Nobody Loves me, Everybody Hates Me, I Think I'll go and eat Worms

[BibiBelle]

Merlion you havemy sympathies..dd1 was always a angel.. dd2 is a complete nightmare,so wilful and almost out of control.. as i spend all her wake time with her she really presses all the wrong buttons.. i hope that this is just the terrible twos and that your ds and my dd2 calm down soon..

your poor mum silks, hope you get some rest today and def go back to the docs if not sorted[hugs]..

been swimming,lunch eaten,i am shattered but they are still running around like mad things.. sausage rolls next i guess

Loti - let them run round like mad things and sit down for a bit.

Merlion, I've been having flashbacks now to when ds was this age. Wilful doesn't even cover it. Now he's seven he's as kind and lovely as can be but still exceptionally sure of his own mind. A good thing in an older child but a nightmare in a toddler and catastrophically draining and demoralising.

I'd say, try to give him choice wherever possible. So, ask him which shoe he wants to put on first to give him the illusion of control, ignore loads (which I was rubbish at with ds) and battle on. It will pass. It just feels like it won't.

What helped ds a lot was dd's arrival. When the attention wasn't on him so much, he flourished.
They're all different and all advice is a pain in the bum though, so ignore anything that isn't helpful herein.

Off to print Lego colouring pages out for the children. I've hardly spoken to them today because they've been busy.

merlion yes i know the feeling. I have left church a bit early today as ds was being INSANE. He has a thing about taking his shoes off but today his socks were off too and no amount of coaxing, threatening, confining him to buggy would get them back on. then he just screamed for ages. I think he was really tired. He had a brief buggy nap on the way home yesterday which meant he did not go to slepe til half 8, but then the lodger was up crazily early and woke him. raaaaaah. he is in bed now snoozing away so i am hoping my sweet boy with be back.

I had forgotten the toddler years a bit. I had vague memories but, yes, more has come back to me lately . Although ds is such a different personality to dd, less stubborn but still managing to be wilful if that makes sense.

Feeling a bit teary about his behaviour today - hate feeling out of control. Snapped at dd a bit for no reason (she was trying to give me a picture she had drawn for ds) and she has gone to a friend's house now so i get to feel guilty til she comes home. Though as soon as dh walks in the door i am escaping to a cafe for lunch and tea ALONE!

and now dd1 has an earache ..hoping it is just swimming..calpol administered, tinkerbell on the tv and mummy made the sausage rolls by herself ...

ALBS enjoy your free time!!! think it will be the year dot before i get a moment.. dh offered for me to go to the office tomorrow and him stay at home with dd2 .. think i would rather be at home ..

My dad just called full of the joys of spring.. like i am bothered what an amazing time he and dh are having??? got

oops pressed wrong button.. still have raging pmt and my dad just got the full force of it oops!

Red yes willful doesn't begin to cover it but he's been like that since day one. Here's hoping no.2 will help things! I think DH thought I was exaggerating.

The big advantage of having a boy like that, Merlion, is that the next child can never be so complicated. My sister's second child is contrary and she nearly died of shock.

Red - i think my mum felt like that

Both DDs here have very strong minds, but both have been very verbal and we have been able (in the main) to reason with them before things go completely out of control. If they have a major tantrum now then i just walk away (even if in the supermarket or outside).

We have had friends over for dinner, 9 of us in total. Had delicious roast beef, yorkshires (i finally at 38 years of age have found a yorshire recipe which works), pots, parsnips & veg followed by pavlova. Lovely

DC's now shattered and in bed.

LOTI when do you get some time off? Please don't let DH fall into old patterns

silks so glad you stuck it out for the appointment last night. Hope your mum's op goes ok tomorrow - what on earth was she doing BT on her highland fling?????

BTW that should have been

Hullo there chaps. I've been absent all week again for no good cause, I see. Sorry.

Star glad your scan went well! Lovely of him/her to be wriggly. The pic we have from ours looks quite ghoulish, really like a bare skull . Adds weight to my theory that I conceived on Halloween

Silks sorry you are feeling like this. Hope you, the drs and the family can find a way out the other side for you quickly.

Sorry, not much good at proper catching up today - exhausted after I took DD to Cambridge to see friends' newborn... very worth while as she is adorable and so teeny (not really given she was a month early, just feels that way). But silly to go on a Sunday, trains all over the place - total travel 3hrs there, 2 1/2 to get back, the latter standing. And entertaining wakeful toddler. No DH as predictably unwell following three weeks of stress, long hours and travel. On the other hand, mmmmm baaaaaby . My friend had an ok labour (just surprisingly early) and the little one is sleeping/feeding well, so at least I haven't come home feeling DC2 is complete madness [phew]

silky your poor mum, and poor you too. As the other girls said, so great that you are able to recognise possible symptoms in yourself. Did OOH doc prescribe anything for your pain? I agree a trip to your own gp this week sometime might be good. I won't say 'chin up' because thats so very difficult to do when you're feeling low. Instead I'll do this

LOL they were at a ceilidh and she just slipped and walloped backwards, luckily not banging her head although she was so doolally with shock everyone thought she had. Has nastily bruised right wrist too and one foot too so I've banned her from having baths in case she gets stuck and my dad hurts himself helping her out (he does share the 'superhero complex' gene with DS1). I adapted my fingerless mitts into thumbless mits this avo as she said her fingers were cold from the sling. Made her laugh by sewing on a couple of buttons for eyes on one.

Thanks for all the love guys. Felt better this avo, although fact I am still online is not good. Must... tear..self ...away...

Crispy I think part of the problem is the fact that he is so vocal/verbal! DS is a 'runner' too so if I ignored him whilst we were out in public heaven only knows where he'd end up!

Albs hope you had a better end to the day. Silks hope you have a better day again today.

Red CC thanks you've given me some hope at least! I

MIL said that DH was very easy going and has admitted that if she'd had his sister first she'd have thought twice about having another one!

Morning.
Hello pert - you are brave with the train travel. I hate weekend trains:(

silks hope you had a good night's sleep.

We're having MIL over for lunch today. wish me luck .

albs oh do give my love to norma not that she remembers me or even acknowledges i exist on the numerous times i've met her

morning all
we're all in our pyjamas still Really should get moving, meant to be having a busy day..oops!

silk thinking of you today, hope you're continuing up on your road to happiness
i find it hard to keep on top of cleaning/tidying etc too. i use knitting/sewing as a reward eg if i clean the kitchen, my conscience feels better for when i then sit and knit for a while. my conscience is screaming at me at the moment to get dressed and go out!
have you started knitting your blanket yet?

waves to everyone else

sorry, yet again i haven't caught up properly

a big to you all though

Rather you than me perty on trains & toddlers. Gah

merlion DD1 was a runner too. Strapped into the buggy and then ignored . Having the 2 pretty close together i always took the double buggy otherwise i would have lost DD1 numerous times whilst dealing with DD2. I don't have the patience for constant placation and negotiation i'm afraid

Preschool, sorting office, playgroup, lunch sorted. Swimming lessons in 15........

Silky ((((((HUG)))))

Merlion, my dd1 is still trying. I've been looking through pictures of her at DD2's age and although all smiles I recall the turmoil very well. Choosing battles is still something I have to contend with because EVERYTHING can end up a BATTLE with her. I've learned not to give her more than 2 choices and sometimes I don't give her any. She takes so long to decide then has SERIOUS REGRET (in an angry way) once she's off with her choice. EXHAUSTING! It's less now but not gone. I've said it before, most of the worst of it happens during growth spurts. You can't see that until after it happens though. (((((HUG))))))

Work! Work! Work! here. Troop stuff, playground project management stuff, school auction stuff, mommy stuff, pet owner stuff, dining room renovation stuff. Bottom line: It's all going extremely well. Lots could easily go wrong but it's hasn't...at least not yet. Newest fun element...I'm creating a photograph wall. 35 black&white candid, random photographs all taken by ME! My draft is taped up now and makes me smile like I've never smiled before.

Wishing all a wonderful day.

Wow TS you sound like me road runner

dd1 ear giving her lots of trouble. Had me up between 3-5 this am abc then bless her insisted on going to school!! Home now and doc appointment for later [sigh]

Albs hope mil visit wasn't too stressful!

Waves to everyone else

After his roof-climbing escapade last week my Thor story for today is rather tame, but he managed to get an empty bottle (I know I should try and wean him off them ) off the worktop, half-fill it with milk from the fridge and put the top on properly . He was v pleased with himself (and spilled less than he actually got in the bottle).

I have decided to join the ranks of random injuries by allowing a big chunk of the tree I am still chopping down to fall on my foot [ouch] it's swollen but not badly so won't be taking own advice and heading off to A&E...

Rest Ice Compression Elevation!

Merlion - you have my sympathies, DD1 is now a talker and a runner! I am ever grateful that DH pushed me into buying a double buggy, she is only truly safe when we are out when she is tied in (preferably in the buggy snuggle too ) DD2 isn't nearly as contrary or as much hard work.

Fjorgyn - [hard stare] put it up and have a glas of something (purely medicinally of course!)

Silk - HUGS

Back later it is bed time - YAY YAY YAY

oh fjor take it easy lady and agree with bbbb wine!!!

well dd1 has a high temp, ear and throat infection has to have more anti biotics.. needs to take them 4 times a day.. how i am going to manage that is another mystery