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Morning, hope you all find me!

Gosh Star I didn't realise your back was so buggered. Could you be doing permanent damage to it? Sounds as if you do need to get your arse off to someone (no pun intended actually), I thought the NHS was brilliant for stuff like that, no? Do you have to pay for orthopedic surgeon or whatever?

Bibi I hope your shift is not too awful, it's dreadful having to operate on all cylinders when the cylinders are actually grinding to a halt. You need to take it easy m'dear. . But you've been run ragged for months now.

LOL at teddies and pasta at a million pounds a pop!

Cece at your dh, that is absolutely DREADFUL I hope he is getting good advice.

Pert I remembered your lovely news all day today . Lucky you. Very happy for you all.

Hipster! Apols. Welcome home!

No, I had to pay to see an osteo. Backs are an eternal mystery. In fact, the GP I saw had had the same injury and told me flat out that there was no point bothering with a referral and that I should see her osteopath.

Maybe I will go back to the docs, although I'm less than enamoured of my current GP practice. They're alright for nuts-and-bolts stuff like sinusitis, but anything more complex and mysterious and they make it very clear that their time is precious iyswim

Sorry, I am very overemotional at the moment. Winter makes life seem raw.

DS is yelling for mummy upstairs because DH is asking him to clean his teeth

I'm sorry Star I only just read the bit you wrote about your brother after I'd posted. There really are times of the year things seem worse, I was talking to someone at work about it just today. I'm sorry you have that hole in your life, I really am. For someone who's had a lot of crap to cope with, young, you are for by far the biggest part (that we see) a very upbeat, funny, lively person and seem to get such joy out of being a mother, it's always a real pleasure to read about you and your ds. I hope this part of you does battle with the sadder part, and comes out whooping.

star I'm sorry your gps are so shit. It might be worth looking on your local nhs website to see if the primary care trust does self-referral physio - ours does, so you can by-pass gps and save time for everyone. Bonus.

Right, off to watch I'm a celebrity (Shameless, i know)

I am being very rude having not read at all since my post. I feel absolutely awful and I need to purge. While getting ready to iron DD1's patches on her tunic for tonight's meeting, DD2 touched the iron. I had my back turned looking at the proper placement page and I turned to hear her say, "OUA". I feel like proper shit. It's only the smallest tip of her pointer finger and small bit in the groove of her thumb and finger BUT I'M CRUSHED WITH GUILT! It's bubbled slightly so truly a second degree burn. I've treated it and she's unconcerned with it but STILL. ARRGGHHH!!! I failed parenting 101 today.

CaptainShiney do you have any advice? You are the iron burn expert.

Bibi, the answer is no. I have no arnica. I did apply calendula cream though and then some topical anti-b with pain killer in it.

I have too many irons in the fire and my child gets burned because of it.

One second, folks. It literally took one second to happen.

Oh TS, I know . Don't blame yourself, though, you are a fantastic mother and these things happen to us all. She will be fine.

More thank yous for all the s. I am not very excited yet - it will come. I have a 'baby on board' badge tucked into my handbag for bad tube days BBBB she has been on about BabyBob living in the spare room (or sometimes in the chest of drawers) for months though! Psychic child.

Hips you are, indeed, wonder woman. DD has taken to sticking gold stars on people's foreheads since she saw a pic of said superhero - I'm sure she will oblige when we next see you

Star glad you have had a slightly more restful pm. Hope some of the constructive suggestions here help more than your GP (who sounds a little... defeatist?)

Cavey that's pretty awful, what a horribly frustrating situation for you both. Do encourage him to get all the advice he can before doing anything permanent.

less good day - DS not quite got the hang of asking, and I have had a bit of a crap time with work ...

TS don't be so hard on yourself as you said it took only one second you can't physically watch them 24/7. Wonderwoman though you are.

Bibi when do you and J both next get some time off? Sounds like you could really do with it.

Star hope GP manages to sort something - can you get a second opinion if you are not satisfied with the first?

Well scan ok although had to wait for ages as doctor had had to perform an emergency c-section and then bean would not cooperate into getting in the right position to do the nuchal scan. Have to wait a couple of days for the bloods to come back but so far so good. I am still feeling very sick and have lost weight in the last month - but exactly the same happened with DS so not to worry.

good news on the scan merlion, hopefully you will start to feel better soon and get some weight back on

star how are you feeling today?

bibi hope work was ok last night and you got some much needed zzzz..

cleaning day here today, sick of living in mess, the horrible playroom requires my attention again {sigh} so me and dd2 off to investigate.. reckon alot of coffee will be consumed today!!

pert does M have a super hero name?

TS the very same thing very very almost happened to T last week, just before he fell down the stairs. unfortunately these things happen and all you can do now is exactly what you're already doing...being an amazing mum to two very lucky girls

enya i'm meant to be having a cleaning day too I hope yours is more likely to happen than mine! but yes, i reckon a coffee is a good place to start! actually i have unloaded the washing machine already but plenty more to do!

merlion oh brilliant! i'm so pleased the scan went well. what's your due date?

salta sounds like you need a hug...

ursula you have such a lovely way of wording things

star you poor thing, sounds horrible. there must be something that can be done for you. dh's cousin broke her cocyx (sp?!) so i'll ask her to see what helped

bbbb i really don't know how you have any patience with your ils

as for us... dh's gma been rushed into hospital yday. i was really worried that we'd been too much for her and caused it but apparently seeing ds and meeting dd really cheered her up. my worry now is that she was just waiting to meet dd before giving up. its not looking good.

now because of the above, i was trying to be ultra-understanding of dh last night but he was horrible. i can't be arsed to go into details. i'm off to email him in the hope of nipping this particular sulk in the bud before it gets ridiculous again

dd just fallen asleep on her quilt.... did you order sleepy dust to be sewn into it?!!

I need to find out what is affecting DD2's sleep - she was up alot of last night just randomly howling and was on and off the boob like she wanted comfort but not food. I didn't want to put her in bed with me as I was soo tired I was worried I'd roll on her. She eventially went off at 4.30 until 7 I fed and snuggled her until everyone else got up at 8. DH let me have another 30mins. I am wondering if this has anything to do with her having food at dinnertime as it ties in, I will try breakfast and late lunch today and see if that makes any difference. DD1 now colouring, D2 napping and I am doing DH's office filing . DD1 has nursery this afternoon so I will try and nap then.

Hippy - thinking of you. I know his grandma is not well but there is no reason for plain and simple horridness!

Pert - I love the sound of DD's superhero stickers. Not being excited yet is perfectly normal - I didn't get excited until my 20 week scan

Bibi - I hope you are getting some sleep today.

Star - hope you back is easier today.

Everyone else - helloooo

thanks bbbb, i've sent the email so we shall see
what worries me is that we seem to have had a completely different version to each other of what happened last night. its almost like he was here with someone else. he reckoned i was bitchy to him since he got home but i'm certain i wasn't. i'm too tired for all this today. dd sleeping beautifully but ds isn't so i was in with him for most the night. but i know it'll go on for days if i don't push him into discussing it now

what's E having for dinner? perhaps you could try something light and easily digestible? i seem to remember oranges worked well with DS for his dinner but actually i don't know how digestible they are so i may be talking absolute rubbish!

oh FFS, here we go again

I think he has to sort himself out Hippo and stop blaming you for him feelings of not coping!

apparently i've demostrated that i have no interest in supporting him and that he wants me to keep out of his way.
i don't know what to do. i'm trying not to cry because i don't want to upset ds

Oh TS - poor darling and panic not re the arnica - it's for bruises. You need to seek aloe vera gel for burns If it makes you feel any better at all DD1 burned herself on my straighteners once. I was right there. Right there with her. And I had very few irons in the fire at that time.

Merlion - lovely lovely lovely news fingers crossed you feel better soon. Summer babies are delicious

BBBB - sleep [snort] D up at 6am and just been put down for a nap - I was making cakes before 8am !!

Hips - what a pain in the arse I'm saying nothing more as it won't be productive and I might embarrass myself re the amount swear words I know

and oranges are digestible - all fruit it

Salta - ((hugs))

Star - I completely understand re the pain. I feel the same way, especially as it's Mum's birthday today

So according to my employers I'm worth £2051. That's my offered redundancy package Needless to say I won't be taking it. AND I got hauled into the office at the end of the shift last night as they're not happy with my second job application. The big boss has gone through the staffing policy with a purple highlighter ffs - you think he's have better things to worry about seeing as half his staff are about to get made redundant Am going to have to drag out the management wank speak and shove it up their arses.

The sun is shining today and I was in such a good mood too

just jumping on quickly in the mist of my cleaning ..

ts you did everything right, hugs tho as it must have been scary.. these things happen tho..

bibi at your redundancy offer grr..

hugs hip your dh is obv in a very funny place right now but no need to take it out on you hope you are ok..

bbbb hope you get some form of nap later, sorry dd2 not sleeping well for you..

my house is officially a s**thole .. am absolutely need deep in rubbish and tat with no end in sight.. doesn't help with dd2 destroy every clean bit i do [sigh].. back to the grind stone

well at least the dining table is clean. L has very helpfully emptied an entire bottle of apple shampoo all over the table and Woody (toy story) to make him smell nice Thanks feck D is napping or all hell would break loose!

Bibi my redundancy 'package' is worth £828 One week for every year worked. And that's what everyone is getting. Isn't the public/voluntary sector brilliant? Hooray for the Big Society!

Will you be doing anything to mark your mum's birthday today, or just drowning in a vat of wine? Hope your hip's feeling better x

Merlion lovely news, now you can officially start to bloom! No pressure or owt :)

Just to say thanks again to everyone for help/advice/sympathy, and sorry I have been rather ungracious in accepting. I'm not a very good patient. God knows how Simon kept his patience when he was laid flat for months on end, scared for his life and in considerably more pain than I am right now

Anyway, DH is wfh today which is lovely, so I am just lying down doing very little. DS has discovered at last that he can get out of his bed whenever he wants so fell asleep in our bed last night and refused a nap today. But he is so sweet and funny, I can't really be cross.

Star, that's the same for us, one week per year so 10yrs amounts to that I've a friend about to walk away from the tax office with £15k which wouldn't pay off the debts but would at least make a chunk in them.

I was going to go through to see Dad but he's an assessment at the hosp today about his breathing and I'm knackered from shifts. I'm just sitting with an aching heart a little and ignoring all else

With regards to J and his bed antics, if I'm honest I think this is why the bunkbed hunt is being put off slightly at the moment. I think as soon as D in a bed she'll be up and down like a yoyo and I just don't have the energy!

right, bunk bed offer in Argos ends today - I think I'm just going to get them

Hi everyone.
Gosh it sounds like theres a lot of unhappiness around right now!

Can I add mine.

Sunday night I only got about 2 hours sleep due to trapped wind.Spent all of yesterday knackered. then last night S decided to keep waking up.Eventually gave up about 4 and took him downstairs. So last night I managed about2 hours sleep again. S has had a spell of hysterical shrieking which i couldnt calm so I called my mum for some support or advice. She proceeded to go on about how Im damaging my relationship with him, and say how desparately worried she is about how Im going to cope with two children. abiu to think this is not the most supportive or helpful stuff to say.

Cant get over the cheek of her lecturing me about damaging relationships by getting stressed when she used to thrash me silly when I was growing up!

Sorry to not commet on everyoes woes I havent caught up properly

sorry Queeny - I'm not in a position to comment on any mothering advice today

hope you feel better soon about it all

oh wow.
Redundancies, arsey lying work wankers, one buggered back, ill children and much more!

big hugs to you all from me.

And congratulations to pert