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AGnu · 11/10/2013 19:21

Old thread here

Bibs at the ready, things are about to get very messy! Grin

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bringonthetrumpets · 30/01/2014 16:09

Disclaimer; random rambling....

I think I'm just being my own self-critic and judgey-pants, but M and I haven't been out of the house all week and every day we've just been sitting in the living room, me with a coffee and a movie, her on the floor with her toys like. all. day. long. I feel like I'm supposed to be doing something. Am I supposed to be doing something? Urgh. It's snowing another 12 inches outside, it was -30 again on Monday and Tuesday.... I just want to hibernate. Dude, I feel like I'm going crazy. I go between wanting to just get the heck out of the house and being stir-crazy and just going back to sleep and hiding under the duvet all day. How many more days until SPRING???? I'm sorry. This isn't exactly baby-related Sad

kittykatsforever · 30/01/2014 19:04

It doesn't have to be baby related bring, were here for support and I'd like to think are friends in a round about way, I havnt done much with kitten of late particulally as she's been ill but I seem to try doing the same thing, toys on floor while I'm constantly cleaning up after 3 cats, dh and toddler while she screams at me for leaving her or more stimulation! She's not fussed being in the jumperoo or being left anywhere really and part of me would love to watch a movie I have tried but tiger seems to believe that shouldn't be my purpose in life and that I am there purly for her entertainment!
It's hard with weather like you've described, I'm sure as soon as it relents abit you'll be out and about but there's nothing worse then them getting ill or being cold ThanksBrew

AGnu · 30/01/2014 21:04

YY to us being friends! I don't really have any others! Blush

Bring if it makes you feel any better we only leave the house 2 mornings of the working week at the moment. I don't have the energy to face the anxiety of even popping to the park which involves crossing a playing field... Who knows what could happen on the way... Hmm Most of our in house time is spent with Calf pottering around in the living room & Runt in the walker or asleep.

As of this morning I think our 2 days out might be down to just one. I went out to the café my church runs one day a week & spent the entire morning either trying to encourage Calf to eat his lunch or having to intervene in children's disputes because their parents weren't paying attention. 2 children decided that the room where buggies are left was their 'home' & any child who dared to wander in was grabbed by one of them & roughly escorted from the room! His mum, who I know a bit, was in another room so when he tried that with Calf who went in to play with the buggy wheels I calmly told him he wasn't being very kind & although he was playing a game he didn't get to choose who else happened to be in the room. I then had to rescue several other children from him because their parents were too busy chatting too. That's before I even get to the bit where Calf was walloped so hard in the face with a pull along toy accidentally that he fell over as if he'd been sucker punched. Yes, an accident, but the mother shouldn't have been watching while her young toddler flicked the toy around!

To add insult to all this injury, I had one person who I considered a friend Calf's Godmother who I usually spend some time chatting to. She often meets up with one of her NCT mum friends there 'home'-boy's mum & we all get on ok but today there were another 2 mums with them which meant between them there were 8 0-3s & meant there wasn't enough space at the table for all of us. I sat by myself feeling like an idiot & realising that, as always, our 'friendship' has mostly consisted of me approaching her, unless she needed somewhere to stop for lunch because she lives a little way away. There were several other people there that I know a bit but none of them came to sit with us. One person popped over to ask if I was 'alright' but by that point I'd have burst into tears if I'd admitted the truth! I just wanted someone to make small talk with!

It's always this way when I try to make friends. They never seem interested in hanging out with me & I'm too scared to invite anyone round because I don't want them feeling obliged to spend time with me out of pity. I'm not an incredibly social person but that doesn't mean I don't want friends! I spent my entire adolescence being left out because one girl took a dislike to me. At least, that's what I thought at the time. Maybe I am just too weird for anyone to want to hang out with! Sad

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Lorelei353 · 30/01/2014 22:14

Sorry I haven't posted on ages. DS' s crawling means I spend my days chasing him around! Also there's been loads of great discussion in here of late and I keep meaning to reply but things move on before I get a chance and I don't want to seem rude by not acknowledging everyone and then I got hopelessly lost. Sad

Agnu sounds really tough. Hope you're not still feeling too upset.

Bring with that kind of weather I wouldn't go out either!

Frusso · 31/01/2014 08:33

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Lorelei353 · 31/01/2014 08:58

We are all friends here!

peardrop2 · 31/01/2014 14:19

Anyone know anything about air wrap bumpers? Trying to find a solution to stop monkey thighs getting stuck in between the bars in the night Shock

Lorelei353 · 31/01/2014 16:13

We have those pear . They're good. Do stop head banging and leg tanglement.

bringonthetrumpets · 31/01/2014 18:31

Thanks gals. I feel as if we are friends too, and it's always a comfort to be able to come on here and vent. Thanks

Agnu I'm so sorry you're having a hard time with other mums. You and I are quite similar in that respect, so I can totally empathize with you. I don't really have great friends who have kids the same ages as mine, more like acquaintances who don't really want to hang out unless I drive 30 minutes north to the city and meet them at a playgroup somewhere where there are 40 more rude, snotty-coughy, bossy kids You're not too weird to hang out with people. There's nothing wrong with being selective with who you spend your time with. Motherhood is SO FLIPPIN HARD SOMETIMES! Especially when it comes to trying to be friends with other mums. In the US we always say that cliquey behaviour is "so high school" but part of me thinks that we never truly get out of our 16 year old brains, we just get bigger, slightly smarter, and have to pay more bills as we get older. Socially, we just never change and the same stupid behaviours never stop. I feel so antisocial sometimes because I've just learned after trying to go to different meet ups and mums groups over the years it doesn't accomplish anything but make me feel inadequate, judgey of other kids and their parents, and/or even more introverted than before. I hope this doesn't read as it becoming about me through your story agnu, I hope it's something that shows I can relate to what you're going through

AGnu · 01/02/2014 01:02

Bring When are you moving back over here? Wink My neighbours are old. They're not going to be around forever. I'll let you know when one of their houses becomes available & we can spend all our time together hiding in each others houses & complaining about all the other mums! In fact, lets start a commune place. We'll buy a bit of woodland & call ourselves the Gemini Community! Grin

Sorry, made me giggle!
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peardrop2 · 01/02/2014 11:06

Thanks Lor. Next on my never ending list is to search for a easy to use stair gate! One that I can actually open would be useful Wink

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peardrop2 · 01/02/2014 16:20

Bring ~ I didn't go to any baby groups in January felt empowering. We actually on went out twice so don't feel bad. My baby hasn't even been sick and it's not snowing Wink I've just really enjoyed stepping back from all the crazy stuff Smile

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kittykatsforever · 01/02/2014 19:09

Gosh that's along time to go with no nap baby frus!! Kitten would be clawing hers eyes out by now! She seems to have still got a cold and her nose is pooring Hmm
I love the days when I can just stay in but it never happens, we have so many classes and meets each week that Thursday is the only free day but to be honest tiger drives me stir crazy at home and all I do is walk around after her picking things up Hmm

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peardrop2 · 01/02/2014 21:03

Oh Frus Hmm we've has a non nap day too. It's insanely frustrating! We've decided that CIO training begins tomorrow. It's going to be utter hell HmmConfusedHmm I must remember to stock up on wine, galaxy and gossip mags to get me through it!

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peardrop2 · 01/02/2014 23:02

Frus would he still fit in a sling? Baby pear is far too big for any of the slings I've got even though they say up to the age of 12 months...liars !!

bringonthetrumpets · 01/02/2014 23:41

I would love to move back. But... DH's job here is way more successful than anything he's ever had in the UK and we've got ample space for the kids to run around plus plant a vegetable garden, across the street from a lake, it's just the damn snow we've got to contend with for 6 months. Confused Let me know when the old batties die off and I'll try to talk DH into it Wink Also, I would absolutely LOVE to move onto a hippy commune, have chickens, grow veg, make our own cheese, yogurts, and soaps and let the kids run around naked. wishful thinking Oh, and I want a goat. Just because I think they're funny Grin

Must be something in the air, moaning children today and yesterday! Sometimes they've just got to moan it out.

Did you get a break at all today frusso? Redecorating? I love to decorate!

AGnu · 02/02/2014 02:18

No. No goats. They're scary! We can have muntjac deer though. They're goat-like but licky instead of nibbly!

I'm back on my meds. Have spent all day in bed feeling like a zombie. The side effects should ease after a couple of weeks though! Hmm Still, it'll be worth it in the long run if I can avoid sobbing for half a day because my friend has other friends!

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kittykatsforever · 02/02/2014 09:19

We have a poorly kitten again Hmm why why why, she's not not been sick for about 2 weeks now, she's had better days but is now snorted up and coughing again
Pear- kitten still insists on being carried around and was yesterday refered to as a koala also!!
Agnu I don't think anyone really likes their friends having other friends unless there yours aswell I hope the side affects clear soon and kick in for you

Frusso · 02/02/2014 10:21

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