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April 2015 - The babies are arriving thick and fast

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TheBooMonster · 01/04/2015 21:39

The Antenatal thread is here

the stats thread is here snd the spreadsheet is here

We have a Facebook group, give me a shout if you want to join!

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Hidingthefear · 05/05/2015 19:16

Good idea cinnamon
HidingthefearDS 1 21st April

(I meant sleeping in Bed on previous post, bloody auto correct on tablet) Managing bed still, even though DS likes to feed every 2 hours which is shattering, i think the BF'ing defo helps me get back to sleep quicker. I'm too scared to fall asleep with him feeding though because DH likes to pull the big duvet up to his head.

TinyTear · 05/05/2015 20:26

Dd2 31st march

cinnamongreyhound · 05/05/2015 21:30

TinyTear Dd2 31st march
Cinnamongreyhound ds3 10th April
Hidingthefear DS1 21st April

FiRaffe · 06/05/2015 04:00

TinyTear DD2 31st March
Cinnamongreyhound DS3 10th April
FiRaffe DS1 11th April
Hidingthefear DS1 21st April

SquattingNeville · 06/05/2015 21:39

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Wineandchoccy · 07/05/2015 07:24

TinyTear DD2 31st March
Cinnamongreyhound DS3 10th April
FiRaffe DS1 11th April
Wineandchoccy DD1 11th April
SquattingNeville DD1 13th April
Hidingthefear DS1 21st April

FiRaffe · 07/05/2015 11:37

Ooh we're officially postnatal then!

Wineandchoccy · 07/05/2015 11:52

Well here we are, officially postnatal mummies Grin it has been an amazing time sharing the pregnancy and first 3 weeks of my dd with you all here's to many more threads of fun and tears (babies and ours)

smogsville · 07/05/2015 12:00

Place marking

mswibble · 07/05/2015 12:14

Place marking ... hoping to be able to post more on here.

FiRaffe · 07/05/2015 12:14

Indeed Wine. I can't believe our little ones are almost a month old!

mswibble · 07/05/2015 12:15

TinyTear DD2 31st March
Cinnamongreyhound DS3 10th April
FiRaffe DS1 11th April
Wineandchoccy DD1 11th April
SquattingNeville DD1 13th April
mswibble DS1 18th April
Hidingthefear DS1 21st April

RL20 · 07/05/2015 12:16

Omg can't believe we are actually on the postnatal thread properly now. I feel a bit emotional to not be on the antenatal thread anymore!?

Like wine says, I can't thank everyone on here enough! Definitely kept me same through a lot of my pregnancy and with my DS so far, and hope that we have all been of some help to someone else on here!

Brummagem I hope you're ok. Were looking after a tiny person and there's no doubt that it's hard and a shock to the system! My DS is 2 weeks 2 days and I'm finally able to get a bit of sleep today as my mum had just took him to hers for a couple of hours.
Up until now I have felt like I have a constant hangover which of course makes everything seem so much more difficult.
Although this bit of sleep will probably only make up for one sleepless night, hopefully it'll be better than nothing!

Brew
RL20 · 07/05/2015 12:18

I can't seem to copy and paste text on the mumsnet app but feel free to add me to the list

RL20 DS1 21st April

RL20 · 07/05/2015 12:19

*sane

cinnamongreyhound · 07/05/2015 13:15

There you are RL20

TinyTear DD2 31st March
Cinnamongreyhound DS3 10th April
FiRaffe DS1 11th April
Wineandchoccy DD1 11th April
SquattingNeville DD1 13th April
mswibble DS1 18th April
Hidingthefear DS1 21st April
RL20 DS1 21st April

Sorry to hear you're having a bad day brummagem! I'm sure you're doing a great job. And yes fist sucking and mean pretty much anything. I had a horrible first few weeks bf ds1 and I tried everything before attempting to bf him. Now I've got the hang and ds3 took to it very well even if I know it's tiredness I'll feed him as sucking helps him get off to sleep and won't do him any harm, it's easier than rocking him walking around for 10mins!

I can't believe he's almost a month! I'm still missing being pregnant, felt like the last bit was stolen from me really. I'm knackered today and feeling very teary, almost certainly due to tiredness but perhaps also because we've had the hospital today. Had a phone call an hour ago that kidney function is totally normal so we will the renal specialist at his clinic in June and a blood test the week before and he will decide what to do then but most likely nothing to be done until July and that will be ultrasound and DMSA (barium into canular and x Rays taken). Our Dr was very pleased with how well he looks and said he'd grown since she saw him Smile

Off to vote now and then home for a cuppa and doctors (highly recommend it for afternoon tv viewing while on mat leave Wink)

PenguinPoser · 07/05/2015 13:23

Woop we are officially post natal!

I can't copy and paste on phone either.... Feel free to add me to the list anyone
PenguinPoser DD1 14th March

So knackered today after up with dd between 1-5 last night. Then slept until 6.45. She's been so unsettled last 24h and had some greeny explosive nappies Confused hope she's ok. Eventually got out to town this morning that I've been wanting to do for 3 days... She's still snoozing in the car seat now but really need to get her out as she's been in there too long.

I feel (only because I'm tired I think) like I'm failing her by not Being able to get her wind up... Then not being able to comfort her... Then being frustrated. And in case it's something in my milk upsetting her (although I haven't changed my diet in the 7.5 weeks I've been feeding her) and then for trying to settle her with a dummy when I feel that I should be comforting her myself.... Although she spat out the dummy I've now got a different one to try even though I don't want to...

Plus, her mouth is nearly better from the thrush but the GP said to keep using the nystatin for 2-3 days after it was better to prevent recurrence. So I asked for some more (which GP told me to do) but they haven't done it and want to see her. So going there at 3pm. I'm slightly irritated as I know what I'm doing with it but I guess they're just doing their jobs safely. I wanted to nap on the sofa with dd this afternoon!!!

Also feel bad as I keep waking DH up at night when I'm stressed or dd is crying. And he is working full time. He's great though and does as much as he can.

Anyway.... Sorry for the self absorbed moan. Anyone who is feeling pants - you're not alone!

PenguinPoser · 07/05/2015 13:24

Cross post cinnamon - sorry you're feeling teary too! Good news about the kidney tests Smile

BrixtonBunny · 07/05/2015 13:28

Woohoo postnatal thread!!

BrixtonBunny DD1 12th April

cinnamongreyhound · 07/05/2015 13:46

PenguinPoser DD1 14th March
TinyTear DD2 31st March
Cinnamongreyhound DS3 10th April
FiRaffe DS1 11th April
Wineandchoccy DD1 11th April
BrixtonBunny DD1 12th April
SquattingNeville DD1 13th April
mswibble DS1 18th April
Hidingthefear DS1 21st April
RL20 DS1 21st April

Sorry you're feeling pants too PenguinPoser!! Glad your dh is being kind to you, mine always gives me a big cuddle when I get back into bed which makes me feel better! I tried ds2 with a dummy despite not wanting to as I felt I was being unfair to him because he was very sucky, he didn't want it! Soon after I discovered the magic of giving him a muslin to sleep with Grin

daholster · 07/05/2015 14:13

PenguinPoser DD1 14th March
TinyTear DD2 31st March
Daholster DS1 (DC2) 9th April
Cinnamongreyhound DS3 10th April
FiRaffe DS1 11th April
Wineandchoccy DD1 11th April
Brixtonbunny DD1 12th April
SquattingNeville DD1 13th April
mswibble DS1 18th April
Hidingthefear DS1 21st April
RL20 DS1 21st April

There you go guys. Hope I didn't miss any add requests! Wasn't sure what to write. He's DS1 but DC2...

Annoyed with dh for moaning that unless he tidies the house it gets worse and worse and I don't do anything. And he said I don't sleep when ds sleeps - when I said I send a lot of time feeding and he tells me to nap too and I spend time with dd, and do a bit of tidying and odd jobs.

But then he complained I hadn't napped while ds slept this morning. He slept from 8am til 11am. At 8am dh came into our bedroom with dd. I got up and sorted her clothes, got her dressed, brought her down and gave her breakfast, and took her to nursery. When I returned dh was loading the dishwasher, I sat down, he moaned. So after 5 mins I got up to help a bit but it was almost finished. So I sat down to do a bit of folding of washing. He went on computer to make list of stuff to go back and buy from IKEA today which he didn't want to go and do, (though leaving it means trip at weekend and being unable to move the changing table ir have new nursing chair in Rory's room for night time stuff in time for his return to work next Monday. Currently doing it all in the bedroom which disturbs dh.) So he reluctantly said he'd go, but wanted me to come and look with him to make the list of what we needed (despite the fact we went and decided yesterday). Then he complained about mess and told me it wasn't as if I was using my time to sleep and I've had all morning. seething AngryAngryAngry

And also a bit Sad He said its like last time when I really wanted him to feel he'd enjoyed it more than last time when I was I'll and he worked hard in the house and sterilising and nappy changing and everything and didn't get much fun. This week though he had a day just playing computer games and a day walking in Wales, and we have been out with dd places and he's played in the garden with her. I know he's knackered but I do think its been better for him this time.

When I told him he was grumpy and that I had hoped we might have time to do something nice together since dd is at nursery for the last time before he goes back. He said he had been planning to do lots of housework and didn't want to go back to work with the house a mess, and anyway what would we do? Yesterday he actually said I should choose what we do together today. Then today he had forgotten. All I actually wanted to do was an hour in Starbucks with him. But I can't do that anyway because of the diet I am doing for ds. So there we go then.

So he went to IKEA. He has asked that I do something on the house while he is out. Well, I've taken ds to the dr, had some lunch and just got D's to sleep so am going to nap. And dh has just rung to say he is on his way back! Confused

Trouble is dh is tired because dd was up from 3am and at 4am he tag teamed with me so I could sleep. He has to sleep on her floor for 4 hrs with broken sleep.

I told him whoop-de-fucking-doo I have been tired for 3 weeks and will be for the next 2 months... I slept from 00.30 til 02.00, then ds was asleep at 03.00 but dd woke up. I got sleep from 04.00 to 05.00 then from 06.00 to 08.00. Four and a half hours sleep.

So needless to say I am cross and he is cross and this diet is peeing me off. I had a banana for breakfast and organic porridge for lunch. The GP said he agrees its rwlfux, the not breathing episodes can be normal but the only medication to try first means expressing for all feeds and mixing it in (Gaviscon). He was a little better yesterday so I'm going to see what happens with the diet and keep the prescription in my pocket. He also said the nappy rash is burn from constant pooing and gave me a prescription for some zinc and castor oil, if that doesn't work to go back. It might or might not be to do with food irritating his bum but all we can do is to try the boring diet. Eat nothing with dairy or soya and be eat totally basic food.

I think maybe my chocolate oatly has to go too, and that was my happy surprise on the dairy free diet. Gutted, and hungry!!!

Self indulgent rant again, sorry. Sad

daholster · 07/05/2015 14:17

And very badly written rant too! Lol! And it should be said that at 8am dh got back in bed because he was tired from the floor sleeping so its not like I had much choice about getting dd ready myself, whereas I would have loved to stay in bed...

BrixtonBunny · 07/05/2015 14:19

Sorry - last post was very short as DD decided she wanted boob IMMEDIATELY. Thanks for updating the list cinnamon.

I cannot believe DD will be four weeks on Sunday. She is changing so much already! Still feeling so incredibly in love with her, such an amazing feeling. A million times better than I'd ever hoped.

Brumma I'm sorry you're feeling crappy but it will get easier! It's scary realising you have a person who depends entirely on you but you are doing brilliantly. We're here to listen.

Penguin sorry you're having a tough time too, but you're doing so so well. I think feeling guilty is inevitable - there's always something ridiculous to feel bad about, but try and cut yourself some slack and have a piece of cake instead Brew

Am also feeling v grateful for you lovely ladies, support at all hours of the day means a lot! I've learnt so much too.

For anyone who doesn't know there's also a private hidden Facebook group which is lovely for sharing photos and is nice to use!

BrixtonBunny · 07/05/2015 14:33

Daholster your DH is being incredibly unreasonable!! You have a newborn and a toddler FFS, you're basically a superhero in my eyes. No one is going to die if you have a slightly messy house or the chores aren't done, what's important is you resting when you can! I know everyone wants a pleasant environment to live in but if you spend all your energy cleaning and looking after your DC, you'll have nothing left to give one another, or yourselves.

Could you hire a cleaner, even just for a few weeks? It might take some pressure off you both and free up some time for you. I really need to hire one but have been very lazy, this has reminded me to do that pronto this afternoon! Have been able to keep on top of laundry, dishwasher etc but haven't really been sweeping / hoovering / cleaning as much as is needed. House is looking a bit grubby to say the least Blush

Food wise can you have rice and veg, or soups, or things like avocado and peanut butter which will keep you a bit fuller? My favourite thing at the moment to drink as a snack is a banana blended with smooth peanut butter and almond milk. Make sure you don't go hungry as you need energy!

Big hugs x

cinnamongreyhound · 07/05/2015 16:00

It sounds to me like you are both tired and missing each other slightly daholster! He sounds like he wants to help and do things but then expects something in return for what he feels like is doing you a favour when it clearly isn't a favour. Dh is lovely about my crappy sleep but instantly falls back to sleep when I've got up and if Sam has an unsettled night I can't help resenting him even though I'd rather he be sleeping when there's nothing he can do! Sometimes I think we expect others to know what we want and they really don't. Hope you can have a trip out together somewhere, there are drinks without milk you can have at Starbucks like the fruit cooler (juice things) if that's what you'd like to do. Is there a baby cinema you can go to or is that mums only? Or even normal cinema, we are going to see the avengers Saturday as a family and will just take Sam in the sling and feed as necessary, did it lots with ds2.

My lovely dh is out in the rain with a pick axe, shovel and cement trying to get out fence done to appease our neighbours while I have all the kids inside. We got home at 1.30 and he had a cuppa and has been out ever since. Keep asking if he needs help and he insists he's fine, be nice to not be able to see their garden though. Although to be fair he did have a month off and didn't do it so I suppose today's day off isn't such a hardship to lose Wink