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my neighbour assaulted my 5 year old!!!!

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hangingbyathread · 16/10/2006 16:18

saturday my dd was playing out front with the group when my neighbour in opposite house was coming back from the shop,my dd&her friend were standing in her way like kids do arms spread ect,she told my dd to move,when she didnt move she got her arm&shoved her out the way&my dd landed backwards in a bush,i have contacted the police&they have logged it as assault but now monday they still havnt come apparently they are "busy",iam fuming,i want to hit her but i know i will be arrested if i do,also what has upset me is i thought my friend&neighbour who dd plays with was my friend&to me loyalty is a big part of friendship but my friend has still carried on as normal,not stuck up for my dd&if it was me i would make it clear to the assaulter it is wrong to do that to a child(as i have said to her but got no response)also the problem i have now is my dd5 wants to go play out the front but i have tried explaining to her she cant until the police has been as the person may hurt her again as she obviouly thinks she"s got away with it as she has been sniggering&making gestures at me on the school run,what do i do iam so upset

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hangingbyathread · 16/10/2006 17:06

oh right i didnt realise it was ok to shove a "strangers" child but not your own

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ledodgywizardrobespierre · 16/10/2006 17:07

I agree try and settle the situation amicably. Going round and hitting this woman is not the way to do it that will only teach your dd that hitting is acceptable.

Ladymuck · 16/10/2006 17:08

Weeeellllll, I have to say that if your dd was blocking the path, and didn't move when asked, I'm not sure that that is behaviour that I would expect of my 5 year old. I appreciate that to her it was a game, but wasn't anyone with her who could have prompted her to move aside?

In terms of sniggering, that is not something that the police can do anything about, and is possibly as much a result of your over-reaction in calling the police.

I can appreciate that you're furious, but I'm worried that you're going to turn this into a bigger deal than it really is tbh.

lulumama · 16/10/2006 17:08

i don't think anyone is saying its ok to shove anyone

but when you get ticked off, you react badly and not necessarily in a moderate and thought out way..

piglit · 16/10/2006 17:09

Ok then , go across the road and punch her. It's obviously what you want to do....

HumphreyComfreyCushion · 16/10/2006 17:10

I wouldn't stop my child playing out because of this woman. I would let her play out, but keep a very close eye on her, and tell her to avoid this woman.

madmarchscare · 16/10/2006 17:10

'if the bush hadnt been there she coudve landed on concrete&been killed'

Sorry but I think you are over reacting.

Glassofslime · 16/10/2006 17:10

I'm sorry, but 5 does sound young to be playing out without an adult there - I wouldn't let my 7 year old do this. Yes her reaction was wrong, but I agree with others that calling the police is over the top.

Pinotmum · 16/10/2006 17:10

Was there a sheer drop?

Sobernow · 16/10/2006 17:11

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hangingbyathread · 16/10/2006 17:11

no i dont want to although yes i feel like it but i dont want dd to think violence is ok thats why i dont want dd to think its ok for a stranger to push her(adult)

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ledodgywizardrobespierre · 16/10/2006 17:11

I agree with madmarchscare and think a five year old would more likely to be killed playing outside unsupervised on the street.

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hangingbyathread · 16/10/2006 17:12

a lot of kids around piss me off but i dont shove them

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madmarchscare · 16/10/2006 17:12

good

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hangingbyathread · 16/10/2006 17:13

my dd5 was outside with her friend 8,brother12&other friends 3

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lulumama · 16/10/2006 17:13

your daughter has obviously seen you are upset by what happened
and you must have discussed it.

so she now knows it is not ok....but she also needs to learn her behaviour and actions will cause reactions...and annoying grown ups sometimes gets you in trouble...

its a 2 way street in my opinion

and no, i don't think the shoving was ok..it was an overreaction

moaningpaper · 16/10/2006 17:13

No violence is not ok

But it's more important that she learns when HER OWN behaviour is out of order

and stopping members of the public who are carrying shopping from passing on a pavement is most definitely not OK unless she wants to get into big trouble

Pinotmum · 16/10/2006 17:14

What should she have done in your opinion. Just stood there guessing the password perhaps till the kids got bored. If your child plays out then lay some ground rules - No 1 don't piss the neighbours off.

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hangingbyathread · 16/10/2006 17:14

f.g.s i have come on here asking for advice/support&now i have to justify my dd5 playing out the front,lock her up then is it

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lulumama · 16/10/2006 17:15

i let my DS play out with friends, but they are older and i supervise or a neighbour....

don't lock her in

lay down rules! compromise!

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hangingbyathread · 16/10/2006 17:15

i would have exepected the neighbour to have told me my dd wount move like i would with her son,many times he has walked in my door&ive asked him nicely to go out not shoved him out

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ledodgywizardrobespierre · 16/10/2006 17:15

Why don't you calm down and go and discuss this rationally with her, adult to adult. Yes she was in the wrong and violence is unacceptable in any shape or form but you did overreact by ringing the police.

moaningpaper · 16/10/2006 17:16

yes that's right

you either have to lock up your neighbour or your daughter

I know you would prefer the former

Glassofslime · 16/10/2006 17:16

You don't have to justify yourself, but do are obviously angry about what happened and feel that you are completely in the right. All people are saying is that there is another point of view. Don't get me wrong I agree that what she did was out of order and I too would be livid, but I wouldn't have called the police.

piglit · 16/10/2006 17:17

Or go across the road and punch her. That'll do the trick.

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