April 2011 - silence might be golden but the April ladies are diamond so chat on

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Ta Dah!

Oh lovely chilli

S Is ill. Hasn't been right all week. First a cough and cold so sleep has been broken. Last night was the worst night ever. He moaned and fidgeted all night. Tried bringing him In with me and taking him to sleep downstairs in the recliner but he still wasn't happy so ended up leaving the poor thing to moan all night in his cot. He then slept in til ten (usually 7/730). Hes off food. Then this afternoon he threw his bottle up all over me and again tonight, and I can him stirring now .

I hope S is feeling better today. It's tough looking after a poorly baby at anytime, but when pg it can be even more so.

Fab news about the scan

Glad you've enjoyed your week Chilli. I think I need to book a massage, sounds like heaven.

I don't know if I'll get on here tomorrow, so Happy mothers day to us all!

Thanks Ilike he slept thru and had been fine all day.

Happy mothers day all x

outme good news that kitten2 is growing well and glad S is in the mend

fizz I can't imagine being away from M for so long! What have you done with yourself?! Hope the debrief goes well.

chilli massage and facial sounds like bliss. Can't believe DH has been missing out on the ball pool!

Gsy sorry to hear P has been poorly.

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cycle big hugs for you too. I'm glad your grandfather seems to be coping so far.

I'm sorry I've been spectacularly crap at keeping in touch. Work has been manic, I'm working most evenings at home, and any time between 6 and 9 is taken up with cooking, eating, bathing, feeding to sleep and other house stuff. In other news M now says 'more' - tis very cute. He also stunned DH by reliably posting some of the shapes into his sorter. He refuses to walk even supported where he can crawl now, though. He seems to have worked out that crawling is faster !

Happy Mother's Day to us all for tomorrow from me too

Dh and mil taken kids for a walk so I can finish the rugby in peace. Lovely. Just waiting for fil to decide to talk through it now...

I said to dh all I wanted for mothers day was peace to watch rugby. & F1 and no nappies all weekend

I'm gobsmacked.

Left for work this morning and when I picked up H there were mothers' day cards made by him and DH and a baby covered in glitter

Am so chuffed, they're a bit of a mess but I'm so impressed he went to that effort. What a star.

Happy Mothers Day!

It's not really mothers day for me but I got a beautiful surprise card anyway made by DH and M. And a family lie in til 10.30 and I'm having breakfast in bed. Bliss

Ooh, Arch, ooh!!!!

We're having a weekend at my folks place and they've invited dps folks over too. So the four GPs looked after J last night whilst DP and I went out for a meal (then got pissed and went bowling on a whim) It was fun but we are being punished for it now. She woke up at midnight when we came to bed and didn't go down again until 2.30, then she woke again at 5.30 and has been up since then. She's absolutely miserable with something - think it's teeth. Urgh. 3 hours sleep , a hangover and a grisly baby. And the rest of the house is fast asleep. Happy Mothers Day to me

Am so jealous Frak. h started projectile vomiting last night while DH was out and although he now seems ok DH is bedridden with a migraine

Oh cycle

Ecuse that sounds a lovely evening, I hope someone wakes up soon and you can go back to sleep!

OutMe - good news on the scan, so exciting

I'm in bed feeding T and watching the end of F1. DS1 and DH are downstairs making me a cup of tea and a bacon sarnie. Yum!

Happy mother's day everyone!

Cycle, that is rotten.

I'm going to sound really self-indulgent and bitter (especially since I hardly post these days!). But I am bitter. And I need to rant it out somewhere that's NOT facebook! Feel free to move on to the next poster!

So, first mother's day as an actual mother. DH hasn't organised anything. I've sorted stuff for his mother (and mine), he's had 3 days off this week, and doesn't start work till 11am today, but has buggered off mountain biking this morning (after he was too 'ill' to do anything yesterday evening).

No card, no breakfast (in bed or otherwise), no taking F for breakfast so I can have a lie in. Just off with that stupid bike (that apparently costs ~£60/month every month that he doesn't have, meaning I have to bail him out).

DH is fantastic, he looks after F 2 days a week by himself, he cooks, on his days off he even manages to do laundry & hoover (most weeks), and he contributes an (almost) equal amount financially.

Don't really know why I'm so narked about this 'hallmark holiday'. I just feel generally under appreciated, I think. Specifically with this mothering lark. I want to say "look at me, look what I've done, not only have we got this amazing baby, but I went back to work full-time after 5 months, and it was another 5 months till he slept through. That's 5 months of full-time work on about 4 hours of sleep a night! And I very nearly cracked, but I didn't much". I've kept the house clean ish, kept the 3 of us organised, and didn't have a go at him when he drilled into the plumbing the other week. He hasn't thought a jot about F's birthday, I've bought all his presents and organised a party...

I have to stop, this is becoming a torrent of pent-up frustration! And really, they're non-issues.

But thanks for letting me post (I'm not expecting anyone to actually have read it or care!), I feel much better for getting that out!

UBW - it is good to let it out here, but don't dismiss it as a non-issue. He should have organised something, and he should have thought about F's birthday. You are quite right to feel aggrieved. I'm guessing that you also manage to hoover and cook and wash clothes on your days off?

And don't get into the habit of sorting out mother's day and whatever else for his mother/family. He is a grown man and more than capable. If he doesn't do it then that is his look out.

I hope you don't think I'm being harsh, but you guys are young and you need - and can - sort things out before roles become entrenched. You work full-time, so your DH should be shouldering just as much of the domestic and family burden as you do.

I know these are meant to mean thank you, but well done and congratulations on your first Mother's Day :)

Thanks Ali, that last bit has actually made me cry a bit! Just the acknowledgment, I think.

I echo Ali ubw! Hugs. I thought I was being hard done by when I had to choose my own present yesterday cos dh hadn't bought anything. He was gonna get something when I took s to be weighed but came with us and then we went shopping. While out shopping for flowers for his mum I suggested tulips for me 'if you were planning on buying me flowers that is'. 'well I wasn't...' lucky for him he did. I wouldn't mind if he didnt get his mum flowers wine and choc every year! And usually dinner too. We just went for a pub meal, just the 3 of us but s wasn't playing nicely . Anyhow. Am now grateful and hope u give your dh what for.

Also agree with Ali. & hugs from me to you (anyone who needs them ).
It's tough adjusting to new things to think of Just make a fuss on Father's Day so you maintain the moral high ground

My main requests of no nappy changes and being allowed to watch the tv I wanted for some sport were mostly agreed to - one pooey change for DS2 when I got up early with him this morning. (I wanted to get up today btw as the F1 was on early).

Also got an easter egg ("to share Mummy" said DS1) and some lovely flowers :)

Thanks all.

Glad you had nice a nice day, Jks, and that was a bit rubbish of your DH outme.

DH returned this evening with a card & tulips, which was nice. I think he realised the significance of THIS one, especially since it made me cry a bit, again!

I'll explain my issues to him properly later.

F, however, is cutting a molar, I discovered earlier. He's been a bit grumpy & clingy, and this afternoon developed a slightly raised temp.

He's just woken up screaming, but hopefully that'll be it for tonight.

Happy Mothering Sunday all

Glad you received the flowers and card UBW Listen to Ali, she is wise

We, my sister and my IL's all went to my M&D's today and had a BBQ. Luckily we weren't sitting outside My dad wanted to do a BBQ, so a BBQ we had. It was really nice to eat lighter food again actually. I'm not a great meat eater so I ate lots of salad, corn on the cob and garlic bread.

Right, am off to bed. Am knackered from being indulged all day

Ignore post if desired, MN is better than therapy.

Glad you got some flowers this evening UBW.

If you will allow I will join in with the venting of a bit of bitter frustration

I was disappointed with my gifts from DH. I'd dropped lots of not very subtle hints that I would like another charm link for my bracelet. (which was a gift from DH and DS a couple of years ago) I got an overpriced (he'd left the price tag on) Mum apron, mug and photo holder (minus an actual photo of my children).

I wouldn't mind if DS had chosen them for me but I know that DH will have just gone there in his lunchhour and grabbed the first thing to hand. I think what I'm most annoyed about it that money is a bit tight at the moment and what he spent on that commercial tat my gifts would have easily bought what I actually wanted. He also would have walked past the jewellers to get to the card shop.

No special treatment at home for me either. Same as any other day I came downstairs from putting DS to bed to find the kitchen still a mess. I emptied the Napisan bucket, put the washing machine on, etc and went in the lounge to find DH already watching a DVD.

At least DS has made an effort for me We all went to church this morning where all the ladies present were given flowers then it was lunch at the PIL's.
DH drove the car to his parents after church with P. DS and I walked there through the country lanes, dragging sticks along behind us and stopping to see the horses in the field. That was definately my favourite part of the day. .

P is improving. She still doesn't have much of an appetite but on the bright side at least the contents of her nappy managed to stay inside it today.

Right that's my ranting done for the day, who's next

UBW I'm glad you got some flowers :) Hope F has settled for you.

OutMe sorry your meal didn't go well - hopefully your DH will have the message now and do better next year!

Cycle - hope H is on the mend

JKS - cute about the sharing chocolate

DS1's gem today was 'Mummy why are you eating lunch, you had your Mother's Day breakfast?'

GSY that is crap, and as you say what a waste of money!

The only thing I am narked about, is that DH left it sooo late yesterday to buy me a card that DS1 was in bed and so didn't write in it. But I've had a lovely day, yummy roast and some peace and quiet and lots of cuddles. And wine

Tomorrow is DH's birthday, he will be 42!

:( to all those who had crappy days and less than thoughtful DHs.

I've had a lovely day which started waking up a couple of times in the night wondering if I needed to get up and feed - no cries - she did 9 hours! A feed and a snuggle at 5.15 and we weren't woken again til 10 to 8 - that's a lie in these days :o
Went out to a bar run by a friend of ours that was doing free cocktails for mums. Is mid-day too early for a cosmopolitan? Had some tapas and M ate the meatballs - think she's going for meat a bit now :) Then she had a nap in my arms this afternoon while I had a and read the magazines from the paper.

And now to see if we get a repeat of 9 hours tonight.... so far so good.

Chilli I'm glad you are getting better nights!

Meant to say ILike I am going to print that and frame it, no-one has called me wise before

Belated happy mothers day all! Despite very broken nights either side (S is teething again) we had a lovely day. DH made me breakfast in bed, well he tried, raw pancakes anyone? don't think I'll moan about always cooking anymore! Just a shame I didn't get to watch the F1 live, usually I'd be up at 6am but we don't have sky so I'm on rationed F1 this season!

Outme, glad to here kitten the 2nd is doing well.
Arch... [hugs and a reassuring squeeze]
Chill yay and I'm well jealous of the epic sleep. We've transitioned S back to the cot I his room, until this weekend when he'll only settle on me or DH.
Sorry to those who's mothers day was a bit rubbish. Though your rants have made me feel better about the long list of rants forming in my head ATM!

anyway, work this week then i have two weeks off!! So hopefully I can get on here more, I miss my April ladies! But like Frak by the time I get home, S into bed, house stuff sorted I'm lucky if I get my tea before I crash out...and before I know it the next day is there ready for it all again...

Grrr on your behalf gsy what IS the matter with these men?!

Sadly the 9 hours sleep was a one off special. Back to 3 or so wake ups last night and didn't want to go back in the cot. I think it is generally getting better.