October 08 - the 3 year old thread.

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New thread just for you star!

Well, hopefully not just for you, or it could get a bit boring talking to yourself .

and nothing compares to the unadulterated fury the moment they say "no, it's too late for an epidural..."
and lets be fair - when else do you get to PROPERLY shout at the top of your voice??

I hear you, but I'd stick to the epidural any day of the week. And Q and I turned out healthy and fine. Wish i didnt have the ventouse, but still prefer that to no epidural. And no ill effects.

If I could change one thing about my labour and delivery with Q it would be getting the epidural well BEFORE 29 hours in, of hideous pain (the most pain came from those damn forced held down internal exams!!!) oh and one more thing. I'd do something more drastic, I don't know, maybe bite someone? (Screaming "no!" didn't work) to stop internal exams.

To each her own and all that :)

Personally, for me, nothing in the world compares its the incredible endorphin hit of meeting your own amazing beautiful lovely baby. That utter indescribable breathtaking joy cannot be topped for me. Not by anything.

Pepper

Yes assault is what that felt like. At one point they had dh holding my arms. Thanks or the positive slant on the 29 hours, though! :)

HP your post at 21:28:54 is wonderful - it brought a tear to my eye. You've just summed it right up there. At the end of the day we're all bloody lucky to have children at all when there's so many couples who can't have kids and single people who run out of time, not to mention people who lose a child like that poor woman down the road from me. No matter how shitty the labour was, I will NEVER forget the first time I saw my babies and the way it made me feel. I still now feel guilt that I couldn't have skin to skin with or bf poppy for 2 hours after the birth and I could hear her cries - didn't appreciate at the time that they were cries of hunger. I will never forget those cries. But as the midwife said in my debrief, it was because essentially their priority was to save my life (her words). I dunno why I'm banging on about this anyway, it has nothing to do with the discussion

I'm off to bed anyway, will try to post a bit more regularly, I do think of you all a lot. Myjob, if I had a spare £20k I would gladly give it to you because you are a lovely lovely lady x

Can you tell I've had a Tia Maria?

I will never be convinced that anything can top that joy. Absolutely nothing could do it.
It wasn't a great labour and delivery but it hasn't in any way harmed my love for Q or his babyhood/childhood, which matters far more and lasts far longer.
Sometimes bad things happen in our lives. It takes healing, but They are a small blip in the bigger picture.

I meant to say as well that I DO think how lovely it would be to have a newborn/baby/early toddler again but it's just that - loving the squishy lovey idea of a baby. But I know enough people having babies recently and visiting them for a cuddle totally satisfies that feeling (and it's definitely not as strong as myjob and pp describe.
I am so sorry, myjob. I agree, if I had 20k I would give or to you. Or, even 1k! You deserve it and I wish I could help you manage to add your much wanted third child.

Yes my baby desires are shallow and I totally realise this. Which is why we both use a form of birth control
Myjob I know you wouldn't accept it. If I had it, I'd send it anonymously. It would be the only way! I know it's really none of my business at all and do not answer if you don't want to, but I assume you've started to build up savings for a house as it is a big goal for you - are you close/halfway?

Or maybe 10% mortgage will come back! That is the only way we got on the ladder.
20k no way!

Ummmm the male birth control piece is a condom...

You are young! You could stretch it to the max years, no? I bet it would be possible - there has to be a way! Otherwise would you and dh be ok to continue renting? I know a few people who don't plan to ever own and I haven't thought twice about it. Would it be possible to rent a slightly bigger place? Or what about the shared ownership schemes? Anything there? Sorry. Trying to help but you've probably exhausted all of these options already. Big hugs.

I was using depoprovera (sp!) injection but unsuccessful (I don't want to get into it on here) so I am now trying another.

Lottery. We must all play the lottery!

I felt like I won the lottery when my name was picked for the vouchers from the survey!

But we don't play, either just because dh thinks it is a waste of money.

Q is telling us what to do A LOT lately. It's irritating because we don't encourage it or ever give him reason to believe that this is acceptable... But he does. And he'll say things like "I SAID I want 5 more minutes to play". Then sees the looks on our faces and looks down and sheepishly says "may I please have 5 more minutes to play?"

Same with crying.
Ffs when has whinging/crying EVER gotten him his own way... Let's see... Oh yes, never!
So why does he keep trying it out?!
I have a friend at work with a dd about 6 months younger and she identifies so I know he's not a freak child but it's mind boggling.

Oh yes I get so many teeth hanging by thread in my class! Yuck. Kids love to wiggle though and others love to watch . It is actually one of the biggest distractions in this age group. And at least once per week during something important, never during snack, oh no. It's "Mrs Patience! My TOOTH came out!"
And even if it's their 7th tooth or someone else has had one fall out only minutes prior, it's like the first tooth anyone has ever seen come out of a mouth - everyone claps and cheers. Everyone wants a little peek and wants to know how much blood was in their mouth ...etc. fascinating stuff. I use teeth (the word not actual teeth!) a lot for math units in story problems