August 2005 - they're on the move

[Azure]

Here's the new place to chat about all our wonderful babies, while they still are babies.

Sorry to hear no-one was there after all your effort QR. Are there any music or gym classes (e.g. Crechendo, Monkey Music) where you live? These don't need much interaction (or any at all) with other mums if that is too stressful.

DS2 isn't suffering too much with his perforated eardrum. We decided to give him the antibiotics (the doctor said it was up to us - helpful) as we were worried the infection was coming back. Apart from that he is such a wriggler. I've had to move the changing mat to the floor as he would not keep still. He's desperate to be on the move, but can't quite do it yet. Bathtime is a complete nightmare - not only do I get drenched but it takes all my strength to stop him from drowning or knocking himself out. He loves it, though.

sorry Suzi i couldnt resist hehe - I lived in Dingwall and Maryburgh for a while went to Dingwall primary from P6 and all through Academy!!!so your Aunty might know me hehe!! I live in Alness now, and have lived on the black isle and seaboard, along with a spell in Inverness. My father in law has bought a couple of cars from the oldmeldrum garage.
QR sending you hugs, hope your sloppy drool kiss has cheered you up xx
Hehe Azure im having funny images of bath time at your house, mother wetter than baby with loads of arms and legs everywhere

lol at azure's bathtimes ds loves his bath and spends his whole time trying to pick the bits of epiderm so it's quite a sedate experience.

Sorry to hear that Queenrollo, could they have moved buildings or something like that? Could you ring up your hv and ask if there are any others in the area?

Ds has been clapping all day and is really becoming very mobile, by rolling and commando crawling. He does rock at lot and hands and knees and hands and feet.

Have put up the stair gates and cupboard locks now so it'll be a couple of years before I can reclaim my house again. :o

i don't think they have moved buildings as a new poster went up in the surgery a few weeks ago advertsing it. a mum i met outside school a couple of weeks ago asked me if i was going as they desperately need new members......but if this happens to other newcomers then it's hardly surprising is it?
i phoned a friend in the nearest town and she says she's been once to a Sure Start group which is an hour on Weds afternoons, so i'm hoping to make arrangements for MIL to drop me off at my friends and we will go there together. feel better for phoning her as she said she has PND too and we had a good chat about the irrational feelings we have.
this afternoon i felt like my head was going to explode and ds screamed all afternoon. dp got in and i literally handed ds to him and collapsed into bed. slept off my headache and dp took ds out for a drive......just got him ready for bed and he had an horrendous nappy.....gave him Weetabix for breakfast for the first time and don't think it agreed with him. poor mite all he wanted was comfort from his mummy and i was too ill to cope.
feeling better now.......but decided not to bother with local M&B group because i can't cope with this stress anymore. i always sound so sad on here but i guess this is where i come to offload, it seems like my good days are excellent and my bad days REALLY are bad!!

Glad to hear you're feeling a bit better QR. Your local M&B group sounds cr*p TBH! Maybe when you're feeling a bit better you can find out who organises it and give them a good kick up the backside and take over :-)

Azure - my DS is the same in the bath. I go in with him as much as possible as it's easier to handle him. But all he does is stands up (it's the only place he can pull himself up fully) and then try to cruise. It usually ends in me grabbing him while he falls!

PP - what a clever DS you have Mine still hasn't rolled back to front, he was on all fours rocking about 2 months ago but doesn't even do that anymore! And he can't quite pull up to standing yet so needs me to assist and support his cruising. Is he the only one not mobile???

Josey - my auntie was head of english for a long long time. So you will likely know her and she seems to know every pupil ever in the school so I'm sure she knows you! My wedding cake was made by a lady in Alness

Suzi2 - my ds can't pull himself up at all! In fact he doesn't even attemp to. No cruising in this house!

Queenrollo, you so don't need this stress, and this is what mn's for. Keep your chin up honey.

QR - I was reading a thread earlier which directed someone towards a website where you can find things to do and people to meet in your area. Sorry, after I hit the link I lost the thread so can't credit the original poster. Anyway, I had a look and the section for East Kent looks really good - people leave messages a bit like a mummy dating service! May be worth a read? You can just look at the activity ideas or reply to others if you don't like the idea of putting on your own advert. \link{http://www.netmums.com\it's here if you want to have a look} Hope you're feeling a little better this evening. :)

oh Suzi you have me thinking now Im going through all the English teachers and if i remember the right one that was the head I didnt have her as a teacher though i did help out on the school mag a couple of times and im sure it would have been her that ran it I dont suppose her name had the word horn in it? it wasnt Maxine that made your cake by any chance?small word really isnt it.

on the mobility DD doesnt like moving now she can sit she is happy just sitting didnt like rolling either and isnt keen on trying to stand and on top of all that she still has no teeth what a lazy lump, i find it strange as ds was walking round the furniture by this age and pushing his walker thing about(cant remember what is was called)

QR dont worry we all know how awful it can be and im sure your not unhappy all the time, but MN is the easiest place to have a good moan about things especially if you can do it with out it affecting your personal life or you family so feel free to moan away, hope you get on ok going to this new group with you friend.

That's her Josey! Did you have Miss McDonald at all? I know her very well as she is a good family friend. I hear she was a real battleaxe as a teach though My cake was made by someone called Kerry - her hubby is a teacher at Dingwall and my Auntie arranged and bought the cake as a gift.

My Ds doesn't have any teeth either - although he seems to have been struggling with them coming since about 10 wks... Maybe it will be this week? maybe not! He's crying every hour tonight so I think they're bothering him.

Hi all, what a lot of posts! I've had trouble reading through them all.

Welcome to the new people

QR, your GP sounds hopeless, is there anyone else that you can see/ I'm not an expert and I can tell tht you need more support than he's giving you, silly man.

Azure, glad that thigs are going well work wise. I can see a time when a i have to go back approaching and I'm not looking forward to it. I know exactly what you mean about bathtime too. The ds's get in together and I sit at the side of the bath, on ds1's toilet step, with a towel over my head to try and keep dry. It's like they're in it together, little monsters. Suzi2, have you thought about a bath seat for your LO, ds2 loves his as t means he can splash me with both hands lucky me.

We have finally got our business problems solved, DH's partner is going to buy us out. We are so relieved after all the hassle and uncertainty we are glad to be letting it go. It was starting to take over our lives and we are ready to get it back and start spending more time together. It may mean that we'll have to work a bit longer than we planned, but I don't think that's too much of a hardship. Some things are more important and being together when our family is growing up is one of them. It does mean that I'll probably have to go back to work a bit sooner than planned, but I don't mind, if only I could find something to apply for....

it's ds2's baptism this weekend and I have to work out how to fit 47 people into my house, can everybody please pray that it doesn't rain and people can go into the garden, otherwise it will be a bit of a squeeze. I was remebering with dh what I was like shortly before ds1's baptism and it was not a happy time. I had terrible PND, I'd collapsed at work as I was putting so much pressure on myself and I didn't think life would ever be happy again. I can't believe how different things have been. Having CBT really helped put things into perspective and work out what was important and how to cope with life. Is that something that you could discuss with you GP queenrollo, it really helped me?

This has turned into a bit of an essay Hope that everyone and their little ones a are well.

Oh suzi my memory is being put to the test now especially as we usually just had nicknames for the teachers Miss MacDonald English teacher?is she from NewZeland? if so I had her in 1st year and yes was a battle axe I had her a few years later and she was alot better, she would definately remember me as she used to say hello in the street a few years later also. There was a Miss Maclennan as well she was in the class next to your Aunty but she was OIS she was my next door neighbour.
I have the bath chair and it makes such a difference to bath times I didnt used one with ds wish i had.
hope all goes well kate i will keep my fingers crossed for you

Suzi ignore me the lady i was thinking of is MacLeod - you need to give me a clue what did she teach?

lol - I was just about to reply to say you had got it wrong! She taught English. She's from Lewis - a gaelic speaker and wears her hair in a bun.

I was just saying to DH today that it was weird to think of the people on here as real life people IYSWIM!

oh yes i remember her now I didnt have her as a teacher but i remember she had a very big voice when she shouted at people in the corridor!!! I had that Miss MacLeod she was mean and Mrs Singleton she was the worlds worse I hated that woman I remember we had to do a story on a real life experience and i did mine on a horrific car accident i was in and she told me she didnt believe the story it was to far fetched and gave me an F narky old witch, even when my mum told her it was all true she wouldnt believe her!!!

It is really weird i think its when you make a like with something or someone where as before its more like reading an update in a mag if that makes sense!

poor dd had a nasty blister in the crease of her leg this morning her wee must be so strong just now i wish these teeth would come in and give her a rest.

spent the afternoon with a friend and her 7 month old dd. we went to the local Sure Start centre to an hour session with singing and playing with rattles/tambourines etc. run by a speech specialist to help learn how lo's develop speech etc.
it was really good once you get over making a spectacle of yourself singing silly songs. felt really good to be around other mums!!

thats great Queenrolla, we go to minimusicians once aweek and It's a laugh and you soon stop feeling self conscious. How are you feeling today?

that sounds great fun! (no embarrassment here when it comes to making a fool of myself in front of other kids - make me talk to 2 or more adults however, & I go to pieces!) Wish we had something musical around here.

DS is now dribbling so much that he's getting sores and blisters over his mouth & chin - any ideas on how to stop this? I've tried putting some vaseline on as a barrier but can't think of anything to cure it that he won't try to lick off!

kipper ds has the dribble rash too, we found that putting E45 cream on has helped quite a lot. Don't know if it soothes it or it's acting as a barrier but it works.

Ds still isn't crawling but can get to any part of a room now by rolling and shuffling. Can't leave anthing on the floor now!

sounds like you had a good day QR hope it has made you feel a bit better today, i really wish there were things like that where I live.

I cant think of anything other than the vasaline to put on you lol its probably the least harmful if he does lick it off.

im getting more and more annoyed about going to work tomorrow, i have to go in all day for training on the job I did before for 5 years and could probably train the trainer on!!! I know it will be a bit of a skive but i really dont want to work 9-5 and my boss is insisting i do the training arghh!! sorry just had to have a little rant!!

You could try putting a layer of olive or grapeseed oil on before the vaseline QR. Or try a lip balm?

Hi all. Popping in before the LO's wake up.

Caitlin's been doing so much the past few days. In less than a week, she's started to pull herself up, take a few steps while holding onto things, learned to crawl, and gotten from her back to a sitting up position. Just when I thought she was going to be a useless little lump for a long time.

Things have been crazy here. We decided we wanted to move back to where we are from, about 250 miles away. DH got the ok for a job transfer, and we put the house on the market. Amazingly we got an offer for full-price after less than a week of being on the market, which is great, but they want us out ASAP, and we're not going back till the beginning of October. Have been looking furiously for places to rent, but there isn't much out there.

Things have been annoyingly hot here. It got over 100 degrees yesterday. I will so not miss that.

Hope everyone's babies are doing well. They're really not going to be babies much longer, are they?

Our babies are getting so grown up aren't they? I can't believe that I'm already thinking about DSs first birthday party. I really didn't think that I'd survive those first few weeks/months!

DS isn't very well. It's the first proper cold he's had and has an awful chesty cough and snuffly nose. He's grouchy and feeling a bit sorry for himself but still seems to have endless energy for standing (holding onto me) and bouncing. Hard work when you're trying to take his mind off the cough and he's waking every hour or so with it though.

He's started to do a few odd things too... I've been teaching him to kiss me (he gives a big, slobbery oppen mouthed one!) but now he keeps latching onto peoples chins and sucking\chewing them. Maybe it's another bizarre teething ritual - still no teeth I'm loving it that he copies me doing things too. He waves and hits the table and presses the 'beep beep' button on his toy if I tell him too. Rether he also looks around the room to find a TV when you say "where's Pocoyo"... His favourite toys are definately books - he gets quite angry when he turns 2 pages rather than 1!

Hope all the other babies (can we still call them that???) are well.

Niceto hear from you c&cmommy, can we swap weather, you can have my rain and I'll take your sunshine?

DS2's baptisn tommorrow and heavy rain os forecast all day, oh well, I guess everyone will have to breathe in. We are now down to 42 guests, so that's not so bad.

DS1 had croup this week and had to go to hospital in an ambulance, along with his terrifies mommy. Thankfully he got better very quickly after he had some steroids and was able to breathe properly again. All he's got now is a bit of a cough and a snuffle.

we have been to Clarks today and bought ds his very first pair of proper shoes. he's started pulling himself up on the furntiure and as we have laminate flooring we had to leave him barefoot or his socks made him slip. so now he has a very cute pair of shoes on.........they even take a polaroid photo in the shop, which i thought was sweet!!

Hi all.
You're quite right- they aren't babies for long, I looked at ds lying stretched out in his cot the other day, he really is bigger than I thought! I still think of him as a baby but if I saw another this size I'd have a different picture. It's wierd when you don't see them growing up then one day bam! They're almost ready for school...
Tooth no. 6 popped out today. No probs so I'm hoping that for everyone else.
Dh was home Tues- Fri and I managed to get a last minute appt at the hairdresser- complete revamp for me! Had it all chopped off and highlights- it took 3 hours. That's definitely the longest I have sat and done nothing for in at least over 9 months. I feel like ds is becoming less dependant of(on?) me, which feels strange but healthy. He still has 2 breastfeeds through the day but I'm also feeling much more confident in how I can manipulate those feeds to work around our day so we're not as restricted as we used to be. I thought a few months ago I knew it all (as you do) but I think now I feel really confident, and that I know him so well, and I don't feel so uptight about things being done how they usually are. We live an hour and a half away from the nearest town, so it's hard to get all the things done that we need to and get home at a decent time. Of course ds would always fall asleep in the car and I used to be quite concerned that it would upset his bedtime routine etc but we got home on Tuesday just after 8. Ds was fine, he'd slept in the car but after his bath and feed he was ready for bed again. Do any other first time Mums feel like this? I wasn't neccessarily "uptight", just always thinking of how things would work out if x happened, and would it all fall back in to place again? I'm a very laid back person but when it comes to ds I want everything to be just so. I think I'm a tad neurotic!
Hope all goes well with the baptism tomorrow, kate. Very exciting! Sorry to hear about the croup. A friend's lo had this (he's 10 days younger than ds) just before Christmas, I hadn't known what it was before.
QR I'm glad you found a group to go to. Does your hv hace any more info on classes etc? We still go to baby massage though ds only lasts about 20 mins, before would be about 30+. He's the oldest so we'll probably be the first to stop going It's nice to see the other babies and Mums, and the hv makes a cup of tea. All free, too. We went to the library yesterday, there was a man called Bob Pegg (look out for him Josey and Miaou, he's from Alness I think and covers the highlands IIRC) who told stories, played music, sang songs and danced puppets for the lo's. It was aimed at 2-5 but was a part of Bookstart day (has anyone else heard of it?) which I don't think they can be too young for. The hv should have given us the first pack by now- I'm mentioning it as I think it's nationwide, but the librarian gave me ours, a cloth bag with 2 really good board books (peepo baby with flaps for ds to lift, he really loves it, and a basic colours book with an animal of every colour, really simple and effective) and some leaflets about bookstart. She also gave every child a little pack of grapes and raisins and a carton of juice, this was to do with Healthways. Ask your hvs everyone. They get another bag at 18m, with more books and another at 3. Dh didn't understand the whole concept, why these things are free nowadays etc. I had to explain that it's a sad fact that a lot of parents just don't read to their children and the government has to make an effort to encourage it. It really is sad, isn't it.
There's a day of dance at Culloden Academy on 3rd June (oooh could be the 4th) and there's a workshop called baby jive, if you're interested Josey. I think it's about £4. I have thrown the paper out, sorry but can get the details if you want.
C&C's mummy, where are you? And where are you heading for? It will be nice to be back "home".
QR how exciting about the shoes! The lo's really are growing up aren't they.
I was on Chris Evan's request show yesterday! How embarrassing! I did it through choice so no excuse to be embarrassed though! I requested Men at Work's Down Under for dh! He left for work at 6am and really didn't want to go. Ds's passport came through yesterday so we're seriously thinking of taking a trip with him, I'm not sure if I'm being brave or stupid?! Any ideas are welcome! Dh is a lorry driver and we would be going go to Spain's NW coast.
Can you all give a good suggestion of a toy your lo like at the mo? Dh bought ds a wooden toddle cart (with the wooden blocks in, and a handle to hold on to and walk with) and a first jigsaw- the style with a peg on an animal which fits in a hole of it's own, while I was at the hairdresser. That's all we could think of, but we really think he need other toys, the current ones just don't seem interesting. The inner of the foil was good today but only took about 3 minutes to make it well soggy!
Phew I better get off here! Have a good weekend!