September 05 - lots of smiles

[milward]

Here it is!!

Pcircus - hope your appointment goes well.

Mummyhill - wish I could help out. Happens to me as well.

ds is getting his first tooth as well. Just needs to come through the gum.

Lots has happened.
Wabbit - sorry to hear your situation. Hugs xxx

nlstm - congrats! hope you're feeling fine.

mummyhill - hope you're ok. Thinking of you & your return to work.

best wishes to all xxx

here having a complete house sort out - ahhh

Last week felt so tired after dh was away plus other people forgetting I've got 4 kids to run after - so I did no housework other than minimum. I often bf as I'm clearing up & just needed to sit down last week & rest. Paying the price now!!!! Plus just getting to 2 schools everyday is more than enough. ds4 in & out his car seat to babysling. Asking dd3 to hurry up! I'm always on time at dd1 &2 school & late at dd3 pre-school. I'm the bad parent there - other mums talk of the stress of getting their au-pair up earlier to get the kids ready or how their nanny is on holiday....I arrive in a mess wiping dd3 choc breakfast cereal from her face having got my kids ready. A contrast to the glam mums

Still upset that my mum hasn't said anything about my lovely ds4. This is really the end of my relationship with her. So much to say on this but I've done everything for her to be a doting gran, despite my difficult childhood, & this is how she is. My pil are wonderful though & I'm so pleased for my kids that they have super grandparents from my dh.

Has anyone tried the davina 30 min workout? I'd love to do some exercise & 30mins (if I'm lucky!!) would be the time available (perhaps!!)

Sorry to have missed out others - I've read all the posts but sleep lack means I read & can't remember!!
sred - hope you're managing ok with dh wrkload.
rz - I'll find the mad mother thread. Sorry you're having a tough time.
sallie - thoughts xxx
Want to answer to others but emergency nappy here.... xxxx

Good Evening everyone
my sister's here to keep me company and chat through my awful situation. I hadn't wanted to say anything to her but she dropped by just as I put the phone down from a conversation with 'the other woman' who decided it was necesary to talk to me

As a result of this I've found the situation is in fact far worse than I have been told... I'm reeling a bit and find it all so surreal.

So here's to my thinking I'd already been told the truth!

As it's so surreal I don't really feel anything... apart from laughing in disbelief... I'll tell you all more when I've got time

Love to everyone xxx

Oh It's my Birthday tomorrow too... never felt so un-birthdayish. I'm borrowing my sisters lovely dh and we're going a walk over the Malvern Hills so I can get the wind in my hair (sans children, so I can walk as far as I want!)

Happy Birthday Wabbit.

Hope you have a good walk with your sister and get lots of wind blowing through your hair.

Happy Birthday Wabbit.

Glad you have such a supportive sister. Talk to us in your own time hun and I will see you on the 17th in Lich all being well.

Happy birthday Wabbit! Hope you have a wonderful windy walk. What a lovely idea - I love long walks but have been incredibly sedentry for far too long. You've given me an idea of what to do next weekend.
It's a mixed bag talking to the "other woman" isn't it - do you believe what she's said?

Happy birthday Wabbit - really sorry it can't be a happier one. I hope is woman was going for a 'confessional' to you rather than a 'rub your nose in it' - take care xxxxxxxxxx

Replace is for this..... still asleep!

Happy Birthday Wabbit! Hope you managed to have some fun during what must be a miserable time ((((hugs)))). What a b@$£@^& your H is. Hope the other woman treated you with at least some respect when you spoke to her. Don't you dare feel inferior to her just because you're "only" studying. Oh I'm so that you've been treated like this. Thank god for your sister and your wonderful DD.
OMG nolonger!!!!!!!!! Delighted to hear your news. A DB or DS for noah how lovely. You didn't have much problem with the last pg, if I remember rightly. Hope this one goes as well.
DD1 is going to nursery with nickers on tomorrow too. I'm so proud of here - she's been weeing/pooing in the potty all weekend Sending PC's DS and Pooka's DD good potty vibes!
I've started Davina's 30 min workout this week, milward. Legs were aching all week from mondays workout [unfit emoticon] but I peresvered and have done 3 this week. Seems to be helping but it's difficult to follow - lots of shots of Davinas grimacing face rather than what she's doing with her feet/arms. Suppose that after a few goes I'll get the hang of the routines.
Mummyhill - how dare your Dh complain about the state of the house. You did very well not to throw something at him. Hope he wises up soon a nd pulls his weight, esp before you go back to work. Hope the counselling works better this time. ((((hugs))))
bubbles - Glad work is going ok . Will email you when I get a chance (hope you don't mind) so you have my email and we can sort out a meetup.

Morning xxx

Morning

Morning!!

Morning!
Wabbit - meant P instead of H on my last post.
Abi's last imms were due today but she's full of cold so haven't taken her. I have lost my voice. May have something to do with VERY drunken meal out for dh's birthday at weekend or could just be the same colf that dds have.
Have spent morning at hotel where we are having the christening choosing food, drinks etc. Quite excited about the whole thing now.
Hope everyone else ok and things seem a bit brighter sallie, wabbit, mummyhill this new week. x

Off to do my davina workout once i can get abi off my boob!!

about Abi's christening. Wish Rachel was still having one - familys ahhh - nout as strange a folk!

SR - hope you're not going to let family put you off rachel's christening completely. Rachel (and you) deserve a special day!

Afternoon now .

Alice is sleeeping. She has been a grumpy young person for the past few days which I think has been due to cold, maybe a virus maybe teething (who knows). And she was starting to be in pain when she was feeding (especially on the right hand side which was leading to my looking rather lopsided). But a gigantic feed on that side earlier on has evened me up

I have managed to do some tidying up while small one has slept - the loving room windowsill is clear for the first time since Christmas .

Jaamy, hope that DD1's day at nursery doesn't involve too many wet knickers (DS has gone to nursery in pants again as they said he'd done "well" last Wednesday, despite quite a lot of wet pants/trousers coming back home).

living room obviously rather than loving room. Although of course we are all loving to each other .

Alice is now not the smallest little sibling amoungst DS's friends, as a new one was born yesterday. I am waiting for Alice to look huge when we meet him .

thanks pc - hope ds does "well" again. Never thought i'd get so excited about toilet functions! Our nextdoor neighbour has a 4 week old and DD2 looks huge next to him!

Yes - It's afternoon!

Thankyou all for your lovely Birthday wishes for yesterday - I did a long steep climb talking along the way with my Sister's dh who's a Reikki Master... very philosophical and calming... didn't stop me from crying all night though

Pooka - Yes I did believe her She became pregnant early last year but miscarried at 3months, She's now pregnant again and is due June 17th so I suppose that makes her about 4 months (a little girl one apparently - and I'd wanted a girl next or the one after that... or the one after that... )

She says she doesn't want any more to do with him, welllll - I'm not sure that's her decision are you????!!!!!

SimplyRed - The first time she called there was definitely an element of wanting to diminish my role as much as possible - though I've not forgotten her career and that she makes money by dismissing one argument in favour of another - I have - after hours of talking with dp - two completely differing stories, I'm sad for her (and the babies) as well as for me, I'm still not angry just hurt, don't know what I'm going to do, I need to speak to dp more. Think I'm the only rational and decent and truthful one of us - as you can imagine, this is REALLY SURREAL

Beatie - I'm going to mail you again later, hope everything's ok with you, did you get my last mail? if so pretty much ignore it - the whole situation's turned on it's head rather... though I think waiting 'til the dust's settled won't do me any disservice.

Oh yes - I'd said the first time she rang hadn't I? Well the second time she rang she was crying to me how sorry she was, warning me not to believe a word he has to say, assuring me that if I wished to continue my relationship with dp then she wouldn't be getting in the way/disrupting our future. she just kept crying about how sorry she was - over and over.

Give me your thoughts on this lot people, it's helped me just writing it down, a bit of self therapy! At least I'm not in denial

Crikey Wabbit. I really don't know how I'd feel in your situation, but can imagine that this seems like such an incredible betrayal. This is APPALLING. Veer from feeling sad for her and her baby and sad for you and Conrad. What on earth was she, and mre importantly, your p thinking????!!! The irresponsibility and plain greedy thoughtlessness of it all leaves me speechless.
I have a really good friend who found out that her dh (who used to be firm friends with me and dh) had started an affair days after she had her ds 7 months ago. She keeps getting contacted by the other woman who, lets face it, has a vested interest in ensuring that she doesn't patch things up with her dh (as the other woman's dh has left her as a result of the affair). That's why I was cautious about Sallie contacting the other woman and about you believing her side of the story - the contact my friend has with this wretched woman veers from "you're welcome to him" to salacious details about the true extent of her dh's infidelity, which only serves to drive a deeper wedge between friend and her not so (d) h. And at the root of it all is a spineless lily-livered and oh so childish husband who doesn't have a clue what he wants, but cannot (according to him) "help himself". I feel like saying "grow up, be a man and just stop being so selfish and feeble in the face of an adulterous attraction".
I'm glad you have a good support network of sister, BIL and your dd. Sorry I have no constructive advice, I just feel so sad and angry for you.

Hi Pooka Has your friend stayed with her husband?

Oh Wabbit - it gets worse - now there are more children involved. What a messy situation your p has created. Would you ever be able to trust him again if he resolved to be faithful to you and you agreed to put it behind you? I know you're in an awkward place at the moment with him working elsewhere but do you think things will be better once you've finished studying and your home life is a bit more settled? Don't know if I could ever trust again, especially as his line of work means (i'm assuming) that he does antisocial hours. Think I'd always be looking for signs that he's messing around again. Has he done this before to you or perhaps a previous partner? At the risk of sounding heartless to this other woman - you were there first and deserve first refusal! And once again, thank god for your supportive ds, bil, noop and sweet little conrad. Don't know what the circumstances were with noop's dad but if you do split up with your p, you only have to look at noop to be safe in the knowledge that you are an excellent mother and Conrad will grow up into an excellent little person, just like his big sister no matter what! Makes me very though that such a lovely lady is having to go through such a terrible time. x

Hear hear Jaamy!
Well - at the moment my friend is trying to imagine giving him another chance, but has had far too much (imo) info on the nuts and bolts as it were of the affair, so has very low self esteem, her dh has admitted that the other woman has a sexier body shape etc. So first things frist - she wants her dh to fancy her again, to want to be with her and to be in love with her. And then she will make a decision about whether she wants another go. She is a lovely, very moral person, who desperately wants her son to have a proper family. But personally...in her circumstances I don't think I could ever see the relationship recovering, particularly as her dh has been so very feeble-minded. And the longer it goes on, and the longer he works with this woman at the next desk, the less likely I think it will be that they are able to reconcile
I hate hate hate to stereotype, and my dh is my dh and lovely, but....MEN

Sorry Wabbitt.

That means other woman fell pregnant pretty much as you did (or just after) so you dp was going through the emotions and the hormones on both sides of his double life. As well as supporting her through the miscarriage. It must be a bit like plate spinning - to keep it all going! What a complicated mess. He's obviously highly fertile - but low on morals! Thinking of you - it really is surreal - you seem to have it well reasoned and are doing very well to maintain the moral high groundxxxx