AM I AN EVIL MUM?

[cheekymonk]

I just wanted to ask what is the worst thing someone has done to their child. Sometimes I think about how I am and hate how I am with my little boy. I tell him to shut up alot, swear loads-usually not at him but under my breath but worst of all out of frustration I purse his cheeks together sometimes (not really hard) or slightly pinch his legs. Yesterday I even kicked him on the bum slightly which has sickened me ever since. I have finally realised that I am having trouble coping and that my behaviour is not acceptable. I am so ashamed. I want to be Mary Poppins but feel like Cruella de Vil. What can I do?

No thanks.

she is getting support. Her HV is helping and now her DH is back from the Navy.

How dare you say that we are supporting child abuse.

Let it go now.

i wouldve let it go a long time ago if you get off my back,when someone puts a thread im sure they put it to get others opinions&thats myn,i will never give sympathy to someone who openly admits to harming a baby END OF!!!!

Do you feel you have to have the last word areyouforreal?

CERTAINLY DO,DO U

no need to shout...protesting too much can (according to the late great Mr Shakespeare) be a sign that you know you are wrong.

She is suffering from depression for god sake, she has taken the hardest step by admitting she is wrong and asking for help, support is the only thing that will get her through this, real child abusers are the ones who hurt their children because they enjoy it, cheekymonk does'nt even come close to falling into that catagory, what she has done has clearly ripped her apart.

yes iam wrong to people who think its ok to hurt a baby,i have disscussed this with,a single mum,mum of 6&2 others with one baby&they all say that any mother who is at risk of harming a child or baby should make sure the baby is given to ss or a safe home then get help,why jump on me im just sorry for the baby is that sooooo wrong

well said wharfey i wholheartedly agree

WharfRat yes that was well said&my post wasnt intended to make her feel worse but to make sure the baby was in a safe place

Your posts were'nt intended to make her feel worse?? are you serious?

Have you read cheekymonk@s last post?, she sounds much more positive, I just hope you hav'nt destroyed her hope.

waterfalls i will repeat myself again
my post wasnt intended to make her feel worse but to make sure the baby was in a safe place
the baby is unable to seek help fgs if thats so wrong worrying about a baby then shoot me now

Yes, and my point is, your post will have made her feel worse, and not helped the baby.

and your post has has it?

Since the op is over a month old and things have obviously moved on and improved, why not just drop the insults and accusations all round.

None of this is doing anyone any good.

cheekymonk - keep up the good work with the Ads and your health visitors assistance. Good luck x

My post is supportive and understanding!!!!

you still feeling ok cm? try to ignore blinkered opinions - think other mners are dealing with it for you!

Hi everyone. sorry to invade on womans territory, but after reading my wife's posts, and all the responses, i had to add my own feelings. Frstly, shame on you, mmm, and ayfr (have i got these right), but thank you to all the rest of you for supporting my wife, while I have been away. When she was in hospital for her operation, I was recalled home early to look after ds, and for a 14 month old boy, i found him nothing but a pleasure to look after, and this is all down to the hard work she has put in to look after ds when I have been away. She has had a tough year, but the ADs are helping, and she is so much more positive. Plus, I can clearly see no side effects on ds. He is a friendly, caring sharing young boy, who will grow up well with his mummy's help, and daddy, when i am not at work. Many thanks once again, and I'll let her get back on:)
PS. Is there a site for dads?!

Hi everyone and hope noone is angry that I let my husband jump on but he just wanted to have his say!
I am shocked at some of the things AYFR said and feel that these things need to be brought out into the open. It is the child behind closed doors with a trapped stressed and depressed mummy that is too ashamed to speak out that is most at risk and like others have said; this response invites only silence.
Just for the record since I have been on ADS I have not touched ds ONCE or shouted at him. Things have moved on so much and I only wish I had gone to doctor sooner. Thank you to all those who have supported me. I totally agree with WharfRat and think that by condemning me so wholeheartedly you prevent someone else asking for help.

Good for you Mr and Mrs Cheekymonk.

Don't worry about AYFR, he got indigestion from all those Billy Goats.

Missed all this, but SO glad things have turned a corner for you, CM - and for anyone else in the same situation as you were to begin with - look how good it gets. Don't listen to idiots like ayfr.

Good for you cheekymonk and I am sure that you are very welcome here Mr cheekymonk.