July 2010: Tantrums R Us

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Here you go! Sorry for crappy title. My one chance in the limelight and I can't think of anything good and I have to go and collect J from nursery right now...

Oh my god can't believe needle didn't have a mw! So nice of you to go and see her! glad you enjoyed the show and that is just hilarious about headbutting the wall!!
Vik so glad you've had a nice evening. God knows you need it. Fingers crossed for the night ahead!
Chul things sound really grim there too. How is everything now.
God it feels shit tl be just offering sympathy to everyone. Wish I could just magic everything better for us all!

Sorry memph but I did laugh at you headbutting the wall

Needle's midwives left at 5am telling her she was 1-2cm and to have two paracetamol and a bath. Her lo was born at 6.10am

Glad you had a good day vik. Hope yours picked up chul.

Well folks it's half term. I'm more than happy for my child to be off school, I just wish everyone else's weren't What to do today...?

:( chul. Have ypu got some chloramphenicol for her eyes? You can buy it over the counter.

I'm likely to continue to be quiet for the next few days. Our bb router is dead and we're awaiting a new one and the thread isn't loading properly on my blackberry.

chul you're not having good luck with yours healthwise at the moment, are you? Hopefully it's all getting out of the way before frijol. Btw, did you decide on a name?

vik re D's eating. It's so common for toddlers to be fussy, annoying eaters so try not to invest too much energy (emotional or otherwise) in dealing with it.

Some stuff I've found helpful... Apparently young children will choose the best food for them when given a choice and I've def found that with F who wasn't fussy but was never that bothered and some days ate so little. He's now usually a brilliant eater and I've noticed he's best if I let him choose his meals. He always chooses healthy stuff like beans, dates, carrots, pasta, cucumber and peanut butter.

I give A a choice too but simpler, eg putting peanut butter, marmite etc in front of her so she can choose which to have on her toast. I also keep the fruitbowl near her so she can see and ask for the fruit, tho they're only allowed to have it at mealtimes (I'm quite strict about not snacking between meals aside from the afternoon snack). I also give them little extras like a choice of dried fruit with breakfast which they seem to enjoy and think is fun for some reason.

Lastly, pack every meal they will eat full of calories - so spread butter thickly, full-fat everything, masses of olive oil and grated cheese with pasta, ground nuts in puddings etc.

Lovely about needle and v jel of memph visiting and having a cuddle and cake.

thanks Cake if only i could get him to eat pasta! He just spits it back out again. TUT! He has horrendous nappies atm, god knows whats causing them. The sleep thing is getting ridiculous now, he was awake for about three hours last night according to dh. He went in three times and i went in once at about 5, then the little swine slept untill 8! Hes just gone up for a nap but doesnt look like hes going to settle, i blumin hope he does i really could do with a break. I brought a quinny buggy off ebay so went to pick that up this morning, it fits the maxicozi car seat, so will be dead usefull and so much better than the shitty Obaby buggy we have now. On the way back i went to the supermarket and they both cried, i had such dirty looks it took me all my strength to go to the checkout with the few things i needed, the worst thing was F's sock had fallen off and i couldnt find it so he has one tiny pink foot flailing everywhere, my hair hadnt been brushed and D was dribbling badly, i bet we looked like the chav family from hell!!
chu how is it your end? I recon thats what they are doing getting all their illnesses over with so they will be in good health for when new boy arrives, yeah, have you decided on a name?
D and F are asleep, im napping!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

viksam needle went every 7 mins then within 10 mins every 5 then she said dh better ring mw to come back and in the next contraction felt to push and she came out, was lovely hearing it from her dh!
for his tummy have you been using the teetha powders as they settle bad tummy? We watched Lion King wanted to see if since I was young, not really into shopping so of all the shops we spent ages in the disney store and Primark

Had a fuck awful night, L was up pretty much all night, screaming with tummy ache, he has been trying to poo since friday and although dh says it was his idea im suspitious as he had seen his sister and his mum (who dont like the fact he isnt on cows milk) over the weekend and he decided he doesnt need milk in the day, I know its about ti,e we stopped but you cant just stop, I explained you need to cut down or one at a time, but he stopped in one go...so I think this is what is making him not poo, he screamed and screamed terribly at 5.30 and he had a poo like a duck egg sized rock! made skin around bum bleed a bit but then he slept til 8 so that was ok but he is in bed again now, we were in Asda cafe at 12 and he threw up everywhere, he hasnt been sick since a tiny baby and there was so much they had to get one of the 'Asda Aces' to fumigate and sterilise area, it was all mucus and he hasnt coughed since!
The house is a tip but im so tired I dont care, dh is suupposed to be away for week from tomorrow so I can sort it this week!

Wow well done to needle!

Nothing exciting to report here, same old stuff. We've had out flat painted so everything is upside down. It's all done now thank god, no more being turfed out into the cold because they need the one main room I've got thanks FIL

oh god memph thats such ashame for L, how awfull didnt need to read it all whilst eating my tea though! haha Whats the tea room like?
dh im a bit jelous that you had the flat painted, it must have been an upheaval but surley its nice to have it all fresh looking?
chu hows things with you today, any improvement with S and L, did you have an ass crack of dawn awakening again?
cake Hows A's sleeping, any improvement?
mylife ur quiet, U ok?

I have had a bad day today, dispite having a kip at lunch time i have felt very emotional and shite. My friend was due at 3pm but she called to ask if she could take the boys for a walk instead as she was at my child minders (they know each other) and they were going to the park. I felt weird and shit about it but i let them take Devon and Franklin for a walk, they were gone over an hour, i sarted to get a bit worried about Franklin but he seemed fine when they got back. Really really nice of them to do that, im not used to being looked after im usually the lookerafterer.

viks still crap here and yes, another early morning for us preceded by strong, painful braxton hicks til 3.30 for me.
Lovely you had some time while they went for a walk, it does take a while to get used to your little baby going out with someone else but if it gives you a break it can only be a good thing right?!

memphis poor L, sounds horrible for him, glad you had a good weekend though and very jealous of you seeing needle!

Off to bed, 'night all.

Sorry about people's poorlyness. Hope sickly babies are better now.

I'm ok thanks vik. Had a bit of a fallout with a friend yesterday fucking facebook so feeling a bit shaken by that. At first I was mortified I'd upset her (unintentionally I might add - she took something I said the wrong way and instead of saying something there and then she stewed on it for 4 days until I asked what was wrong). But as time's passing I'm more angry about it than upset

Happy Valentine's Day folks :) Does anyone do anything special? We don't - although dh did surprise me with a big bunch of flowers and a CD last night which was lovely. I didn't get him anything except a card! He asked me to marry him 6 years ago today :)

mlic thats one thing that fb is bad for the same as texting people can take things the wrong way so easily, hope you both sort it out.

We dont do anything special dh got me some flowers last night, and I woke to a little box of chocs and a card, I put a giant choc coin 'love token' in his lunch box. But as my birthday was a bit of a let down he wanted to take me out for a curry but I said we would get a take out, the curry house is set menu tonight.

L woke at 11 then slept til 4 so a better night, then slept til 6.30 after that. He still hasnt coughed after his sick incident so think its cleared his chest! We are justr walking down the village today to drop my brothers birthday present off at step mums work and cleaning the house, my shin really hurts for some reason so struggling to put weight on it!

I apologised yesterday memph for upsetting her. Things were 'left' as we'd made up (sounds very 'playground like' to say that but you know what I mean)

But as the day went on and today I feel really angry about it. I said something as a joke on the back of something she'd said and she blew it out of proportion. Fine, these things happen. But then she said she feels I look down on them because I made a comment about E dropping his 'T's since starting nursery and her children go to the same school. I mean, wtf? Because I want my son to talk properly, suddenly I'm judging people????

I will get over it, but I'm pretty pissed off with her atm. Sorry for the 'me, me, me' but I'm pretty disappointed that a so-called good friend has acted the way she has :(

I'm just off to the retail park to pick up my phone which has been repaired. I might have a look to see what the M&S Valentine's meal is like while I'm there

mlic I had the same conversation with dh about speaking properly, I said im glad we moved now as they speak better here than nearer the city where dh grew up he said so you think where I grew up is scummy? all defensive, I explained when the TA smoke on the way to school amongst the kids they help teach and shout down the road 'iiiiiya memph, aaar raaa yaaaaa? I wah twisted at the weekend' this doesnt bode well for the future of the kids going there, I dont think its a bad thing to want better for your kids, she sounds like she is being very petty!
chul biscuit recommendation the new Mcvities Quirks, amazing, but beware the packet goes quickly ive just eaten a packet on the way home from shop

Morning all! DH and I don't do anything particularly special for Valentine's Day, he's let off the hook since it's so close to my birthday it seems silly to get two presents in quick succession.

I have a query about milk and bedtime! For the last few nights, M has been refusing her bedtime bottle. Which seems fine by me, since she was meant to stop having a bottle about 6 months ago, I believe.

So tonight we're planning on tweaking the routine slightly... Just offering her a drink of water after dinner/bath/toothbrushing/pyjamas/sleeping bag, then setting her down in her cot and reading her more Starwars a story. Does that sound about right for her age?

Then, regarding milk... Until now she's had a bottle of milk at naptime and bedtime. If we're breaking that association, when do I give her milk? Do I give it to her at mealtimes in a sippy cup, instead of water/juice? Or do I give her milk between mealtimes instead?

How often should she have milk now? How much? We just use the basic, standard green/blue/pink Tommee Tippee sippy cups you see everywhere, usually. Though I can get bigger ones if necessary. M eats a lot fair amount of cheese, as well as a lot of yoghurt and such, so gets plenty of calcium.

Funny story actually, I can share for those who've made it this far. After dinner the other night, we had the following conversation:

Me: Would you like a yoghurt, M?
M: No!
DH: Would you like a biscuit?
M: No!
Me: Would you like some chocolate buttons?
M: No!
[DH and I look confused.]
Me: Well, what would you like?
M: Cheese!
[I dutifully get her some cubes of Cheddar, which she wolfs down.]

She's definitely my daughter.

vik yeah it does look nice but it wasn't crumbling around us to begin with so it could have at least waited til the summer as they had to have all the windows open. Ah well it's done now!

V day here is an exchange of cards and a v small present, seems silly to spend loads of money when there's xmas and birthdays for each other too.
I've got him a large box of fererro roche (sp?) which he loves but I left them at my mums by accident so got to go there to pick it up so we'll be doing the presents this eve when D is in bed.

mylife Somethings clearly pissed her off and shes decided to take that comment on board, it cant just be that, i hate that people are so silly about stuff, especially when you have known than for a long time.
dh we dont do valentines but i have brought nice tea, just hope F sleeps this evening so we can enjoy it. I wish id have thought about some fererro roche though as mu dh loves tham too.
spireal I dont give D milk so close to bed time any more, he has about half a sippy cup warmed inbetween tea and bath and if he doesnt drink it he doesnt have it, i had enough of the blumin nappies leaking so decided not to give any fluids so close to bedtime. I dont think he needs it now either. If shes eating lots of dairy i wouldnt sweat it, D has some first thing in the morning as well so id say hes having around 6oz of straight milk per day and the rest in food form or on cerial (he drinks the milk out of the bowl, dont tell mylife I know she wont aprove!!)
D's nappies have been horrendous this last week, really runny so it sinks straight into the nappy and whats left is really grainy like grit and grape skinn, it takes about a million wipes to get him clean and hes stained loads of vests as they keep leaking! he isnt showing any signs of a bad tummy though, what could that be, any ideas? Hes still being weird with hs food too, last night he refused cottage pie which he usually wolfes down and so i did him some tomatoe soup and a ham sandwice and he ate the lot so hes obviously hungry.
Hes just fallen asleep in the buggy at the shop so i asked him if he wanted to go into his bed for a sleep and he said yes but hes just rolling around chatting, he usually has lunch now and sleeps at 1, screwed that up today havent i!!

vik could he be teething? L is refusing a lot of food since being ill, he is teething a lot and holding his mouth and ears crying ow ow ow, in desperation ive bought a load of the hipp 12months+ meals as other than those he only wants beans, I know that is fine but not every meal every day, he ate porrdge this morning but I had to feed him on my knee while hecried that his mouth hurt, opening for food between sobs! he wont eat pasta ever either!
spirael at M loving cheese, I love garlic and craved it more while pg and L loved anything garlicy, he would eat a whole garlic bread if I let him! I dont know with regard to milk,I still give L 18oz a day but we are dropping it to 12oz but he doesnt eat cheese, and rarely eats yoghurts.

memphis teathing is a possibility but considering he has 16 teeth it would be unlikley, i had a good feel yesterday and couldnt feel anything, but nappies. dribble,sleep,food all point to teething.............or just being a toddler?? Hes had umteen tellings off today before we went out, just annoying stuff that knackeres out a very knackered mommy like not lying still for his nappy or running away when its time to have his shoes/coat on, i really can not and will not tolerate that shit man. Poor D i know hes only pushing the boundaries but hes doing it at the wrong time to the wrong mommy!
trudy hows things with you and M and F, are you in a routine with feeding etc yet. Hows F settling now, not sure you updated us with what the doc said.
tsc are you home yet? How was it in the end?

*teething!!

viksam our house is a circuit for L as we have 2 kitchen and 2 living room doors so he runs around them loads while I have to chase him to get his shoes/coat/hat on, was ok before he could open doors! drives me nad but he thinks its great, oh and L has never lay down for a nappy willingly without a knee pinning him down
L has had a 3 hour nap! im going to have to wake him!

We need a new thread! cakes wont be happy with us for leaving it so late and im totally incapable of doing it as I have no clue!

That actually reminds me of something I was wondering, memphis. Has anyone has found any correlation between the foods they craved or avoided during pregnancy and whether they're now loved or hated by their LO's?

Doesn't really work so well for me... I craved spicy food and I always love cheese, both of which M adores now. I couldn't eat onions (unless very well cooked) due to heartburn and when BFing I still couldn't eat them as they gave M wind. However she now adores raw onions, especially pickled onions!

But then there are very few things M doesn't seem to like, so I'm not sure she's a very good example.

Thanks for the milk info, Viksam. :) I won't worry too much about making sure M gets a certain amount then on a daily basis. I guess I'll just offer milk to drink once or twice a day over the weekend, while making sure to offer other milky foods as part of meals!

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Yes she obviously has got insecurities vik. Fuck it. She can't have been that good a friend in the first place is what I now think.

My kids drink the milk from their cereal bowl too. Nowt wrong with that

Spirael W has a bottle milk morning and evening. I just give him a bottle it and he drinks what he wants and I bin the rest. Mine both love cheese too. The stronger the better. W doesn't mind spicyish food but E won't eat it.

I didn't really have any cravings so can't compare.

Vik my advice to you would be 'pick your battles'. I know it's infuriating chasing them to put their coat/shoes on etc, but if you cba and he isn't playing ball, don't put them on! Especially if you're going somewhere in the car. Just take it with you and put it on when you get where you're going.

Been to get my phone and had a little walk round the shops. Came home to pick the dogs up then we all went to the beach. Came home and did my exercise and now have housework to do. I text dh earlier and said the M&S meal was a rip off but he could feel free to buy me a takeaway Indian for tea, so he is

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