The 7th Broadly Gemini Luxury Bus - Now with highchairs!

[AGnu]

Old thread here

Bibs at the ready, things are about to get very messy!

Kitty ~ oh I'm glad you said that as we've just brought one. My boy is heavy and my back is starting to hurt. We do have an isofix so I wasn't sure if this was the right thing to do as I know the isofix makes car seats safer. We have a really low car though and I just know I'm going to be thankful for this when I fall pregnant again If I had a money tree I would have brought the Britax Dulax as that can be rear facing which is safer. Now I just need to decide when to move him into it. He must be at least 20lbs by now as he was 19.6lbs 2 weeks before Xmas.

They only have to be 19lb pear or 9 months or be tall I.e their legs are hanging over the end of the other one
We had one for tiger and knew that was what Id get again as having used lots of people and seen them non is as easy as the axiss

I don't think any but the axiss twists frus, may be wrong but not heard of one and that reclines
Is anyone still friends with mrsbri ( Nic) she's announced she's pregnant again! Im

We've got Britax duo plus seats for both boys. We bought Runt's in the sales just after Christmas! No idea what he weighs at the moment. There's a clinic this afternoon that I might be able to make it to if Calf isn't asleep by then. Personally I think 2pm is a really stupid time to have a baby weighing clinic. I can't imagine I'm the only person who struggles to get along to them because of a sleeping toddler! Runt is usually asleep at that time too. I'm just planning to switch seats when his head reaches the top. Based on the clothes he's in now he's about the same size as Calf was at 9-10 months so we've probably got another 1-2 months before we move him. They're growing up so fast!

Also very at people getting pregnant! My friend's just found out she's having a boy. I spent ages last night pondering what I'd like to call our DS3! Middle name definitely Andrew, first name maybe Moses, Abraham or Gabriel. DH vetoed all those for both previous boys but he also vetoed Runt's name for Calf so I'm hopeful!

Hmmm, me thinks you're trying again agnu! DH and I are always on the lookout for a future potential child's name. I think we have a short list going

Hahahah yes I can definitely see how that would work in sales pear Doula/midwifery is quite different. While of course I would love all the people I interview to choose me, it's probably best because they're looking for something that I can't offer them, our philosophy on birth doesn't align somewhere, or maybe they just don't like the sound of my voice... who knows. If I'm going to be stuck with them in their most vulnerable moment for hours or potentially days and we don't mesh well, it's not a fun position to be in. I have doula'd for a family that didn't really know if they wanted a doula or not but hired me anyway and it was a really bad birth with a lot of complications and I felt so traumatized and they didn't feel like I supported them (how could I if they didn't really want me there in the first place?) and I haven't seen them since the actual birth. Despite my attempts to contact them and to help them in the postnatal, I still don't even know what the baby's name is and that was 2 years ago!

M is still in her initial car seat. She's really long but still quite skinny and light in weight so she'll be in there for a while. At least until the summer when it's not too cold to take her out of the car seat if we go somewhere. But hey, it's working up my arm and shoulder muscles

Ha ha Agnu, I can see an accident happen!!
I love Runts name I've got to say, really really like it and not common but I've got to say I'd have vetoed Gabriel aswell, it might be ok with your home school plan but kids are cruel and you know down the line you'd get the inevitable ....
Bring that sounds a bad experience, I can't imagine how rude you'd have to be that even if it wasn't what you'd wanted you wouldn't send a msg later saying the baby's name etc

Yes I'm still friends with MrsBri. She sent me her scan photo this week. It doesn't feel real at all as it still feels like yesterday we were both announcing our BFP's for DC1!! She's a brave lady! As much as I can't wait to fall pregnant I don't think I could handle a 1 year gap myself. Can't wait to be pregnant again though! Very much enjoying just having baby pear to myself right now

Frus ~ yes the axis does seem a reasonable price considering we were going to spend £120 on a maxi cosi pearl

So the doctor said I need to give more water and more Lactolose. Admittedly I've only been giving water at meal times to avoid spoiling his appetite so I shall carry his beaker around now. Might have 2 on the go to help remind me!

And yes bring you're absolutely right. Midwifery and the doula field is a completely different ball game! It must be a real delight when you do get the bonding right and a real headache when it doesn't go to plan!!

Pear my friend had a year age gap and really didn't enjoy that first year, we never saw her and when my mum asked her how she was her answer was this is my life isn't it, you just have to accept it I think she found it incredibly difficult! That said now she's really happy but her youngest is almost 3 now, I like my age gap but even another six months would have made it easier, tiger had good communication when kitten was born etc but I've had to potty train her etc with her and at times it's been difficult if I'd had her 6 months later the difference is unbelievable and it's a lot easier now

Kitty ~ remind me what your age gap is?

My first two are 18 months and 2 days apart.

How did you find it bring? I think the perks are really there long term when they are so close but hard work for mums with that age, pear there's 20 months between mine, I was pregnant again when tiger was 8 months but sadly miscarried so that would have been about a 16 month gap, I find the age gap now totally fine but it was harder when tiger was just that bit younger as she was still really a baby too and it's hard for them to get when you can't just put the new baby down or carry them etc I guess it's probably be the same any gap to a degree but I find it a lot easier now that tiger can just watch a mr tumble or 10 mins tv prog while I just sort the baby out sometimes at night if I'm on my own whereas at 20 months she wouldn't watch any tv or be left on her own for a second, the talking and understanding difference that they go through between 1 and a half to two plus is amazing

There's 19 months between my two. I'm not sure waiting would've been better for us. Calf actually demands more of my attention now he's bigger & more curious about absolutely everything! He's also a lot more into throwing than he was 6 months ago. Also more interested in Runt - for the first few months he basically ignored him & didn't seem bothered by us sharing our time between them. Now he wants to help parent him! He's constantly bringing him toys, telling him not to be sad or trying to make him smile. Often the toys aren't suitable & his attempts to make him smile involve an awful lot of jumping/shrieking! Runt's getting big enough now to take a few knocks but I don't know how we'd have coped with Calf being so full on when he was smaller! It's difficult to know whether it's the stage of development that Calf's at or if it's just that Runt is getting more interesting to him. I figure, have another when it feels right to you & you'll all just have to get used to the new baby when it arrives! That said, I know one couple with 3 under 3 who are really struggling! Their youngest is nearly 5 months now & they've only been to our toddler group twice since he arrived!

Have been chatting to DH about the possibility of more at some point in the future. For years now I've had it in my head that I'd like to have 2, wait about 4 years & then have another 1 or 2. DH just wants 2 & seems quite set on that. He says he's just so exhausted all the time that he can't even consider the idea at the moment! Hopefully it's just the busyness of having little ones & he'll change his mind once they get to 4 & 6 & hopefully have more settled routines. This all came about because we've been meaning to pack up the moses basket for ages but because it's an heirloom DH wanted to check with his dad in case any other family members might want it. He's now considering getting rid of it. It's a tatty old thing & had to be repaired before we could put Calf in it but if we got rid of it it'd seem like we were closing the door on having any more DC. I jokingly told DH that he didn't have to have anymore but I could always divorce him & go find someone else to have some with. He'd obviously checked out of the conversation by that point - he was staring into space & just mumbled "yeah, fine..."!!

It was definitely an interesting first year! It was a lot of work and we were pretty tired, but looking back we wouldn't have changed a thing. DS1 really liked to torture DS2 when #2 was a baby (well, that still keeps happening...) and so it was a constant struggle to pay attention to both of their needs. As #2 started to get more interactive #1 started paying more attention to him and playing with him. Now they are each other's best friend (and worst enemy at times too) but I like that they are so close in age. Now it's weird to contemplate on how M will grow up so differently than the boys did. DH and I have talked many times about adding a 4th but he wants to wait like 5 years from now and I know that if I'm going to do the baby thing again, I just want to clump it together to get through the trenches of nappies and toilet learning instead of getting used to the freedoms of having older kids and then starting all over again. Maybe next year?

That's really sad to contemplate agnu I hope he can be convinced otherwise. It sounds like you'd quite like another!

Ha ha Agnu, now my case was the total opposite, tigger was totally loved up with kitten when she was born and wanted to "help" all the time, I cough there on a couple of occasions trying to push raisins in her mouth trying to feed her and came back to her once with brown stains down her front, it later transpired ( I found the can) that shed got hold of an empty can of diet coke with the dregs left and tried to give it to her she also wanted her on her knee all the time but she may have been the same now?! She still likes making her laugh but doesn't do any of the other things but at the time she just didn't seem to get why she couldn't feed her things
Dh did say to me last night I can see what you mean about wanting another when you see babies so maybe there's some hope?!
Bring I'd be the same as you, you've got the two older ones now, if you wanted a forth I'd want to do it while I was still in the throw of nappies and doing baby things,I think that now but like Agnu's friend think 3 young ones would be too much plans take the enjoyment away but when they are older does it not put you off starting again when your getting some freedom back?? It'd be nice having just one at home though if the others are school age but I'm getting abit too old for that I think

Boys are just so different though, kitty. The boys are very maternal and loving towards M now, but DS1 wasn't bothered about helping out with DS2 when they were younger. He just wanted to take whatever #2 had and hit him over the head with it! He went through a hitting phase too.

Yes, absolutely. Once M is old enough to start Montessori school like the boys did I don't think I'd want to go back to babyhood again.

So what's the verdict. Is a 1, 2, 2.5 year or 3 year gap best? Sounds like to me you're all happy with your gaps so maybe it's just impossible to plan too much? Or individual preference!

Kitty ~ car seat has arrived woohoo. I get to try it out today. Hoping praying baby pear sleeps in this one!!

Oh dear I've been really naughty and lazy I was meant to attempt putting b pear down in his cot for his morning nap but instead I've been having warm cuddles because I don't want to do any of the boring chores on my list and I couldn't face him waking up early. Naughty mummy

Yes pear I think you hit the nail on the head
Naughty cuddly pear and koala!!