my neighbour assaulted my 5 year old!!!!

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saturday my dd was playing out front with the group when my neighbour in opposite house was coming back from the shop,my dd&her friend were standing in her way like kids do arms spread ect,she told my dd to move,when she didnt move she got her arm&shoved her out the way&my dd landed backwards in a bush,i have contacted the police&they have logged it as assault but now monday they still havnt come apparently they are "busy",iam fuming,i want to hit her but i know i will be arrested if i do,also what has upset me is i thought my friend&neighbour who dd plays with was my friend&to me loyalty is a big part of friendship but my friend has still carried on as normal,not stuck up for my dd&if it was me i would make it clear to the assaulter it is wrong to do that to a child(as i have said to her but got no response)also the problem i have now is my dd5 wants to go play out the front but i have tried explaining to her she cant until the police has been as the person may hurt her again as she obviouly thinks she"s got away with it as she has been sniggering&making gestures at me on the school run,what do i do iam so upset

i am going to totally blunt here, yell at me all you want.

when someone barged past my dd2 and sent her flying and bruising her nose, did i call the police, no i didnt, because tbh they have more important things to do (dd2 was about 3 at the time, size of a 5 year old, lady yeled that dd2 should've been watching where she was going, dd2 was holding my hand at the time and has autistic traits, she is a daze when we go out), i said she should say sorry, but the lady walked off in a strop.

your dd at the age of 5, should'nt be bothering adults in teh street and blocking the way into their homers. if my dd2 was annoying neighbours by blocking the path, or whatever it was your dd was doing, then she gets hauled up for being rude.

you dd was pushed. yes it was bad. but sher probably bruised her pride more than anything.

and at the age of 5, who was watching her playing out? you or her friends mum? was there any adults out there (apart from the pushy lady) keeping an eye on the kids?

the lady was in the wrong, but IMO to call the police about this is just a waste of police time, and form filling when they could be out getting the real child batterers rather than a lady who had had a bad day and pushed a child over, not really hurting her.

haanging, ive read the start of this thread, and the last few posts.
heres my twopennies worth.

what your neighbour did was wrong.
what you did was childish.
the lesson your dd is learning in all this is that sometimes adults behave in very confusing ways. and they dont always practice what they preach themselves.

sorry you didn't get much support, personally I do think MN is subtley changing, I've posted here for about 3 yrs now and I find there isn't the support for things, lots of judging and tut tutting, I don't really get it myself.

anyway, hope you get a sleep, give your dd a kiss and a hug, she'll be fine soon, kids often don't remember things like we do, hopefully she'll be out playing again soon!

i really dislike the way that anyone whose view differs from the OP is called judgmental or unsupportive....

the OP posted her thread...and has had a lot of words of advice, comfort and some less so kindly

but you put it out there knowing there will be differences of opinion and it's not right to criticise people for not agreeing! IMO!

sick of the MNET is changing .......it s a knee jerk reaction now to being disagreed with.

misdee, sorry but the 5 yr old wasn't "bothering people in the street and blocking the way into their homes" for Christs sake, she was being 5 and messing about like ALL 5 yr olds do!

can't believe you'd post what you did.

lulumama, I've been disagreed with PLENTY on here but do find it's getting more and more high handed now.

Instead of getting advice and other points of view from other parents it feels like asking your friends who don't have kids what they'd do in a situation, knowing they don't understand where you're coming from.

my point exactly.....

she was asking a person 'what the password is,' i think thats bothering her. tbh on a bad day i'd be very annoyed if a group of kids wouldnt let me pass.

why cant you belive it?

ssd, the way the original post was worded, i understood exactly the same as misdee. i thought misdees post was well written.

whilst i would never push a child out of th way like that. i would definitly think they were being rude. a five year old is old enough to know not to behave like that to strangers/neighbours/acquaintances, iff she has been taught it.
also, who was watcing the five year old play in the front? because a five year old is too young to be allowed to play in the street on their own.
mn has not changed in the last three years imo.its just as varied as it always haaaaas been.

well to me asking a passing adult what the password is is completely NORMAL for a 5 yr old, might be annoying yes, but doesn't warrant pushing her out of the way.

and lulumama you missed MY point didn't you.....

thank you stitch.

x post -- i take the point, but i think that people are less likely to agree now to keep the peace...everyone has an opinion and is perfectly entitled to express it

i do try and stay non judgemental - but if i think someone has overstepped the mark, i would like to think i can say so , on an open forum, without being shouted at!
as long as i am as polite as possible!

I' m going to say this now and no doubt will upset alot of pople but have wanted to say this to many people that I've come across as a police officer who call us to incidents like this

'GET A LIFE'

Woman was wrong, child should have moved . Waste of police time , move on !

Deal with this as an adult not a pair of fish wives.

if my dd asked an adult for a password to get to the path to her OWN home, i deem that as being rude i am afraid. the adult is not part of the game, and just wants to get to her own home, ladden with shopping.

no she shouldnt have pushed the kid over. i said that didnt i?

sorry SSD - which point did i miss?

come on mummydear, give us it straight!

Want to join me in the doghouse, mummydear !

can't be bothered explaining lulu, lets agree to differ.

hope the op gets this sorted for her and her dd's sake.

Woof woof !!

lol.

fine, was not being provocative....

anyway...i hope the OP gets this situation resolved....

"5-yr-old children can be contrary in their behaviour - it's what children of that age do sometimes." "for Christs sake, she was being 5 and messing about like ALL 5 yr olds do!" both of these are true. neither of them is incompatible with the fact that its our job as parents to teach 5 year olds what is and what isn't contrary, what is and what isn't acceptable messing about. part of teaching is making them apologise. so I join the "unbelievable" ranks of people who would expect my dd to apologise had she annoyed my neighbour by playing passwords. What my dd did, and the need for an apology are entirely independent of the neighbour's response. In this case the neighbour's response was disgraceful (assuming she actually pushed, rather then tried to get passed and accidentally kncoked her), and, especially as the neighbour is an adult was in a different league to the exuberant behaviour of a 5 year old. I would be enraged and in this respect I have a lot of sympathy for hanging (the op,not as a punishment...) The neighbour should apologise a lot. Doesn;t change that the dd should apologise too.

Theres 2 ways this has gone...
Either your daughter was being really cheeky and really pissing this woman off, she tried to move her out the way and your daughter fell accidently. If so you've really over reacted and I feel sorry for the woman.
Or your daughter was just playing and being cheeky, the woman got pissed off and shoved her with so much force that she went flighing into a bush and hurt her ankle. If so I feel sorry for your poor little girl expiriencing that. And that womans got a short fuse and a bit of an anger problem.
But I dont know how it was so cant judge.

ok, since when is it acceptable to call someone a bad parent because they don't agree with you? DOn;t pity misdee's children - they are lucky to have her (and this is my first and last controversial post) goodnight!