August 2005 - they're on the move

[Azure]

Here's the new place to chat about all our wonderful babies, while they still are babies.

the only good purpose my GP appointment served was to get me out of the house for an hour. he says i only have mild PND, he doesn't like to use AD's unless a last resort and suggested i 'get out more' and use my friends to help give me a break from the monotony of looking after ds (what friends? they all ran for the hills after the initial flush of cooing over v small ds)
i should get MIL to pick ds up at 10am every day so i can go to the gym (which i can't get to or afford).........
came out feeling marginally worse than when i went in. i really felt like he was trying his best to give me non-medical solutions to my PND but fails to grasp that i just can't face leaving the house and starting all over again with a whole new social circle.
i KNOW i have to get out more and that isolation is the root of my depression. sorry i'm rambling..........just feel let down.

the only good purpose my GP appointment served was to get me out of the house for an hour. he says i only have mild PND, he doesn't like to use AD's unless a last resort and suggested i 'get out more' and use my friends to help give me a break from the monotony of looking after ds (what friends? they all ran for the hills after the initial flush of cooing over v small ds)
i should get MIL to pick ds up at 10am every day so i can go to the gym (which i can't get to or afford).........
came out feeling marginally worse than when i went in. i really felt like he was trying his best to give me non-medical solutions to my PND but fails to grasp that i just can't face leaving the house and starting all over again with a whole new social circle.
i KNOW i have to get out more and that isolation is the root of my depression. sorry i'm rambling..........just feel let down.

grrrrr at double post.

Oh heavens qr you do sound sad. I don't know what to say except I wish you were here and we could sit out in the sun on the patio!
I really feel for you. Have you checked out the Mum's group details again? Do you go swimming? Is there a MN meet up in your area soon? Could you afford a holiday? Haggerston castle near Dunbar are doing a great deal next week- a lovely caravan for 4 days for £89.

i have taken some Rescue Remedy (which i have bought for my dentist appt on Fri) and i feel a little better already.........i have felt tearful a couple of times but am managing to control it, so think the remedy is helping.
had a chat with MIL and she is around to help by giving me lifts to see friends out of town etc. i'm going to try for the M&B group on a Monday instead because dp doesn't work Fridays, and we do stuff together then. i really need to get a grip on the severity of my mood swings so am off to the local health food shop to get some herbal remedies to see if they help. to be honest i think some of my problem is hormonal......after being on the pill for about 12 years i'm suddenly experiencing life at the mercy of my natural cycle and think my body is going a little haywire. having looked at my diary this afternoon it suddenly dawned on me that my breaking point came at the end of my first AF in nearly 4 months. i've just been so foggy that i've not noticed! i'm usually more observant about my body/outside influences and the effect they have on my emotional state.........i'm living a Groundhog day existence which my doctor agrees is very easy to slip into when trying to establish a routine with a little one, but he says i need to find ways to break the routine and get MY life back.
it helps having you guys here to bounce stuff off.......quite often just seeing this stuff written down is a great help in itself.

hi - dd born augaut 05 so this thread fascinating for me. She is crawling and cruising but desperate to walk and chase older sister around!
I am stuck in small village and very isolated so feel for queenrollo.

we are moving but can't decide whether to buy beautiful but cut off country cottage, or stunning house in slightly naff position in a town..........I am tempted by town just so I could find more company, find village ghastly but am also tempted by chocolate box cottage which is quite isolated. Any thoughts?

How do stay at home mums meet people?

hi girlymomma.........welcome to the thread.

oooooo i'd go for chocolate box cottage, even though i feel isolated now!! what a choice to make. do you drive? i don't which is the biggest part of my problems. i am saving up to do an intensive course but need to get my confidence back or there'll be no point.
whereabouts in the country are you?

put yourself on \link{http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk?topicid=2330&threadid=107147&stamp=060504233815\our august Stats thread} most of us on there i think...........

Hiya girlymomma... I've personally go for the nice house. But only if you can drive places. I didn't have a car at our last house and even though it was in the town, I was quite far from everything so felt quite isolated. I'm in a wee village now and feel more at home.

QR - grrrr at your doctor. Not a very sympathetic ear. You might like to try some St Johns Wort as it can work well (but interferes with other medicine so watch out). I know what you mean about hormones... I've been like a teenager! Sex drive through the roof (I don't remember having one at all for the last 8 yrs!) and PMS big style...

Which sort of brings me onto a question... I've had one AF sicne DS was born last month. Exactly 28 days after a phantom one (all symptoms no bleeding). Anyway, I'm now 2 days 'late' and was wondering if anyones elses cycle was mucked up while still breastfeeding?

oh queenrollo - don't really know what to say as others have said - this whole internet friendship thing is odd - really want to give you a hug and sit in the sun for a cuppa with you & bramblina while the LO's play in the sun! at least it sounds as if you have a supportive family around you.
hello girlymomma, do add your info so that we can find out all about you & dd!

ds decided last night that he is now a cruiser and is suddenly pulling himself up on anything he can reach!

Hi - thanks for welcome!
I do drive so can get out and about but have arthritis and have had episodes of being too unwell to drive in past - hence dilemma. Would like to just be optimistic and ignore future probs but have to try to be practical as it could become an issue when babies are older (school etc).
House in town is stunning but only reason within our price bracket is its poor position. It's the old location versus house dilema.
has a slight twist in my case as obviosuly easier to get help if we live in a town.

Hi girlymomma, where abouts are you? I'd go for the countryside everytime. I live in the middle of nowhere but it's actually easier to meet people as everyone makes the effort. Are there Mum's groups where you are? Massage classes?
I've just gone for a wee nosey at the stats thread- we're filling up nicely, here's a run down:
1 Miaou's Calum
4 Bramblina's Jaxon
5 Mrsaek's Joseph & Moschops's Lemmy
6 Suzi's Logan
7 Tiggerintum's Thomas
8 Wilbur's Caspar & KMS' Finlay
9 Kipper's Charlie & Nome's Rosalie
11 Jessajam's Milo & Pookey's Noah
14 Twiga's Phoebe & Dazedandconfused's Max
15 Dazie's Max
18 Azure's Benjamin
22 EmMUK's Rachel
27 Pancipant's James & Colinandcaitlinsmummy's Caitlin
28 Em32's Chloe
29 Karen's Benjamin
30 Josie's Rhianna
I found it interesting anyway!

Oooh thanks for the rundown Bramblina!

oh isnt it lovely to see the run down of our lo's
welcome girlymomma
Queenrollo wish i could meet up with you also, i had bad PND after my DS and was given anti d's i stopped taking them after 6months and if anything gets to me now i slide back, i know it sounds silly but one day you will just feel better, i dont see any of my friends now since having dd i think they think im to busy - you should try kalms or natracalm both very good i used RR for my wedding but i think you can only use that short term - have you even thought of doing volunteer work for maybe 4 hours a week?no cost adult company and a break from baby even though you dont feel like leaving them its sometimes the best remedy having a couple of hours out.
suzi i didnt bf ds and i had af problems for 2 years after and that was taking the pill i would bleed for 2 weeks have a week off so on so on, i think everyones body just needs to recover in its own way.
not much other news having grief with my gran. and still no TEETH!!!!!!!!!!
hi to everyone else

have booked an appointment to have a restyle on saturday.....my hair has been totally neglected and i need some pampering. and i never used my 30th birthday present as ds was only a few weeks old.....the in laws had put the money to one side for me to go to a health spa but i don't fancy it so a hairdo is the next best thing.

now i just have to decide what to do with it!!

Hi again - I'm in Sussex.
Our DD has no teeth but is chomping through anything can get her gums on (unlike older sister who eats almost nothing......seems to live on strawberries).
I'm inclined to country cottage and stuff the complications!
have just found a new toddler/baby group to go to so hopefully will meet some people there. I take my older daughter to her pre-school but no one speaks!, it's tough breaking the ice.
I constantly feel as though have lipstick on my teeth or something as just get looked at......

Hi all. Sorry to hear you're having a difficult time Queenrollo. Welcome to Girlymomma. Well, I'm back at work and it's been very strange yet terribly familiar. I've been feeling down about it all - a special period in my life is over and I feel guilty about the reduced time spent with my boys. The good thing is that the nanny is working out really well; however, when she takes DS2 to baby music or to see friends I can't help feeling it should be me. Still, until I win the lottery this is how it's got to be.

Poor DS2 has had a perforated eardrum. He was feeling miserable with a temperature over the weekend but we assumed it was just a cold, as he had a runny nose. He's been much happer since Tuesday; however, yesterday had a discharge out of his ear. The nanny took him to the doctor's and she said he was recovering from the perforated eardrum, poor thing, but that it was healing itself. No wonder he was grumpy, although he hadn't been pulling his ear at all.

i had a tooth out this morning...i was very brave and was given my tooth in a little envelope to put under my pillow for the tooth fairy, and a cinderella sticker. the dentist is an old friend and knows how daft i am about things like that. erm i think a psychologist would say i'm in touch with my inner child.
i am feeling much brighter these last few days, and have bought some vitamin supplements and some calming herbal tea to start me on the road to recovery.
i feel for those of you returning to work.....i've suddenly realised how fortunate we were that we could close our business down, i couldn't contemplate leaving ds......although i'm training with the MIL to help her but that is just one evening a week at the moment, and dp looks after the little one.

hi all - im a bit nervous tonight going away tomorrow to Glasgow over night on my own no husband and no kids for my cousins hen night im excited but feel a bit naughty for doing it im silly i know.
Im having the most terrible time with our gran who is now in a home is Glasgow as the wedding for my cousin is in italy, me and dh are going for a nice weekend away with no kids but my gran has taken offence that im going and has written me a nasty letter about it, its all very strange.
Azure glad things are working with you nanny, i have been lucky that my DH has been at home just now so he has been in charge of the kids, which has let me settle into being at work with no worry though he is doing to good a job and making me feel i was usless at getting everything done while looking after dd and ds sure he is about to burn out though proving a point!!!!
girlymomma sure you dont have lippy on your teeth some people are just plan akward, i have the same trouble at the school with people i have known well for years!!! we are also thinking of a move, away to aberdeen(twiga if you reading when you back i might be over for tea )
DD still has no teeth, terrible nappies and loads of drool - she is getting her speach though, if you have her toys or do her fav roll a ball she says anna( her name) Rhianna and i told her something was dirty and she said ditee, she is totally in love with a book she got free at the clinic 'peek a boo' dont know if any of you have it but its pages of hidden babies you pull a flap and it says things like bib a boo and i see you she has started teeting up to see if she can see behind the flaps before you pull them down then squeals with laughter.
sorry long waffle post!!!
ps QR glad you are feeling better, i wish i had a nice dentist like yours!!

Josey have a lovely time in glasgow and please don't feel quilty - make the most of it while you can

queenrollo - have you had your hair done yet? And how brave with your tooth!! Can't quite believe your docter. Can you see a different one?

Bramblina - great rundown :o

Welcome girlymomma

Azure - poor ds with his perferated eardrum - is he feeling better now?

We've just been away for a few days and had a lovely time. Ds saw the sea and played in the sand for the first time. Kept looking at the waves as if wondering what they were! We went onto a pebble beach and he kept trying to eat the pebbles it was a nightmare!
He has had a cold all week though, one with the vast amounts of snot - but fingers crossed it doesn't seem to have gone onto his chest this time.
He cut his 5th tooth and began to get up onto all 4's and sometimes onto his feet too! (whilst his hand were still on the floor)He is really becoming more moblile.
I was really worried he wouldn't sleep in a strange place but it didn't make a difference, he slept just as well, thank goodness!
He suddenly started to clap, and now he's clapping all the time - especially if we laugh or clap with him.
On the down side he seems to have gone off his food a bit and has started to take ages to take his bottle. In fact he's becoming a right pain at meal times. He doesn't seem interested in food and when he cries for a bottle only wants a couple of ozs. Teeth maybe? Or his cold?

Josey - whereabouts are you at the moment? I'm in Fife. I grew up in Aberdeenshire and still maintain that Aberdonians are friendlier than others in Scotland (even though I'm technically a Fifer!). Not sure I could live there as an adult though... I like being close to Edinburgh & Glasgow. No IKEA in Aberdeen

Suzi I was born i Glasgow but i have lived in Ross-shire (serveral different places) since the age of 2. Hubby lived in Findochty till about age 10 and has lived in the town we are in now for 27years he would love our los to have the life he had to the age of 10. Furryboots did you live in Aberdeenshire ? I still go to Glasgow to visit family so usually go to Ikea then if i was to close i would be banned from going in lol
had such a lovely weekend this weekend worn out though so just about to go to bed!!

Furryboots - PMSL . I lived in Oldmeldrum from age 1 to age 17. Loved the place. Just wasn't the place to be when you want independence and big city living! DH grew up in a wee village too so we're both aspiring to get back to that one DS is at school.

My Auntie lives in Dingwall. She was a teacher there (recently retired) so I know Rossshire fairly well.

i went round to mother and baby group today.......and once again there was no-one there so i came home and cried again because i'd made an effort when i really didn't feel like it and it was just a huge anti-climax. i'd just started to build my confidence back up and it's knocked me right back down again.

Oh QR! I really do feel terrible for you & wish I could do something. All I can say is you need chocolate and a huge hug from your DS - blow everything else for now.

ds has given me a very dribbly kiss......well he slobbered all over my face, and he giggled madly while doing it.