June 2015 - our adorable babies are here!

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Right, I'll start us a post natal thread that we can gibber on.

We had vomit sunami X2 yesterday. One just before our dinner, which necessitated a quick bath/hair wash (which toots hated til sat her in the water then she was happy -ish). 2nd was about half 11 and all down her dad, took. But since then she slept for four hour stretches and been much more settled.

We formula feeding on demand (anywhere from 30ml to 90mls) but I don't know if we fed too much or didn't wind properly. But she is pooing for Britain so no problems that end.

wenglish I'm feeling overwhelmed as well. DD is 12 days old now, I'm a ftm. And I feel hopeless at times. But I that that sleep makes the difference. After my least restful nights, I get weepy. And as I'm ff then we are at least getting some long periods of sleep in comparison.

Bravo to the bf'ers! Dunno how you do it!

I went out to drive my car this afternoon. Just me, to see how I faired. Bit nippy at the stitches but nothing to bad.

Considering I've had a cough since DD born, you can imagine how sore those stitches have got at times!!

Also had to take DD to Gp already. Not even got her registered yet but she registered at the Dr's.

She has a wee haematoma on her jaw line that we can only assume is from the forceps! Not that it's bothering her of course!

Glad it's not just me comeagain glad your dd is ok. I have stitches too, can't really feel them at the moment though. Does get a bit nippy when I cough or sneeze mind.

Breastfeeding is stressing me out a bit to be honest. How on earth I will ever feed without my enormous cushion and being in bed I dont know. I don't know how much she is taking and she goes longer in the day but this evening it's been every 2 hours but not always a big feed. Maybe 5 minutes?
Hoping she goes down for at least an hour tonight. I really need the sleep!
I actually have to go out tomorrow- I don't want to!
I know it's not DH's fault but I wish he could do more, feel a bit abandoned.
Tomorrow is another day.

Hello - can I join please? My DS was born on Thursday by a very unexpected EMCS and we're both home now but really struggling with BF. We are waiting for a tongue tie referral and I really hope that helps! It's great to read on here that other people are in the same boat with lack of sleep at night - I thought it was just my baby that had day and night confused!

Wenglish, I remember being really stressed about how I'd feed dd anywhere but "my chair" at home... I couldn't even feed in bed to begin with because I had to be "just so" to get the latch anything less than excruciating. It does get better, and as baby gets more used to latching and the neck gets stronger it's easier to pop them on whenever.

Bloody hard work at first though. I'm bleeding so much through raw nipples that ds is vomming up awful looking posset, poor dot. Hurts to buggery too. Off to another bf support session this morning...

Birdy hi and welcome Congratulations on your baby . It certainly takes them a while to get day and night sussed!!!

Ps wenglish meant to say cluster feeding like that in the evening is frustratingly normal.....

Hi wenglish and birdy welcome.. You are not alone in any thing so don't panic! It's all totally normal and it all does pass even if at the time it feels like it will never end... The breastfeeding pain is indeed excruciating at times but as others said it does pass but if you do feel it's too much then that's fine too you do whatever works for you and your baby

Ooh news flash. We're off to ikea as a family today!! First outing with baby on car. Nervous as hell but I'm a stick to the limit driver anyway. Plus I must keep in mind that DD would probably be unscathed with all her car seat protection.

It's also quite warm today. At last putting a wash put afore we go

I feel almost like a human again doing these tiny things! Bet I need a two hour nap afterwards!

Enjoy ikea comeagain,
Welcome newbees
We have finally been discharged from MW today at 26 days, dd is back to birth weight, yay.

come enjoy your trip! I've cleaned my bathrooms and done a wash too makes you feel good doesn't it.. To get back into some form of normality!

jazzy congrats on being discharged! Mabel still isn't back to her birth weight but is being weighed again Thursday so hoping she is back up but being such a lump I'm not worried!

Lol mabel was a good size borm wasnt she, what did she go down to? Is she about 3 weeks now?
Florrie was 7lb 14.. Went down to 7lb 2oz and is now exactly birth weight at 3+4.
We only have about 15 babies to go now if the ppl on FB... Ob still about double that of the mn girls but alot dont post anymore so may already of had babies, hope to see afew familiar names re join onto here.
Has anyone seem mrse post anywhere? Always wondered how she got on, she was on #6 i think??

Jazzy she was 9lb 5 at birth then went down to 9lb she is now 9lb 1 so not too much of a loss but health visitor seems to think she should be back up!! Yes she is 3 weeks on Friday... Time flies doesn't it! How is Florrie doing? Does she sleep well? I haven't seen MrsE around, I was wondering how she was...

I am also struggling to get feeding sorted. I am breastfeeding, but I have to use nipple shields. DS seems to be a bit of a lazy feeder, so he latches on but then falls asleep quite quickly, and doesn't necessarily have enough to eat. I am expressing milk to give via bottle to complete his feed.
All in all not a very satisfying solution.
Wenglish, did your midwife suggest ways to wean off the nipple shields?
I am using them as my nipples are small and DS can't latch on properly without, but I have read that its best not to use them all of time...

Well my wee yin has decided that sleeping during the day is for sissies. Huge yawns but desperately fighting the sleep! Hilarious to watch except for when she's screaming with tiredness!

Sorry I can't help with the breastfeeding woes ladies does and help at all?

come Mabel did this for a few days and has only just settles back down to sleeping again in big chunks during the day I think she was having a growth spurt so maybe it's the same for your little one.. Hope is settles soon for you! Also the swinging chair has helped during the day she likes to sleep in there incase you haven't tried that?!

She sleeps pretty well chook, tends to cluster feed abit in the evenings, 6-9ish but will hav a break for a bath at around 7 and likes to lie next to dd1 in bed for a story then is generally 3-4 hourly.. Midnight, 3am, 6am but only has small feeds, more for comfort... My only issue is she wont go back into crib during night.
Zah.. I use nipple shields aswell mainly at night or if she is really angry and just wants feeding quickly.. She will latch to boob better now than she did initially so when i think she needs a feed and before she gets mad i put her to breast and try and get her on, if that fails i latch her with the shield, once shes fed for 5 minutes and nipple is drawn out i'll try and get her back on without the shield.

I had a really bad day yesterday, couldn't stop crying and ended up shouting at DS during a nappy change to shut up. It's not even like he cries a lot, mainly when getting him changed. I tried telling DH that I'm no good at meeting DS's needs and that I really wanted to hurt myself for him to tell me that I can do it. I ended up hitting myself around the head and trying to goad DH into hitting me. He called me a monster and said that I've always been fucked up and no better than my mother, that I've done nothing but sit on my arse the last week and he's sick of running around after me, I'm not contributing. He hates me. I keep waking him up to fetch things when I know that he's only just gone to sleep.

I'm sorry, I always complain on here, please ignore me

Oh excited how horrible for you. Have a mahoosive hug.

I've been crying loads. Normally when DD starts really crying and I can't figure out what she wants, then DH swoops in and sorts her. Makes me feel like a big fat failure

Are you getting any more sleep? Maybe send you DH away out with baby for a couple of hours so you can sleep? Then you do the same for him? You must all be exhausted.

But please talk to your health visitor/mw about how you are feeling. They will have seen and heard it all. It's still early days. I know I still feel slightly out of the loop of the world. doesn't help when you go to dentist and their TV is on showing a news channel that is two hours behind time-wise!! my DH goes back to work on Monday. I predict I will have a melt down then. Or that night rather when he gets home from work

I wish I could help you more excited please try to be kind to yourself. You absolutely can do this. We will figure our babies out together and then in a few weeks we will wonder what we were upset about!

Thank you come

Sometimes a fresh pair of eyes helps the situation to figure out what they want.

I spoke to the health visitor yesterday about what had happened in between floods of tears because I now feel awful about reacting the way I did. I do love DS and I don't want him to go anywhere. I'm under a caseloading MW team who were the ones to deliver DS instead of the hospital staff because of previous depression and self harm, my MW carries a bleep which I can call at any point for either me or DS. I'm also with an early intervention health visitor for a bit more support. I've asked to be referred back to the peri-natal psychiatry team (I was discharged at 20 weeks after being really mentally well during the pregnancy), so I do have support in place, it's trying to remember to use it in the moment. Of course I'm now worried that by admitting I do need help it's going to affect returning to work and my ability to do my job.

We have been taking it in turns to nap during the day, DH hasn't been taking DS out of the house because I'm trying to EBF so if DS does start to grumble and root I'm there to sort him out. We tried a bottle of formula on Wednesday night to try and get a block of sleep, however DS started to root for the boob straight away, so we gained nothing from it. Generally sleep is still just as bad overnight with a massive cluster feed from 11pm-6am with maybe a half hour break in there somewhere. Although a miracle seems to have happened overnight with DS sleeping from 2-6 this morning, has had a quick feed and back off to sleep.

I hope that the dentist wasn't too bad for you, and I totally get feeling detached from the world right now. DH also goes back to work next week, so I want to get to the point where he can at least get a decent block of rest overnight. Like you I am not looking forward to his first day back at work.

Wow, that was so much longer than I thought it would be, but it feels good to get it out.

excited take it easy on yourself your body and mind have been through a lot in the last few weeks... Having a baby is bloody hard work and your hormones are running riot, it's great that you have activated sought help for the way you are feeling and I hope you get all the support you need, I really hope little man continues the good chunk of sleep too as it really does make all the difference getting a good few hours in one go..

Just joining you here as I had DD2 this morning She's just perfect and were totally smitten.

Excited - knowing you need support and asking for it shows how strong you are. Don't ever forget that. Sorry you're having such a tough time though.

We're still in hospital I'm desperate to get home to DD.

Massive congrats anything does she have a name yet? Look forward to hearing your birth story when you are up to it... Enjoy your snuggles

Aw congratulations anything

excited it was the hygienist. ... although that can be just as bad!

Well done on asking for all the help you can get though. I agree with anything, recognising when you need help and asking for it is half the battle and does show that you are strong enough to deal with it.

I nearly had a meltdown in Debenham cafe yesterday. DD was hungry, wailing at top of her lungs. I was holding her and trying to open a carton of milk for her. I needed scissors. I didn't have them.
Some lovely ladies stopped to help me as was trying to pierce carton with a knife and shush DD at same time. They saved the day!! But nearly made me cry with their kindness!

Congratulations Anything.

Thank you chook and come for your kind words. I'm feeling much more positive today, although having to wake DS every 3 hours as he only put on 20g in 4 days.

come, it's things like that I'm finding hardest, trying to do something when DS is crying, even though I know I have to complete step 1 before step 2 (usually completing a nappy change before feeding again)

Excited I just keep reminding myself that dd is not even 3 weeks old. That I'm still recovering from a traumatic birth/blood transfusion and that this is ALL new to me.
Well apart from bum wiping. Do that in my day job

My wee one sicked up all over moses basket this morn. After I'd changed her, and after I'd put a wash of all her stuff on. And of course made myself a cup of tea. How bloody typical!