April 2015 - The babies are arriving thick and fast

[TheBooMonster]

The Antenatal thread is here

the stats thread is here snd the spreadsheet is here

We have a Facebook group, give me a shout if you want to join!

Oh cinnamon, OH's can be so unhelpful with what they say sometimes!

Just want to add that all of you breastfeeding ladies don't worry about the fighting against the latch thing, I'm bottle feeding and DS nearly always sucks his hands furiously whilst waving his head around as I'm trying to get the teat in! And sometimes he just messes with it for a few seconds and pushed it out a few times before he actually feels like feeding!

Oooh don't DH/DP wind you up! I can't believe some of the things they come out with. Asking to change a nappy? Really? If we did that we'd be asking them about 7 times a day! Maybe I'm being too nice and think they don't want to step on our toes. I'm nappy changing after every feed atm. Boy does DS do big poos! They fill the entire nappy!

DS seems happier now he's getting milk he's much calmer. MW visit went well he's still jaundiced so they sent off more blood to check. He breastfed through the heel prick stubbornly refusing to give up the nipple. He's lost 300g since birth so lots of feeding now to catch him back up bit well within his 10% She did say lots of people give a formula feed at night to help settle to get some sleep bit to offer it after a breastfeed. She also suggested expressing after a feed to see how much he actually take on board plus means DH can cover a night feed so I can try and sleep. Also feeds of 5-40 minutes are fine just feed him when he asks. It's just annoying when he wants 5min feeds between 12-6am haha. But fingers crossed proper milk supply might help the shorter feeds become longer.

Cinnamon are you wonder woman? I'm so impressed you're so together it's untrue.

RL hope DP pulls his finger out. Maybe make it explicit he can jump in and help at any point!

Kismac. Can you put something in the cot? We're using the carrycot from the pram in the cot as he finds the big space too much atm. We've put a lambswool blanket under the sheet on top of the mattress so its not so cold and we use a warm hot water bottle to warm the spot up before settling DS. I also stick a muslin down my top to put on top of the sheet before I put him down. Oh and added another layer with a cardigan as our flat gets chilly at night being a stone floored ye olde Edwardian basement affair. Hope you get her settled x

RL u are definitely NBU!

U can get stretchy wraps for £25 from snuggywraps- iv got one and it's great. There are also new stretchy wraps for £20 on eBay. I prefer the stretchy wrap to the more structured ones when they are so little and if u decide u don't like it it's not loads of money.

PenguinPoser DD1 14th March
TinyTear DD2 31st March
Daholster DS1 (DC2) 9th April
Cinnamongreyhound DS3 10th April
IvegotaCaveTroll DD1 10th April
FiRaffe DS1 11th April
Wineandchoccy DD1 11th April
Brixtonbunny DD1 12th April
SquattingNeville DD1 13th April
LittleGreyCatwithapinkcollar DD1 16th April
mswibble DS1 18th April
Jetpackplease, DS1 (DC1), 19th April 2015
Hidingthefear DS1 21st April
RL20 DS1 21st April
Brummagem DS1 3rd May

Two hours, 3 arguments and a very nibbly wide awake baby and the cotbed is once again a cot!

I think men just don't realise that babies wee/poo so often and need changing. I have to remind DH about changing DD. In all fairness DD1 has been out of nappies for a year and a half. I guess it's just gone out of his mind on looking after a baby. But you all know I think DH is an idiot. He reminds me of a scene from the Simpsons where homer learns something new and it pushes old stuff out.

Got a question about poo colour.

DS's seem to have gone a bit greenish today. Done a bit of interwebbing and it seems it could be down to what I'm eating.

Had masses of asparagus last night so could it be that? I can't see that I should be worried at this stage... Yesterday's were the usual yellow mustard and curd affairs. He's EBF.

Hello ladies. First of all smogs re ds being obsessed with your top, lol!!!

Secondly, I love it when ds does that thing where he put a his hand in his mouth last minute when he has been aiming perfectly for the nipple. It makes me laugh and reminds me he is still so tiny 4 weeks old yesterday though, where is the time going?! Slow down please! He does it less often now he is getting bigger so I have to treasure it. But we get smiles occasionally now and that is awesome

I have to let you all know that I have decided to drop off the mumsnet thread I really enjoy being on here with you guys but it doesn't always bring out my best side when I rant and rave about stuff. Its easy to do in an anonymous fashion But anyway, dh has been quite upset because he read the thread (I had left it open on the iPad) and sad I had over exaggerated things I said about him yesterday and he read the responses too, and generally just felt pretty ganged up on and sad.

I, in turn have felt a bit ashamed and sad. I have apologised (it is right that I should) and said to him that I don't regret posting because it helped to share when I felt so annoyed and upset but am very sorry that he saw it all. It's public access after all, you shouldn't write something you wouldn't want someone else to see.

Anyway I thought about it, felt quite bad, really I should have just talked it through with him. You were all right that both me and dh are tires and not seeing things from the other's point of view properly and it's creating rifts. I decided, myself with no pressure, that I will leave mumsnet since I can't trust myself to keep my mouth shut and be nice...

I am going to stay on the fb group. I don't really rant there, I think its because you can see my face (lol!) But still want to be in touch, and follow all the pics and growing up stories there will be, and ask for and give advice and moral support for you if I can. So please all join the fb group!

I can't believe how sad I feel, I will miss this thread - but I might get more tidying up and napping done when I am not on it!!!

Btw dh, dd, ds and I all went to the London aquarium together today, a day out :-) Dh still seems a little sad to me. He says it's OK but I know I have really hurt his feelings talking about him on here and I have lots of mending to try to do I think

Take care all of you, I will miss you! but see you on the fb group, yes? (Please?)

I've not tried out my wrap yet but think it will be an essential when DH goes back to work.

Brum, Leah is a week old today and think my milk is now fully in today as feeding just feels a lot easier so hopefully not too much longer to go for you.

Hmmm we're in a tenement flat so maybe an extra layer would help.

How do I join the fb grp? Who do I pm?

You will be missed daholster but hopefully see you on the fb page soon.

I think expressing after a feed will give you sod all idea of how much milk he's taking brummagem and yes many people do top up with formula at night but many people don't. Also your supply will be affected more by missing night feeds than day ones.

I got my stretchy from Victoria sling lady she's very reasonable. On fb and eBay.

Had a phone call from Dr today, renal function results were back when she called me but electrolytes weren't and they're not right . Potassium is high and sodium is low. Sodium has always been low but as renal function was low she assumed they were connected. Now renal function is normal she wants to check why sodium is low. So back to hospital tomorrow for another blood test and urine test. If sodium has fallen again they want to put him on a supplement and we will have to go backbsunday for another blood test to see if its working. She didn't give an idea as to why just said we need to be careful with him and don't want to miss something. I cried, a lot!!!! Hoping all will be well as ever but feeling shit!

I'm sorry to see you leave Mumsnet daholster but I understand why and your family certainly come first

As Daholster I totally know what you mean.
I had forgot that I had set my phone so that it didn't lock, to keep the background light on all night in the bedroom for DS.
When I was changing him the other day, my phone was on the settee and hadn't locked so it was showing on the screen that I was typing a message to go on the thread. OH questioned me about it as he knows I have mumsnet but doesn't know the ins and outs or anything. Thankfully it wasn't a rant or anything but it easily could have been and that would have caused an argument!
So I too haven't been posting much on here as it tends to make me overthink because I know that I can just post anything on here.
But like you I am on the Facebook group.

Brummagem if you're not already on it, send me a private message on here with your name and description of your profile picture and I think I should be able to add you to it

cinnamon, sending a big old hug and tea and some wine. I always worry about the smallest thing so my heart goes out to you, the uncertainty is awful. Conversations with doctors always leave me thinking the worst too when I bet that wasn't their intention.

daholster sorry to see you go and hope you patch it up quickly with DH. You're not wrong that coming off the thread will probably free up lots of time. Take care.

Cinnamon so sorry to hear that what a worry for you! Really hope things are ok on the repeat bloods. Also think you're doing an absolutely superb job with your 4 boys and your mindees. Superwoman indeed. It's bound to be difficult though, don't be hard I on yourself.

Daholster sorry to see you go as well (if you're still reading!) but will see you on FB.

Smogs I saw a lactation consultant from LLL today and she essentially said not to worry about poo colour as long as baby is ok

She also diagnosed tongue tie in DD (which I had said from the start but no one else agreed!!) so we have an appointment next week about that.

Cinnamon sorry you have worries about your DS, but you are doing everything you can for him and he is getting good care by the sounds of it. I get stressed if my DS hasn't pooed in 24 hours so I can't imagine having to deal with actual medical issues. You are doing brilliantly.

Daholster I hope you and DH have made up. You've been through a lot and you need each other's support.

And Penguin glad you got some help - it's so frustrating when you think something is up and no one listens! Well done for not letting it go.

Just had to hand DD over to DH she wouldn't settle on me at all. Was wide awake and fussy for 2 hours! Had both boobs twice, covered us both in milk and spent an hour yawning at me and she's still not asleep.

Sorry to hear that cinnamon. Only positive is they are at least keeping on top of things so hopefully can get to the bottom of the problem and an appropriate resolution quickly for you all.

Fair enough daholster - at least we can keep on touch via Facebook.

Lauren - I know it's really tough when they won't settle because you smell of milk. Hope you get some rest soon!

Glad to hear someone's listening PenguinPoser! Hope appointment goes well next week

Thank you all for your kind words, Dr kept saying is that ok and apologising for telling me all was ok yesterday. Do wish she'd waited for all results but I guess we had those 24hrs of positivity! It's just so hard to believe there's anything wrong when he looks and seems so well. Especially when he's gaining weight well it would appear he's getting all he needs from my milk. Hate that he has the antibiotics anyway let alone so diet supplement. Not to mention our time off together is taken up at the hospital.

Vaguely remember dh trying it on last night, wouldn't have minded but I think I fell asleep on him, may be in trouble in the morning

Hope dd went off at some point Lauren82000!

I really hope you get good news soon cinnamon and your little one gets all the help he needs. You do an amazing job working and looking after your boys. I'm thoroughly in awe!

Naughty baby tonight... just won't settle. DH had come to bed tonight (night 22) for the first time since night 3... He's been in the spare room since. Means co-sleeping is a no no so I need her to go down! He's fast asleep but DD is cluster feeding and has been since 9 pm. So tired!

It's a bit of a no basket night. Was feeding lying down when DH went to put DD1 back in her bed and I fell asleep but so did DH in DD1s bed he just came back in and tried to put DD2 in the basket. She filled her nappy he changed her for me and she is currently fighting on the boob and growling at it. Must be windy.

I have a windy baby too Lauren. Rubbish as winding wakes her up too much again! At least it's the weekend so I don't mind waking DH to settle her if needed. He's currently playing on his phone but I've told him to go back to sleep I case I need to wake him later.

We have the cat back for the weekend (shared cat - lives with my mum too!) haven't had her overnight since dd born until now. Feel guilty as she usually sleeps on our bed but we've shut her out of the room just in case she decided to get in with dd! Think it's unlikely but if we were asleep and it happened then could be disastrous as the cat is still bigger and heavier than dd! So consequently we have a peed off cat who went crazy when I opened the door to go to the loo!