July 2010: Tantrums R Us

[Woodlands]

Here you go! Sorry for crappy title. My one chance in the limelight and I can't think of anything good and I have to go and collect J from nursery right now...

Thanks Woodlands

Thank you! was getting worried there!

Thank you woodlands. I love a shiney new thread :o

Thanks I was worried because it wouldn't let me post!

I was just saying D isn't crying at all he's just v subdued and looks like he's shattered.

He's been sitting on my lap pretty much all day. I went out for lunch with my friend and instead of getting bored and whiny he sat there quietly.

He's still eating LOADS though, he did a v smelly liquid poo earlier too.

dh L is like this at the moment sleep great and having great naps, I was thinking it is the aftermath of all the excitment and change of routine over the past 2 weeks, he slept for 3 hours at lunch and 12 hours through the night and is yawning again already.

Does anyone elses toddlers not eat lunch? L wont eat anything at lunch for me even when I can hear his belly growling, he eats a great breakfast and a big tea but will not eat lunch, he has a mid afternoon snack though sometimes?

Had such a lazy day, ive prepped tea and cleaned kitchen and chased the wheelie bin down the drive twice! And L said 'chicken' for the first time!

D went down on his own about 15 mins ago, he was hot and shattered all through dinner. I skipped his bath and have him calpol and put him to bed. Poor little thing.

My period arrives today as well, great timing. So I'm sitting on the sofa with a book, cuppa tea, choc and hot water bottle huddled under a throw feeling sorry for myself

Arrived** not arrives lol like an unwelcome guest.

Weirdly my typing goes faster on this new thread I wonder if it's because I have my preferences set to 'show all' instead of 'show pages' and as the thread gets fuller it takes longer to load...

Just watched a film called Unknown. I think you might like it cake (judging on you also liking Inception).

I am in so much pain today! My legs ached while I was wii-ing (on 'active') yesterday but Oh. My. GOD. my legs are killing tonight! My upper body doesn't ache even slightly, but my legs...bloody hell. Far worse than they ever did whilst Shredding

Well D woke at 11 so I settled him back in his bed and he slept til 6 then 8!

Haven't got much planned today, need to do some food shopping and might go to mothercare and dunelm mill.

mlic hope E goes off ok today.
I like Unknown as well we watched it at the cinema, I also hurt today but more upper body, I feel like ive been hit by a bus.

Not got anything planned today I have my sister coming over as my dad is having his first proper session of chemo and they are off school for another week here, I may get some jobs done as L will have someone to play with, he has filled his nappy 5 times already today and his bum is so sore, its like acid!

Wow, 'tis quiet. Is everyone's NY resolution to spend less time on MN?

Anyway, Happy New Year to all and for all the help and support you all have given me in the last year.

Things are going OK here. We are getting into a lovely little routine and enjoying family life. I have also started working a bit again here and there when I find a minute (self employed from home) so that's absolutely fantastic and much earlier than I would have thought it possible.

viks How are things with the boys? How did you get on the first time on your own? It's scary isn't it, but soon it will be so normal.

mlic How was E's first day?

woods I like the title.

dh Fantastic news about D staying in bed all night. I'm so pleased for you.

memph I know what you mean. Having other kids over means actually less work cos they occupy M. Sorry about L's sore bum. Poor little thing.

Quick question. How do you get your LOs to eat on their own? I always give M an extra bowl and encourage her to feed herself, be it with spoon or hands but she just isn't interested. She plays around a bit, then chucks most of it on the floor. She is happily eating though what I feed her. If I don't feed her and just say, get on with it yourself, she still won't do it, she'll just be very upset and cry.
She is able to use a spoon properly, she just isn't interested. Any tips?

Ooops, baby is up, gotta go.

trudyla glad things are going so well, what do you do as a job from home? L doesnt like feeding himself unless its stealing food off of my plate, Itend to give him a spoon and I have a spoon, so i can shovel it in between him faffing about putting the odd spoonful near his mouth. The only finger food he will entertain is sliced banana which i have to put in or he uses a fork as he hates the texture on his hands, his face is a picture when he touches it, and also toast but he only like the really seedy bread
I know what you mean about it being quiet on here!

She eats toast and fruit and picks it up just fine. It's just lunch and dinner type stuff that she should eat with a spoon where she has trouble. For these meals she won't use a spoon or fingers.

I'm really laughing about L hating banana on his fingers. They are such funny little characters, aren't they. M shudders when she touches a balloon.

It's easier for me Trudy because ds2 has grown up watching us and ds1 eat, so he has just joined in iyswim? My only trauma is trying to make him sit down to eat - he isists on wanting to wander round with spoonfuls of food But so does ds1 so I know where he gets it from!

He was ok at preschool. He was very clingy at first then settled down.

I am currently very about a family member not listening to me when I said no to giving the boys snacks at 11.45 as they wouldn't eat their lunch. So she gave them, not one, but TWO biscuits. One in each hand. Fuming.

D has always eaten food by himself since I started weaning because that's how I wanted to do it. Not alot went in for the first few months but he always ate what he needed/ wanted. It's the same now he'll eat til he's full then start playing with it.

He's fallen asleep on me again, so I've laid him on the sofa under the throw.

Oh yes forgot to say about d dh, that's great progress.

...guess who has a job interview

Scrap that anyway. There's only one childminder in the are that is (a) not full and (b) does pick ups from ds1 school and I didn't like her at all when I phoned to enquire :(

A cheaper-than-the-one-they're-currently-at local nursery would cost £295 per week which is not far short of £1200 per month. I wouldn't even earn that after tax and fuel etc. :(

So probably no point going.

mlic oh no, what a shame, would you consider going to meet the childminder? maybe she was harrassed with being busy after xmas and having a bad day? or could you ask at E's school maybe they know of someone who you havent heard of who picks up from school? wouls dh contribute to childcare?
trudyla L wont eat lunch for me in any form, ever, he does for my mum and dh, what about fingers of cheese, sandwiches or chicken? L hates touching a lot of things, he is really funny, the one thing I bought thinking he would hate to touch was play doh but he liked it.

Yes he would pay memph but in terms of a family unit - I would be working full time for no income iyswim. No I wouldn't pay all the childcare by myself, but we wouldn't, as a family, be a penny better off, yet the kids would be in full tme childcare. It just doesn't make sense. I crave getting away from my children for a while a job but I don't see how that situation would benefit anyone frankly.

I rang the Families Information Service and they rang around all the childminders and that's all they could come up with.

ds1's just asked me if I'm crying because I'm 'scared of bedbugs'

Bless.

Ack mlisc that's so crap, so sorry there's no one around. We seem to be overrun with childminders here, perhaps I should post one up.
I can't wait for L to start nursery, going to start settling her in on Tuesday next week, it'll take ages I reckon but she's so necky and rude she's doing my nut.

trudy glad things are all settling down with you, L took a long time to master a spoon (around 2ish) whereas S is a cutlery pro already, he'll spread butter on his toast if you give him a knife.

memphis poor L, hope his guts settle for both of your sake (bleugh)

I'm quiet because we've just started round 3 of tonsilitis. L hated her antiB's and I just couldn't get them down her and now S has it again. So frustrated, I'd just love them to be well at the same time, I've been running on 4 hours sleep a night which has been manageable because DH has been off but he's back at work now.

Oh mlisc that's rubbish, shame the only childminder didn't sound great. It's exactly the same here it wouldn't be worth the time, effort or money for me to work at the mo.

D has been better today, seems more himself and had just 1 nap of about an hour.

I on the other hand still feel rubbish with my period, it gives me horrible lower back ache.

That's awful chul. I hate having tonsilitis, but I hate my children having it more! It's awful - I really feel for you. Especially at 6(ish?) months pregnant you must be really struggling without your sleep :(

The way I view it dh is it would be worth the time and effort if it was a dream job/the first step on the ladder/a permanent career move - but I just can't be sure of any of those things. And therefore it feels incredibly selfish to do it, have the kids in full time childcare, when nobody will reap any rewards.

I have to say how much I love my dh though - I was a bit down/teary when he came home and he asked me/I told him what was up - he just turned round and said straight away that he loved me and would support me whatever I decided to do. If I wanted to take the job, he would support me and same if I didn't. I can almost hear some of you saying 'well so he should...' in my head, but it was exactly what I wanted to hear and I love him for it :)

I didn't even realise there was a new thread, I just thought the old thread was really quiet!

Shame about the job/childcare costs situation mlisc, I am in a very similar position and it does annoy me. I'm kind of looking out for jobs that are weekends/evenings so I wouldn't be paying childcare but they are very few and far between.

Sorry to hear about the tonsilitis chul.

trudy I haven't fed G for months, I mean she just feeds herself at mealtimes, she has quite a few snacks in the day too. Sorry I have no tips about how to get M to feed herself, I think I just left G with the food and she did it!

We went over to friends yesterday afternoon for food and drinks, dh was driving so me and my mate polished off a couple of bottles of bubbly stuff, so I'm a bit hungover today but not too bad.

mlisc it IS nice when they say things like to cheer you up like that. I was feeling really stressed out before Xmas as D went through his refusing to nap stage and dh bought me home some flowers, it was a genuine nice surprise. They don't always do/ say the right thing so when they do it makes it so much nicer.