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December 2011 - the one where we do the Twist and Shout

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ifyourehoppyandyouknowit · 11/05/2014 22:27

New thread.

these babies are nearly two and a half

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NorthernChinchilla · 24/06/2014 21:39

I can assure you Oi, my parents split up when I was a toddler, but handled it just as you are doing- no arguments, no fighting over money, no fighting full stop. As a result I never felt any negatives about the arrangements, only positives (my parents were friendly, the families were friendly, two very different lifestyles/experiences simultaneously as a child, two sets of friends, etc). If you carry on in this vein you will have a far more successful family than most, just one where the parents don't live together.
Well done for being so brave, and good luck for the future- and we will all be here.

Sorry you're still having a rough time mopsy, you'd think you'd only get one grim pregnancy symptom.

Pretty knackered here, didn't leave work til half 7, am in London tomorrow then going up North Thursday night. Think the only blessing of working late tonight was not having to watch England's 0-0 snorefest, and only getting the rolling blog updates.... Confused

Aethelfleda · 24/06/2014 22:55

(((((((oi))))))) well done for having the talk, and both being level headed and able to agree on what to do. boi is far better off with sensible parents who are busy loving him and working things through, than frosty grumpy people who fling insults and the occasional plate. It's not going to be easy, but it is going to be better in many ways. We're all here.

mopsy that's sucky. Hope it gets better soon....

OiMissus · 25/06/2014 08:10

Cheers. XXX thanks for your understanding/empathy/kind words. It really helps.
All ok so far. We looked at a few properties to rent online last night. Not a lot out there at the moment. Hmm Whilst I said no to sleeping on people's floors, etc., I think a swift settlement would be preferable.
How are you feeling Mopsy? Hope you're feeling better.
Whilst I've probably physically given up the chance of having another baby, I am not quite ready to give up entirely. I've made an appt at the drs, to see if it's too late. I am only 41, there may be a few more years of opportunity yet.
Que sera sera.
I have my perfect, beautiful BOi. We'll be great.

mopsytop · 25/06/2014 09:25

You're doing really well Oi. Sorry for moaning about pregnancy symptoms when I know some of you would love to be preg. I am delighted about the having a baby bit but am just really struggling already with PGP and lower back pain and only 17 weeks so worried about it just getting worse!

OiMissus · 25/06/2014 09:46

Don't apologise for sharing your experiences and tales of pregnancy!
We are excited by your pregnancy and sympathetic to your difficulties. We're here for the joy and the pain!

mopsytop · 25/06/2014 17:14

Thanks Oi!

Aethelfleda · 25/06/2014 18:09

Yep mopsy, we are here to sympathise! it will be totally worth it in the end of course

Hope people's day is going ok... Have a few days off as a funeral of a much loved auntie to go to (which is sadly likely to be a regular occurrence, I have a large collection of elderly aunties...) will be going with my brother and dad so it's OK. I used to call her for a natter on my days off when DS was napping and the house was quiet, so it feels weird not to be doing that anymore. But that's life....

Aethelfleda · 25/06/2014 18:10

Just read that back. To clarify, I have many elderly relatives. It will not be the same one requiring a funeral multiple times, it's just that they are all getting older!!

pluCaChange · 25/06/2014 20:08

Er... hello, everyone. I have a spare two hours today (you know how you have to wait for hospital appointments...(don't worry, nothing too serious)) and I read right through this thread, missing you all, and happy to see you again, at the same time, with certain exceptions!

OiMissus, your news seemed to go from being desperate for DC2 to splitting up with DH, and it was a shock! However, I'm very impressed at the efforts you two have both been making, and know that you will both do a brilliant job of making BOi happy. Hopefully, you will find ways to be happy yourselves, too.

HopAlongOn, I didn't realise, even from the secret FB group, how unhappy you were about DC2. If it makes you feel better, DS and DD are about 3y8m apart, and they truly love each other (despite the natural selfishness of such small small children). HOwever, if that is not to be in your future, either, I do hope counselling will help, perhaps purely from having your feelings acknowledged and experiencing the catharsis of good crying which doesn't hurt anyone or make anyone feel guilty or defensive.

QueenofClean, hope DD is feeling better after her operation. When DD had her op (which was non-invasive, just through the urinary tract), I was terribly disturbed to see her knocked out, and so I wish you a good recovery, too!

PartTimeProcrastinator, I think I know "who" you are, but even if not, it sounds as though you've been having a hard time, with the dramas with DP and the lump on DS's neck. How are you getting on?

Haddocks for your housework-induced fights, too, figgy!

However, CONGRATULATIONS to, I believe, ChipsandSpuds and DrFunkesFamilyBandSolution on being pregant!

Congratulations, too, to mopsytop and TheOnlySeven on pregancy, too, although it seems your joy is unfortunately tempered by pain, with illness and aggro. Sad

Slightly alloyed congratulations to Aethel, too, on DS's stoicism and elasticity after his accident!

CaffeinatedKitten, what fun to see the O-boy chasing chickens! It's an instinctive thing, isn't it? Both of mine love chasing pigeons. Maybe they're part cat?

Faffin, well done on your own pursuit - of safer roads, by reporting that drink driver. It seems extraordinary that you got such a clear-cut opportunity to do the right thing, but you certainly didn't waste it! Smile

NorthernChinchilla, that's great news about your house! It sounds a deal better from the start than your last house - I remember being shocked by the tales of the brick wallpaper over the brick wall! Confused

And, fixyourgardengate, I'm so glad "Aggy" was saved and preserved. My own grandmother was a "Lally" due to a PFGC mispronunciation, and she stayed like that, which was lovely, since it just felt a beautifully affectionate and individual name Smile

We're still renovating our house (slowly turning from an "old house" to an actual "new house"!), and have set the neighbourhood alight with gossip about our (intensely de nos jours) grey-framed windows and pale yellow facade. They'd have a fit to see the pink walls in the kitchen! Some rather surprising things have happened with colour in the house, from the yellow exterior to the light-mocha countertop in the bathroom. We even have some feature walls! Shock In about ten years, we may be on a MN Rightmove point-and-laugh thread... DH is, thankfully, not bothered negatively, but does gain some pleasure from the gossip (which helps a bit to offset his stress about the whole matter, poor thing)

I've written the first half of a book set in an alternative history - extended Little Ice Age which has meant Britain's American colonies have failed, and Scandinavia has become depopulated. Do let me know if alt history and steam punk are your thing!

DD is at preschool two mornings a week, and will go every morning from September, which ought to make the writing quicker, not to mention the quest to regain my health: so far, I'm striving through Pilates and aquafit.

Oh, and the house we're living in is a tip, but that is not really news...

Nice to see you all again!

Love, "plu" xx

DrFunkesFamilyBandSolution · 25/06/2014 21:00

Epic Plu! (and a great catch up for those who have dropped off a bit) Grin
love the book idea so far! Def up my street & very interested in reading it if you need someone to.

Seven, what a git. Sorry your Sister has to put up with such a dick.

Oi, 'glad' you've come to a resolution, hope the flat hunting is successful & everything continues to be as civil & good for boi as possible. x

Aethel, sorry for your loss.

mopsy, snap on the PGP. I can barely walk most days ffs. I was this bad with DS2 & we didn't start going out everyday until I was about 24wks pg & then everything shifted & I was going down slides & everything so fingers crossed we're both the same this time!

Still not moved, survey was done last week so really looking forward to knowing will we/won't we.
Looking at getting a 'new' car too (Ford Galaxy, so rock n roll) & awaiting the arrival of B/Sil pfb (we've bought them slings, so hope they use them)!

mopsytop · 25/06/2014 21:14

Hi plu, what a great catch up post! Lovely to see you! Grin

Faffin · 25/06/2014 21:28

Welcome back plu! It feels as though balance is restored to read an epic post from you Smile. Well done on writing the book, very impressive

oi just to echo what everyone else has said. Well done on making such a brave decision. It's great to hear that you're both handling it in such a mature and civilised fashion too. I know I was much better off for my M and D being apart rather than together (and with there being a third party involved they certainly didn't approach things in the calm and friendly manner you are!)

mopsy sorry to hear you're suffering. I hope things improve for you as they did for DrFunkes

mopsytop · 25/06/2014 21:31

Thanks all. Sorry I've been a bit of a moan lately though!

Figster · 25/06/2014 21:51

Hiya Plu waving, there's def a lot still goes on here away from the FB group though do love seeing photos over there.

Watching OBEM I really shouldn't it's making me cry I'm starting to think the longer time passes we will ever have another lo, I think I'm getting used to the idea too if we don't start after holiday in Feb that's it Hmm on the OBEM point though I could have had ds at southmead glad I went with Bath still if wedo have another will be at Bath again.

pluCaChange · 25/06/2014 21:52

Thanks for the welcome. Smile It's lovely to be back.

On the PGP, any chance of physio? I was referred with DD, and have been trying since then to Rebuild My Rotten Core : post-natal yoga, Pilates, etc. Aquafit is slso great - targeted, no body weight, low impact... and you get to feel really young amongst all the other ladies some quite elderly

fixyourgardengate · 25/06/2014 21:54

I've been lurking as always, I don't post often, but I am reading, hand holding and cheering with/for you all.

Oi Agree with everything said by everyone else. If boi ends up with half the emotional intelligence of his parents he's going to be just fine. Also, try to remember if your family are disappointed to hear your news, they will be disappointed for you, not with you. And if that isn't the case fuck em!

mopsytop · 25/06/2014 21:55

Yeah already seen physio and doing my exercises and have a belt thing. Hopefully the exercises will start having some effect soon.

pluCaChange · 25/06/2014 22:04

Glad to hear you're working on it, mopsy! Also hope the migraines die down!

fixyourgardengate · 25/06/2014 22:07

In lighter news, we've had quite the week.

Monday morning I check my phone after messy play to see 7 missed calls from dh and some texts telling me the car was dead. We've had the car since it was 4 years old. Was originally my Mum's co car so we got a good deal when her lease came to an end (and as dh said we knew for definite thst there really had been one careful lady driverGrin ).

So that car has helped us move house 5 times, drove our kittens home for the first time, and both dc were driven home in it. God times.

So it is sad. And worrying as we have no savings, credit cards are already maxed out and we would not pass a credit check for a loaf of bread right now.

DH manages to borrow a pool car from work and does a tour of local dealerships so we can work out how much money we need to borrow from my long suffering dm.

He then buggers off back to work to play footie. And hobbles home Shock . Assume he tore a muscle. His ankle and lower calf are black two days later.

I was so Angry Angry Angry Angry I barely spoke to him Monday night. Although did convince him to ice it, found him a tube bandage thing and got him to take some of the kids calprofen as we didn't have any ibuprofen tablets in the house.

Tues he goes off to work then asks me when he gets home to go and buy him some ibuprofen. Despite working right next to a supermarket and presumably driving past any number of pharmacies through the day he still hadn't sorted himself out painkillers. I went to bed -so I would break his other leg-

Today we think we have found a car. All seems good.

We get home and he drops his frigging phone on the floor which shatters the screen.

That is three, right? I can do a silent scream and move on? Please!!

fixyourgardengate · 25/06/2014 22:09

Oh and I hate doing messages on the app, please ignore typos! dh using laptop to get insurance quotes sorted.

mopsytop · 25/06/2014 22:20

Oh dear fix. Really not your week so far Sad. Hopefully rest of week will be better...

TheOnlySeven · 25/06/2014 22:50

fix sorry you're having a bad week, and also sorry that I have absolutely no idea who you are. Any chance of a clue please?!

plu good to see you back, I'd definitely be interested to read your book :)

mopsy sorry you're suffering, hope there's an improvement soon.

oi I think you're really brave and completely admire your ability to handle it so well.

I had my 28 week MW appt today, terrifying how fast it's going. I won't see her again until 34 weeks, which will probably be my last appointment before she arrives.

pluCaChange · 26/06/2014 08:06

Definitely three, Seven. Don't make it four by breaking his leg, hey? HOWEVER, ear-bashing doesn't count, and nor does haddocking, so thrash him properlyl!

will PM you about the book.

ifyourehoppyandyouknowit · 26/06/2014 09:13

Hello all. We need to do a FB post with everyone's new usernames. I'm confuseled.

funk I'm OK about the no 2nd DC. I understand DH's reasons, and know that it's my choice ultimately - if I'm making a choice to stay in the marriage then I need to do it accepting that I have been part of the choice not to have a second, if that makes sense? I don't want another baby enough to break up my current family. And DH doesn't want another baby to the extent that he accepts that I might want to leave to pursue that elsewhere. I've got DS and DH and that's enough.

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pluCaChange · 26/06/2014 12:11

That's a very big "doesn't want". Sad