Children At Play or Who Moved the Cheese

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Hello.

sounds like a better plan to leave D at home then!
ds will only sleep in pushchair if my mum puts him in it

i'm over tired ignoring bad behaviour mum today. haven't got the energy to tell him off

I have been shouty today too...

hippo

take children

pack bags

go to mum/friend/kind stranger's house

leave no forwarding address

Let him come home to a cold empty house and wonder where you are.

(just for the night, like, I'm not suggesting that you leave him for good or owt)

Hippy call a locksmith. He can find somewhere else to be a big brat!!

Shouty mom I'm not...yet. DD1 was pushing things too much last night so I fear I might transform soon. Hotel doesn't have motrin. WHY??? I have a headache and hotels rave that they have everything needed to make my stay wonderful. Well that includes MOTRIN which I forgot on my kitchen counter.

Feathers ruffled this morning by SIL & B who "liked" my aunt's comment about today's wedding. Only ruffled my feathers so will go find some motrin and realize I AM GOING AND THEY AREN'T.

for all the tiredness, grumpyness and twatishness.

hippo - ignore the 3rd child, not worth your energy. Do what YOU want to do and as long as the DC's are safe go and sit in a long bath, read a book, buy and eat chocs yourself, sew and breathe. Perhaps purchasing a pair of Hippo blinkers might help you in not having to watch El Stroppo

bibi what i would really, really want to do is to kick her into touch and then go straight to HMRC. SO unthinking of her, and unreasonable, i would be steaming. however that said i know you struggle to source such flexibility . Could you ask your local college if there are any students doing childcare courses who would want part time hours?
Fingers x'd DD3 sleeps and you have a fab afternoon and DH not disturbed

Blueberry your PIL's are mad as cheese. I cannot believe they turned up when you were having a dinner party . I would have gone mental

admin hope you have some meds now. Enjoy the wedding - you will look fantastic and we want to see pictures of the SurferCrew all dolled up please

I had some good news today, not sure if you remember me randomly trying to contact an old friend from Uni via someone in a newspaper article? well that one didn't work, but last night i saw an article saying she had been appointed to a new job (luckily she has a VERY rare name LOL). So i emailed teh press guy and he has passed it on and she replied
So now we have an invite for a holiday in..............Beirut

Off shortly back to Surrey for 24hrs of child free time and a night with the Bridgets . DH has an afternoon of pizza making planned and off roading tomorrow morning

SP great news about the holiday offer!

Bibi am inclined to go with SP although you need her for flexibility she's not really in any position to bargain with you.

Hippo sorry to hear situation not improved. S was a tummy sleeper from fairly early on (well as soon as he learned to roll over which was very early on after all).

DS been on great form today but refused to go to sleep at nap time. I on the other hand am exhausted.

The subterfuge seemed to work ok last night. We got there before everyone else and so I was sipping my virgin margerita at the bar when everyone arrived so think I managed to convince them it was the real deal. Then all I had to do was ask the waiter for the same again and we were sorted.

merlion v pleased you had a good night out

blueberry forgot to say earlier and sp has since said it for me about your pil!

star i'd love to not be here when he gets back but its just not worth the (further) argument it would cause

admin hope you find the drugs you need and have fun at the wedding

i was a bit naughty earlier...dh's gma phoned. had a lovely chat with her. she was telling me how she thought i was doing a great job considering the lack of sleep, pain etc and i suggested she told her gson. a bit later on in the conversation she asked if she could talk to him and i told him where he was today and that he wouldn't be back til late so too late to phone her back. i could just see her sitting there with her eyebrows raised. so i've essentially started the jungle drums. as far as i'm concerned, he's still got off lightly

well done hippy. bloody hell, he is a great big child? what on earth did he think he was doing starting a family then growing it with you if he is not willing to behave like a parents.

yes all couple have rows but they do NOT put the children in danger (which leaving gates open and going downstairs did).

I am amazed you have pout up with it so long. I don't just mean this week - i mean over the 2 years since ds was born. You need to have a serious talk and laying down the law with him - and make sure it ends. it is no way for him to be allowed to behave and get away with. and he is kind of getting away with it because it keeps happening again.

if the fb status you talk about today is the spaghetti hoops one. well, he is lucky you cooked for him. when both my dc were that small my dh was doing the oooking etc. they are only small for such a short time, it is not a sacrifice in the long run.

he still wants the fun of a single life with the perks/status of having a family doesn't he? tough. Yes he can have hobbies, but not ones that put you under strain.

am i being too blunt? sorry. not trying to be - just so angry with him.

but i didn't cook for him! he made the hoops all by himself because i had dinner earlier and didn't do any for him He wasn't (isn't) talking to me so i feel i was justified

dh lets ds go down the stairs on his own, its more worrying that dd was in moses so easily accessible by ds. he's been really good with her but he likes tucking a blanket over her face so needs to be supervised

you're angry, i'm angry...we're all angry! (sort of quote from rocky horror!)

the problem is that he thinks all of this was caused by me not ironing a shirt for him (after i'd offered) and for snapping at him 'as soon as he walked through the door' on wednes. i merely asked if he'd noticed that i'd spent hours sorting clutter from dstairs

its going on and on. i've even apologised for upsetting him on wednes

yes he lets ds go downstairs on his own but was not willing to take responsibility for ds doing that while you were in the shower - different to saying to ds "call daddy if you need me" or similar!

raaah.

anyhow.

glad you're having good day sans dh though.

Quick post but hip your dh could be mine in disguise!

I have learnt the hard way to just get on with doing things with the dds and leaving him to his own devices. It's just means I spend 99% of my time with the dds on their own while he just gets on with his life. I am broken but so sick of the arguements silks and always being wrong I have just blocked it out.

You are in an even bigger situation than me in that your beautify dd is still so tiny that you need so much more support.

I truly hope he smartens up and realise what a twat he is being and gives you and your dcs all the love support and attention you deserve. hugs xx

sorry if I have waffled there!

Hippo. Everything Star has said and hugs too, because it sounds as if you need them.

Shiny. Your hair is simply gorgeous. Horrid to have to deal with them, but great that you have all the support and love now.

Bibi (I think) - she is not treating you fairly at all. Hope the situation sorts itself out soon.

Hello everyone else. I'm supposed to be cooking.

Cross-posting there.

I do think it's worth taking on all of Albs' points here. Albs is spot on here.

And quit apologising!

Sorry things are still not good there too Enya. You do sound stronger in yourself though in the last few months, and that's so important.

How's your dad btw?

Also, ALBS and Bibi are totally right about another thing. Sometimes in a marriage you have to do whatever it takes in terms of stamping, noise levels, leaving the house etc. to make sure you are not giving up territory /breathing space that is rightfully yours.

This question might well sound confrontational, but is meant to be the opposite really: what do you think is the message he gets when he hears you apologising?

I'd pop over and mind the small ones for a few hours if I was near enough.

legume yes, I wondered that too. if lovely tired hippo is apologising, she is admitting to something she didn't really do. Snapping when you have a newborn is not a crime - especially when you are doing everything yourself anyhow.

enya you do sound like a stronger woman than a few months ago. I am very proud of you and wonder if i would have the strength you have.

dd a bit distraught as we have said she cannot stay up for x factor. cos it is fecking 7.45-10.15. i mean we are often in bed by 10-15, so a 7 year old? well, yes. i though they liked appealing to families as well as young folk - but they are not going to be popular if they keep viewing times this crap. hoping it is just cos it is the first live show and cos there is a twist to explain to us .

Hippo I too think you should not apologise just to make peace for reasons stated by my learned friend. I mean I am all for compromising / each taking two steps towards each other but really - is the fb stuff intended to humiliate or what? You are too soonly postnatal and too lovely to be treated badly.

bibi - sounds like a very high maintenance relationship but surely she cannot be the only person who can give you flexibility? Would be a shame to let her go if the girls are all fond of her but on the other hand you have never sounded partic happy about her iirc.

albs I let ds1 stay up till 10 the other night to watch the Apprentice so I think I win the lousy ma crown this week - I think you're doing the right thing, 10.15 would have been too late for ds when he was 7.

someone asked about tummy sleeping, ds2 was a tummy sleeper from the very early days & as he could flip himself onto his tummy there was nowt we could do about it unless we rushed in every 20 mins to flip him like a pork chop. They do say it's not recommended though.

am ing at ursula's ds2 being flipped like a port chop

hi. back at home base. wedding was sweet (and short). visited with family which was like a dream. i love my family so so so very much and get to see them so little. they asked about my b and i explained things in a condensed way. i asked if they would to reach out to him and maybe that would help things. i believe it was all your positive thoughts that help my headache disappear. thank you thank you thank you.

serviceplease, will you be traveling to see your friend? you are one crazy lady!! that's why i think you are so great!!

shiny, i am so jealous of your new locks. my next hair appointment isn't until DECEMBER. it's not that my hairdresser is that booked. it's my schedule is that whack!

merlion, very well played with the drinks.

being called away now. if i don't have time to pop back over.... well wishes from up north!!!!!

Morning ..

Hip hope today is a good day for you..

Admin so pleased you had a great time, loving the pics on fb..

Up at stupid o clock this am, dd2 had a restless night so was in and out like a yoyo.. dd1 refusing to sleep and was gone 9.30pm before she decided to sleep and i was awake from 2-4 for no apparent reason ..

h wants to have a family day today but am so not in mood for pleasantness... he won't take the dds out by himself so its all or nothing

hope u all have a good day xxx

morning

enya why in gods name wont he take the dds out by himself? pah!

Morning all, well lunchtime by now. Harvest festival today which even ds2 participated in!

enya - I am sorry to ask - I may have missed something on previous thread, what is current state of play with you guys, are you getting back on the same path together again?

Hello albs do you not have some new vestments for this thread?

i did have some new vestments but i cocked up so have stayed as meeeeee.

There is a link to the official wedding photos on my fb if anyone wants a look :)

Quick post again Ursu not even on the same page he just wants me to go with when taking the dds out! Pain in the backside!!! Went ok tho he kept taking one or other dd off by themselves so as far away as happy families as you can get [sigh] hey ho all done for now