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October 2014.. Thread 7.. Teeth, tantrums & tickles

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STIGZ · 05/02/2015 10:46

Hope this works ?Hmm

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splendide · 19/02/2015 18:32

Does she sleep through though Goats ?

I'm getting a frilly pillow if she does! Joking, sort of.

tattyblue · 19/02/2015 18:41

I'm going to put it out there that having a good judge is basically medicinal. When I feel really crap having a nice old judge of someone else always makes me feel better. That's what Westfield is for (it's round the corner from me).

Kirstipops · 19/02/2015 20:02

There's a car-crashtastic Mums group on FB with soooo many opportunities to be a Judgy McJudgerson, I feel bad but can't help myself. One woman posted a pic of her boy who she started weaning at 10 weeks because she "could see he was hungry" and milk wasn't enough Hmm, another girl's 3 month old baby's sleeping went to pot after a hospital stay so she promptly began the cry-it-out method to sort it, the poor thing wasn't long home from having hospital treatment, no wonder her sleeping was off! (It didn't work either, ha!)

I'm going to look more into trying to beat this 45 minute sleep cycle though, none of Heidi's daytime naps are ever any longer than 45 mins tops either. I read if you put your hand on your baby's chest before the 45 mins is up it may inhibit the startle thing? I planned to do it tonight but I effed up my timing and she started grumping first. She's showing new interest in a comforter, pulls it up over her face but gets annoyed sucking on it after a while and only a dummy will do.

Buttwing · 19/02/2015 20:05

Hey all I came on then disappeared again. My internet broke and had to wait a WEEK for it to be fixed!! Older ones are on half term this week so have been chasing my own tail plus ds1 teething and ill. Oh the joys of motherhood Grin

Sorry for those not having great nights, I am feeling really really tired think I've hit at the wall! I fell asleep in the chair while I was giving babywing his bedtime bottle woke myself up snoring Blush felt like my granny.

We are down to one wake a night usually between 3 and 5 he only has a tiny feed I think it's more for comfort no idea how to stop this, I've visions of him still coming in at 15 for a cuddle and a quick feed!!!

FlipFantasia · 19/02/2015 20:24

Stigz how awful for your husband - hope it went well and he gets home soon. Hugs for you xx

Goats talk about time machine parenting! Weaning stuff washes over me but the duvet & pillow would scare me. I agree with Tatty, sometimes a good old judge makes everything seem better!

Kirstie the 45 min sleep thing is a nightmare. For day time naps, i jiggle the buggy when she stirs (or before she stirs if I can) and she sleeps through. I did this with my older two and at some point they would do a solid 1.5 hrs plus in the buggy with no jiggling (I don't bother with the cot until they're older - for afternoon naps I feed dd2 to sleep on my bed while dd1 has her nap). I especially need the two hour nap in the morning as it's when I do my freelance work while the older two are at preschool.

I'm just starting to pack up my office/dumping ground in order to paint it. I love a bit of spring cleaning/diy (even if the snow is still thick on the ground and it's the coldest I've ever felt!).

Kirstipops · 19/02/2015 20:36

Good idea Flip thanks, I'll give the Moses basket a wee jiggle and see if that works!!
I can't wait to get properly started on Heidi's room, the paintwork and walls are ready but so far it's just a dumping ground of yet-to-be-built cot bed, pushchair, things to hang on her walls and clothes that don't fit her yet! Really need some storage in there but the chest of drawers I mean to upcycle is in the spare room and the path to it is blocked by DH's drum gear which I can't lift myself Angry
Stigz I hope your DH is feeling better!

FATEdestiny · 19/02/2015 21:08

I have to be very careful to keep my judgey pants in check. I'm not sure why, but the whole ethos of this post-natal thread and the September post-natal thread is very different.

I post on both and love it here, everyone is so real (for want of a better word). Over there I have been fighting the corner of not weaning early for ages. Now older babies are getting to 6 months there are posts from said FTM recommending others not to wean early because "it doesn't help with the crying and no sleep". No shit Sherlock. I have tried very, VERY hard not to say I told you so that was what I said from the outset.

FATEdestiny · 19/02/2015 21:14

Re decorating.

Just finished two days of intense decorating to do my eldest's room. Main colour turquoise with deep pink accent. Really pretty but in a bigger girl, non-babyish way. Grand reveal was this evening, she absolutely loves it!

FlipFantasia · 19/02/2015 21:19

Fate lol it is hard to not feel like that! Live and learn is what the perspective of older kids gives us (I think back to my own ftm smugness about BLW and laugh! I still love BLW but my picky nearly 5 year old is proof that BLW does not equal non-pickiness).

Kirstie I realised I often have to pat dd2's chest softly when she's on my bed napping too (napping next to the co sleeper she's never slept in, which I use as a handy shelf for charging my phone or storing my kindle or New Yorker. Luckily I got over my bitterness at how expensive it was when dc1 wouldn't sleep in it either Grin). Also, dd2 still wakes because of farts a lot. So funny (but annoying too!) as she looks kind of wide eyed and then hilarious sounds come out.

I think dd2 is turning into the red haired child me and Dh have long wanted. The older two are very blondie but we both have red hair in our extended families. Makes her seem like even more of an irish girl here in America! Still, my kids have the slowest growing hair so when I say 'red hair' I mean a faint reddish tint to her very short hair...

FlipFantasia · 19/02/2015 21:20

Fate sounds like a lovely combo! Glad she liked it Smile

Buttwing · 19/02/2015 21:30

flip my ds1 is red it's a gorgeous dark auburn and dd2 is strawberry blonde they have taken after dps side and the other two are dark like my side. I get so many comments about Ds's hair I love it.

tattyblue · 19/02/2015 21:37

Baby nightmare. She's woken crying every ten minutes since seven thirty. I really do know what to do. Or, at least, anything obvious I can do either doesn't work or I'm not prepared to do it, so I suppose I'm stuck with this until one of us figures out how she can get herself to sleep. I really think a snuggle might help because I think she wants something pressed to her face, but she doesn't have the hand skills. They're getting better though, so fingers crossed this horror of irritation might end soon.

On a similar theme to judging, I've been brought very low recently by unsolicited advice. I wish people wouldn't. I find it really depressing, particularly when what they're recommending is obvious so either I've tried it or for some reason discounted it (to the person who suggested I walk with her round and round the streets of east London if she can't sleep at night- thanks, but I'd rather do my but sleeping at home in the warm). Or if people have advice I wish they'd phrase it as what belief for them, rather than the only true baby word.

FATEdestiny · 19/02/2015 21:45

Tatty, is this unsolicited advice here, or IRL? Everyone here is just trying to help each other and be supportive.

tattyblue · 19/02/2015 21:46

I don't mean advice on here, by the way, where I'm obviously looking for it. I mean the sort where someone asks how your baby is sleeping and you say something vague and then they're all "you have to have a calm bedtime routine" or "babies love Blur, that always puts them to sleep"(seriously) (I didn't make that up).

tattyblue · 19/02/2015 21:46

Sorry, crosspost, the advice here is great.

tattyblue · 19/02/2015 21:55

I hope I didn't just sound like a dick. specifically what I man is my partner said something light hearted on Facebook about the baby not sleeping and two separate people I barely know messaged me to tell me what to do, in very much a you're doing it wrong way, and I was having a horrible day already and it made me feel like a total failure.

FATEdestiny · 19/02/2015 21:56

Phew. Your post had me so worried I looked back over the last couple of hundred posts on here to check I'd not offered you any advise that wasn't asked for Blush

I know what you mean about others making polite conversation with unhelpful obvious suggestions. "Oh, she sounds hungry". Does she now, so you know my baby's cries and routines better than I? In fact she is tired, so ner ner ne ner ner!

tattyblue · 19/02/2015 21:57

This has all come out sounding wrong.

FATEdestiny · 19/02/2015 22:00

Oh Tatty - Have a hug.

It's all OK, I understand and I am sure everyone else here does too.

Flowers
Kirstipops · 19/02/2015 22:10

Tatty I assumed you meant other folk in real life giving unsolicited advice Wink What did you say back to the "helpful" messagers?

tattyblue · 19/02/2015 22:13

:) sorry everyone. What I was trying to get at was the difference between sharing stories/making suggestions and just telling. The thing I like most about this thread is that it feels like a way of working things through.

If anyone wants to try the Blur tip, though, it's yours. I have it on authority that it never fails.

tattyblue · 19/02/2015 22:14

kirsti I said thanks, and then I went into acorner and said boo hoo hoo.

FlipFantasia · 19/02/2015 22:39

Tatty lol at blur. But the FB messages? Really annoying! It reminds me of trying (and failing) to conceive DS naturally - 'you just need to take folic acid, it totally works to get you pregnant' etc. I used to quite often drunkenly cry about it with my close female friends (not so much of an option with a non-sleeping baby!) and I found MN a lifesaver. Sleep deprivation with your first is similar. People mean well but they have seriously forgotten what it's like. They should just say that yes, it's hard but it will hopefully get better soon. Rather than trying to help by telling you to do what they did.

Now, feel free to tell me to stick my advice Grin, but do you think she wants a later bedtime? Dd2 wakes up incessantly if I try to get her to sleep before 8.30pm/9pm. But if I keep her awake until then she sleeps pretty solidly until 2am (if I don't wake her up when I go to bed...I kick myself whenever I do!). I'm sure you've tried it...there's always blur!

Butt your kids colouring sound gorgeous!

STIGZ · 19/02/2015 22:39

Tatty my mums favourite line is whenever dd cries "she's spoiled rotten" or "oh she is a wee crabby pants today"... Ehh ... no, she only really cries if she is tired, windy or hungry" so i will work out which one it is by picking her up and checking !!

Dp home safe & sound and snoring next to me, really tender but adamant we are going to make our wee break away to avimore on sunday for my birthday treat... But will wait & see!? I cant be arsed going now.., feel so emotionally drained & anxious about leaving the kids now, unexpected health worries/ accidents like this always make my anxiety sky highSad

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MundayCakes85 · 19/02/2015 22:46

Tatty my DH can get baby to sleep every time by singing Blur The Universal Shock Grin
I however just annoy her with a bit of Disney or Eric Clapton.
Just ignore those "helpful" comments with a nod and carry on doing brilliantly the way you have been Smile