November 2012 - Babies are getting busy, busy, busy

[StuntNun]

Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1858262-November-2012-In-which-the-babies-start-to-reach-their-first-birthdays

Has he drunk plenty Detective ? Other than that I leave high temperature no pain but controllable for three days. With pain or evident discomfort I go in pretty much immediately.

det o had that. 5 days of high temp, turned out to be ear infection. Trust yourself and take him to dr if necessary.

gt I used medela shields. Size info on medela site.

O is down, pls let her stay like that till 7 am.

Lovely coffee and scone, in a dress on my own looking at the sea. Needed rest of day been baby toddler tactic!

Right, feel free to completely ignore me or think I am a stupid baby proud mummy, but, I found O with an etchasketch today. Actually mark making. Holding the pencil thing with his right hand and everything. Is that about right age wise, if is it a bit clever?

Hia.

det p's temp was never under 39oC for almost 24 hours with obvious discomfort. I got a very mixed response from MHP. NHS 24 nurse #1 said she needed seen within the hour (this was at hour 12 of temp). OOH doc was sympathetic and reassuring but said just to keep calpoling and nurofening in tandem. He did say that if she was still in clear discomfort by the afternoon that if needed to call back and they would likely want her in for observation. I did this and spoke to a nurse who was pretty concerned. P was sleeping and I had to shake her awake for the call. That nurse wanted her seen within 30 minutes and was humming and hawing about A&E. Went to OOH GP (different one) having been told that he would likely admit her immediately and he was a total shit. Sent me home with a prescription for antibiotics which she didn't need saying "I am 99.9% certain that she has a virus and the antibiotics will make her sicker but here you go". Her temp went down eventually on its own. Horrible though. Hope he feels better soon.

Sophie I would be so proud! I was chuffed at H waving when I say bye bye. Lol

I am very impressed sophia! That sounds lovely. P would be eating it!

Thank you to madam and pennie and others who have shared a bit with the career business. My story continued today.

So. I did. Lot of thinking and mulling over and by this morning I was 100% certain that I was totally happy just doing what I do for the next wee while. I spoke to the interviewers and got really good, positive feedback. I spoke to my line manager and got lots of support. I taught some lovely classes and did nice things and generally felt happy with how things had gone. The actual person who got the job wasn't clear because two of the other candidates were up for other jobs today. Turns out they both got those jobs and both accepted them so the successful candidate for the job I interviewed for was totally unknown. Then, at lunchtime I got an email from one of the office staff congratulating me on getting the job. I think . But don't get myself too concerned. Then another office lady sees me on the corridor and is all "woohoo! Congrats!". And then basically I spend the rest of the afternoon in a total spiral of "what do I do? And what is happening?

Then an email goes out to all staff congratulating the other candidate.

So all the good work I did in my brain went to shit and I blubbed and blubbed.

Oh Pass I'd have wept too! It's still hard when you rationalise something and talk yourself out of it. In fact it's possibly harder. It's their loss though. If you fancy lunch or a cuppa next week - get a slip from one of the other teachers to let you out at lunchtime or do a bunk to mine!

So on Marsbar-gate he woke up from his afternoon nap weepy and has def' been comfort feeding but it's not like descending into the seventh circle of hell / a screamathon yet. Fingers crossed.

Sophia that's v impressive. Jonas and I play with paint brushes and water on the path in the garden and he tends to just slurp the brush rather than make marks yet!

Oh dear pass the whole career/mother thing is hard. If you are anything like me I am sure you will flip day to day. Harder when things are as confusing as they seem for you at the mo. Eat drink

((Pass))

sophia impressive. O would have chewed on it or threw it across the room. Or ignore.

Sounds promising yw

Thank you missus YW! Thankfully tomorrow marks the end of term and on Monday we head off to swanky pad in Nice. I have never needed a holiday so much in my life.

22oC and raining. Don't care about rain. The balcony has a canopy and the parents in law who were there until today and stocked the fridge with rosé and gin

Fuck yes. Sorry for being so chuffing insular. Fingers crossed little bear can handle the Mars bar.

Yep sophia. Today it was minute by minute!

What's for you won't go by you.

Mrs crisps teacher of animals... You are correct but deserve massive Gus anyhow.

I also owe Kyz and pennie hugs

YW crossing things for you

Sophia what a clever O!

Pass sounds like my kind of holiday. I love going away at this time of year. A few years ago we stayed with a pal in his flat in Dubrovnik old town in October and it was wonderful - warm sea for swimming, no tourists, the occasional storm and a melancholic feeling that the year was on the turn. Enjoy it!

Gus is clearly gin and hugs!

Grrr. Didn't post.... O sweaty and clammy. Second cool shower given.

Now in bed, in short sleeved vest and 1 tog grow bag.

May take that off though.

Fluids - he's taken about 30ml watery apple juice, which is normal for him.

But 3oz of bedtime bottle only. He wanted to suck, and kept swapping the bottle for the muslin. I gave up in the end.

Will check his temp in an hour. May wake him for calpol before I go to bed.

Seems okay. Just the temp. Stupid bugs!

Pass :( I'm not career minded - well, obvs I have one, but I have no aspirations to do anything other than be a shop floor midwife. I think it is hard when you have children. You are torn in so many ways. You are young. P will only be little the once. Enjoy what you have for now, and the next opportunity might come at a better time for you? When you are good at your job, progression will not pass you by! :) Stupid work for making you question yourself. Well. Stupid colleagues.

OK DH thinks it was just a Mars Bar it was a big fat buttery Gregg's pasty too I'm a classy bird what can I say but you know what he's asleep in my arms - no fuss - after being a lovely wee soul all day. Fingers well and truly the fuck crossed.

I'm having a big wobble about work. 7 weeks til L is 1 and 8 til work.

Nursery settling in is better but not great and I need some days to work before I go back properly. The other girl in my team who is a 'talent' like me apparently has resigned as she says 3 days a week doesn't work and balancing motherhood and career doesn't work at our place. I'm now worried how I will cope. That's 3 part time women all gone from our department in total now. Wibble.

Det that's really lovely advice. But don't knock shop floor midwifery - some of us would not be here cuddling our wee babs without you and your sisters! You do amazing things every day and are more appreciated than you can know. I hope O gets well soon xxx

My parents think I should go in to management.

I couldn't think of anything worse .

I am happy in the thick of it :)

Even if I grump about it . It's the volume, and the place, not the work!

I got covered in shit today.

Nothing new there!

I also got a really lovely thank you from someone I spent most of my shift helping. Very rewarding :) Especially when I had a wee wobble sending another woman home and seeing her baby wearing the exact same snowsuit as O had, and we took him home in. I do miss being at home.

Thanks ladies. Am all over the sophia

And det shop floor is where the work actually happens.

pikz can you go in for an hour or over the next couple of weeks? Are you going back part time? My feeling would be not to worry too much about the experiences of others as everyone comes at it from a different perspective. You have 2 months to prepare all of you - that includes work. From my experience of part time/job share in my work it works best when the person is absolutely firm about the arrangement. Employers will push and push to see what they can get away with.

How many menz have these issues? Not very many.

I was doing a lesson today on thoughts and feelings. The kids were sharing their aspirations. A wee girl said she wanted to be a doctor and a wee boy spluttered and said "doesn't she mean a nurse?" He genuinely, genuinely didn't know that girls could be Doctors. He was even more mind blown when I said that boys could be nurses!

I told them it was a wonderful world where you could be whatever you wanted to be regardless of being a boy or a girl.

Get well soon O. L wants you back on form!

Pass your right time to be firm i think. I think the wobble is that I can't go in til L settles in nursery better and he's being slow to settle so I think it adds stress to my head. I want to go work some half days before I go back. It's also that I have stepped backwards from a management roll and a senior roll to a individual contributor one and I know in my heart it's right but my head says I have fucked my career up.