July 2016

[primarynoodle]

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So we can keep in touch and pass on words of wisdom!

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My weight loss has plateaued... Still half a stone to lose and everything's feeling a bit wobbly! Maternity allowance doesn't give me much cash to play with either :/ (and breastfeeding doesn't give me much time!)

julfin I totally hear you. It's so hard to distinguish between normal baby blues and pnd. I go between feeling so isolated and feeling like nobody understands what I'm feeling or why I'm feeling that to real bursts of love for my baby. Every mum I speak to and confess my feelings to echoes how I feel as have others on here though so don't feel guilty for it. On the whole I think the nhs are great for providing quick support for pnd (although may be a bit of a postcode lottery) so definitely have a chat with gp. for you

Anyone else finding their baby is becoming more clingy as time goes on? Annie was great at first for giving me frequent half hour bursts to get things done but now if she's wake she wants to be held! My sling is a bit rubbish - doesn't support her head very well yet at all

A wee story to brighten your day - and clue you into my maturity level.

I've said before how Adam seems to squirm and cry when he's bothered with wind and poo. Well my mum and dad were round for lunch and he was squirming and crying so my mum took him and walked around the house with him.

He finally relieved himself of his poo, but my nappy skills obviously didn't stand the test (or perhaps because they're pampers and I just don't think they're wonderful). Yup.

He shat on the kitchen floor. Escaped the nappy, right down him leg.

Interestingly, he missed my mum!

I pissed myself laughing!

Rose is definitely more clingy. She'll only sleep in the day on somebody or in the sling. The pram, Moses basket and mat just don't cut it!

socks I'm laughing at the Freddos and poo. We had a similar poo that went all over me and the couch earlier. Doesn't matter how tight that nappy is on sometimes!!

blue I did have a really rough time with DD as she was poorly and never slept. But I still think people are embarrassed to talk about how hard it is. We're all expected to be wonderful wives/partners / Mums who look great, have a clean house etc. In reality that rarely happens! Second time round is much easier as I care so much less about that stuff! It does get easier and you'll get time to go the gym, that's what I would do a few times a week to have time for me. Just focus on baby and feeding for now. This time goes so fast and you'll miss it, although it doesn't feel that way!

Oh good if we're all stuffing our faces I'll carry on! Well done primary I've only lost a stone but am losing a pound each day currently! Love jumping on the scales for once!

thom sending you postive thoughts today - hope it goes well and that you're well enough for cuddles really soon. Xx

Clingy baby here too! I don't really mind tbh, I'm so enjoying cuddles after having 3 days when we couldn't at the start. I'm going to be one of those mums!!! .

Oh Lordy, the weight....I reckon I'll be in maternity jeans for a while. Can't even think about life without cake and icecream at mo. Haven't been near scales since my last midwife apt - I'm in denial that I've got loads of weight to lose!!!!

anna that is lovely advice. Thank you xxx

anna I did pack on over 3 stone in pregnancy though

sock LOL what a cracking 18th birthday party embarrassing story!!

I feel a bit left out! I'm doing Slimming World to shrink my c-section overhang.

I miss cake!

Hi flossie I've done slimming world before and lost lots but it wasn't working for me this time so I thought I would try weight watchers. It's fitting in with family meals better so far but it is only day 3!!!

Ahh checking in and catching up. Mega crazy week here! DD1 s birthday, loads of day trips and not enough sleep! sock just to add my DH has been a total prick at times too. Sending hugs and hope you are ok.

pulpi and anna congrats they are gorgeous!! Grace looks so old already I can't believe it! Beautiful too.

I've read but now I'm so tired I've forgotten .. Tomorrow I will try again! Also clingy baby! Adds to nothing being done. He used to sleep so well too

flossie I'm starting eating right this week (I hope) and back to the gym next. I got on the scales this morning after a weekend of indulgence and I had PUT ON weight. What the actual fuck. Whoever said breast feeding makes you lose weight is a liar

oh and hugs julfin always speak up. Be kind to yourself we are always always here. There's isn't a thought one of us won't have had

George is 5 weeks today- how did that happen??

Anna really good advice, thank you. I was thinking earlier that tomorrow I would like to sit down and make a list of nice things that I could potentially achieve over the next few weeks, and I did think that at the top should be 'enjoy Ruben'. I shouldn't need reminding, but I do.

flossie and becks can't believe you're on diets already - v impressed. I dipped back under 9st today - but only by 0.2lbs, haha! I have no idea what I weighed at my heaviest but my pre-pregnancy weight was around 8st7lbs in my gym clothes. As I have only lost a pound in the last week I have a feeling it might be a long long time till I get back there...

DH has stopped being quite so golden today. Or maybe I'm just super tired - not sure. He has gone on about feeling knackered despite having had nearly ten hours' sleep the last two nights. He has acknowledged aloud that he couldn't do what I'm doing without going crazy, and gave me a kiss and a cuddle when I cried earlier because I was so tired and Ruben demanded feeding again - but then because I didn't cheer up immediately (I was grumpy that u was stuck feeding in a room where he had the olympics on which I didn't want to watch or hear) told me I should stop being miserable and be grateful for having a healthy baby, which obviously I am but jeez Louise I was feeling a bit fragile for a few minutes and is that not allowed?!

Also, he has gone on and effing on at me to express so he can help. This morning I expressed. When I suggested he use it earlier so I could sleep, he asked me to warm it up because he was holding the baby. I told him not to bother and breast fed instead. I felt if I prepared it, it would be somewhat defeating the point of it giving me a rest!

And to crown it, I finally got to sleep at 2130. At 2300 DH brings him in for a feed and I stupidly latched him on before checking whether he had changed his nappy. Nope. Last nappy change was the one I did at dinner time. So now I have to wake him up after the feed for a change.

Moan over! He has been really fab with me in times of extreme crisis so I shouldn't bitch, and I have been difficult and grumpy today, but oh man I am so tired and he hasn't helped relieve the grumpiness!!!

Ooooo I think I got Ruben back to sleep after the nappy change without resorting to feeding him again! Going to very very quietly turn the lamp off... Wish me luck!

PS sorry about the whinge above. DH is right really and i should be grateful for how lucky I am, which is even more effing annoying because he is right!!!

Oh Lord, we are back to hourly intervals between feeds all night as well as all day! My poor nipples!

Bluebell I'd be irritated with your DH too. Can he not warm milk up and hold the baby at the same time? What does he think you do when he's not there? Men don't seem to realise that we do everything single handedly most of the time!

Bluebell - your early morning spice rack pic if you please. Slight design flaw is that bar across the front but luckily spice nerd has alohabeticized! Sorry to hear about DH but please don't feel bad for criticising him..it's the little routines (has the nappy been changed/have you winded/is dummy in reach etc) that they seem incapable of remembering and which are all important.

My top tip: expressed and formula does not have to be warmed. I often use cold from fridge and Claudia takes it. Saves much faffing.

Julfin - I hope you're talking to folk in RL too. It is such a colossal mind duck right now xx

Er mindfuck not mind duck?! I'd love to see one of those quacking away inside my brain.

OMG, spice rack envy! I am planning on getting an IKEA drawer insert for mine. Your stock (badum tish) looks v similar to mine! I have that tin of smoked paprika that you have to open with a teaspoon! And (I see your spice-nerd and raise you) those Bart ones with the double lid! Genius!

Sorry, babies? What?

Nobber Spice xxx

Now that is a lovely spice rack eliz We too have that paprika - lovely stuff!

Mo feeding hourly through the night and in such a general windy grump this morning. bluebell - nips are savaged here too

We've got my other godmother coming for a couple of days and lovely though she is, she's quite high maintenance and currently on zero sleep and super sore boobs I'm not sure how we're going to manage. Actually looking forward to having no visitors next week so Mo and I can hang out in our pants all day if we choose!!! Also, anyone else finding visitors don't help?! MiL and FIL came yesterday and we ran around after them all eve. I mean they held the baby (unless he was crying of course) while we did dinner, got them drinks, cleared up....they're not the only ones. I'm a bit fed up of people turning up and expecting to be waited on. Grrrrr

Here's Benjamin the tiger! Cute!

becks love the tiger outfit!

cheery so glad it's not just me - nearly fell out with my dad and brother big time when they turned up and did just that. No offer to help with anything despite being told that they wouldn't get 'normal service' and then buggered off leaving us with an even grubbier house and a kitchen full of washing up. Took me about a week to get over that.

julfin just to repeat everyone else, keep talking and it really is hard for everyone. I have cried over so much in the last 4 weeks, but reading/hearing that other people feel the same helps a lot. Hope you get the support that you need for you

eliz that's a marvellous spice rack, bet putting that in alphabetical order was hugely satisfying?

bluebell 'brings him in for a feed' an hour and a half after you finally get some rest?! I'd have gone mad at that alone if there was any expressed milk in the house. Huey gets it cold/briefly shown the hot tap as well, he's not fussed if he's really hangry.

Bucking the trend here slightly, but anyone else getting a bit peeved with the world's obsession with keeping babies asleep? Like ALL the time, never allowing them to wake up and have a look around? After a weekend with relatives constantly shushing and rocking and cuddling, we've had two awful evenings of refusing to sleep and being very cranky, can't help but feel like the poor little lad has too much energy to use up. Am I crazy for thinking this?

Oh, and on the weight loss front, I salute all you ladies who have managed to get cracking on diets already. I'm still inhaling cake and biscuits at all opportunities! Also seem to have lost the scales somewhere in 'project bathroom' and have so far put zero effort into looking for them.

1 month old today

Ruby I'm 100% with you! I let Rose be awake for as much as she likes during the day and I find she does better nights as a result. I've never understood the fixation with making babies sleep ALL the time. So long as she's not grouchy, she can do as she pleases! It's fairly obvious when she's tired and could do with a nap.

Yes! I like it when he's awake and peeping. He likes looking at my bedroom curtains.

Ruby I have your scales, so no need to look for them. Carry on with the cake #stuffhealthyeating #stuffyourface #stuffyourprepregclothesbackinthedrawer

That said, at some point I will prob restart WW, I like counting points, plus you get berluddy loads if you're exclusively bf.

Bluen and Cheery boo to clustery feeds and ravaged extremities. My right nip is pissing me off!! Also my right elbow is so painful and I just can't rest it sufficiently for it to get better, esp when feeding off the right side and having my arm bent back like I'm doing a mental chicken pose, just to shove humongourboob into his chops.

Right. I have just shovelled pancakes and free Waitrose coffee down and poured as much milk as I can into the boy. Going to see if I can settle him and get a ceiling painted. With my left hand. After dragging the vat of paint indoors using something akin to Stonehenge construction methods.