my neighbour assaulted my 5 year old!!!!

[hangingbyathread]

saturday my dd was playing out front with the group when my neighbour in opposite house was coming back from the shop,my dd&her friend were standing in her way like kids do arms spread ect,she told my dd to move,when she didnt move she got her arm&shoved her out the way&my dd landed backwards in a bush,i have contacted the police&they have logged it as assault but now monday they still havnt come apparently they are "busy",iam fuming,i want to hit her but i know i will be arrested if i do,also what has upset me is i thought my friend&neighbour who dd plays with was my friend&to me loyalty is a big part of friendship but my friend has still carried on as normal,not stuck up for my dd&if it was me i would make it clear to the assaulter it is wrong to do that to a child(as i have said to her but got no response)also the problem i have now is my dd5 wants to go play out the front but i have tried explaining to her she cant until the police has been as the person may hurt her again as she obviouly thinks she"s got away with it as she has been sniggering&making gestures at me on the school run,what do i do iam so upset

But did the neighbour deliberately push her over or was she just moving her out of the way and she overbalanced? I think there's a big difference. I wouldn't have let my 5yo out to play on the front anyway. If she was with older children why didn't they move her out of the way when it was obvious she was annoying the neighbour? And if you saw it happen why weren't you over there helping your dd and discussing what had happened with your neighbour rather than ploughing straight in and threatening her with the police?

Did she full on push her? or was she just trying to move her aside and she kind of fell? I have tried to move my son out the way before and he has fallen over

izzybiz - we are not saying that we have wonderful children etc etc , but saying that we would have acted differntly over the matter.

Children can play silly games but then they have to face the consequences of their silly actions . Adults aslo have to accept the consequences of actions aswell , whether it be pushing a child or having a slanging match with your neighbour as it appears to be the case.

the OP didn't see what happened

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Erm, hanging: I see this is your first thread. Me and my archive searches eh... Welcome to mumsnet.

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Erm Socci it appears that the OP's 5 year old has come home saying that the neighbour pushed her because she was blocking her way, and the OP rang the police

Bizarre

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I wouldn't have called the police to something I didn't see simply because I have heard my ds (also 5) over-egg the pudding when it comes to things like this. I'm not saying your dd wasn't shoved, but if you didn't see it then immediately calling the police does seem a bit rash.

However, I don't think you should be eating humble pie over your dd's behaviour either.

Hmmm - lots of food metaphors there. Time for dinner...

But the problem now it that hanging (unless hub's suspicions are correct ) has now condoned her DD's behaviour so she has no reason not to repeat that kind of behaviour. And on it goes.

you of all people mp

With advance apologies to hanging who I know expect to come on and rant as any good gameswoman should....

LOL

havent read all the thread, but you called the police over this?

[shakes head]

by all means get angry, rant and rave, have a word with your neighbour, explian to your dd just to stay out of neighbours way, but dont call the police.

ok let me put this right,my ddage 5 was shoved to her bum by a 28 year old,imo it is wrong wrong wrong,i called the police and was told it is assault,i called the police as when i approached the woman she totaly blanked me!!!HOW can anyone say my d should apologise

there was witnessess but thats a different issue&the owman has admitted to doig so&not said it was accidental

sorry baby on lap

So what approach have you taken with your DD over this?

Would you have called the police if the woman hadn't blanked you?

are you really going to keep your dd in all the time now? because of one incident? just tell your dd not to go near the woman or the house.

ok -

you have informed the police for better or worse

do you want to prosecute her ?

i think there is wrong on both sides, more so on the adult who pushed your child, but have posted about that earlier.....

so -what is it you want the police to do?

...i think you would feel better getting this all off your chest with the woman who pushed your daughter

it is unlikely the police will take this any further than a word of warning..

i have told my dd bot to do what she did again&that the adult should not have done what she did as no adult should use any physical force on a child,im not going to keep her in but have asked her to play just on the front lawn until the police have been

i dont think the police will come you know.

I too would be mad if this happened to one of my kids, haven't read the whole thread but am getting annoyed with the way it seems to be going, surely there aren't people on here saying your 5 yr old child should apologis eto and adulkt who pushed her over? I think I must have misread your last post hangingbyathread, I can't believe anyone would think that. Your dd is 5 for Gods sake, this woman needs a good slap, mores the pity you can't give it to her. Failing that I'd need to speak to her if it was me, that would drive me nuts until I spoke to her.