October 08 - the 3 year old thread.

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New thread just for you star!

Well, hopefully not just for you, or it could get a bit boring talking to yourself .

Yes pistachio it's all a bit isn't it?!
Q settles for bed now SO easily (makes up for earlier years!) and generally stays asleep unless it's to hop in our bed at 2am on occasion.
Dh feels that as he's already with cm and preschool it would not be right to leave q for even one minute longer than he needs to be. I get it, but I do wish we could go out together socially like we used to (without Q) just once in a while.
I guess it makes me feel like he just doesn't want to spend time alone with me outside of the house, iyswim. He assures me that's not true, but it's still how it feels.

I hope the sleepover goes well! What a lovely treat that will be! glad you had fun at the show!

Back to work tomorrow booooooo Selfishly that is all I have to say!

I am so not ready for school tomorrow! but needed to pop in and mark my place - and say Happy new Year to everyone
I survived Christmas, so did my MIL, so that's a win win.....
MIL and SMIL were snide polite through gritted teeth when they were both here . I tried to be polite. The kids absolutely loved having their cousins to stay and seeing all their grandparents in the space of 3 days.
I was utterly utterly exhausted when it was all over.

I feel ill. Very. Ill. Horrid timing. Dh had this a few days ago. Arghhh
I don't even know what I'm teaching tmrw but thankfully dh has realised he has tomorrow off they retun a day later, so at least I can go in early and get sorted instead of frazzled from the drop off and getting Q ready rush.
I feel like I've been hit by a bus. :(

It's ok I just don't do ill very well. At lunch at school but getting sorted for afternoon. So tired today wish I could be back at home with 1 child instead of 16!
What is with this wind? Crazy!

Oh and I think it's just a minor head cold but feels awful to me. Because I'm a wimp

star - sounds like you have man-flu! It can be very debilitating...
Seriously though, can you get an early night, dose yourself up and knock it on the head?

I'm in bed now but nose like a faucet. It is prob man flu. Is it survivable?

But I won £50 JL vouchers on a survey on here frm Kleenex! Hooray!

I've not won before. What I did before was a product test of that air machine and they gave us some vouchers as a thanks for doing it . So this is very exciting!

Myjob I'm sorry you feel like that. I can't recall so sorry if you told us before but is your decision to stop at two dc final or can you have a rethink? This desire to have children is a funny and painful thing. Until about a month ago I was feeling fine about being a mum to just J but now it's like an overwhelming urge to have another and painful is how I'd describe it some days too. I've heard people speak about these feelings before but never experienced them. I have so many irrational fears about conceiving again, that I've left it to late, that something will go wrong (I know a lot of rl friends who have miscarried 2nd time round or who are unable to get pg again for unexplained reasons). Then I also now feel like I want to do being pregnant better this time as I didn't enjoy it at all with J so I feel I missed that whole glow side of it. I know not everyone has that but I feel sad I didn't. I've also felt for the last year or so that I whimped out of childbirth with an epidural and wish I could have felt more confident in my early stages of labour as things may have gone differently had I relaxed more. So I guess I'm hoping to get another chance at it all as well as a new addition to my family. All these are crazy thoughts I suppose and rationally I know it's rubbish but it's how I feel deep down This is me being brave and speaking out to, so much easier to do here than in rl

Myjob and PP I hope you both have another child. Wow, those feelings sound really intense. It must be a very difficult time
I feel like something isn't right with me because I do not have an urge for another child at all. The financial implications absolutely terrify me - it wouldn't be a matter of "just cutting back" or whatever, it would be serious. I adore my baby (I know he's a preschooler now but always will be my baby!) and love giving him everything emotionally. He's not spoiled but he gets both of our full attention and I love that. I know a sibling is a blessing and totally wonderful as well but I don't have any strong feelings about having another. I envision things we will do as a family of 3 as Q grows up and I never envision another child... I know some of you will think I sound heartless and selfish.

Having gone through the birth at all is success! Having an epidural just makes things less painful.
Same route as someone who has no pain relief, really. I certainly don't feel as though I've failed at the birth in any way. I didn't like it at all (only the outcome bit, which was totally amazing, where we got Q - the most important and memorable part!) but if I ever had to go through it again, I'd need a c section and wouldn't find any guilt or failure in that at all.

I'd still get the very best part - meeting the baby

I know not everyone feels this way and many enjoy birth and the labour and treasure that experience, which is great as well.

Myjob is there ANY way your circumstances could allow for a third?

Hi all, I hope you all had a good Christmas and New Year.

CF I'm so made up for you, congratulations!

I know what you mean re having another go at the labour; I felt like that after Poppy and couldn't have asked for a better experience with Dylan (apart from the stitches!!! ) And yet I still think I'd like another just to have a home birth experience - you have to stop somewhere. There is such a weird stigma attached to pain relief during labour - as ive read somewhere, you wouldnt contemplate having a tooth taken out without pain relief so why a baby without it?!? Other than brief moments of insanity idle thought, we're very happy with our lot and are sticking with two. I agree with Pistachio My job, why not leave it 5 years and see where you are then? I wish I had that luxury, I'm 37 this year. I do regret not starting a family sooner in a way, but then again we are much better off financially now.

Basically, whatever your choices in life there will always be a part of you that thinks about the other road not taken.

I'll stop waffling now

Anyway, I am feeling a lot better in recent weeks. The new ad didn't seem to be helping so I went back to the doctor and asked to go on the pill to help control my mood swings- i started taking them and it was like flicking a switch, the next day the irritability and rage was gone (and is still gone 3 weeks later). I am not even sure now whether it has been PND this time after all, but just some strange hormonal constant state of PMT caused by prolonged breastfeeding and still not having had a period
9 months on. I have no medical or even 3rd party anecdotal basis for this by the way I would love to find out if there was though.

D is now back on dairy (except raw milk) and therefore so am I

I am really getting into home cooking now, just starting to build up a repertoire (fish pie today) - if any of you have any good recipes you use regularly please inbox me on FB. I have had a slow cooker for Christmas so have done a few things in that (turkey curry was a disaster!)

It's come home to me now that Christmas is finished that im on the home straight of maternity leave now, I go back at the start of April, it's quite sad as I know I won't be off for this long again until retirement but I am going back part time and I think I'll be ready for it by April.

No I'm 38 this year. Goddamn age-addled brain

I didn't find a stigma attached to pain relief in childbirth and I totally ignore anyone who tries to make out like it's a 'bad' thing. Because it's just not. It's AMAZING!

Glad you can have dairy now, HMM! How exciting! I made a yummy vegetable curry with yellow thai curry paste the other night (cabbage, broccoli, asparagus, carrots, green beans, bamboo shoots... Some others but can't recall)... I'm not a good cook but it tastes yummy!

Myjob that sounds like a good plan to aim for 5 years from now. You can do a lot in 5 years and then if do still feel the same you'll be in a better position? I know that seems ages to wait, though