The 11th Gemini bus - Trudging through the terrible twos

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Lor - thank you Have a lovely day nesting! Don't panic...all those little bits don't take as much time as you think but yes definitely sleep and wiggle your toes in the duvet because you can spend an extra few minutes in bed without anyone crying for you

Yay, I'm going home soon! Think my mum is determined to keep bpear another night as she's terrified I'm going to start bleeding again Probably not the worst idea but I do miss him!! So annoying that DH doesn't have one of those "work from home" jobs!!

A bit more rest wouldn't hurt that's for sure. Glad they're happy for you to go though

Hope you're both enjoying a bit of me-time!

Just catching up. Sounds like quite the scare you've had pear! So glad that you're able to be home and rest in your own comfortable spots. Hard to be in-hospital and totally relax... so glad things have settled down. Do they have any ideas on what could be causing the bleeds?

Good lord, 37 weeks already lor! I can't believe how that flew.

Bring - Yes, a cervical ectropion.

Feeling really angry with DH and I don't know whether it's because I'm hormonal or what. Firstly, it really annoyed be that on the way home he said he didn't sleep well last night...wtf? Then, when I went for a nap this afternoon he went for a nap. Now he's decided to set up work next to me in the living room when actually I just wanted a bit of peace. Just pissed off really because I feel bad that my mum has bpear in her 70's when actually Dh could have easily had him.
I think DH isn't doing his best at all. He's very quick and happy to go to work and not relieve my mother which I don't get at ALL!

My mother is texting me saying she wants to keep bpear longer. That's not making me happy either I think I've done really well not being with him for 3 days but I'd like him back now.

Also, why is it I leave hospital and the spotting gets worse Just feeling totally fed up now as this has now become a constant worry.

Sorry...moan over! Promise

Yuck. I seriously seriously SERIOUSLY hate when DH does that kind of shit too. It's like they are going out of their way to be annoying. Especially when it's scenarios like that- you having something medical that needs attention and suddenly the attention is being taken away from them and they need to point out and reiterate how special they are and how much attention they still deserve. OMG. I so feel for you right now. Probably because I'm on period day #1 so I'm annoyed by my own husband, yours is getting it from me too. Moan away my friend, moan away! It's one of the reasons I am SO THANKFUL for all you ladies on this thread helping to keep me sane over the years in knowing that I'm not the only one!

Maybe just one more night and then go get him in the morning?

Ha ha thank you Bring You described it perfectly! Men!!! I am looking forward to him going to work in the morning My mum
Is probably right to keep bpear until tea-time tomorrow. Although, she has now admitted that he's crying for me now so I don't think it's all roses like she's making out It's a tough call because I'm torn between resting and keeping my mum safe because she's very fragile herself so I have to think of that side of things. It's not like I'm handing him over to a fit 70 year old. I wouldn't be so worried if I was. Also, it's just her as I don't have a dad. On the flip side if I don't rest I could start bleeding again and be back in hospital. I think I'll just see what the morning brings

On the bright side tonight I cooked us a really lovely sirloin steak meal with new potatoes, spinach and beans with parsley garlic butter. The kind of adult meal that was timed perfectly and nothing was burnt

Just spoke to my mum and she is now saying that she feels bpear is too homesick now so she's bringing him back in the morning. I bet he's going to give me the raspberry when he sees me Hope not though...hope I get a hug!!

Ahhh pear what a horrible scare!!
I bled atleast 3 times with kitten, earlyish on about 16/17 wks and can't remember the other but after a fall. There was no real reason the other times but it scares you. It is very common though just telling you in the hope if you hear real stories itl help ease bad thoughts.
We went away the Easter weekend to a caravan site and had a lovely family time. Not great weather but enjoyable
17wks lor where has the time gone
Frus how's dd hearing now?

Ooh that does sound like a lovely dinner!

Boys have a K/1st grade concert at school this evening at 6:15. How horrible of a mum am I to find the whole thing a giant pain in the ass? It messes with our evening schedule which is trying on the best night. They always have cookies and juice afterward which just drive our kids batty if they have it so we avoid and have to practically drag them screaming back out to the car. Plus M is a giant ball of emotion today so it should be a lovely experience trying to keep her from a)screaming b)running up to the stage c)running out into the hallway d)pushing down some other kid her size.

Bring - how did it go? Hopefully better then you described or imagined it to pan out? Sounds like a juggling act on your hands with the school and M!

Kitty - Thanks for sharing your story. It does help to hear that other people have had bleeds that turn into nothing. I'm trying so hard to stay calm and not have any silly thoughts

So, no more heavy bleeds TG but I'm still waiting for things to completely settle. I'm clearing the diary next week and resting as much as possible.

Bpear is back home and isn't acting normal at all. One minute he's having complete off the wall meltdowns over tiny tiny things and the next moment he wants a hug. This feels like a practise run for when the baby arrives Maybe we need the preparation!!

Aww little guy is just working through that separation. It's tough when they do that! But, yes, you are so right in this is a small preview for newborn sibling time. Glad there have been no more bleeds!

It was fine. She did do a lot of the above. We had to make 2 potty breaks, she kept saying 'I need my brothers, I NEED TO SING TOO!" and so completely uninterested in sitting or even staying in our row. Thankfully they did not offer cookies whathaveyou and so we managed to get the heck outta there quickly. Slightly frustrated that it's always the case that DH gets to enjoy something while I'm wrestling with M. He gets flustered when I ask him to help, which M totally plays off of and therefore I still end up being the default toddler-carer and do not get to enjoy those kinds of things. I think for the next one, I might just even hire a sitter for 2 hours so that I can appreciate the older two's hard work and take them out for dinner or something.

Ha ha bring! I love the sentences they come out with. They don't hold anything back do they Annoying, but also very cute that she wanted to be part of the stage I bet she will make up for it when it's her turn Great idea to get a sitter next time... Although sometimes just as much hassle I bet!! So often you have to weigh up the cons and pros!

Oh Lordy.... I'm really not ready for newborn toddler tantrums lol I now have a feeling it's going to hit v badly in our household isn't it if this is what happens after 2 nights away I realised the other day that when I had bpear I was in hospital for 4 nights...eeek!! Just because I've been harsh honest about DH I should probably mention that he is dealing with this like a pro and being really firm but kind with DS. I feel like he is doing way more disciplining and I'm getting to give more hugs which makes a very refreshing change and all by himself. Credit to him!!

Frus - great news that things are slowly on the up with your DD! You must feel very proud of her. Sounds like she's doing really well

Frus - I would love that! I had a 4th degree tear last time so it was a traumatic experience to say the least. I think I'd be seriously lucky to get out in 6hrs! I see the consultant in 3 few weeks to discuss how we prevent it happening again.

Odd to think I'll be 19 weeks tomorrow. Maybe the second half of my pregnancy isn't going to go as slow as I think it will!

How amazing is this weather I took bpear to the local park and sat in the sandpit for an hour. Almost felt like we should be wearing flip flops and suncream! Sorry bring if spring hasn't reached you yet

Oh my goodness pear 19 weeks already! That's so exciting! Have you felt any little feet yet? Not sure if you're into this sort of thing, but when I was a student midwife I saw a few mums use hypnobabies (self study) or hypnobirth (an instructor-led class) who had suffered with large tears with previous babies and were able to tooootally relax and push out their babies without tearing. It was pretty amazing!

That's great news frus! That's really cool that you can already start to see results and especially that she seems happy with the hearing aids.

We are planning a spontaneous weekend off to Bainbridge Island, WA. I'm so excited to be going somewhere new to explore with the kids as DH and I are really feeling the blues about the stresses that are happening around here. I've been slipping into depression since getting back from FL and visiting my mum and just feel like I wan to run away from it all. DH and I have been arguing a lot lately due to my mood and me trying to keep it together for the family so just feeling absolutely exhausted by evening time and do not feel like being around anyone, especially giving more time and attention (and myself) to someone else. We really need a break that brings us out to mother nature and remember how to be present and take things in again. It feels good just having something to look forward to and knowing there's something that's going to feel better than how I feel right now. (ok, my own personal journaling on mumsnet is now over )

And no. Spring has not sprung here yet. We are dealing with super cold deceiving weather. It looks gorgeous out but the wind is FREEZING.

Glad you're having some nice weather though!

Bring pear is leading you on, it's blue it's still f£&sing cold!!!
I'm not feeling happy about the weather at all, if we are ment to be plaguing the planet with global warming can it not be warm?!?
Frus that sounds fantastic, it must feel like such a victory even the smallest of changes that possibly only you notice
Bring I think the babysitter thing is a defo it's nice to enjoy the older ones every now and again and a meal out would be a tart at the end where they feel special too, toddlers do a great job at directing all attention to them for they and it's hard to focus on anything else!

Kitty - We must be living in different parts of the U.K.? Bpear didn't wear a coat all weekend and I was very tempted to take my light jacket off on Saturday too! Strange, I thought we lived in a similar area!

Bring - your family adventure booking sounds lovely, and just want you need to get you through!! I know how you feel...it's very very hard to keep ploughing on sometimes when you have family like we do. They require so much out of us, emotionally draining, and sometimes I feel like I'm left dry and there's little strength left for myself and my own family unit. Nothing I can say to make it better but I know that there is light at the end of this corner

I started feeling movement at 17 weeks but I wasn't exactly sure until I was in hospital and the midwife confirmed that what I was feeling was indeed a kick when she was listening in on the Doppler.

It's a week today that I first went into hospital and I've woken up to more bleeding. This is just horrible I don't want to go back, I know there is nothing they can do other then check the hb which I have done with my own Doppler this morning. I've also felt reassuring kicks this morning. I've started taking photos of this grim experience so that I can keep a record. If it was much worse then last week then I would go in but it's the same. A tiny part of me is saying go back in though

Oh and thanks bring. I will definitely look into hypno birthing this week!

Decided not to go into hospital as everything has stopped again and this so far is a repeat from last Tuesday. I've read on google that this is A very common and B some people talk about it ending after the 20th week. I think if it happens again I will call the hospital.

Oh and DH agrees that I look a bit bigger today and after doing his own googling he turned and asked me what "DH" means and "DD"