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October 2010: Giggles and Wriggles

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SeaShellsDreamingOfSummer · 09/02/2011 14:37

Here we go again!!

Welcome everyone :)

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Elsa123 · 16/02/2011 23:58

Sorry, I know I've just posted but I need to have a quick vent. I hope you'll indulge me. I'm hacked off with DH. I told him about limpet baby this evening and how I've done nothing except cuddle her, feed her and change her this week. I have managed to walk the dogs yes and I did make 2 comfort cakes last night when she eventually settled but thats been it. When I mentioned that the house was a tip and I'd got nothing done, all I wanted to hear was don't worry about it or words to that effect. I didn't get that. His solution to the limpet thing was had I thought about 'shoving a bottle down her if she's that hungry'. Firstly I never said she has been perpetually hungry, just that she needed me solidly for 2 days and secondly bfing her isn't all about feeding but also comfort and as she's so cheesed off with her harness a few comfort sucks isn't too much to ask as the harness restricts her arms too so she can't get her thumb in her mouth and she retches if I try to give her a dummy so a close cuddly bf is the best thing for her. Yes it means I get naff all done but there you go. I obviously don't expect him to jump on a train and come and see me for the night (besides I'd have to disturb DD by getting her in the car to pick him up from the sodding train station), but an attempt at empathy would be great.

I also have a gynae appt tomorrow to see about my damaged bits after having DD and will be atking her along for the appt praying she'll be quiet or asleep as it has not occured ot him to come home to help. Nor is he coming with me for DD's hip appt next week despite it definitely being a 2 man job and my mum isn't able to help this time. Grrr.

Thank you. rant over. He's actually very lovely and because I'm with DD he single handedly builds our house at weekends. I just need some overt understanding and sympathy right now....thank you for reading x

Elsa123 · 16/02/2011 23:58

Has large sip of Wine...

SeaShellsDreamingOfSummer · 17/02/2011 01:01

Oh Elsa, hope you enjoyed your wine :) I should think you need it!
Rant away, it sounds like you have every reason to. Sounds like yor dh needs a wake up call re how difficult it is for you...I no it's not much but can he take LO out for an hour or so at the weekend? You sound like it should be YOU having the civilised swim at the gym to
Chill, not dh :)

Ilgh-I hadn't heard things had got so serious either. I hope your final move jobs get sorted soon-what is it with Germany and passports?crazy!

I flipped pm as dd refused a bottle again-really scared I have left it too long (I know I have :( ) any advice gratefully received!

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ILoveGregoryHouse · 17/02/2011 01:11

Elsaat the risk of being sexist - typical man. Trying to give you practical "advice" to fix the "problem" and not even starting to think about tomorrow as you haven't asked for help specifically.

Poor baby needing all this extra comfort. You're doing a great job. Have another Wine. I hope the gynae goes well.

Am actually looking forward to coming back. Lots of good things despite the tough times. Like wine costing less than 20 quid a bottle. Not that I'm an alky or anything but with petrol so expensive in the uk, think I'll stay home and drink! Grin.

Gen is honey pie or mummy's baby girl. We also sing "Genii, it's Genni" to the Timmy Time theme. Ah! I love her so much.

ILoveGregoryHouse · 17/02/2011 01:12

Genii?! Bloody ipad!

SeaShellsDreamingOfSummer · 17/02/2011 07:10

Morning Elsa, hope you slept ok. Good luck with your appointment :)

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nymphadora · 17/02/2011 07:58

Dd3 is pudding atm

ILGH dh had a breaking news thing on his phone last night about Barhain. Hope riots aren't near you.

Elsa- think it's that bloke thing about being specific about what you want. Hope today goes ok & it's hard being on your owns make sure dh understands.

TimeForABrew · 17/02/2011 08:19

Elsa, really hope your next apt goes well & you had a good sleep? Not in the same league but DH was feeding DD one day when she was 10 weeks old and said completely seriously, " when you're feeding her, you can't do anything else" - really, I'd no idea! Can imagine the response if you'd posted that on AIBU Grin

Hermya321 · 17/02/2011 08:22

Oh Elsa men can be totally clueless at times can't they, I hope you slept well.

ILGH I saw the news this morning, I hope you're ok.

DS is most commonly as baby (I know so original) or the boy.

SeaShellsDreamingOfSummer · 17/02/2011 08:39

JUst caught the news too-hope you are ok Ilgh :)

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ILoveGregoryHouse · 17/02/2011 11:11

We're okay so far. DH due back tonight but has left DS2 with my mum and dad in the UK. I faxed the school apps this morning. Called the British Embassy about travel docs for dd. They are shut. Ffs. Just what I need after watching the tanks from the army base round the corner roll into Manama. Have complained to my UK MP. Totally out of order.

nymphadora · 17/02/2011 11:48

Must be scary , are you getting ready to go or sitting tight for now? Are the PIL there?

Elsa123 · 17/02/2011 12:31

Thank you all for your support. Getting rather nervous about my appt this afternoon. On a positive note, DD did some weight bearing on her hands during tummy time today. Abig deal for her.

ILGH despicable about the embassy being closed. Perhaps you could call the FCO? Hang in there. Thinking of you.

SeaShellsDreamingOfSummer · 17/02/2011 13:32

The embassy is shut?!! FFS what do they do if they shut at a time like this? Not surprised you complained.

Elsa ((((hug))))

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NoHunIntended · 17/02/2011 13:43

Aw, Elsa. Hope you are feeling ok today, and that your DH ups his game.

Good luck with the return, ILGH - have you got accommodation sorted for here?

nymphadora · 17/02/2011 14:35

Well done Elsas dd. Elsa hope everything is ok this pm.

ILGH have you gOt any advice yet? Making bigger news here now. If you can't get through in Barhain try uk offices? Wish we could help

tiredfeet · 17/02/2011 14:54

ilgh am so angry for you that the embassy is shut, it must be such a worrying time. Hope you get an answer soon

elsa hope your apptmt goes ok.sorry about year dh I think sometimes they need a bit of prompting. Similar issues here...
I was ill yesterday so dh took the day off work to look after ds. He would bring him to me for feeds (sometimes had to put ds down mid feed to go top bathroom). He really did enable me to rest a lot all day but then really annoyed me in the evening by saying he was so tired he didn't think he would 'hear' ds in the night so I would have to get up Angry ffs, he just doesn't get it that that would be a normal day for me and I would be doing all the feeds too!

Ds gave me fright today. I needed a shower so popped him in his cot with mobile on. When I got out he was lying absolutely still in cot with his eyes open. My heart was in my mouth! But it seems he was just practising his hunting skills or something Grin as he wiggled as soon as I spoke to him

Hermya321 · 17/02/2011 16:01

Tf Gosh I don't know how many times I've touched DS to make sure he was still alive when he's been stock still for a while, they do know how to keep you on your toes.

SeaShellsDreamingOfSummer · 17/02/2011 16:25

Billy Connolly does a very funny sketch about babies playing dead, I can't find it all on YouTube but one punch line is:

"Don't buy one of those baby intercoms. Babies pretend to be dead. They're bastards, and they do it on purpose."

(I luuurve him Grin )

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nymphadora · 17/02/2011 16:26

Dd3 now has her high chair & is v proud of it. Dh isn't allowed near it Confused

tiredfeet · 17/02/2011 16:49

Want to see the billy connolly sketch now! Dh laughs at me because when ds is asleep in the evenings I am often making up excuses to go and check on him!

We need to go high chair shopping once I am recovered. We put ds in one for sunday lunch when we were away at the weekend and he 'chatted' away for the entire meal, think he loved the independence compared to being sat on a knee.

After ds being ill followed by me being ill I think my milk supply is really low Sad breasts feel really empty and ds constantly hungry but frustrated when feeding. Any tips to boost it?

nymphadora · 17/02/2011 17:47

Just lots of feeding & sucking, maybe pump to freeze to boost a bit too?

Hermya321 · 17/02/2011 18:10

You can do switch nursing and maybe get some Mothers milk tea.

SeaShellsDreamingOfSummer · 17/02/2011 18:45

Drinks lots of water, eat well (cake!) rest, and try feeding a few extra times a day-it shouldn't take long ;)

BC has me in stitches on a lot of topics (his older stuff anyway) as does mr E Izzard

Re high chairs -ikea antilop for £12 (as massive 15 or something if you get the table too) is brilliant. I had a friend who ebayed her £ 180 space cadet designer one, as she realised the ikea one was all she needed Grin

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Elsa123 · 17/02/2011 18:49

I think I might try that switch nursing. DD is favouring my left breast, possibly more comfortable positioning because I am right handed. I will try and express from that breast a bit more too to boost it.

LOL at your DS practising hunting Tf. Men eh?!

ROFL at Billy Connolly Seashells!

Well I went for the gynae appt and of course the doc was gorgeous. Anyhoo, he reckons Ive suffered significant pelvic trauma from the marathon second stage culminating in forceps but said that he thinks I'm recovering well and I should give it another 8 months and g back then if things still aren't right. In a way it was nice, in another depressing. He said to keep bfing as that will help 'pull' everything back into place. No advice for the frequency issues apart from avoid caffeine which I am doing anyway because of bfing. Ho hum. So I'll jjust have my personal life fester and see how I go....Sad.