April 2009 Episode 14 "Operation Kill is standing down."

[AuldAlliance]

Voici FWs!

Happy Birthday George, Clement, Isla, Isabella and Alexandre. Cor the 11th was a bumper day wasn't it!!

Belated returns to James and Nicholas x

Booked private scan. feel relieved and nervous at the same time.
Please just let everything be alright with this pregnancy. I need some major reassurances after all this stress.

Moo fallen asleep and while I should be taking the time to clean without her interrupting I have laid down too as I'm feeling it a lot today. Cannot keep her cooped up in the house when it's so lovely and yet need to 'save' myself as much as possible from injury or tomorrow I'll be worse off. :P :P
I really am a mess this pregnancy.

Bebe, am with vezzie, are you not still under UK antenatal care? Surely you still have the right to scans here even though you are not in the UK temporarily? Have you called your mw? (That's probably a stupid question but hey!) I honestly can't quite work it all out but sounds a bit like you are completely abandoned in pg which is not at all on seeing as you need to have you 20 week scan and check everything is ok.

Vezzie, hurry up with that baby with you And don't worry about waking everyone up, they would be really pleased to do it. I know I would be out of bed quicker than a flash if it was me that needed to go on babysitting duties for someone!

Ah I have been up working since 5am and worked a hell of a lot over the weekend so that I could be less stressed today. hmm it's not really working. Roll on Next Wednesday when my holiday starts!

So nice outside today, just went round to get some smoothies for the office and now feeling very summary - although note to self, horizontal stripes + twin baby belly + shop window does not a good look make!!!

Auld weekend sounds blissful, any thoughts on next steps?

They're all booked up at my clinic (because scans are appointed automatically- and I said I was not going to be around for 20week scan thus I didn't get one booked in) and while I can wait get 'put in' for an appointment it would mean having a scan weeks (up to a month) later I'd have to come back to the UK to get it, which would mean more money spent and lots of stress because I'd be travelling alone with Moo on planes and having to arrange pick ups/trains/taxi to relevant places. (plus it would put me at 26 or 27 even 28 weeks)
I've got an appointment with the UK-MW on the Thursday we return (made that one just to make contact/stay in their radar a little originally, but now it's really a proper exam too) and when I talked to the antenatal clinic they said they'd really like to do a in-depth exam with me if possible/I couldn't get a scan. Need to call them back on Thursday (when the very nice ladies there who were bending over backwards to get me a scan will be in again) and let them know about the private scan I've got booked now.
Dh and I have been contemplating me and Moo going back month before the end of this contract (June) so that I'm under better care for the littlest one. However with the troubles with the pelvis I'm having I'm becoming less and less able to be as active in taking care of Moo which is causing concern...and in the house I've got 2 flights of steps I'd have be negotiating while here I have none (well 10 every time I leave the place, but none inside the flat)
It really is a strange place I find myself in....not sure of solutions. Next option is to have a proper conversation with ILs I think about the situation we're in and see if somehow a solution can be found- tho I see it as being Me and Moo living with them for a month or so until DH is home again...and it does not really appeal. Tho if that's the only course of action, then I guess that's what we'll need to be doing. DH is very very unhappy abt any talk of us not around him and not being able to take care of us himself...but honestly when we get down to it what choices do we have?
In the meantime we're thinking going to continue to to the german appts here (with no scans) just quick check-ups for 150 euros a pop and hope we can somehow claim it back off the NHS. (which only be 2 more if I went home in June)

BB you work way too hard!
And I bet you no one else thought you looked bad when they saw you in the shop windows.

WWYD?
DH home and hour earlier a day for the next 90 days?
or leave the contract 10 days early? i.e. a whole 2 weeks?

my BF insists the former is better, but I'm thinking the latter.

Latter, definitely the latter.

definitely the latter

she (doesn't have any kids) kept saying, but if you need help now...

I kept saying, but 10 whole days of him helping out completely and when I'm huge and likely to need even more help...plus we'd be back home where I could be having loads of care if I needed it from the MW and Dr.s -rather than him just getting home a bit earlier, and still basically doing the same things he does now...

but if you need help now...

I know it's kinda bad of me but sometimes I just want to shake her (tho she's half around the world and is no where near) and say, you really just don't understand! It's the only place where we're not really eye to eye. Tho maybe she's just tired of me complaining...I do complain a lot lately

Bebe, I would just get on with it, and plan to have the baby in Germany, organising all the care necessary over there and making as many friends in the meantime as I could so I had a bit of a network. But then I've probably got a bit more experience of this sort of thing and tbh you sound very homesick.

Oh dear me. We can't agree on a girl's name at all. I went through to DH last night and suggested Ophelia (for a laugh - I'd seen it on another thread) and without missing a beat he said "Ophelia buttocks".

Part of me hopes we are having a boy, for its own sake.

Happy birthday all the tiddlers!

Thing is Boff there was never any intention with this contract to have the baby in Germany. We're due back 3 week before hand... and now since we're seeming to have to pay out of pocket I cannot even imagine what it would cost to have the baby here early. But we'd of course deal with it if we had to. Dunno we'll see how it goes with it all...

And I don't make friends; I really don't know how. I seriously don't know how people manage it. The few friends I have I really only have because I went to school with them...

Bebe you are in my thoughts almost every day.
How bizarre.

Hope your life gets easier soon.

Bebe, I really hope you can come up with a solution to help you get more rest, and look after yourself.

My pondering, and a horribly teary phone call with a v good friend 11000km away, have led to some tough decisions. I feel disloyal enough as it is, having ranted so much about my marriage to you when I should probably have been talking more to the main person concerned, so I will now shuffle off until I have sth more concrete to post, whatever that may be. :(

Thanks for all your FW support.

Aw Auld! We love to help as much as we can. Give yourself a big hug from me. Wish I were nearer to help you out somehow. xx

And you will never believe it.... my MW got me an ultrasound appt! She looked out for a cancellation and put me down for Thursday!
God I love some people!

Bebe that's fantastic. I hope you feel a bit better for having that sorted.

Auld, we are here as and when. I too wish I could be of use. Take care xx

Auld sending you lots of love. I'm sure you'll make the decision that's best for you and your gorgeous boys xx

Happy Birthday Amelia

Bebe, glad things are looking up.

I'm not very good at making friends either. I like the ones I've got and I am not that fussed about making any new ones and I've been fortunate that the new friends I have made in the past few year make more effort than me (nutty will agree I am a disaster at keeping in contact!). But if you want to make friends you need to take steps to do it. Go to mother and toddler groups, start chatting to people you see regularly at the park. I think it's easier when you work as you automatically mix with people every day but you have to put yourself in the uncomfortable position of making the first move! Which I too am rubbish at!

Auld huuuuuuuuge hugs. You shouldn't feel disloyal. You have taken the steps required to help you formulate things in your mind. You have not once (I believe) been even a little bit nasty about DH, just frustrated with actions that leave you feeling alone. Take the time you need with DH to make sure you and the boys are happy and supported. We are all here for you to shout / cry / smile with so don't ever feel guilty about talking to anyone about it, us or friends!

Happy Birthday Amelia xx

[wonders about Vezzie]

Vezzie is around, I have seen her on a thread somewhere today. About France, IIRC.

Thanks for your virtual hugs, much appreciated.

MIL arriving tomorrow (yes, again) to take DS1 off on Sun as he is on holiday. Tensions will be high, and no in-depth discussion possible this WE.

Just popping in to say Auld I'm thinking about you and if you want to chat/vent feel free to give me a call at any time x

Bebe glad you got the scan sorted

Vezzie where's this ere baby then?

Zulu how are you feeling these days? I've got pg insomnia and am just so tired I can barely function. But hey ho, at least it's good training for the newborn stage.

WildRumpus any news on DD's school place?

And happy birthday to all the lovely April babies - can't believe our little ones are turning 2

Hello Auld, Bicnod and all.
I'm 41+1 today and no sign of baby. Induction booked for Monday if nothing happens before then. But if the baby comes tomorrow (s)he will only be as late as V.

I am VERY over this as you can imagine!

Auld, sorry to hear you won't be getting any breathing space to talk soon but I am glad you had a thoughtful weekend and I hope you can retain the benefits of that.

Bebe, great news about your scan. Are you going to find out the sex? Maybe a trivial thing compared to the real worries you had earlier, but come on now it's time to have some fun! I am sure it is all good news and you will have a lovely misty eyed moment seeing your gorgeous baby whether or not you find out the sex.

Best wishes to all FWs. Please send baby-dislodging vibes my way and if possible could I go into labour in the morning in plenty of time to get my mum here to look after V? Thanks.