arrived in March, April, May, June and July......the Due in June ladies babies have finally all arived

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The endless cycle of feeding, winding, pooing and crying has finally arrived......and we all couldnt be happier :) The due in June babies have all been promoted to the post natal thread at last

Morning all. Also agree about the myth of not having to burp BF babies-if we don't Ewan gets awful trapped wind and cries and cries.

MOSP - about bedroom action-I'm nearly 5 weeks on and really quite scared. Ewan is first DC, I had a vaginal delivery with a labial tear that they gave me the option of stitching-obviously given the option I said no! Seems that tear healing but not together, and everything feels v sore still. Is it normal to still be so sore? I asked the doctor to check me 2 weeks ago and said looked sore but no infection. Think I just need to hear that things do eventually get better!

Hope everyone has a good day-think I'll be spending most of mine writing thank you cards

Hi Shaz, DS does the frequent feeding thing as well-yesterday evening seemed to be every hour. Had a bit of an issue last week as health visitor thought he had thrush-started using nystatin for him and canesten on me-had a bad reaction to canesten as was in excruciating pain for 5 hours so I expressed that day using a manual pump that actually worked really well-got 60ml! (went to Dr and turns out not thrush so fortunately stopped meds and felt a little miffed!) The only problem I had after expressing is he wasn't too keen on taking the bottle.

Sarah - I had torn labia too, I did have stitches (didn't give me a choice). Not sure the stitches did much as were really loose when swelling went down (TMI). I think I am healed near enough now as no longer stings when I walk or wee, don't feel healed enough to try any bedroom action though lol.

My main fear about expressing is that Kane will prefer the bottle and not want to feed from the breast anymore. This is also my first DC.

Hello Everyone,

Tried to post a couple of times now but keep losing it so this is my last attempt before giving up!

Córmac is 5 weeks and 4 days old already, it seems to have gone so fast. We have had his appointment letter come for his 8 week check and his injections at the end of August and I am dreading it, I know its daft but he is my little man

I have been surprised at just how much I love him. He is so tiny and innocent, I truly adore him and don't know how I managed without him. Plus he is totally gorgeous Its a strange feeling for me as it took months for me to bond with my other DC but this time it was instant and overwhelming and it scares me a little how much I need to be around him. I left him for the first time with DP and his parents last night whilst I took DS1 to see Harry Potter (which was brilliant!) and I missed my baby the whole time, I couldn't wait to get back to him and embarrassed myself by sniffiling and trying not to get teary when I picked him up.

DP is slightly less useless. Will resist saying anything more about him as I am in a very good mood and don't want to ruin it for myself

I am still breastfeeding and Córmac definately does get quite bad wind. He is sick on me if I forget to burp him. I had to feed him in the school playground the other day, he doesn't seem to mind where he is fed. He is sleeping slighly better now, sometimes up to an hour and we are making progress with getting him to lie in his crib. I have a grow bag thing, might give it a try tonight.

The buses around here are driving me crazy, they only let 1/2 pushchairs on even though there is room for 4, so I have to get to the bus stop an hour early and cross my fingers that I will be able to get on a bus and to the school on time, a couple of times I have still been standing there at 3.15pm with 4 buses refused to let me on and had to phone the school to explain I will be late. They don't even give you a chance to fold the pushchair either, plus they are always running late But, my sister has taken pity on me and ordered me a babasling so fingers crossed it will be comfortable and I can use it on the school run instead of the pram.

Some days I feel so broody - no idea why! I am jealous of pregnant ladies and miss the excitment of knowing I am due soon etc. I know I wouldn't be able to cope with another baby, it would definately be a bad idea to have another one with DP, He is going to get a vasectomy. I really do want to be pregnant again though. I am going to blame my hormones (and get a coil fitted pronto!) We have managed to find the time to have sex a few times, but mostly if I get a quiet 10 minutes I want to sleep/have a hot cup of tea/go to the toilet etc. He was worried he wouldn't want me anymore after seeing me give birth and that it wouldn't feel the same, but it all seems fine and didn't hurt which is what I was worried about.

I am thinking about trying to regain my pre pregnancy weight. Haven't actually got to the stage in the thought process where I stop eating chocolate yet though.

Anyone elses baby cry when they do a poo? Córmac has just woken himself up bright red and seems like he is straining?

Can I join - DD born on 10 June, after a lovely induced birth (she was due 25 May!). Thought I had BF and sleep/naps going ok but then she hit the 6 week growth spurt! We're getting there though!

Been wonderful, overall!

Can someone please tell my DH he shouldn't be feeling like he's on egg shells around me. Avoiding me is going to upset me, giving me a hug and telling me he loves me is going to make me happy. And that DS is annoying me, yes. I've been awake half the night and he is a boisterous 3.4 yr old who wants attention.

Prizoner i expect you feel like this about cormac as deep down you know hes likely to be your last baby. Dont worry about it and enjoy your bond with him. Sounds a nightmare with the buses....:(
We have managed a little bedtime action but i agree sleep comes first. Im also worried about getting pg again so soon. My periods have already come back despite BF and we arent using any contraception. DH is useless with condoms.....and as we do want to try again fairly soon im just not ready yet dont really want to use anything else.
MR COAF stop treading on eggshells and act normal.....tell MrsCOAF that you love her.....and oi LittleCOAF you must sleep at night and let your mom rest

Quick post from me as I bet DD will be waking up!

No bedroom action here! Far too tired

Prisoner - feeding seems normal. Wasn't HP brill? I saw it last Monday, took DD with me and she slept first in the sling then fed then just slept on me. Just had to leave a couple of mins before the end as she started to cry and wouldn't be soothed. It was good? I must admit I shed some tears, wasn't Alan Rickman brilliant, I was crying at the end where Harry is going through Snape's memories.

Expressing - I have started, DD took a bottle on wednesday evening, at first she was a bit confused but then she seemed to get the hang of it, and guzzled over 2oz (had expressed 3). Will try and give on a semi regular basis as there will be times when it would be handy for DH to feed her. DD will be 6 weeks on Monday so bfing well established - though she is currently undergoing another growth spurt. Expect them at 12, 16 and 20 weeks! The 20 week one is biggy!

Phew - thanks for the link Nurse
I have been thoroughly rubbish lately - mainly because I have the kids all the time since our summer holidays started 3 weeks ago. Only another 4 weeks to go until school and nursery start again.
I will really really try to get on more often and keep up with things though so humble apologies from me

I cannot believe some people have resumed bedroom action

I have no excuse of other kids keeping me busy... Just the one

prisoner Arthur does that too when he is pooing. I have read about others doing it too so I'm not too worried.

I haven't resumed bedroom action either. It scares the hell out of me A's I had a 2nd degree tear which was all inside. Haven't dared even to look down there! Am going to have to get over the fear soon though.

Am determined to try and write my birth story this weekend!

People are having sex? I am still spritzing with that water bottle down there and soaking in the bath-thing as too scared to actually wipe my stitches... will be a while before anything else happens. There is a tiny area where it doesn't seem to have come together but the doctor says that is because it heals from the inside out and not to worry. Maybe TMI but am terrified of having a 'flap' where it hasn't healed. It doesn't hurt at all though so suppose I have just got to trust in the doctor. It has not yet been four weeks so hoping it is just taking its time to heal!
Does anyone know if you tear in the same place with future children? It will be a while before I attempt that, but am keen to know.

Also Prisoner, how long did it take you to really feel like you were properly attached to your older children? I was expecting to feel the overwhelming love you describe with Cormac with my little one, but it didn't hit me like that. I feel devoted to him and really delighted by each little achievement he makes, but not as in love as I expected. I told my partner and he couldn't believe it, he is obsessed with him. But I do feel the love growing day by day, it just wasn't as immediate as I thought. For instance in my birth plan I had that I wanted his first bath to be in the room with me (instead of in the nursery as is normal hospital practise). They bathed him in the room by my bed but I decided to have a sleep instead of helping as was knackered from the birth!! Luckily my partner helped and videoed the whole thing - you can hear my snores.

Just popping in between another attack by the baracuda on my poor nipples and supervising the dynarod man who is currently making very bad smells in our kitchen! DH thinks I have bunged the drains up with baby wipes but seeing as I havent used any I am expecting big time grovelling any moment now.

MOSP - will be in contact - defo up for a coffee meet up but need to book a hair appointment as a matter of extreme urgency as I cant actually see past my fringe so will let you know what days are free next week. Oh and by the way, yesterday I was quite ill with a temp and flu symptoms as well as suddenly getting enormous boobs again. MW thought it was milk fever like you had. Better today but scared the hell out of me. Fortunately Will was in a subdued mood yesterday anyway.

I know its only a trivial matter but what do others do about hair appointments with LO in tow? With a colour and cut my apt could be 3 hours...are these now luxuries of the past?

Bedroom activity? Pah! DH wants to try for DC#2 asap!!! Im too bloody scared to look at the mess down there, let alone try and use it again!

Sleeping bag trial tonight. Not sure DS is going to like it but will give it a go.

3 bits of bad news in 3 texts just minutes apart....cousin has miscarried for the second time, friends 2nd IVF attempt has failed, friends daughter expecting twin boys just discovered both are likely to have downs. Looking at DS asleep and now feeling teary at how lucky we are. Life really sucks, wish I could give them all a big hug and make it right.

Sleeping bags rule.

Bedroom action - in my dreams. DH is not too keen at the moment but I am.

Am pretty sure our family is now complete. One pink and one blue - both gorgeous and healthy. both early and stressful starts.

Lababy I would feel like my I lost a part of myself if anything happened to Emma but I also don't feel that intense love. I had traumatic birth and have been weak and ill since and dd is a very 'spirited' baby. My dh is the same because he feels that after seeing me go through that pain he sees her as partly the cause. My mum who was also birth partner admitted she felt the same. none of would admit this in real life and we are convinced our love will continue to grow but it is a guilty feeling!

Bad news in the Confessions house. I have to stop eating chocolate for a few days . Stupid lacotose intolerance! Oh well, will probably do me good

Oh Jas that's tough, getting all that bad news. Make sure you give Will an extra big cuddle.

DD is asleep in her bed and I should go and get into my own, but I just don't want to yet.

Can I join please? I was VictoriaLouise90 on the ante-natal thread but couldn't keep up with you all. DS (DC1) was born on 8th June by EMCS after a failed induction resulting in fetal distress. BF is well established & he is doing really well, he weighed 5lb 8oz at birth & when weighed last Wednesday (5w+0d) weighed 8lb 8.5oz so gaining really well!

motherofsnortpigs, can you talk to me about sacral dimples please? I saw your post & googled, DS has a dimple above his bum that DP & I have been wondering about. We weren't worried because it was completely missed at his post-natal check in hospital so we assumed it was nothing, we haven't got the next check until 8 weeks (3rd August) & now we're worrying. :(

Evie is now 8 weeks and has, umm, found her voice. She is quick to scream now & gets wound up to the point where I have to calm her before she'll feed, even though she's hungry. She barely naps & is a bit of a velcro baby, & no real routine is emerging yet apart from that I do manage to get her to go to bed with me, although it often takes her 30-60 mins to settle. She was waking every 2 hours for feeds but this improved to every 3 hours, & last 2 days she managed one 4 & one 5 hour stretches (still means waking in the wee hours mind!)

I've taken her out for coffees & lunches to see friends loads & she is actually better when we're out - the pram puts her to sleep & she stays mostly calm & dozy. At home, perhaps we're just in each other's pockets a bit too much.

All of this means I am utterly exhausted. DP does help but is v busy with work & as he can't bf it does all fall to me most of the time. I am pretty much healed now but have zero interest in the bedroom department. He's enquired a few times but it was still too early - at my 6 em check the gp said I was still not healed & put me on ABs & steroids cream. They helped me heal up a lot, but I must admit I am really worried it will hurt or tear one healed stitch which is near the perineum.

Nice to read everyone's experiences, it's so interesting when all our babies are around the same age. Take care all.

Ps jasmine, I need a haircut desperately too. Am considering trying a mobile hairdresser a friend recommended, and DP can mind her while she's here. I don't really feel like facing my usual salon, feel a bit flabby & frumpy plus she's £25 cheaper! :)

Hi ladies - sorry I'm a late joiner - ok to chip in? DD2 arrived on 27/6 nice a fast but have paid the price with a 3rd degree tear!

I really struggled with my DD1 3 years ago feeling very anxious and panicky for a few weeks and generally an emotional wreck, was just about to go to Dr as I (and midwife/HV!) was worried I had PND and then it just sort of lifted at about 3/4 weeks.
This time, I have been feeling a bit more relaxed but not much! Still at nearly 4 weeks, it feels a bit like we're emerging from the fog.

I didn't manage to bf my dd1 and this time we got off to a very bad start and again it didn't work out so we switched fully to bottles about a week ago. Was determined not to beat myself up about it this time if bf didn't happen but have still really struggled with the feelings of guilt and being a failure - thought I'd mention it in case anyone else has been in the same position as it can be very difficult especially if everyone else around you is successfully bfeeding and it was important to you.

DD2 is being pretty good but LOVES to be held all the time and ends up on me for at least some of the night. Wondering if she will naturally grow out of this? But just trying to go with the flow. Baby Bjorn sling is being a godsend!

Anyone also struggling with an older child? DD1 at 3.3 is being really challenging - fine towards the baby but her general behaviour has been driving me to tears. She has also taken to waking in the night and at bedtime we have to stay with her until she falls asleep. Am desperately trying not to be too hard on her and to remember it's hopefully just a phase and a natural reaction to such a big change but it's tough!

Anyway hope everyone had an ok night last night and that the weekend brings some extra help and chance for more rest!

Perrinelli, the baby bjorn is a lifesaver for me too - it's the only way to get Evie to settle sometimes. She prefers it to my stretchy sling.

Hello again, hope there's room for me to come back?! have been away too long so apologies for the birth announcements I missed I am aiming to catch up on antenatal but i realised that if I keep waiting until I have time to catch up before I come back it may never happen until everyones baby is starting school.

Am posting off phone so can't add self to the list but Teagan was born 10/06 EDD 25/5 so welcome Aloha, we were EDD & birthday buddies

Also welcome to LA, Shaz, Perinella (I couldn't BF this time either so can really identify with your post)

Glad to hear Lisa is ok & that Percy is faring well with positive scan results, have been thinking about how he was getting on

Curious is your iron level ok? Maybe that's contributing to how you feel?

Jasmine I second mobile hairdresser at first. that is a lot of sad news you have received

Moomin I am in same contraception boat as you. Am trying to decide whether to just let nature take it's course as I don't want to wait long before our last baby but the longer I am not pg for the more I dread going through it all. It's the sickness that worries me.

Bedroom action has resumed at limited service

Anyone dairy free, I used to follow a vegan diet & highly recommend alpro soya caramel desserts, Swedish glacé choc ice cream (in fact all flavours) & the dark choc in the black wrapper with coloured circles sorry can't remember the name but it's sold in most supermarkets in the whole food section.

Off to see if I can get 20 minutes to do day 3 of the shred.

Sasa which thread did you give all the sling info for beginners on? I want one but not another one like I had with ds1 it didn't feel secure. That was a hand me down Tomy one.