September 05 - lots of smiles

[milward]

Here it is!!

Pcircus - hope your appointment goes well.

Mummyhill - wish I could help out. Happens to me as well.

ds is getting his first tooth as well. Just needs to come through the gum.

Hello!
Scuse oht as have poorly sick DD2...has a cold along with everyone else it seems and won't settle on her own. Sympathies to everyone else with colds and/or poorly littlies.
Have just about recovered from DD1's 2nd birthday. She really enjoyed herself and if truth be told so did DH and I. Will be wacky warehouse or similar next year as too much hard work at home not to mention limited room for 14 under 4!!!
Sallie - best not let us know where u live or we'll be round to lynch your DH. Words escape me. Just know that you have the unconditional love of your children. Hope you get through this ok...whatever the outcome. (((((hugs)))))
PC - how bizarre...DD1 finally went into nursery without tears on mon too. The first time since she went into the bigger class after christmas. Good job as it was her birthday and i would have hated to leave her in tears. Have bugun potty training too but taking it VERY slowly nowhere near as advanced as your DS. Well done to both of you!!
Abigail was 12lb when weighed on tues (15weeks)= 9th percentile, like DD1. No teeth yet but buckets of dribble. She is sleeping through (except for last night with stinking cold) in a grobag which she has been in since she could kick the covers off at about 4 weeks. Got a warm house so she seems ok with just the grobag.
LMG - i put it down to sheer luck that both DDs are sleeping through (gropes around frantically for something that isn't mdf!) and I certainly wouldn't judge others by how their children sleep. As everyone says, we're all different and jess is probably going to surprise you in other areas.
Hope everyone else ok, Bubbles, how're you doing now?

Hi eveyone,
JAAMY, that so weird that you ask how i am as i log on, i haven't even lurked for the last week. I'm feeling much better and much more positive, but have come down with a terrible cold this morning, couldn't even finish my shopping, just had to come home. I'm so glad that someone mentioned hair loss, i had no idea that you lose hair after being pg. I've worked myself into a frenzy all week. My aunt had alopecia a few years ago and i'd convinced myself that was what was up with me feel so silly now but thanks so much for putting me at ease, i even bought new shampoo and conditioner thinking that my hair was too weak. LOL
The meet up sounds great and depending on the date i would certainly be up for it, but i live very far away from london.
CABE, Conrad looks lovely so cute and really suits his name.
LADYL, it's lovely to put a face to your name, Elise is beautiful too.
SALLIE, sorry to hear your bad news.
The virtual choc sounds great, and at least it won't go straight to my hips LOL
MUMMYHILL, hope nat enjoys her party, she was born in the best month ever, as you've probably guessed it's my birthday in feb too, no wacky party for me though , although dp has just ordered me some lovely combats ion my new size, but i've told him not to give them to me before my birthday.
Sorry if i've missed anyone, going to watch the bill and big brother now, will try to get on here tomorrow
Goodnight everyone xxx

Evening All - here ds4 wakes up 2-3 times a night for bf. I co-sleep so don't have to get up.
My dd3 refuses to use the potty or loo. It's driving me mad & making me feel sad. She knows what she's doing. Seems to be a constant battle & it's getting me down. I do so much for my kids & everything is nice for them - just wish dd3 would act her age. Next week they'll be no pull ups at pre-school. Perhaps the school can deal with this issue that I can't manage anymore.

Feel down as well - my mum, who is V.difficult for many reasons, has not acknowledged that ds4 has been born. She's ignoring her own grandchild. Today I got a parcel from her for dd birthday with lovely gifts - but again nothing for ds4. She refuses to talk to me or my sister since 1.5 years. I'll be giving the presents to a local charity for kids. Her behaviour just makes me sad & I realise that I always seek her approval, even though I know I don't need it.

Milward - I don't understand why some people are like this, nothing justifies ignoring your own children - I'm sure none of us can imagine a time when our babes wont deserve and enjoy our continued love and support, at whatever time in theirs and our lives. Very for you as I know the kind of mindset that allows someone to do this, My Mother and her Sister retain every percieved wrong doing.
Oh and do you think your DD is proving to you that she's still a baby too, needing your attention in the same way as ds4?

Thanks Bubbles - He's a little poppet Yes I think it would be lovely to be able to put faces to names and meet and chat in real life - it's just a thought though and I totally respect anyone's decision to remain a MN buddy without wanting to reveal themselves

Having to return to the books now - this was my MN break for the day

Hope all colds feel better very soon and STAY away this time!

x

Hello!

Morning !

Sorry Milward - its a shame to hear about your Mum - this sorts of things are always very sad - family are precious especially little ones and need to be enjoyed and loved xxx

Like the idea of meeting up - makes me want to lose weight - which is good as I have fallen off my diet!

Also had the offer of taking up a Slimmers World franchise which me and dh are considering - just working out the costs/implications.
Had an eye test and have perfect vision!!! Just working on perfect foresight now!

Hello!

Morning !

Sorry Milward - its a shame to hear about your Mum - this sorts of things are always very sad - family are precious especially little ones and need to be enjoyed and loved xxx

Like the idea of meeting up - makes me want to lose weight - which is good as I have fallen off my diet!

Also had the offer of taking up a Slimmers World franchise which me and dh are considering - just working out the costs/implications.
Had an eye test and have perfect vision!!! Just working on perfect foresight now!

Hello!

Morning !

Sorry Milward - its a shame to hear about your Mum - this sorts of things are always very sad - family are precious especially little ones and need to be enjoyed and loved xxx

Like the idea of meeting up - makes me want to lose weight - which is good as I have fallen off my diet!

Also had the offer of taking up a Slimmers World franchise which me and dh are considering - just working out the costs/implications.
Had an eye test and have perfect vision!!! Just working on perfect foresight now!

Opps it was so slow I get pressing return!!!

Thanks cabe & simplyred - usually I just ignore her ignoring me & family - but got the parcel yesterday & just felt down.

Good news on the potty front. I told dd3 that dd4 was too small to use the potty & loo & that he'd really wanted to but had to wait until bigger - whereas dd3 was the right age & could. Ds4 would just be watching her as he couldn't have a turn. Anyhow - no dd3 wears underwear now (as ds4 can't & he's stuck in nappies) & has been on the potty & loo. Fingers crossed it keeps going this well!!! ahhhhhhhh!!!!!

Thanks for all your very supportive messages. We seem to be going round in circles. He seems just to want to carry on as normal, as if nothing has happened and I just can't. The trust has all gone and every time he works late, I worry that he is seeing her. I have even met her...it all makes me feel very stupid and sad - should have seen it coming. DD2 still isn't sleeping through so have been exhausted for a long time so maybe thats it and of course have had no time to pamper myself or any money to spend on myself to make me feel better. In short, I am feeling very very confused and not sure what to do. I know in my heart of heart that more happened than what he is admitting to but he won't budge when I press him. The thought that he is lying and there is more to tell is tearing me apart and most days I cry although the kids make me pull myself together. Just keep telling myself that I need to make sure they are ok and don't want to make any rash decisions because I don't want them to get hurt. The communications I read between him and her were pretty intimate though - am getting very little sleep worrying about it all.....
On a happier note - its sooo lovely to be able to read about what all the little september darlings are up to.

Sallie - I'm sorry - I'm sure the dishonesty is worse than the affair itself - might seem like a strange idea - but could you speak to the 'other woman' if he will not tell you? Sorry if these ideas are no use - only you know what is best for your situation. I'm really sad that your dh can do this to you when you are so vunerable (straight after the birth) and having given him 3 precious children. Do not blame yourself. He wants his cake and eat it - and I hope hes got agonizing indigestion. Take care xxx

Sallie, sorry you're going through this xxx

It's been horrible - I've tried to get my MN fix all evening and it's only just allowed me to log on

SR - Slimming world, wow, can imagine it would be a worthwhile thing to set up, helping people reach their target and with some fulfill their dreams.

Milward - great news about dd3 and her happy potty experiences It'll be so much easier for you when she manages to be nappy and accident free, think you might have turned the corner

Yes SR a Summer meet-up. So you'd be interested?
so that's you me and Bubbles so far (and the little ones of course)
Anyone else????

Sallie - . I hope you can see that this is his failure, though it may make you feel stupid, You are not. He's in the wrong and he really needs to admit this not only to you but to himself before you can begin to forgive him. {{{Hugs}}} More hugs winging your way. Keep strong girl - just show him what a foolish thing he's done
And... Insist on making a tiny bit of time for yourself - it's the least he owes you. He can take over bab duties for an hour and let you have a lovely soaky bath with smellies and whisk a little eyeshadow and lipgloss on. You are important sweetie xx

Sorry that turned into a bit of a rant folks

London is a bit far for me to treck with work, children etc but would love to meet up if we can find an acceptable place halfway between iyswim.

HV has booked me an appointment with the gp as my edinburgh scale came back quite high (she won't tell me the score, I suppose I could check it on kellymom though). Physio is going well and if I can get a babysitter sunday I will be off to karate again this week.

Went into work today and have sorted out my hours, will be returning on the 13th feb (boo hoo).

Sallie - virtual hugs, tea and sympathy on their way through cyberspace to you. I can only imagine how difficult things are for you at the moment.

Been on kellymom and it was 16 which is lower than the 18 I got a week or so ago but still not good.

Hi Mummyhill

I'm sure we'll find a spot somewhere that we can all get to for a day x
Good for you getting back into your Karate... I hope this gives you the boost you need to help you out of your lows... the excercise will release those lovely happy hormones

Morning all!

Yes a midway meet up in the summer sounds great xxxx

ds off to another party this afternoon - and one tomorrow!!!! hard keeping up with the presents and fancy dress!!!!!!!!

ohh dear dh is in a strop. Had a bad night last night and ended practically throwing david at dh and asking him to settle him as I couldn't seem to do anything right for the little chap. DD had us up twice and now he is moaning cause he didn't get any sleep!!!! He has gone to karate this morning and I now have to go shopping with his sister to buy tap shoes for dd's birthday.

Must have been MN ESP, Bubbles! Glad to hear you're feeling ok. DO you go back to work next week or is it the week after? Good luck with that! I guess you'll be busy with work but would really like to meet up if you get a chance, let me know and I can give you my email ( now that they've started chrging to CAT). Offer stands for anyone else within striking distance of the northwest.
Big meetup in the summer is a deginite must...and somewhere we can all get to would be great. Maybe we could set a date now and then work through the details (location, etc.) later. I have such a busy social life (not) that I need all the warning I can get!
Mummyhill - sorry to hear that DH isn't behaving himself. Perhaps he'll come back from karate all mellow??
Abi still has a cold but is being a little sweet heart through it all, smiling away through the snot. She's started grabbing on to toys and amusing herself now too. Makes me smile a lot.
Anyway, take care all, off to make myself some late lunch.

Hi all. Sallie - ou mustn't feel like a mug. It's your h who should be feeling the fool.
DD's ear infection much better. Tom and I have rotten colds still.
Tom rolled from front to back for the first time last week. Nearly there back to front, but only when naked. He spent a good 20 minutes earlier playing with a wicker wastepaper basket. Very strange. Was following it with his eyes even as we walked around the room.
Has anyone else got a hairy baby? Tom practically bald (dd is 2.5 and has very short hair too). But I noticed what looks like a moustache (!) earlier. And he has eyebrows like Denis Healey.

Pooka - Little Conrad's got quite defined eyebrows and fine down on his top lip... he's also still got some of the fur on the backs of his ears... I love that

I thought a meet-up late in July would be a good time... I don't know how you all feel, Whether you'd prefer school time or holiday time? Give me your thoughts everyone and tell me where abouts you are - I'll make a note of it and try to devise a location that will suit all of us distance wise

My sister's bump - named 'boo' for the moment - is coming on wonderfully but she's beginning to feel weighed down by her little passenger! Not too long to go now - baby due around 7th March [excited emoticon]

Love to you all xx

Well done Tom for rolling over

Oh and Sallie - I accidentally put 'bab duties' I meant 'baby duties'

Morning

Cabe - school time is best for me (or I'll bring ds 6 and dd then 10 months!!) - allowing travel time either side of meetup - I live in Bedford.

Off to party (ds's mate)and then going to celebrate chinese new year - any excuse!!!

Cabe - don't mind holidays or school term time. Would prob bring dd (3 in July) and Tom. Live in south-east london/kent borders.
How exciting for your sister (and you). I'm envious of her