AM I AN EVIL MUM?

[cheekymonk]

I just wanted to ask what is the worst thing someone has done to their child. Sometimes I think about how I am and hate how I am with my little boy. I tell him to shut up alot, swear loads-usually not at him but under my breath but worst of all out of frustration I purse his cheeks together sometimes (not really hard) or slightly pinch his legs. Yesterday I even kicked him on the bum slightly which has sickened me ever since. I have finally realised that I am having trouble coping and that my behaviour is not acceptable. I am so ashamed. I want to be Mary Poppins but feel like Cruella de Vil. What can I do?

I just wanted to add that I was trying to explain things to my dh and it came out just exactly how it does feel in that it is like I have been driving in the dark with dipped headlights but now they are on full beam. I can suddenly see things much more clearly. Whether this is down to the Ads I don't know but I definitely feel better! Only downside is I am munching for England but like one of you said it is a small price to pay. I really enjoyed bathing my lttle boy last night, so much so he went to bed later!

Hi ya, Cheekymonk glad to hear things are going really well, yes that is depression feels but one thing you should be very proud of is that its you that's really making the changing not the ads as they normally take a few weeks to get into your system and start working properly, wow imagine how much better things are going to be for you then, your'll be able to smile through all your ds hysterical cries! What you will be able to do is really enjoy him and cherish every moment rather than just look forward to when he's sleeping!!

Your're doing so well you should be proud of yourself, and for being an aspiration to others.

Morning everyone,
I didn't want anyone to think that now I had had yoyur advice I wasn't bothered anymore... Just to say that things are still going well but have recently had my gallbladder removed as was suffering from gallstones and dh is now home so things seem really bright apart from getting over op. ADs have definitely worked really well for me and I still feel so much better than I did. DS is fine, very funny and being a typical toddler!

that's excellent news (except op!) - had been wondering how you were getting on. long may it last :)

thats absolutely awfull,i agree with all mamamiamia said&you realy should not be a mother until you sort your head out,how can you all be so supportive of someone who has&is abusing a child!!!!give your child to social services before your abusive goes too far,then sort your head out!

AM I AN EVIL MUM?
yes you are-very very evil that poor baby

AYFR

Piss off.

hear hear colditz

make you feel big swearing does it&supporting a child abuser?

I will reiterate.

PISS OFF.

Eat my big brother, he's much juicier than I am.

you all need locking up!
your mad!
i just hope social services read this

Errm, we had this conversation ages ago. Either you're very new (and you are entitled to an opinion, even though I think it's wrong) or you didn't see the whole thread. The discussion did deviate into a bit of abuse, but at the end of the day, we helped another human being admit a horrible mistake and helped her get help. If you are a mum, then you are either a complete saint with plastic children, or you too must have snapped sometimes and yelled. CM was depressed, lots f have been and no, it didn't excuse what she did. BUT we've all moved on from the topic and are concentrating on the future. And yes, I do think you should think carefully about your comments before you post.

Jollymum, 14 year olds aren't known for their sense of compassion

Huh, I wonder how long ARFR has been here? I haven't knowingly seen their name before, maybe I'm wrong but they won't get into my best buddy list at this rate

erm im 33,have 4 kids&yes ive lost my temper but thats not the same as abuse,child abusers cannot make the excuse they "lost their temper" then eveyone says oh thats understandable then nor can they make the excuse they are ill,the child needs to be in care

and jollymum i dont want to be in your "best buddy list" im a big girls now so dont need to be on anyones list

Post under your real name, you coward.

this is my real name

AreYouForReal.....you are pathetic.

post under your real name.

I will bring this to the attention of MNHQ I think.

Read the whole thread and see what CM was going through. She was very brave and dealt with something well and came out the other side.

Stop posting unless you have something constructive to say.

yes i think you should bring this to the attention of mnhq then maybe they will report all the open abusers on here

and whats pathetic about what i have said,its all true

What she did was not abuse if you read the OP. She pinches his cheeks and gives a kick on the bottom (he is still in a nappy!)

am not condoning what she did but she admits she feels it is wrong and needed help. She got it and the HV is helping her.

SS do not need to be informed. If I thought that a child was suffering in any way then of course we would have all commented about it. As it was she has sorted it, is on ADs and seems better than she did a month ago.

pathetic for not having the courage to post with your real name.

coward