September 05 - lots of smiles

[milward]

Here it is!!

Pcircus - hope your appointment goes well.

Mummyhill - wish I could help out. Happens to me as well.

ds is getting his first tooth as well. Just needs to come through the gum.

Hi - Yes, I'd quite like to bring Noop so school holidays would be good for me... SR the more the merrier!

Taken note of your whereabouts people... will start plotting

Bubbles you're a lot further North where are you?

Think bubbles is in warrington, near me (near liverpool) so yes, we are a little bit further north. I don't mind school time or not, but thurs or fri would be better for me as I will be working mon-wed.
Cabe/Pooka - DD1 had hairy ears (which I used to love stroking!! [weird emoticon]) and DD2 has a little dark patch at the bottom of her back.
As for me, yes, my hair is coming out in handfuls too. Not too worried as happened last time too. Won't be ordering my wigs just yet.

School hols for me too pls. We are in West Midlands but you knew that allready cabe. Plenty of notice required so I can a) have the car b) book time from work c) make arrangements for dh to get to and from work if necessary.

We went into B'ham this afternoon after Karate to see the chinese new year celebrations. Jolly cold but very interesting.

Cabe still don't appear to be receiving mail from you can you text me your msn address please and I will add you to my contacts list to see if that solves the problem.

OK Mummyhill! xx

Morning xxxxxxxx

Morning

Hello hello.

I haven't read all the messages, so I hope everyone is well. I haven't been on Mumsnet at all until recently, with one thing and another. January has been punctuated with some hideous recurring cold / flu thing and a stomach bug (pretty horrible - but I did lose 6 lbs in one weekend ).

The Peanut is well - although she got this cold / flu thing too and managed to vomit up vast quantities of ectoplasmic snot all over the sofa (truly gobsmacking to believe that one small child could hold that much mucus...). Still exclusively breastfed and has just had a huge growth spurt in which she virtually chewed my nipples off at hourly intervals through the night.

Smiling and gurgling lots - and has managed to roll from her stomach to her back, but not the other way round.

Went walking in Cumbria the other week (an interesting choice, I know - but it was pretty empty and Himself had some holiday to take before the end of January), dog and baby in tow. Think we'll have to consider getting a proper backcarrier in future. Noticed some pulling in the region of my Caesarean, but it got better through the course of the week.

Christmas was really good - in a cottage with my husband and his mother. New Year at my parents' was dire - they behaved generally atrociously - and we haven't spoken since. Which feels wonderful, I have to say, after the way they've been acting recently.

Anyway - as I said, hope all are ok. Will peruse the rest of the thread(s) when I have a chance.

Hi RZ - saw you on the b/feeding threads. Glad you're recovering and would rather have the extra 6 pounds thaa stomach bug atm!
IS this a recent falling out with your parents? I seem to recall them being a bit funny about your proposed home birth...is that anything to do with it? Such a shame

Hello RZ - glad to see you around again (I had noticed you on a few threads recently).

I have just made some money on ebay - as I couldn't manage to get on with the Wilkinet carrier I gbought (in ebay) I sold it and got more than I paid for it .

Will have to see what else I can sell

Hello!

Hello RZ - seems to be a theme with problem parents recently - mine are ok at the moment (which is unusal!) but pil are currently unusally strange to make up for it!!!

Think I may need advise on an ethical/moral dilema later!!!

Hi RZ - good to hear about your DD's progress tho sorry you've both been ill.
DD2 is trying desperately to roll over from back to tum. Sure it won't be long. Still no sign of any teeth but she's only 16 weeks old, plenty of time.
Parents, eh? Who'd have 'em? I'm speaking to my DPs...they're just not speaking to each other (though they still live together). Makes for very uncomfortable visits to GP's house! My PILs are their usual obnoxious selves!
Christening booked for 26th Feb which also happens to be my birthday...yes Bubbles, feb people are fab...and modest too! Just have to work out how we're going to afford it!

SR - ethical/moral dilemma????? Very intriguing! Hope we can help!

I'm also intrigued

Good to hear from you RZ thought you'd disappeared.

Jammy - we've also booked the baptism for the 26th so will think of you then. Still having a think about God parents.

Gabrieele definatly hungry at the moment and woke up twice the other night am thinking of supplementling her with a wee bit of formula in the evening just to get a bit more sleep!

Would be up for a meet up.

I do have the other woman's email address but haven't used it yet. Still don't think I am going to get the full truth from dh. The correspondence I read definitely suggested that a physical relationship was/is going on and I bet he has another email address. Phone is constantly on silent so would never hear any incoming texts...tell me what to do. Am going crazy here

hello - have been bedridden with fluey shakes and shivers and tummy cramps all day feeling a bit better now and just logging on before I go to bed

Hi RZ - lovely you're back

Rhumba - Duly noted that you're up for a meet-up... Where abouts are you? looks like school holiday time would be best for most is this ok for you?

Sallie - Hmmm If I were you I wouldn't get in touch with this other woman... this is between you and DH. In many ways it's his infidelity not hers. I'm saying this as one whose on the other side of a similar argument... Though she was never dp's wife and they had parted ways before I came onto the scene. It's so easy for the jilted one to come across as unhinged.

Lots of love to everyone, I'll have to go though as the shivering is starting again
xx

Cabe- sorry you're feeling rotten Take to your bed and drink lots of fluids.
Sallie - I wouldn't contact the other woman either. I only say this because you never know how honest she would be (I mean, carrying on with a married father of 3 isn't the best character reference, is it). When push comes to shove, it's your dh who you will need to trust if you choose to ork it through. Do you believe him? Would marriage counselling help? I can't remember - was it your dh who got a new job (teaching???) and you'd recently moved to a new area? I can see how dificult it would be not having the definitive truth. But I'm not sure to what extent you will ever know for CERTAIN what happened even if you did dignify this woman by talking to her. I suppose really it's your dh's actions from now, how he communicates with you, how he interacts with you and your children that will demonstrate how he is feeling and what take he has on what has happened. But trust once lost is going to be difficult to restore, particularly if he's still working with her.

Sallie - I really hope things are going to brighten up for you.

As you know I probabaly would contact the other woman - as thats my nature, she may well not tell you anything usefull - but it depends on her motivation and the type of person she is - she may feel love for dh and feel terrible. It would certainly put her on the spot and annoy dh but at the same time I would not want a confrontation. She may also contact you if she has been jilted - seen that happen several times. However cabe is right about not coming across as unhinged. I'd try to take the moral high ground - in a clearing the air, confessional type of vibe!

However - although I have seen this happen to friends - I have no expereience of what I'd really do ! Take care - thinking of you xx

Cabe - hope you are feeling better

Sallie - ultimately - only you'll know whats best for your situation -xxxxxxxxx

Hi everyone I've not caught up on the posts I've missed but noticed RZ's presence so wanted to say hello.

Alice was weighed today. She's 19 weeks and 14lb 3oz - so she put on a lb in 2 weeks. Maybe her increased waking was a growth spurt. Who knows.

At the clinic I had to encounter a rather smug Gina Ford advocate. I'm sure she didn't intend to sound smug "baby XXX lovbes his routines!" but it just left me feeling a bit crap, since this is my second child and I've ended up with two bad sleepers. Sometimes I think I must be doing it all wrong.

Do you know, I don't even dare mention to the HV that I am holding off giving Alice solids until 6 months. I have already heard them tell many mothers that it's a miracle if a baby can last THAT long.

Oh well, I'm sure all will settle down arounf the 6 month mark. It did with dd1. we did a little bit of sleep training around the 5 month mark and she proceeded to be a wonderful sleeper thereafter. Please, please let that be the case for Alice too.

No rolling here yet but this poor baby is rarely left on the floor for fear of dd1 covering her with toys and blankets. It's her favourite game.

Beatie - Are your DDs happy? Are you happy, though perhaps a little sleep deprived? This Gins Ford fan - how does she know that her DS loves routines?? Has he told her? Think it's just her who loves routine. Some people are like that. Was it her first child? Does she have a toddler who she has to fit into a routine too? Personally I couldn't stick to a routine if my life depended on it. I have friends who say that they can't do x at y time because it would disrupt the routine and this seems to cause them more stress. But each to their own.
And you will know yourself when Alice is ready for solids. I'm intending to start Abigail at 5 months but only because I go back to work shortly after that and want to get her started before then...but we'll see.
Sallie - I personally wouldn't contact this woman. But only you can make that decision. What would you get out of speaking with her? If the only reason is to get at DH then you have to think whether it's worth upsetting yourself. It's not as if she doesn't know about his family circumstances and if DH has been lying to you then it's likely that he's been lying to her as well so anything she tells you may not be true. The root of the problem is between you and your DH and i really hope you can work it out one way or the other. Do you have friends/relatives in RL who can support you through this? (((hugs)))) x
Cabe - get well soon!
Rhumba - will be thinking of you all on the 26th, too! We still haven't sorted out the GF either. DH is determined not to ask my DB and to ask my BIL but it will be really obvious if we don't ask DB as he is the only sibling left who isn't a GP to DD1.
Hope everyone else ok.
LOL at your DD1 burying Alice in blankets, toys, etc. Sounds very familiar!

Sorry - did come across as a bit hard on anyone who has a routine - didn't mean to, just don't think it would work for me. BTW after saying that DDs were sleeping thru, DD2 has been very unsettled for the last couple of nights. Think it's just her cold tho. Rhumba - I have been giving DD2 a bottle as her last feed at night for about 3 weeks now, seems to help (until the recent waking episodes, that is).

Thanks for all your messages of support and advice - really helps as I can't really speak to anyone else at the moment about this for various reasons. Yes - DH is still working with her and will do for the forseeable future. However, when he was having the affair they were at different sites from each other. Now they are at the same place so that makes me worry even more. I would love to contact her but know I probably shouldn't as it probably won't get me anywhere - and I certainly don't want to appear unhinged !!! When he did this before, I did call the woman he was seeing and it didn't help although I never did see her face to face which in some ways was annoying as would have loved to have seen what she looked like. Have seen this one though....Still feel like I am going crazy inside and just can't trust him at all. I just know there is more to this than what he is telling me....But as some of you say, perhaps I will never know and just need to think about I am going to do long term. Had the kids not been around, I would have left...
Oh - and i have had that fluey tummy bug too. It was awful - feel like I had been knocked over by a bus. Cabe - get better soon.

Thanks. Yes, we are happy in our little disorganised world and I did mention to the routine-woman that I have a 3 year old so it is more difficult to establish a routine for the second baby.