November 2012 - Thinking about first birthdays? Already?

[StuntNun]

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Cake smash? What's that?

Look at the bottom picture

That looks awesome. I might have my own dairy cake smash - with pics of me gorging on said cake until I'm unconscious with a big fat chocolate gut

www.writelikenooneswatching.com/2013/06/williams-first-birthday-cake-smash.html?m=1

Sorry that didn't work... I like these cake smash photos

www.writelikenooneswatching.com/2013/06/williams-first-birthday-cake-smash.html?m=1

no way!!! What a waste of cake !!! :o

I've just broken down. My body is broken. I'm emotionally broken.

What's happened chasing? Or are you just feeling a bit spent? Everyone is allowed down days and you're on a real journey. Share if it helps. Hugs and being sent your way.

You're not broken Chasing sweetheart, you're on an emotional rollercoaster at the moment and every bump along the bottom is hitting you hard. Please post and tell us what's up so we can hold your hand.

Oh no chasing that is terrible. What has happened?

It's a blip chasing give us your hands and let us help you back up again.

Just having a stupid, emotional day.

XSIL is being induced today which is causing all sorts of mixed emotions. Ikea was full of couples and families. O decided he didn't want an afternoon nap and the 45 mins of rocking trying to persuade him otherwise has caused my back to give up. My mouth is still sore from my filling. I want someone to give me a hug, let me cry on their shoulder and pack me off to bed for a few hours. Woe is me etc.....

I don't know what to say Chasing, it's emotionally draining for you to deal with all that. Is there anything you can do to pamper yourself for a bit? Maybe introduce O to the delights of Peppa Pig on the telly so you can relax with a book?

chasing I know it's easy to say but tomorrow is another day. Do you have something you can take for your back? With a big glass of water and a decent meal? It is normal to have bad days, but they are becoming rarer. In just a few short weeks you're starting the next stage of your adventure.

Sorry Stunt, I fell asleep. I quite often wonder how you would respond if it were another quichester writing what you do. I think, for me anyway, it is because you are clearly an awesomely kind thoughtful intelligent woman, that we do not say more in response to your comments about your husband.

Anyway, that got me to thinking....

There have been many times recently that I have thought of the following verse when reading of Chasing, MM and you Stunt. I have always resisted writing it for fear of offending. But today, I am feeling brave

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.

1 Corinthians 13.

Thank you VQ.

That is a lovely verse vq

I know that verse well VQ, an important lesson in recognising love and in how to give it.

The issues that I have been having relationship-wise are perhaps rooted in previous events but have become much more difficult for me over the past year. I suspect that there has been a perfect storm of health worries, lack of sleep, DS1's behavioural problems, DH's frequent travelling for work, stress, redundancy, selling the house... When you add it up it is a recipe for disaster, for that reason I'm hoping it is a situation that will improve over time, especially now that J's sleep is somewhat better. We have a loving but very volatile relationship and the only way forward will be if we can work together to resolve any issues such that we are both happy. The weary months with a newborn are not the best time for rational discussion and compromise.

Thank you all. I know I have to talk to my friend and I will. She knows that something is bothering me and also knows when I'm ready I will tell her. She is an awesome friend otherwise.

stunt huge hugs. He was way out of line and the being in the kitchen alone while cooking is just strange.

chasing do you have hot water bottle? It always helps my back pain. Try resting. And it will be ok, I promise, tomorrow is a better day.

That's very lovely VQ and a timely reminder to all of us what love should be. It reminds me to stop keeping tabs on DH's 'errors' (i.e. doing stuff in a way other than I would ) I think I need to go easier on him as he's so easy to be around even when I'm being an arse. He's looked after the bear all day, done the shop, got Jonas some jeans and other bits from Mothercare and made a roast dinner whilst I've been freelancing. I hate having to spend Sundays working but it's the only way I can keep my hand in until J goes to nursery for a couple of days a week once he turns one. I couldn't do it without him so need to stop taking him for granted. And we all know VQ's cure for not taking men for granted - and it's NOT mentioned in St Paul's letter to the Corinthians!!!

Chasing one day I wish that you will meet a bloke as lovely as my DH and he will spoil you and O for being the gosh darn wonderful bunnies that you are. And you will my love xxx

That was lovely vq and YW you are so right. A timely reminder to me too to cherish what I have.

Just reading the Sunday papers and came across the solution to the swaddle problem people had months ago and that I shall post anyway in case of the next ones bubbaroo.co.uk/joey-pouch-swaddling-bag/joey-pouch.html

I do hope you guys can work it out Stunt x I know too well the pressure there is on a relationship when baby doesn't sleep, especially when there are other siblings and issues from childhood.

I must admit I do not allow the kids in the kitchen while I am cooking unless they are strapped down or at least occupied with drawing or something.

Thank you VQ, it helps to remind me why I am doing this

I have taken some nurofen for my back and had dinner but I never really get a chance to rest. I can count on one hand the number of times I have sat on the sofa in the 2 months I have been here.

As for ever finding a new man, I know it will be a long time before I am ready and I'm hardly the catch of the century - Damaged goods r us here. So it seems very unobtainable right now.

But I think of stunt and lily and know that I have it easy really. I feel embarrassed about how much I moan on here but it is a real lifeline.

Stunt I don't feel that there is any advice I can give you as you are a very intelligent woman. I think in your position you are right to give the situation time to calm down and wait for life to become less frantic. I hope your DH realises how truly lucky he is.

all round

I also had an afternoon like that, Chasing. My mum took R for a few hours and i went to bed. I've been dropping hints for days and today was breaking point so she got a tearful earful