June 2015 - our adorable babies are here!

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Right, I'll start us a post natal thread that we can gibber on.

We had vomit sunami X2 yesterday. One just before our dinner, which necessitated a quick bath/hair wash (which toots hated til sat her in the water then she was happy -ish). 2nd was about half 11 and all down her dad, took. But since then she slept for four hour stretches and been much more settled.

We formula feeding on demand (anywhere from 30ml to 90mls) but I don't know if we fed too much or didn't wind properly. But she is pooing for Britain so no problems that end.

Not planning to start weaning for a couple of weeks. Planning traditional weaning ie purées and finger foods

Sleep here is dreadful. Dd has a cold which she has generously passed to me and has been waking every 20 mins or so. Feeling crushed

zaha yes we are doing BLW. He's loving roasted sticks of potato, squash, parsnip, and sweet potato. Also gave him a suck on a bit of satsuma, and he's pretty keen on banana. Going to try green beans next. I think that's a good point about allergies. He's a little red around the eyes but he rubs potato into them so it's hardly surprising. Bloody wally. He turned six months almost a week ago.

Think I hope you get some rest soon. It's awful, the sleep deprivation.

Sweet potato seemed MUCH better today, not pulling quite as many faces 😃. Gave her some to play squish in her hands with but she was more interested in the highchair toy (now covered in sweet potato)

Tomorrow will be the test.
Trying to decide if I should buy a microwave. Heating such tiny amounts on cooker is a pain!

Morning,

Breaking news: DS slept from 10 to 5am!!!!!!!!! Of course, I hardly slept at all, going in to his room every hour or so to check he was breathing....

I am hoping that this is not just a fluke and that weaning plus him being in his own room, will help him sleep better at night.

On the weaning front, DS love spinach! But he is starting to refuse bottles of EBM during the day. Apparently this can happen, when babies decide that they want to eat solids, and start refusing milk. I have been advised to add yogurt if this continues.

Hope you and your LO are all ok

I'm glad to hear that on the whole weaning is going well for you all. Banana is a hit here too, we are going to try stewed apple and pear next.

zah I hope that the sleep last night wasn't a fluke for you.

Does anyone have some advice on our sleep situation? Since introducing food it is much easier to get DS to nap during the day, but he now tends to have a nap in the evening instead of settling down for the night. He is usually properly going to sleep for the night at 11-midnight, or in the case of last night 1am, he still has a full 'night' sleep and is generally waking at 9-10am. DS is obviously tired in the evening but can't seem to go back to sleep until he is absolutely exhausted. How can I get him to continue sleeping from 8.30, or get him back to sleep quicker? I thought part of it may be teething but his second tooth came through last Wednesday.

Well! Just as I was considering giving up weaning and trying again in a couple of weeks, DD has suddenly taken to it and now has TWO meals a day. Thinking of introducing some finger foods now but as she still looks suspiciously at any food i put on her tray I'm not holding my breath that introducing it will be successful!

If it was a toy though, that would be picked up, examined for 2 secs then into her mouth for a chew

How's the sleeping coming along excited?

The last 2 nights DS has been asleep by 10pm and has got up at around 9am with a couple of sleepy feeds in that time. Food is going well and he is having 2 meals a day, he isn't too keen on this weeks sweet potato, carrot and peas but adding milk seems to make it better. We had a 12oz weight gain over 2 weeks recently so very excited about that.

Are other babies increasing their activity level too? DS is managing to roll around and do a little commando crawl to get to where he wants to be.

Wow excited. That's brilliant, food, sleep and weight wise 😃

My dd is still refusing to roll on the floor. Demon in her cot and now manages to roll in her blooming gro-bag! No commando crawling here. She just wants to sit up all the time but has started launching herself forward to reach things then so is probably not far off crawling

What you all getting babies for Xmas? I'm trying to find nice outfits but not found anything I like yet

Happy Monday everyone,

Glad to hear that sleep is improving for your LO excited.
And weaning seems to be going well for a few of you!
My DS is now eating happily twice a day: vegetable puree for lunch and apple compote around 4pm. He loves the purees, and tries to spoon-feed himself. We tried offering finger food: slides of avocado, butternut, etc, but he doesn't like it, and gets very frustrated, so we decided to go down the traditional weaning route, and continue to introduce finger food slowly.
For those doing purees, how much are you giving per meal?
Has anyone started introduced meat/fish?

Activity wise, he can now roll over both ways, and finds it fun to move around by rolling on the floor. He can almost sit independently, and manages it for a few seconds before toppling over!

He is also very vocal, and starting to make syllable sounds: ba, da, etc..

Hello everyone.

BLW is starting to work for us although I am not sure DD has actually eaten anything yet. She has completly grasped the idea of putting food in her mouth and chewing, so I am sure swallowing will happen soon.

No syllable sounds here but she does do a long drawn out kind of sighing sound and looks really pleased if you mimic it back to her - it probably translates in baby talk to something to do with chocolate!

Hi All,

I have a question regarding transitioning from breastfeeding to formula. I'm sorry I can't remember who BF or who does formula on this thread.

I returned to work when DS was just shy of 4 months, and I pumped 2-3 times a day at work, to leave my expressed breastmilk with the nanny.
While I was very determined to give him BF as long as possible, the pumping was tiring and often quite impractical to fit into my working days, when I often have meetings in and out of the office.

So, when DS turned 6 months (ie last week), I decided to drop a bottle (and hence a pumping session) and substitute with formula. I started dropping the mid-afternoon bottle (which the nanny gives him).
I will now probably drop the second EBM bottle at midday too. I would like to keep the morning and evening feeding sessions, but I am concerned that I might not produce enough milk. I have really mixed feelings, on the one side, I know that by switching completely to formula, I will feel less tired and stressed by the logistics, but conversely I am very sad at the idea of stopping breastfeeding!

Any advice, thoughts, experience?

What are you all doing on this front?

I've bottle fed from the start so I'm no help I'm afraid.

Maybe post on the infant feeding or weaning board? Or just in chat? I'm sure you get a lot of advice/help that way. Good luck though!

Tried DD with yogurt & fruit puree tonight. OH MY GOD went everywhere and then mini fits of rage when i didnt get the next spoon into her

I packed a bag and walked out leaving DSunday behind yesterday as I was convinced that he would be better off without me. I do love him I just really don't think that I am the best for him

Oh excitedbutsick where did you go?

Have you been feeling this way for a while? (Please have a massive hug)

Id there someone in rl you can talk to?

I went to the local council offices and settled down on the pavement. I've been feeling this way on and off since he was 6 weeks old. I theoretically have people to talk to in rl but I feel guilty for burdening them. We are under the early intervention health visitor and I see a peri-natal psychiatrist but I feel I would be letting them down if I said how bad the PND can be

Please talk to some one excited. Anyone. I promise you, you will not be a burden. Whats more you are not letting anyone down.

your psychiatrist is being paid to help you with your PND. So use them. (Blunt i know, sorry!) But its their job to listen and to help you put coping/thinking strategies in place.

In the meantime, can you use mn as a sounding board? Maybe post in chat?

Im off to bed soon but will check in in the morning.

Remember YOU ARE NOT A BURDEN

How are you this morning excited?

Oh excited
Please do speak to people in RL. The psychiatrist is there to help you get through PND. You will not be burdening anyone and with the right help and support, you will get back on track and things will start to look much better.
Please take care of yourself.

excited the others are right, you are definitely not a burden. How are you feeling this morning? This thread may be a bit quiet but we are here to support you too.

((((((Hugs)))))))))

I've been struggling to put into words how I feel but I think the best way to describe it is flat and deflated. I have currently run out of meds but every phonecall I made to the GP I was told that there was no appointments available on the system. I have finally managed to secure an appointment for next Friday. I still need to book an appointment for DS regarding allergy testing as he was reacting to fish, but I don't have the energy to fight for it at the moment.

I have no interest in washing, dressing or eating and drinking for myself. My sleep is utter shit and I am awake every hour through the night. I am continuing to make sure that DS is clean, dressed and fed at proper times. I want to shout "Shut the fuck up" every time DS cries, but I am trying to keep smiling and playing with him. I know that I am failing him and that he would be better off in another family, and that both he and DH would do much better without me around.

I have hurt myself a few times by hitting and biting. I burst into tears several times a day. Life and my marriage were so much better before.

excited what an awful cycle you are in.

First of all does your dh know how you are feeling? Show him your post so he knows exactly where you are mentally.

Second. Can you take yourself off to out of hours? If you are seeing a pyschiatrist, do you have access to mental health team. I think you need your meds quicker than next friday.
Perhaps even go to a&e if you feel the need to self-harm again.

Third. Can you go to the health visitor re fish allergy? My dd has what i think is an egg allergy. No testing is happening. Gp could not have been less interested

As for ds crying etc. Oh my god, i think you are showing marvellous restraint not shouting. Ive just had an EPIC battle of wills with dd trying to get her to sleep. Constant muttering under breath "GO TO SLEEP" nearly in tears too. All the tears takes me back to the first few weeks and i quite often have to just walk away for a few minutes. have just poured myself some booze it was that bad

You are doing so well. You really are.

Im terrible for not remembering to eat or drink. But now we are weaning im getting better as i eat and drink at same time so its a social thing. Would it help if you try to do the same?

(I really wish you were close to me so i could pop round to chat with you in rl)

Where are you excited?

You aren't failing anyone. It is SO HARD not to shout at them sometimes, isn't it? And the pressure on a relationship from a baby is more than I ever imagined. You are doing well, but you are in an awful cycle and you aren't getting the medical help you need. Can you kick up a fuss to get what you need?

We are here for you xx

DH knows how I feel but finds it very hard to pick up on social signals, so doesn't always recognise how I feel. We have now developed the code 'I like bananas' for when I feel down and need a hug.

I was seeing a peri-natal mental health nurse but that ended 4 months ago with my agreement. My local OOH would be A+E but I am reluctant to attend as it is the site at which I work. Plus, I am scared that if I attend with DS we will be separated.

I discussed the fish allergy symptoms with the HV and she advised booking into the GP. comeagain I am shocked that your GP is not interested in an egg allergy. I have decided to give up on the tea-time battle off wills here as DS plain refuses mashed/lumpy food but is fine with stage 1 jars, finger food and anything from my plate. I figure that it is more important for him to eat something. We are also in the middle of teething hell, DS is working on tooth 7 and we are averaging 1 a week.

I'm not feeling desperate like I did the other day, but at the same time I don't feel 'right' either.

excited im glad your DH knows and that you have a code. Thats a really good idea. I completely understand with regards your work being the same as OOH.

Ah yes food battles. If my dd had her way every meal would consist of sweet potato, bread and pea/corn stick things. Shame i make her try loads of different things. Beef curry last night all mashed/shredded as she also doesnt seem to like it too lumpy.... but is fine with finger foods?

Im glad you are a bit better. One day at a time. You will get there

excited, I think it's great that you have a code with your DH (I might actually nick your idea, as my DP also has difficulty spotting when I am feeling down).

I am also glad to hear that you are feeling a bit better; I am sure there will be ups and downs, but I hope that things are improving overall.

I see that your DS has 7 teeth already!!! Mine doesn't even have one. I keep on thinking that he is teething, but nothing there.

On the feeding side on things, I sort of gave up BLW, as DS just played with the food, and nothing went in his mouth. But he definitely eats his purees well. I wonder if I should try introducing more/different foods/textures.

Still haven't got sleeping sorted out... on a good night he wakes up once during the night, and then is awake from around 6sih.
On a bad night, we are up 4 times!