice123. That’s a lovely long stretch of sleep. Makes all the difference. Must have rubbed off on my DD as she was asleep at 10.30 and didn’t wake until 3.30! Probably could have left her a little longer as she was fussy rather than wide awake but she was so blooming noisy that I wasn’t going to sleep anyway. So got her up to feed and change and then she settled down completely for another 3 hours!

I feel pretty good this morning so like you I hope it lasts and wasn’t a one off!

@1stTimeTina. Yes I work in a sales environment and built up some very profitable clients over the last 4-5 years. My boss insisted on recruiting a permanent staff member into my position (so effectively I’m losing all my clients) when I went on maternity leave. My job will be there when I return but I need to start from scratch and gain new clients! Feel a little put out as this will have huge financial implications until I can build another profitable client bank which can take a few years to establish in the line of work I’m in!

bubblybrit I was awake for well over an hour of it mind as I woke when he started fussing to give dummy/turn sheep on, and then lay awake for about an hour! Typical, always the way. Glad he's done it though. He's in his Snuz Pod attached to our bed still but I think we're going to detach it tonight as I also think we're disturbing him. I'm nearest to him but my DH is so flipping noisy when he's fidgeting, turning over etc.

@Lookingforadvice123. My little one had a feed this morning around 8am. Normally that’s her up but I kept the room dark with only the night light on and she went back to sleep until 10ish. Was bliss as managed to put a washing on and do some general housework!

@1stTimeTina my sister has just been through the same. She ended up being made redundant which is a whole new case.

How long do your little ones nap for? DD really struggles to nap during the day. I spend my full day trying to get her to sleep as she gets over tired very quickly but still fights the sleep. If I do manage to get her to sleep it can be for as little as 15 mins to a maximum of 60 mins. I would say that at a push she naps for 2 hours (broken up throughout the day) from 11am to 8pm. I don’t feel that this is enough but not sure what is ‘normal’?

@bubblybrit my little one is the same , hates a nap, likes to see what's going on all the time haha. We probs average on two hours total a day too, but I don't mind so much as she only wakes for one night feed so I'm happy she sleeps more at night x

@1stTimeTina. Yeah DD is a fairly good sleeper at night. Was just checking in case I should be doing more to get her to sleep during the day! Although not sure what else I could do lol 😂

DD going through a fighting nap phase but generally has several 1 hour naps plus one long - 3-4 hours a day. Sleeps from 8:30/9 till 7, waking once (around 3) on a good night and others twice - a bad night 3 times.

Tonight she’s fought sleep and only just gone down... so she’d better only be waking once!

Sorry that should read - several 1 hour naps and one long one - 3-4 hours long, a day. So around 8 hours or so? Sometimes less - which makes evenings (a la tonight) a battle.

A doesn't go down for a nap at all during the day. She'll sleep on me, or in the car or buggy. But not in her crib/Moses basket. If I try to move her she wakes. She sleeps well at night, so I don't mind. Just a pain when I have a toddler to look after as well!

Thanks ladies. Looks as though there is a bit of a mix so I guess all babies are different in respect to napping! I’m just thankful that she is a good night sleeper.

Yes naps are hit and miss here. Sometimes DS2 has sleepy days, and it's relatively easy to get him to sleep. It's almost always pram/car seat/on me though, rarely down in a crib or anything. Yesterday he seemed to barely nap, but for once he was wide awake for his bedtime bottle so had a good 4-5oz and was wide awake when we put him down in his snuz pod at 9:30pm. But he then slept through til 5:30am! First time ever, so excited!

That’s fab @looking ! We only had one wake at 3ish. This is seventy million times better than DD1 so pretty happy so far!

DD2 refuses to nap anywhere but sling or crib...pram /car - not a chance!

since2016 anything after 3am I'm happy with to be honest as it's a good 5-6 hour stretch but I can't pretend I'm not over the moon! Makes such a difference, best sleep I've had since he was born as I was asleep before 10pm, woke very briefly at 3ish as he was fidgeting but not crying/up for a feed, next thing I knew it it was 5:30am! He went back to sleep straight after his bottle until 9.30am, I didn't because I was too excited/happy but I still feel so well rested!

I think we must have been disturbing him as it's the first night he slept in the Snuz Pod detached from the bed. I missed him though, used to love looking at him sleeping right by me. Now it's through the mesh!

Hi all, just saying hello, don’t know where the time goes. Thank you for all the kind messages and sorry I didn’t respond. I’ve been with the perinatal mental health team since I was pregnant due to previous MH issues and the higher risk of PN depression. I see the nurse at home and the psychiatrist at the hospital and now we are having family therapy to try and make sure she’s not affected. Neither of us had fantastic childhoods, which were also very different, so know it will be good to work on that and how different our parenting styles may be.

I’m feeling a bit better after some more difficult days, we went to see a childminder today and think I will probably start her one day a week at 4 months to give myself some time off and so I can work on my Masters dissertation. The fact that I got pregnant much much faster than I expected means that a big issue for me has been how quickly my life changed, when it was actually going really well for the first time ever. To suddenly be so massively overwhelmed and adjusting to a completely new life has been harder than I could imagine. I’ve hated having thoughts of regretting it all.

I’m sorry I haven’t been able to read the whole thread so hope everyone else is doing OK.

We’ve been starting to see a few improvements with sleep so that has been a turning point, although she’s still very hungry and had a fussy day today.

@powkin. I’m glad that you are getting the support that you need as having a baby is a huge adjustment for anyone. I can’t believe how much my life has changed over the last 10 weeks! I don’t regret having DD as love her to bits but it has been a lot harder than I initially thought. Especially as I am convinced she has colic/reflux given the bouts of crying and fussiness each day.

It’s good that you are seeing an improvement in sleep. Long may it continue as really does make a huge difference!

Glad you have support Powkin. It's really tough. We've been insanely lucky with our DD as she's incredibly easy going, but it still feels some days that I've had no time to myself and it can be quite draining and overwhelming having to plan everything around this little person you've created. I take my hat off to those with more sensitive babies or bad sleepers as I'm not sure I would cope you're all doing amazing!

Morning all! Hope those of you who are struggling had a better weekend. Max had just had a major breakdown in the middle of aldi. My faith in humankind was restored however when an older couple came to my rescue after I'd paid. Then lady came and helped me pack my bags and the man pulled funny face at max and tried to calm him down. They were so lovely and even helped me pack my bags into the car. Home now with a cup of tea and some of DS1's Easter egg whilst he's in nursery

Supermarket meltdowns are my biggest fear. I’ve never had one happen to me - even with a toddler - I fear one day I will be victim (have had regular meltdowns in the park though!!) Nice people save the day!

We had another good night. One wake up at 3. The threenager is a different story. And now I have to go and wake the baby to go to nursery 😣

Did someone say threenager? Blimey, my son has transformed into a different kid lately. We just moved house on Friday so I'm sure some of it is down to the move (I know it can be unsettling) but I'm finding him very hard. Thankfully, Emma has been amazing. X

My baby screams blue murder everytime in aldi. Something about that shop she hstes. Think lightsmaybe or shes just a snob 😂

12wk jabs later. Cant delay them any longer. Please tell me easier then 8 wk ones. Thankfully we had leap 3 last week so shouldnt clash again. Still dredding it tjpugh the last where awful 😢