Feb 06 - 1 already - where did the last year go?!

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CAMERON, Birthdate 6th Jan, Due 28th Jan, Weight 5lbs 13oz, Born to Teuch, Baby no 1, Lives Inner Hebridean Island, Gas & air and morphine
PEYIA, Birthdate 23rd Jan, Due 4th Feb, Weight 6lbs 12.5oz, Born to TicTac, Baby no 1, Lives Horwich, Lancs, Gas & air only
ALEXANDER, Birthdate 24th Jan, Due 4th Feb, Weight ??, Born to Yeahbut, Baby no 3, Lives Holland, Elective c-section
CAITLIN ERIN MONICA, Birthdate 25th Jan, Due 10th Feb, Weight 8lbs 10.5oz, Born to Womba1, Baby no 3 (1 stillborn), Lives Eastbourne, Elective c-section
MAISIE, Birthdate 26th Jan, Due 7th Feb, Weight 8lbs 5.5oz, Born to ellenrose, Baby no 3, Lives Bristol, Induction due to SPD
JESSICA HELEN, Birthdate 30th Jan, Due 9th Feb, Weight 5lbs 11oz, Born to JuA, Baby no 2, Lives Chorley, Lancs, Elective c-section. Twin 1.
EMILY ROSE, Birthdate 30th Jan, Due 9th Feb, Weight 6lbs, Born to JuA, Baby no 2, Lives Chorley, Lancs, Elective c-section. Twin 2.
ELIZABETH GRACE, Birthdate 3rd Feb, Due 3rd Feb, Weight 8lbs 5oz, Born to Kando, Baby no 3, Lives Holland,
PETER, Birthdate 6th Feb, Due 12th Feb, Weight 7lbs 9oz, Born to popmum, Baby no 2, Lives Herts,
LAUREN EMMA, Birthdate 6th Feb, Due 22nd Feb, Weight 6lbs 14oz, Born to Morgan, Baby no 2, Lives Dubai,
PHILIPPA ROSE, Birthdate 8th Feb, Due 2nd Feb, Weight 9lbs, Born to CSWS (Tabs), Baby no 1, Lives North Herts, TENS and gas & air
LEWIS JAMES, Birthdate 9th Feb, Due 31st Jan, Weight 9lbs 2oz, Born to PhoenixGirl (Cuffyj1/lewsmummy), Baby no 1, Lives Barnsley, emerg c-section
SETH PETER, Birthdate 9th Feb, Due 1st March, Weight 7lbs, Born to angedemarche (Jangus), Baby no 2, Lives NI, Elective c-secion
EVIE HARRIET, Birthdate 10th Feb, Due 29th Jan, Weight 9lbs, Born to Hotmama, Baby no 2, Lives Nottingham, emerg c-section
RHUARIDH GEORGE, Birthdate 11th Feb, Due 20th Feb, Weight ??, Born to MrsDoolittle, Baby no 2, Lives Newbury, Water birth
BEN, Birthdate 12th Feb, Due 2nd Feb, Weight 8lbs 4oz, Born to 3K, Baby no 1, Lives Gravesend, Kent, c-sec after failure to dilate sufficiently
OSCAR, Birthdate 12th Feb, Due 13th Feb, Weight 9lbs 10oz, Born to Chloe55, Baby no 1, Lives West Yorkshire, Pethidine, epi & lots of stitches!
LUTHER, Birthdate 14th Feb, Due 6th Feb, Weight 8lbs 8oz, Born to NotAnOtter (4blue1pink), Baby no 5, Lives ??,
ANYA OLIVE CATRIONA, Birthdate 20th Feb, Due 8th Feb, Weight 7lbs 9oz, Born to Popadopalis, Baby no 1, Lives Bedford,
BRAM THOMAS, Birthdate 21st Feb, Due 11th Feb, Weight 9lbs 15oz, Born to mustrunmore (Ixel), Baby no 2, Lives N London, c-sec
LUCA, Birthdate 21st Feb, Due 18th Feb, Weight 8lbs 3oz, Born to 2boysmacca, Baby no 2, Lives N Essex, Home birth
IMOGEN ROSAMOND, Birthdate 23rd Feb, Due 2nd March, Weight 7lbs 9oz, Born to Ags, Baby no 2, Lives Kent, Elective c-section
EMRYS JOHN, Birthdate 24th Feb, Due 24th Feb, Weight 8lbs 5oz, Born to Flamesparrow, Baby no 2, Lives Bournemouth, Home birth
ISABEL ERIKA, Birthdate 24th Feb, Due 3rd March, Weight 7lbs 5.5oz, Born to Amiable, Baby no 1, Lives North London, Gas & air and epidural. DH German
LEON JASON, Birthdate 26th Feb, Due 18th Feb, Weight 7lbs 13oz, Born to Jelley (Jasnem), Baby no 3, Lives Waltham Abbey, Rapid labour, ventouse and episiotomy
SALLY ANIELA, Birthdate 28th Feb, Due 28th Feb, Weight 8lbs 13oz, Born to Thell, Baby no 1, Lives London, Water birth at home
RORY JOHN, Birthdate 25th Feb, Due 23rd Feb, Weight 10lb 2oz, Born to dewmeadow, Baby no 2, Lives County Tyrone, Ireland, emerg c-section
NEVE, Birthdate 4th March, Due 27th Feb, Weight 8lbs 11oz, Born to Frizbe, Baby no 2, Lives Ripley, Derbyshire, Water birth
ALFRED WILLIAM, Birthdate 4th March, Due 27th Feb, Weight 9lbs 15oz, Born to damewashalot (Helen38), Baby no 3, Lives Warwickshire,

ello all, have a great night out csws
Hope you got some ambersol and its worked!

Been out for a nice walk along the cromford canal today with the kids

I saw it but find their website infuriating!

Great photos, he looks older than 1

Cute photos MRM like the cake!
Jas, really, no buggies allowed

Thats because he's huge, apparently!!

No buggies because it gets packed, literally touching people on every side of you. And its a very old building, with loads of stairs, and buggies cause huge bottlenecks!

Cant imagine ever feeling ds1 to be sensible enough to go for a walk by a canal

Why dont you like hte Verbaudet website? I hate all online shopping, but didnt think thart was too bad actually!

Well today I found out that DH has been having an affair!!! I found a text from her a few weeks back and he swore to me that they had had one kiss and it was a mistake. I stupidley believed him. He has been moody too. Today he told me that he had arranged to go to work on overtime, spend the morning walking the dogs then about an hour before work he said he was going in early. I flipped said if he wanted to work it out we needed to talk and I stormed out of the house turning my phone off and leaving DS with him. A few hours later I come home and find both of them out and DH's phone off. Then a friend called and said he wasnt even on the rota for work today. I knew where she lived so I went round there, he called a bit later and said he was shopping in Canterbury so I waited - she returned then he called 15 mins later to say he was home. I asked him outright if he had been with her and he said no so I said they had been seen together and he admitted it. He still tells me they are Not having an affair but he has lied so many times so I have thrown him out after calling his parents to say he has been seeing someone and needed a place to stay. I also called her and gave her a piece of my mind and she said there was nothing going on either and they are just mates. I am well pissed off he took DS with him too. She has a baby and is also married. I'm fuming right now, DS is still up and it will be strange being on my own.

He reckons he will cancel all the DD to the house if he isnt living here but I think I have some rights even though I dont earn a lot. Any one know what I am entitled to?

Right off to put DS to bed but will be back on. You guys are the only company this single mum is going to have from now on.

3k hope you're ok (((((hugs)))))

Dh says u r entitled to half of everything.

3k (((hug)))

I'm sure if you are married you have financial rights, and he is resposible for ds regardless of what else happens.

Do you have any rl support?

3k I'm so sorry. I donr have much time right now, but am going to attempt to say helpful things, which may be foolish as they'll be so brief.
Is he def 'seeing' her? You need to establish how far its gone,and if that makes a difference to you. For example, I'd be far more upset if dh actually felt an emotional link with someone else, rather than just slept with someone else. But thats just me. You need to think carefully about how you'd feel about various things you might find out, so that you are in some way prepared for any inforamtion that may come to light. Yuo also need to consider if you think its worth trying to work things out, both if he agrees to, or if you'd have to convince him of that first. This may well be irreversible, but also it might have elements of misunderstanding, and circumstances leading to events that might not have otherwise happenend. This all sounds a bit vague, because I dont know you well, but I hope you get the gist of it.

Hello,

Thanks for you support. He said he hasnt slept with her and that he doesnt love her she is just a mate but a few weeks back he told me he wouldnt see/text her. The text mess said "night babe, cant wait til tom, Love YOU" He has lied so many times. I do miss him but unless he grovells like mad and regains my trust he can stick it!! I do at the moment feel that all men are tossers too and the fact he took Ben to be with her this afternoon has really peed me off. back soon , mates here xxx

You know, it might also be a rection to suddenly having the responsibility of being a parent. Not that that justifies anything. But you know when you get that feelig of wanting to be a real person again? Even for a while, just to prove you are? Then again, if there's alot of history of dishonesty, that alters things.

Hope you're ok today xx

Morning all,

Had a terrible day yesterday. Only had 2 hours sleep last night and it wasn't because of LO.

Yesterday my DP had a motorbike accident and has smashed his collar bone in two places. Apparently it can take up to four/five months to heal and as he is a window fitter- no work for him
Both he and LO have slept for 10 hours and I have just been lying awake all night worrying about money.

Enough of my woes.

Gingeme- I totally fell off SW diet yesterday- I had pizza. Thought I deserved it after my day.

Hope everybody's LO's are ok.

oops I just gatecrashed your thread! well at least you can all share my woes too.

Was meant to leave a message for 3k on this thread!!

3k- keep your chin up I'm here for you x

3K You know it COULD be innocent. If you were having problems, he may well just be confiding in this women, a shoulder to cry on? The 'love you' could just be a way of signing off, rather than 'I love you'.

MRM is making a lot of sense though.

Hope you can work things out, even if it's just in your head xx

I meant, working things out in your head, Not, 'it's in your head' iyswim

Oh 3k honey, are you sure that he's having an affair? Whilst I totally agree that he shouldn't have lied to you about where he was yesterday, I can see why he might have done if you have forbidden him to have a close female friend. Is it possible that he was just trying to avoid an argument?

Would marriage counselling be an option for you? Perhaps it could help you through this rough patch and you might come out the other side a stronger partnership for it.

Just don't want you to jack it all in now and then regret it years down the line .

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On a much lighter note, the film we saw last night (music & lyrics) was very entertaining, although we got there too late (by the time we'd been through the enormous queue) to watch the trailers which I normally enjoy. I also couldn't have any popcorn (contained milk), which I was gutted about, as I'd been looking forward to it all day, and I hadn't taken my dairy free choc as an alternative.

Oh and fantastic suit mrm!! Did your catering go ok in the end?

Oh honey . Nothing helpful to say - lots of tears for you.

 
MRM - great suit

Hi Ladies,

Well he turned up at 8.50am today and was being very spiteful. He said a lot of bad stuff and we had a physical fight. Well I flew at him in a rage and cut his face. He has really hurt me and was being very cocky this morning like he didnt care.

He did some washing and ironing and I went out for a bit to clear my head then came home and he apologised for all the stuff he said this morning. He said he is staying with someone from work (could be her although he said it wasnt) and before he went he gave me a hug and said sorry for yesterday and he cried too. I really want to believe there isnt anything in it but why all the lies??? And he must see my point of view that I dont want him seeing her because of the kiss a few weeks back. I dont know.

He said we will have a few days apart, I really want to call him but I cant as I dont want him to think I'm going to have him back and then he can do as he pleases. Feeling very lonely at the moment he has really hurt me and by seeing her yesterday when he knew our marriage was hanging on by a thread was the final straw. It has all come to a head now so we will have to see what happens. I'm going to see citizens advice tomorrow and see what will happen if we split up which is very likely at the moment.

Oh 3k.
It sounds like a time apart would be best all round.
Could you go for counselling (together, apart or both)before having him back?
Try not to think too far ahead at the moment, if you can help it.
Take care....

In my little world, the 1/2 term has been great for ds. He is now taking a bottle of milk in the afternoons and only bf at night

mrm - hope you weren't offended by my "huge baby" comment He is a lovely baby and the suit looked really cute

Hi jelley, I'm not even sure he wants me back. He is the one that said we have problems and hasnt spoken to me about them. I feel so down, if I didnt have DS to look after I honestly think I would have done something stupid. I miss him and love him but how can we ever get the trust back???

I suggested relationship counselling on Thurs and he said no.

3k, my best friend has recently been through something similar. She went to counselling on her own, and although now they are definitely apart for good, she is able to cope better and see him without collapsing in a puddle of tears.
Do you have friends to be with you, or family?

Jelley. I suppose its true! Hence he was a huge baby at birth, and I am still huge now In his/my defence, he does look much bigger in the stroller than he does in the p&t!!!

Yes I have a few friends including Pmoore who are helping me through and also my sister and my mum. Actually going over to a friends for a curry about 7.30pm - I havent eaten since yesterday lunchtime!!!!

3K, i really feel for you. I think men generally don't lik the idea of counselling, they are not very good at talking through their feelings at the best of times, let alone to complete strangers.

My boys will be the first of their species to talk about their feelings and not bury their heads in the sand!

Yeah right macca!

3K. Hope you are at least enjoying your curry.

My poor baby is in so much pain that even nurofen and calpol and our attempts at anbesol still leave her crying for hours in her cot . She apparently took over an hour to settle when we went out last night, and she's been sobbing intermittently for 50 mins now. It's making me want to sob with her knowing that there's nothing I can do to make it better. Pleeeeaaaaase let these teeth arrive soon and the pain go, at least for a while.

Oh forgot to say yesterday that she got her first shoes (proper first shoes as opposed to cruising shoes) - dark brown and pink - she looks so grown up in them!

Right, am going for a bath now, as will be too much of a rush to have to wash my hair in the morning - we have tumble tots (she's graduated from gym babes), and then got to pack as driving to my parents straight after lunch. I'll be taking my laptop with me though, so will still log on daily from there!