Feb 2011 - it's all about the shred

[reastie]

welcome everyone

Thanks for asking wiggles. Have just been feeling really down that S hasn't met any family yet and he's 17 weeks old already. I only have a few friends out here who all seem to have newborns or work full time apart from one who is desperately trying to conceive and understandably doesn't want to spend any time with me. Just feeling a bit lonely I suppose. Still, we decided to have another baby so far away from home so I can't complain about it. S is a delight though. We went on holiday last week (which was really nice) and drove over 2000 miles and he was great! The other 2 make me feel like the world's worst mum as they are going through a phase of totally ignoring me. It had better be a phase, anyway!

Sorry, that was so f-ing miserable. I'm always 8 hours behind the conversation with you girls too so don't want to post at the end of the day. I hope you all have lovely full night's sleep with your little ones. J x

tad i can totally understand you feeling down with your other dcs as my ds is making me really work by being a little monster 99% of the time. Refusing to listen, wanting to be spoon fed like a baby and constantly whining and speaking in a baby voice. I think it may be an adjustment to the new family dynamic i really do hope it will pass soon. Fingers x for you jenny.

Am in awe of you all doing so well with the exercise as i've not even attempted any as i can't seem to find any time as there is always something that needs doing.

Thanks hubbard x

Hello girls

Just a quick one to say hi, m has made a full recovery from arm incident. Ta for the messages - he did it while holding onto daddy's fingers and trying to pull himself up. Apparently the joint went 'pop!' I thought I was going to vomit when dh told me that (as I was upstairs at the time) but it went back in by itself thank god.

Sorry you are feeling rubbish tadjen being a mum can be very lonely and unappreciated esp when you are far from home. Big hugs coming your way.

Are you all packed ledkr and wiggles - although I suppose for Ibiza all you need is a thong and some Sun-In ;-)

Shred going ok keep telling myself it's only 20mins. Am scared if I miss a day I will pack it in totally. I am an all or nothing girl!

What work do you do wiggles?

tadjenny sorry had to run last night earlier, not sure what makes more sense with the time zone Agree with Hubbard on the lovely "little monster" stage, is there anything more annoying than the baby whine of an older child? Glad you enjoyed your holiday, it is horrible when family aren't near enough for any kind of visit, I remember your dh was really disappointed that his family cancelled a visit - hope you can get something sorted out soon x

40Weeks A thong, a thong, oh I am giving my pelvic floor a work out with all my guffawing, never mind the Sun-In but had to do an emergency grey at roots dye job yesterday Anna is wild for trying to pull herself up at the minute, she is constantly pulling herself up in her carseat and while having her bottle. Glad M is ok. I'm a general dogsbody, table setter, kitchen helper for an entertainment venue, very unexciting but totally doable within school hours, Saturdays and a night a week without having to pay for childcare

Yes I realise how early we are up Enough said

40weeks sorry, i must have missed the post about Mickey's arm, hope he is ok! How are you?

Hi tad sorry you are feeling down, hope you feel better soon. The balloon release went well, but very emotional; thank you for asking. I hope the phase is over soon, i know my minded kids are all like that at the minute! How old are your other 2? my mindees are all 6/7 and such a cheeky lot

hubbard im glad F will be getting rid of her harness but it must feel so strange for her when she is so used to it.

ledkr I am shocked at your mums MW, how bloody insensitve! Zoe was taken away when she was born to be cleaned, weighed and to be checked over. MW didn't bring her to us for over 1 1/2 hours after she was born, that was the longest 1 1/2 hours of my life!

Hope everyone has a good day, oh and wiggles get shredding

Ahhh total self indulgent post here....after week 1 of shredding daily, following slimming world, bfing I have lost a total of 0lbs. That's right folks. Nothing!!!! Am headed for the biscuit tin as we speak.

Hubbard was last night the first night or tonight!? Hope it went/goes well

Sorry wiggles I remember you saying that now. I need to find something appropriate that keeps child care costs down as it's hardly worth mentoing back if I have to pay for a nursery

tadjenny good to hear from you - think I must be psychic as whenever I wonder about someone who hasn't posted in a while they then come back and post . Btw don't ask re: kitchen! It is now finished but we have the wrong sink and tap

40 glad mikey is OK now

wiggles and led not long now until Ibiza/Disney - hope you both have a fab time and can't wait to see the piccies of wiggles hitting the clubs and ledkr with mickey

jane so :( for you getting the weaning sample. I always worried about that happening to me when I was pg as I was convinced something would go wrong and I'd keep getting reminders like that. It's little things like that which must be so hard to deal with.

Have arranged to speak to SIL this afternoon re: MILs antics. I really really hope she feels the same way and I don't put my foot in it by bringing it up with her (but think I can trust her to be discreet whatever). Spoke to DH last night re: situation of them popping over EVERY week end. He said he didn't realise it was every week end but didn't see anything wrong with them popping in if they were in the area anyway and we were at home (is this just men being straightforward?) but I think he understands how I feel as he said he'd be annoyed if my parents did that, so hopefully we have some movement and he will be aware that I don't want to see them all the time . Will be interesting to hear SILs take on it all though.

Alice being very difficult at the minute - still sleeping through at night so I can't complain but unable to self settle at all in the day and a complete misery guts . Hoping it's just a phase and wondering if her mind is so busy she finds it hard to switch off, or that her body is tired from all that kicking etc but brain still fully awake. I had to leave her to cry herself to sleep yesterday afternoon for the first time as I was at my wits end. She also crys and crys in her cot but as soon as I go over to her and she sees me she stops

oh, and wiggles we all know you work at a strip club

Thats far too long jane maybe you should try and get that changed,When i had cancer i was told at 9 at night over the phone!!I campaigned and got it changed ffs.

Gosh 40 ive heard that can happen but thought it might be an old husbands tale.Was he in much pain?

wiggles yep D's current wake up time is 5am grrr. Ended up having a hissy early morning row with dh just because im fed up with it,felt a bit guilty untill i came down and found he had made his sarnies without using a plate so it was crumb city all over the worktops

tadIm sorry you feel p'd off.How old are the others? Even Ella who is 9 has been gobby and keeps answering us back and i am just struggling with the whole concept of lack of lie ins snd time to myself,oh yeah and my fat body which is being stubborn.
Having said that shredders and wiggles. I can actually see abig difference today,my tummy is loads better and size 16s are lose. D3 L2 today.

reastie that's not strictly true, I'm a welder by day, exotic dancer by night a la Flashdance Anna would cry and grizzle and the minute you stand up, face her forward and walk the length of the living room she stops! Good luck with sil.

40Weeks I am definitely a better shape than I was before I had Anna but if I weigh myself I'm the same weight (apart from the inital stone that I lost straight after having her). I've lost inches - and muscle is heavier than fat - please don't tell me thats a fallacy I've been clinging to

Jane yes sir, doing slight sarky salute as I type

40 i am thinking of getting a different job too,cant imagine doing my stressfull one with D but i have to go back for 3 months anyway so ill see.Sometimes you dont lose weight the first week but lots the 2nd.

reastie how interesting to speak to sil.Dont be too bitchy just say you wanted to get if off your chest and get her perspective and advice.
I would love to speak to the other in laws but i wouldnt dare. D is also being a pain in the day,cant seem to settle to play at all,lie her on her mat and she rolls over and then gets cross cos she's stuck [daft bat emoticon]

reastie hope your sil is on the same page as you, thats what i said to Df about his dad, i turned it round to ask him how he would feel if it was my dad saying/doing things to him. It worked a treat!

Sounds like Alice knows what she wants

I think we should just humour wiggles, make her believe we think she works in an "entertainment venue"

ledkr That is so bad about the 9pm phone call, i would take DH's crumbs and put then in his side of the bed!

Ledkr x posts re seeing a difference I have something that will make you chortle - re my misguided excitement re Sophie la giraffe!! I ordered Sophie the rip off (Anna still very unimpressed) because I couldn't find a handy stockist - we have yet to be blessed with the god that that is John Lewis. Anyway I was in our local Toys R Us yesterday, a shop I usually avoid like the plague and what did they have a feckin' bucketful of said "hard to get" Sophies Although my friends 14 month old is obsessed with it and almost swiped it last time she was over!!

Morning all,

wiggles You just reminded me I tidied Sophie away last week into R's new toy/washing basket. Must get it out and take with me for my NCT meet up later...bet they all have them!

Jane and ledkr I'm constantly amazed by the insensitivity of the medical profession. It always seems blameable on time and money though which is sad.

shredders Think I'm going to skip today as have buggy fit. Might try and do it this afternoon though...honest...

40 Just keep thinking about how much you'll lose next week. I lost 8lb in the first couple of weeks of WW but have stayed the same for a couple of weeks now. It's really disheartening.

Good luck with the SIL later...

40 tomorrow night is the 1st night without the harness and i really am dreading it.
wiggles dh's dad has not met freya yet or even sent him a message/phoned him to see how his grandkids are. It's really upset him. My sisters have both not met freya either, but 1 is in prison and the other has a lot of issues. So we only really have my mum and our friends. .
reastie freya too refuses to self settle during the day unless i'm walkin somewhere and it does get slightly irritating. My ds's new game is to wake freya then say "freya awake, freya play with tom tom" . Good luck with sil

hubbard did you say prison my best mate served 2 yrs for burglary im always fascinated.
chocco take the girraffe?i dont think you will even be allowed in without one?
is anyone elses baby spitting,d purses her lips a squelches out spit and i mean constantly?dont know if its reflux or cleft but its weird.

why do i keep using question marks?

reastie C is being weird at settling in the day too. I think you're right, sometimes brain is doing so much it can't switch off, and can get herself into a right tizzy sometimes. I did well with her 9am nap this morning by taking her up at the first yawn, and she was actually dozing as I was going through the door to her room, so I think I was right the other day that I need to keep a keener eye out for her signals and avoid going by the clock.

Night times are still good tho, she is self-settling really well and sleeping till at least 7 now (with dream feed), so I am very thankful for that.

tadjen sorry you've been feeling down. I have been finding it really hard and I do have support all around me so I can only imagine how isolating it must feel sometimes for you. Glad you got a holiday though, that sounds like just what you needed.

Everyone LOL at all the early weaners coming out of the closet! It makes me feel less like a bad Mummy if I do start before the 6 months, which I probably will as will have to manage going back to work as well.

Also Everyone but esp those with MIL problems, DH has now decided that he thinks MIL should join us for a couple of days on our holiday in July. We're driving out for 2 weeks and he said MIL could fly over for a couple of days. I couldn't really disguise my lack of enthusiasm for the idea. His rationale was that my parents have been to our apartment loads of times and his haven't been at all. To which I pointed out they have been given the opportunity many times. He thinks it's only 'fair' that they are invited. I'm pretty horrified. I had just got my head around the idea of going away, and the logistics and was finally looking forward to it, esp chilling out with DH and C, spending time together as a family, and now I'm completely not looking forward to it. He hasn't asked her yet, and I'm just hoping she says no as she would have to fly out and get a train in Austria on her own, which I'm not sure she would do.

God I sound horrible, I just really don't want to go on holiday with MIL, not with our first holiday with a baby, it will just stress me out.

Yikes, now going to give myself a stern telling off for being so mean.

Dx

Ledkr lots of spitting here too. It doesn't seem to coincide with reflux noises.

Dx

Ok Ok I will leave the biscuit tin closed, thanks for words of encouragement, I won't cave in!

Will have everything crossed for you Hubbard the only good thing about dreading something is that it's rarely as bad as you expect. I hope that's the case.

Omg ledkr yes Mikey dribbles and spits ALL the time. He is constantly soaked, needs a bib.

Good luck reastie with the sil.

d dont feel bad,as i said the other day we dont have any choice re in laws they are rather thrust on us,i felt mildly guilty for the awkwardness and bad spirit with pil this weekend but a friend pointed out that they had a choice about their past behaviour especially when d came home and dint consider anyone but themselves then.

Right Anna just had her last set of jabs, was not happy by the time she got the third injection but has forgiven me recovered quite quickly. She's a spitter, dribbler too, an old woman at the drs advised me to give her a crust of bread

Its old lady day at our Drs on the same day as the baby clinic, actually works very well, older people have a baby to fuss over and babies get distracted by someone new to flirt with.

Off to get ready for my lunch - think bf is quite disappointed I'm not bringing A

deliaskis no, no thrice no if possible with the holiday with inlaws. I went away with my parents on Sofias first holiday, it was really tough, lots of differing ideas, I found it really stressful and I don't mind telling my mum to piss away off

ledkr don't you dare feel guilty re your in-laws, their behaviour when D was first born and then back in hospital was awful.

wiggles - I think Tuesday must be old lady/baby day at our surgery too. There's always a couple old ladies to fuss over him.

40 - wonderful that M is ok. L bumped his head last week - it's the worst feeling in the world, isn't it? I started panicking and sobbing, I think it was instinct more than anything.

L has been a bit of a nightmare the last week, clearly tired but won't settle for a nap during the day. I've taken to letting him cry in his swing while I sit in front of him with a glass of wine (I don't like to leave him to cry on his own). He usually gets himself to sleep in the end. DH is away for work, left yesterday morning and returning tomorrow evening. He may get a baby thrust at him on my way out the door...

delia I hope your mil doesn't go on holiday with you, talk about being a spare wheel! Before Zoe was born fil wanted Df,me, baby, sil,nephew and himself to go to portugal for the october week - my idea of hell so we declined the offer .

wiggles enjoy lunch.

Well i have chucked the paperwork to the side for the rest of the day, im having a wee relax before i collect the monkeys from school.

well, I dreamfed harry at 8.30pm last night (an 8oz bottle) and he slept thru til 5am, fed, and then back down until 8 am! I feel like a new woman! Wont get too excited tho as no two nights are the same here

reastie poor you with a twisty baby, its awful when they get like that!

delia haha I love that there are other secrte weaners on here too! I gave H some banana this morning and he loved it (just the tip of a spoon- nothing too adventurous!) So dont feel bad if you want to get LO onto solids before 6 months. the way I see it is that I am not early weaning as ssuch (i.e. not giving proper meals or decreasing milk in any way) I am just letting H have a go!

Well, I am sitting here while H naps, I need to sort out my hair, do make up, clean the house, do washing and go to the shops. There is so much to do that I dont know where to start and might just spend all day on here!

Also, does anyone have any experience of breastpumps? Double ones in particular? Due a serious of boring events I am now almost exclusively expressing and feeding my milk via bottles, so I would like to get a better pump as my manual one cant keep up!